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YOU CAN ONLY FAKE IT SO LONG…

Dearest ButterflyMoms,

THANKSGIVING is one of my VERY FAVORITE HOLIDAYS!!!! This Thanksgiving was a little challenging for me because I’m not in America. Portugal does not celebrate Thanksgiving in any way so, here, it’s just another regular day of school. I had all these cool ideas of what to do with the girls and then I got a head cold that has rocked my world in a major way, thus putting a kibosh on all my plans. I started thinking about not seeing my son’s last football game, not doing all the rituals Doug and I do together, not having Thanksgiving with our family, not seeing our kids participating in the endearing New England events that we’ve done every year since they were born. I oftentimes feel alone because I am the cook, house cleaner, coordinating kids activities, food shopper, dish washer, driver, planner, dog walker, car maintainer, bill payer, clothes washer, etc. for my girls plus doing my work for with Brick House Realty, my clients and writing my book. The cold, which I suspect came on from lack of sleep, is my not-so-gentle reminder that there are severe consequences for not taking care of myself. AHHHHHHHHH! I teach this! I “should” know this lesson by now BUT it is a lesson that I have not yet managed to truly grasp. As a mother, I think I stay up late because it is the time when I get true ME time. Time to have quiet, sometimes it’s time to do the dishes or laundry so that we live in a semi-clean house. I am 45 now and cutting my sleep is not a wise solution any more. It sets up my next day for failure.

The beautiful Graça and her beautiful Scottish husband Norman! Amazing people!

A dear friend of mine Graça Palmer sent me this Neale Donald Walsch quote today that I’d love to share with you… “Challenges are what you came for. And you are never, ever, given a challenge you cannot overcome. The purpose of life is to give you a chance to be the grandest version of the greatest vision ever you held about Who You Are. When challenges arrive, then, move straight to clarity: This is what you came for. Now rise to this occasion, and know that you have every resource with which to create the right and perfect outcome.”

Above I wrote about some of my challenges, everyone has them. We are here to create exactly what Neale shared… TO BE THE GRANDEST VERSION OF THE GREATEST VISION EVER YOU HELD ABOUT WHO YOU ARE.” So whatever you are going through RIGHT NOW. EMBRACE IT! Let go of what is not working. Remember to practice extreme self-care. You know the basics… water, sleep, veggies, kindness, release, ground, protect, gratitude, movement, service… Check into these areas of your life. Make sure you are taking good care of you. Winter is the time for us to slow down and nurture… And don’t just nod, like you are right now, saying in your head, “Yes, I need to do that.”  Actually grab your calendar and PEN and write in five times this next week when you will do something to take care of yourself. Could be anything like take 20 minutes to read a book or do some crocheting or take a long bath. It does not have to be expensive, you just need to CARVE out the time and really be in the moment while you are doing it!

I realized that why I LOVE THANKSGIVING is because we get to share what we are thankful for! With this in mind I decided to celebrate this Thanksgiving by working on my gratitude. Back in August when I had our last ButterflyMoms’ meeting I was given about 18 magical cards and notes from the people whose lives I had touched, I got the intuitive hit that this was finally the time to open and read them. I did it while the kids were at school and to further take care of myself and savor the moment I also sipped on hot herbal tea for my throat. It gave me such inspiration! Thank you to everyone who wrote… or sang me their message! May the love you sent out be reverberated back to you ten-fold!  It was something that fueled my heart and it was THE absolutely perfect way for me to spend my Thanksgiving this year! 🙂

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

WHAT ELSE IS GOING ON? MORE WAYS TO FEED YOUR SOUL…

√  For those who want a coach with a lot of heart, I’m here to help you get rid of your blocks and go towards your goals. I’m living what I have been teaching clients for nearly two decades. Whether you are curious or serious send me an email to maria@butterflymoms.com to set up a time to get you to your first step. For those who want something to shift in their lives this is a great time!!!

