WHERE’S YOUR HEAD?
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Good Morning Beautiful ButterflyMoms!
This morning at 5:03 a.m. my seven-year-old daughter, Mialotta, came downstairs crying from a nightmare she had just had. She does not often have them and this one was a doozy. Initially the more I tried to get her to share what she had seen, the more she resisted. It kind of felt like when you are dealing with a tick, the more you pull to get it off, the more it DIGS IN. Hmmmm… So I had to unearth her ickies in a different way. ACTIVATE INTUITION!
First, I had to get her back to her thinking mode. I took many parenting classes with the wonderful child expert Ellen Kerstein who teaches Conscious Discipline workshops. Ellen taught us that when kids (or adults 😉 are having temper tantrums they are COMPLETELY in their brain stem. This is the part of the oldest part of brain (evolutionarily-speaking) where there is no speech. It is all about survival. It is your fight or flight mode. We know someone is in this space when you try to talk to them and they seem to not hear a word you are saying. This is where we as parents are most likely to lose our cool. 🙁 Just so you know, there is absolutely NO WAY to communicate with a child that is in this place. Knowing this little fact helps us be able to RESOLVE, instead of thinking the child is being….(fill in the blank) a) bratty b) spoiled c) disrespectful d) whatever feeling comes up for you.
The best way is to help your child get back to her pre-frontal lobes, the problem-solving part of the brain. This is done through touching and speaking in a soothing voice. Today I rubbed the bottoms of her feet (helps her ground too), held her in my lap and rubbed her back. I could physically see her relax. While I was doing this I was speaking to her. I asked her questions, most of which she initially asked me to repeat because she was so deep into her brain stem. It is all information. If you JUDGE IT you label it. Once you label something you no longer receive information. You ASS-U-ME. (Sound familiar? 😉
All these activities move her into the part of her brain that allows her to CREATE CHOICE. CHOICE is what guides our lives. It is the choice of what we focus on that gives us more of “that”. As you go about your day check in with yourself and see what part of your brain are you in. Notice especially when you are in your brain stem and wondering why you cannot solve the issue at hand.
Here is to a fantastic day! Please read the updates and event below. They also feed your soul! :)!
Big honkin’ hugs,
MORE WAYS TO FEED YOUR SOUL…
√ THIS THURSDAY, September 22 from 12-2pm, I will be speaking at the DreamFactory Luncheon. The topic is IGNITE YOUR BIGGEST DREAM! at the delicious Bella Costa restaurant (147 Cochituate Rd, Framingham). Lunch for 1st time attendees to the DreamFactory Community is only $25 (the lunch is VERY yummy!) This is a wonderful community…Space is limited so please sign up early to reserve your spot. It would be soooooooo awesome to see you there! To sign up NOW CLICK… http://www.cantorconsulting.com/Programs/tabid/298/CategoryID/68/Default.aspx
√ It will be here before you know it so sign up now. Do your New Year’s Resolution Early! Take care of yourself! October 21-23 you have a date with yourself in Vermont at the beautiful Lareau Farm Inn for the first ever ButterflyMoms Fall Retreat! Price is only $299 if you pay before October 15, after that it goes up to $365 which includes all the workshops, materials, most meals and lodging. There are a very limited number of spots so don’t be on the outside wishing you had booked it! We have gotten a number of requests for spots so reserve your spot now!! YOU WILL ABSOLUTELY LOVE IT! TALK ABOUT REJUVINATING YOUR SOUL! WOW! To book it send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org! Scholarships available. You will only regret NOT going!
This week’s ButterflyMoms updates…
*Just finished our 16th week in a row of ButterflyMoms Workshops!!!!! Next week we are having a special guest, the amazing Marianne Sage. You can read more about her at her site… http://www.crystalsinger.webs.com/index.html She’ll share her passion and wisdom about how crystals are formed and how they work. She will bring lots of them with her. Some will even be for sale if you want to take one home. 🙂 Don’t miss out on all the fun…Come next Thurs, September 22nd at 8pm! 783 Washington St, Holliston. Plenty of FREE & EASY PARKING in back. Only $25 or just $20 if pay through Paypal http://bit.ly/mS7c70
*We sold one ENTREPRENEUR MOM EXTRAORDINAIRE book this week. Thank you to the mystery person who bought one at Brick House Realty! Until I find out who you are I will put that you are from Holliston!! :)! See the cool list of all the countries and states where people have bought books at the end of this blog. To feed the soul of a friend buy them a copy by CLICKING HERE NOW… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U
* On the 10th anniversary of 9-11 we held our first ever ButterflyMoms Healing Share. We had about 30 people including kids…they are the ones who really get this stuff! We even had a 93 year old who had never done anything like this but said, “Hey this feels pretty good!” How cool is that? We collected about nine bags of groceries and will be delivering it to the Holliston Food Pantry this week! THANK YOU TO EVERYONE WHO DONATED THEIR TIME, SPACE, TABLES, FOOD and LOVE!
The following is a list of places where ButterflyMoms live who bought our wonderful book MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE… Buy one so you can put your city/town/country on the list like so many other beautiful ButterflyMoms have!
San Bruno 1
Fort Lauderdale 1
North Easton 1
South Grafton 1
Lee’s Summit 1
Stony Brook 1
Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2
Wien, Austria 2
Dublin, Ireland 1
Rome, Italy 3
Santa Maria (Azores/Açores) 1
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