√  Here is the magnificent ButteflyMoms interview on Nancy L. Cantor‘s Dream Factory Television Show… I hope you watch it and that it feeds your soul!! http://vimeo.com/30095902

√  Last year I co-authored the book ENTREPRENEUR MOM EXTRAORDINAIRE. If you have been thinking about starting a business or want to take your business to the next level this is a wonderful way to start. WAY cheaper than going back to school…and very helpful! To feed the soul of a friend, buy them a copy by CLICKING HERE NOW… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U.  Feel part of the magic below and see where in the world people have bought this book…

REMEMBER TO…
*Mark your calendar to read ButterflyMoms EVERY Friday!
*Share ButterflyMoms blog with beloved friends! Spread the love… http://butterflymoms.wordpress.com/

*Buy your copy of the book now at http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

Some of the very incredible ButterflyMoms who were there on the last day… 😉

WHAT IS BUTTERFLYMOMS?
ButterflyMoms is a community of people who realize they are souls first and human being second. They want to explore more about themselves, to find out what makes them happy and how they can lead a life of purpose. It is simply about FEEDING YOUR SOUL. Although it has the name “MOMS” in the title it is more about being nurturing to your own transformation, as the butterfly is to its own metamorphosis. This community is led by Maria Salomão-Schmidt whose transformation was ignited by the birth and death of her BELOVED thirteen month old daughter Sophia (Sophalicious), the original butterfly.

*Every Friday Morning, as a way of honoring her daughter Sophia’s soul, Maria writes the weekly BUTTERFLYMOMS BLOG. Hundreds of people read it every week to feed their souls. Maria started writing the blog in May 2009 and has written EVERY Friday since. Maria was one of THE OPRAH SHOW’s last guests.

Tell your friends… http://butterflymoms.wordpress.com and spread the love!!! FEED YOUR SOUL!!!!!

WHAT WILL YOU TAKE FROM MY “JOURNEY”?

Portugal at night… Lisbon’s skylight at night… STUNNING!

Dearest ButterflyMoms,

In about 10 days I’m off to my year-long sabbatical to Portugal with my girls!!! It is a very strange feeling to be on the precipice of a dream that is about to be birthed. It is simply just as exciting as it is terrifying. Many people who see my life from the outside in are often amazed at how many “lives” I’ve lived within this one. When they hear the stories of things I’ve done their mouths drop wide open.

When I was a little girl I lived in a world that was very constrictive, erratic, deep and dangerous. I felt like I was like a bird in a gilded cage that could see the outside world but could not participate in it. I somehow KNEW I would one day be able to leave this cage so I spent my time studying people’s actions and their consequences. I endured what I did because I knew things would not always be this way and that what I was learning was teaching me something that I did not understand but would be invaluable to me later on…blind faith.

The town in Portugal we will be living in, just outside of Lisbon, where I was born! 🙂

When the door of my cage finally opened, I noticed I had a very different perspective from many others around me. My philosophy was pretty basic and intensely personal. After graduating from college I would spend my 20’s exploring as many career choices as I liked. My thirties would be about getting my Master’s degree and honing in on the career choice I had chosen. I also knew from a VERY early age that I wanted children so that was something that I always had on my mind, as was attracting a faithful, strong, kind, smart, really good-looking partner. 😉 (no pressure)

The icing on my cake was always TRAVEL. I am a gypsy at heart. For me to be in one place for a very long time was not how I lived most of my life. I have the best results when I observe certain patterns in my life instead of judge them. I noticed for a long time that I was unhappy living in Holliston because I was not really present. I was in the LAND OF WISHING I LIVED SOMEWHERE ELSE. I had no power living there, and almost impossible to manifest anything from there. Once I decided to stay fully here in Holliston, amazing things started happening. I started the Facebook group I’M HOLLISTON HAPPY which has ignited this little town of ours and helped build one of my favorite things…community!

ButterflyMoms One Day Retreat at the Peace Abbey. MAGICAL!

During that time I also magnetized my dream of being a guest on The Oprah Winfrey Show and from it began this magical group that has evolved to The ButterflyMoms Soul Support Group! It was only because I was grounded that all this could happen in my life. Funny thing is that once I did ground my wish of living in Portugal came true… By letting go, the details effortlessly worked themselves out…So if you are struggling right now with something, work, not on the problem, but on getting grounded. There are many ways to ground yourself. The easiest is to take off your shoes and walk barefoot outside (no matter what season it is). Your spirit is not of this planet but your body is and it needs to connect to its “mother”, mother earth, to rejuvenate itself.

Me in Chicago as a guest on THE OPRAH SHOW. Oprah is in the background! 🙂

In the middle of all this adventure I got an email from The Oprah Show asking if I want to be in the audience of her Lifeclass series, which that and her Soul Sundays are FANTASTIC! (If you want personal growth check it out on your TV or online!) So Doug and I are flying to Chicago on Sunday for a little trip to see one of the most influential souls in my life, Oprah Winfrey! J She is a beacon for me.

This is a great time of awareness on our planet. It is a time for us to shed the life that is not working, much like we take off our winter coats when spring arrives. It can be magical or painful. We are the ones who decide. For me, my ride is still pretty bumpy. I don’t ground or protect enough but the good news is that I now get IMMEDIATE feedback from the universe. Maya Angelou says we all do the best we can until we know better and then we do better. I hope that after reading this blog you have received the gift of “knowing better”. 😉 The adventure continues….

Great big hugs,

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

 

PS There is only ONE ButterflyMoms meeting left… PLEASE COME! Thursday at 8pm! It would be great to have you there! See below for details.

 

WHAT ELSE IS GOING ON? MORE WAYS TO FEED YOUR SOUL…
√  THE LAST BUTTERFLYMOMS SOUL SUPPORT GROUP is Thursday, August 16th at 8pm. Only two groups left! It is a wonderful way to come feed your magnificent soul!… The ButterflyMoms Soul Support Group grew out of the amazing experience had of being on of THE OPRAH SHOW’s very last guests. Now it’s your turn to come to this safe place where you can work out your blocks and talk about your dreams!!! Held at the offices of Brick House Realty (783 Washington S, Holliston, MA). Plenty of FREE & EASY PARKING in the back lot… and come right in the back entrance. Only $25, or just $20 if pay through Paypal http://bit.ly/mS7c70! Bring your friends!!! PLEASE RSVP to maria at butterflymoms dot com. THIS IS THE VERY LAST ONE!

√  I have space for thee more coaching/healing clients. If you are interested send me an email maria@ butterflymoms.com. We will be working virtually through video conferencing and phone from Europe. For those who want something to shift in their lives this is a great time!!!

√  Here is the magnificent ButteflyMoms interview on Nancy L. Cantor‘s Dream Factory Television Show… I hope you watch it and that it feeds your soul! ! http://vimeo.com/30095902

√  The dry spell has finally ended!!! We sold three copies of the book I co-authored ENTREPRENEUR MOM EXTRAORDINAIRE books sold this week!  If you have been thinking about starting a business or want to take your business to the next level this is a wonderful way to start. WAY cheaper than going back to school…and very helpful! To feed the soul of a friend buy them a copy by CLICKING HERE NOW… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U.  PLUS each book is personally (and lovingly) autographed. Feel part of the magic below and see where in the world people have bought this book…

THE BOOK… “Mom Entrepreneur Extraordinaire”
The following is a list of places where ButterflyMoms live who bought our wonderful book, MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE… Buy one so you can put your part of the world on the list, like so many other beautiful ButterflyMoms have!

“Mom Entrepreneur Extraordinaire”

BOOKS SOLD INSIDE THE UNITED STATES
CALIFORNIA
Anaheim 1
Fullerton 1
Sacramento 1
San Bruno 1
CONNECTICUT
Cromwell 1
Greenwich 1
Yalesville 1
FLORIDA
Fort Lauderdale 1
GEORGIA
Roswell 1
KENTUCKY
Louisville 1
MAINE
Biddeford 1
MARYLAND
Chestertown 1
MASSACHUSETTS
Ashland 3
Blackstone 2
Bolton 1
Canton 1
Framingham 1
Holliston 17
Hudson 4
Medway 8 (3 more books added this week!!!!) GO MEDWAY!!!!! THANK YOU ENCHANTED FOX!!!
Millis 1
Millbury 4
New Bedford 1
North Easton 1
Rutland 1
Sherborn 1
South Grafton 1
Watertown 1
Westborough 1
Wrentham 1
Worcester 3
Wrentham 1
MISSOURI
Lee’s Summit 1
NEW HAMPSHIRE
Laconia 1
NEW YORK
Scarsdale 1
Stony Brook 1
OHIO
Dublin 1
RHODE ISLAND
Newport 1
VERMONT
Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

“Mom Entrepreneur Extraordinaire” BOOKS SOLD OUTSIDE UNITED STATES
AUSTRIA
Wien 2
IRELAND
Dublin, Ireland 1
ITALY
Rome, Italy 3
JAPAN
Tokyo  1
PORTUGAL
Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1
SCOTLAND
Greenock 1
SPAIN
Madrid 1
* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * *
*To buy your copy Click now… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

REMEMBER (1)…
*Mark your calendar to read ButterflyMoms EVERY Friday!
*Share the ButterflyMoms blog with your beloved friends! Spread the love… http://butterflymoms.wordpress.com/

*Buy your copy of the book now at http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

REMEMBER (2)…

Take a moment and FEEL YOUR LIFE for a moment. Let the ICKIES fall away. Embrace the love. Forgive yourself for not living the perfect life your mind has tricked you into thinking you should be living.  Just be. That is all that is needed for happiness.

 

WHAT IS BUTTERFLYMOMS?
ButterflyMoms is a community of people who realize they are souls first and human being second. They want to explore more about themselves, to find out what makes them happy and how they can lead a life of purpose. It is simply about FEEDING YOUR SOUL. Although it has the name “MOMS” in the title it is more about being nurturing to your own transformation, as the butterfly is to its own metamorphosis. This community is led by Maria Salomão-Schmidt whose transformation was ignited by the birth and death of her BELOVED thirteen month old daughter Sophia (Sophalicious), the original butterfly.

*Every Thursday Night we have a BUTTERFLYMOMS SOUL SUPPORT GROUP at 783 Washington Street in Holliston, MA at 8pm that feeds your soul. They started after Maria manifested her dream…with the help of Sophia…to be a guest on THE OPRAH WINFREY SHOW and every week since she had done the SOUL SUPPORT GROUP on Thursday nights. There was only supposed to be one workshop but people kept asking to be able to come the next week and the next week and the next week until a whole year has gone by!!!!Any questions call my cell at 617.877.3616. The last workshop will be August 16th.

*Every Friday Morning, as a way of honoring her daughter Sophia’s soul, Maria gets up at 4:30-5:00am to write the weekly BUTTERFLYMOMS BLOG. Hundreds of people read it every week to feed their souls. Maria started writing the blog in May 2009 and has written EVERY Friday since. Tell your friends… http://butterflymoms.wordpress.com

 

This Blog Is Dedicated To YOU!

AS YOU ENTER TODAY’s BLOG TAKE A DEEP CLEANSING BREATHE, THE LAST OF THE YEAR… (IN…………HOLD…………OUT……WIGGLE YOUR TOESIES….Let’s begin…ACTIVATE YOUR SOUL !

Today’s blog is dedicated to… YOU!!!! All those of you who have stepped forward in their journey on this planet and have supported me by having read my blog most every Friday, bought my co-authored book (MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE), shared a blog link, invited a friend to join the group, spoke to a friend about ButterflyMoms, when the website crashed and technology problems persisted you looked for the blog somewhere else until you found a way to access it, saw The Oprah Show segment I was on, came to a ButteflyMoms Thursday night workshop… THANK YOU FOR SUPPORTING MY DREAM in the most beautiful of ways!

Here are the ButterflyMoms Year-End Stats…

72 Books (MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE) sold this year alone! THANK YOU!

Such interesting people bought it too and each time they did we tracked it at the bottom of the blog…

-13 States (California, Connecticut, Florida, Georgia, Kentucky, MAINE (NEW STATE ADDED THIS WEEK!!), Maryland, Massachusetts, Missouri, New York, Ohio, Rhode Island, Vermont

-8 Countries (Austria, Ireland, Italy, Japan, Portugal, Scotland, United States and Spain)
4 Stores Carry It (Amazon, Fiske’s, Doug Sent Me and Enchanted Fox)

146 ButterflyMoms Blogs Written and Posted!

32,804 visitors like you to the blog!

1,010 Comments from you! (many of you commented somewhere else too but these are the comments you were brave enough to do on the blog).

-13 Coaching Clients!

-1 ButteflyMoms Retreat!

1 Appearance on The Oprah Winfrey Show…I just had to write this one separately. Thank you for all those who helped make that dream a reality, especially my classmates at the Rhys Thomas Institute.

-9 Media Appearances (Holliston Net News, The Oprah Show, Holliston Patch, The Howard Stern Show (yup they played my voice, twice!), Channel 5 (ABC NEWS), Dream Factory Network, The Metrowest Daily News and Holliston Reporter.)

Thank you for a wonderful year! Wait until 2012! Another book and a lot more public speaking and media appearances as I spread the ButterflyMoms L-O-V-E!

Dearest ButterflyMoms,

When people talk to me about the ButterflyMoms blog they sometimes say, “You should write about __________.” Before I started writing this blog, and all of my educational (up through graduate school, MBA) and business/work world training had taught me the same thing: “Plan it out. Have a strategy.” This is called EXTERNAL POWER and it is how most of the world is taught that “success” happens. The challenge is that this type of “success” can only occur through the five senses, meaning if your brain cannot see, hear, touch, taste or feel it then it has no merit. In this model power is outside of you and to be safe you need to hoard, plan, effort. This was of being has gotten our lives and our planet in a whole mess of trouble.

It is easy to see how “hard” things have gotten but the “good” news is that (as they say in the movie LOVE ACTUALLY) “LOVE IS ALL AROUND US”. Especially with the coming of 2012 more and more of us are realizing that we are spirits first and bodies second. We are realizing that the answers are INSIDE of us, not outside. Remembering and living life this way helps us all move away from the EXTERNAL POWER “struggling” and into MULTI-SENSORY “living”.

When I sit down to write I turn my brain off from it’s “helpful” suggestions, like a puppy running around saying, “How about this” or “How about that?” What I write is not planned. It is emerges from my heart and sure I need my brain to write but it is sooooooo not leading the show. It is how I practice TRUST in the world. When I put myself out there in that manner and you read the blog or come to a workshop than you also take in that energy…and hopefully that inspires you too!

HAPPY NEW YEAR Y’ALL!

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

P.S. Please help me support my dream, the one Sophia helped me push forward. After so much struggling and excuses, I am soooooooooooooooooooo thrilled that my dream of writing a book has finally come true!!! It’s been TWENTY YEARS in the making!!!! Entrepreneurial Moms Extraordinaire is the amazing wisdom of 21 entrepreneurial moms who are passing on their knowledge to those who don’t have time for beating around the bush! We all need to make money and live our lives well NOW. This book will help you in a very profound way! YOU WILL LOVE IT!!!! Please order it now and join the hundreds of happy readers before you who took the leap of faith in helping someone grow…http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

What a wonderful journey! Glad we are on it together!

WHAT IS BUTTERFLYMOMS?
ButterflyMoms is a community of people who realize they are souls first and human being second. They want to explore more about themselves, to find out what makes them happy and how they can lead a life of purpose. It is simply about FEEDING YOUR SOUL. Although it has the name “MOMS” in the title it is more about being nurturing to your own transformation, as the butterfly is to its own metamorphosis. This community is led by Maria Salomão-Schmidt whose transformation was ignited by the birth and death of her BELOVED thirteen month old daughter Sophia (Sophalicious), the original butterfly.

*Every Thursday night we have a ButterflyMoms workshop at 783 Washington Street in Holliston, MA at 8pm that feeds your soul. They started after Maria manifested her dream…with the help of Sophia…to be a guest on THE OPRAH WINFREY SHOW and every week since she had done the workshop on Thursday nights.

*Every Friday morning, as a way of honoring Sophia’s soul, Maria gets up at 4:30am to write the weekly ButterflyMoms blog. Hundreds of people read it every week to feed their souls. Maria started writing the blog in 2009 and has written EVERY Friday since.

WHAT ELSE IS GOING ON? MORE WAYS TO FEED YOUR SOUL…

√  Next ButterflyMoms Workshops is January 5. Come feed your soul…783 Washington St, Holliston. Plenty of FREE & EASY PARKING in back. Only $25, or just $20 if pay through Paypal http://bit.ly/mS7c70 or drop off a check.

√  I have space for two more coaching clients. If you are interested send me an email maria@butterflymoms.com!

 √  Here is the magnificent ButteflyMoms interview on Nancy L. Cantor‘s Dream Factory Television Show… I hope you watch it and that it feeds your soul! ! http://vimeo.com/30095902

√  We sold one ENTREPRENEUR MOM EXTRAORDINAIRE book this past week and with it added another state to our list. WELCOME MAINE! Now that is building community! Please help me reach my goal of selling twenty-five more books this week!  If you have been thinking about starting a business or want to take your business to the next level this is a wonderful way to start. WAY cheaper than going back to school…and very helpful! To feed the soul of a friend buy them a copy by CLICKING HERE NOW… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U.  PLUS each book is personally (and lovingly) autographed.

THE BOOK… “Mom Entrepreneur Extraordinaire”
The following is a list of places where ButterflyMoms live, who bought our wonderful book, MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE… Buy one so you can put your city/town/country on the list like so many other beautiful ButterflyMoms have!

UNITED STATES
California
Anaheim 1
Fullerton 1
Sacramento 1
San Bruno 1
Connecticut
Greenwich 1
Yalesville 1
Florida
Fort Lauderdale 1

Georgia
Roswell 1
Kentucky
Louisville 1
MAINE (NEW STATE ADDED THIS WEEK!!)

Biddeford 1 (FIRST MAINE TOWN ADDED)

Maryland
Chestertown 1
Massachusetts
Ashland 3
Blackstone 2

Bolton 1
Canton 1

Framingham 1

Holliston 14
Hudson 4
Medway 3
Millis 1

Millbury 4
North Easton 1
Sherborn 1
South Grafton 1
Watertown 1
Westborough 1

Wrentham 1
Worcester 3
Wrentham 1
Missouri
Lee’s Summit 1
New York
Scarsdale 1
Stony Brook 1
Ohio
Dublin 1
Rhode Island
Newport 1
Vermont
Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2
AUSTRIA
Wien 2
IRELAND
Dublin, Ireland 1
ITALY
Rome, Italy 3
JAPAN
Tokyo  1
PORTUGAL
Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1
SCOTLAND  
Greenock 1
SPAIN
Madrid 1
* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * *
*To buy your copy Click now… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

 

 

REMEMBER…
*Mark your calendar to read ButterflyMoms EVERY Friday!

*Share the ButterflyMoms blog with your beloved friends! Spread the love!

WHAT’S YOUR POINT, EH?

Good Morning Dearest Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

Here are this week’s ButterflyMoms updates…

*Just finished our 12th week in a row of ButterflyMoms Workshops and last night was off the charts!!!!! (Missed you beautiful Denise, Jennifer and Karen!!! 😉 ) Each week we see specific, real life examples of where women are NEEDLESSLY EFFORTING… the relief on their faces when they release what isn’t working for them is priceless!! Truly! My beautiful baby daughter Sophia lived for 13 months & next week is the 13th one so I’m planning something EXTRA special! Come next Thurs, Aug 25 at 8pm!  783 Washington St, Holliston. Plenty of FREE & EASY PARKING in back. Only $25 at the door or just $20 if you drop off a check or pay through Paypal… http://bit.ly/mS7c70.

YOU are a part of an AMAZING community! Nibble on this blog and feed your soul!

*SAVE  THE  DATES…

>OH YES WE ARE!!! We are having our very first ButterflyMoms retreat!!!! This time in Waitsfield, Vermont. Save the date on your calendar for the weekend of October 22! Take that Friday off so that you have even more time to yourself!!! TALK ABOUT REJUVINATING YOUR SOUL!!! WOW! More details to follow!

>I will be speaking at the DreamFactory Luncheon on September 22 from 11:30-2:00pm. Topic will be IGNITE YOUR BIGGEST DREAM! Will be held in Framingham at the Bella Costa restaurant (147 Cochituate Rd). Lunch for 1st time attendees to the DreamFactory Community is only $25 ( the lunch is VERY yummy!) You will be able to sign up next week! ☺!

*No ENTREPRENEUR MOM EXTRAORDINAIRE books sold this week… See the cool list of all the countries and states where people have bought books…*To feed the soul of a friend buy them a copy by CLICKING HERE NOW… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

Now onto the ButterflyMoms blog…

Good Morning Beautiful ButterflyMoms!

Little warning today…You can mindlessly breeze through today’s blog, nod politely to your screen and think oh that’s a good idea, I will get to it later. I ask that you be EXTRA PRESENT today when you read today’s ButterflyMoms blog. Use breath. Use water. Wiggle your toesies. This ain’t your normal sippin’ tea y’all….Take a breath so deep you have to close your eyes and smile…then begin…

WHAT IS THE POINT? What is the point of your getting up, doing all the things you do, day after day after day? Why do it? Are you moving in a certain direction? Do you know what you are doing? Do you know why you are doing the things you do? Are you honoring yourself in the process? Are you kind? Are you present to your life?

When we are younger society seems to give us a path that generally looks the same all over the world with a few exceptions, like some expect their kids to go to school/college. Regardless most have a vision for their kids to grow up, find a job, a mate and then procreate. (Hey that rhymes! 😉 ) We have gotten so good at it that we pretty much do it MINDLESSLY.

There are HUGE industries built around supporting this basic path, like the wedding industry, for example, that as we have become more UNCONSCIOUS IN OUR LIVING… have grown more and more and more expensive to the point of lunacy. Ok this “lunacy” title is my opinion but when we hear stories of people who spent so much just for their rehearsal dinner that they had no money left for a down payment for a house that seems a bit much, non?

So WHAT IS THE POINT? Better yet, WHAT IS YOUR POINT? What is your reason for being on planet Earth? You may not have DIRECTLY asked that of yourself BUT HOW YOU LIVE YOUR LIFE, the things you spend your time and energy focused on, determine the LEGACY OF YOUR LIFE.  Every “simple” thought or action you take designs your life for you…

Watch your thoughts, they become words.
Watch your words, they become actions.
Watch your actions, they become habits.
Watch your habits, they become your character.
Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.

Author Unknown 🙂

Today’s ButterflyMoms’ blog is a gentle reminding to have INTENTION of HOW YOU LIVE YOUR LIFE. Use BREATH. Use WATER. Wiggle your TOESIES. START NOW… leave a comment in the ButterflyMoms blog of how you feel. When you write, no matter how “good” or “bad” you think you are, you get (and give) several gifts… 1. The gift of release trapped energy that would otherwise not come out. 2. The gift of being able to read back what you feel because sometimes we don’t really “hear” it any other way. 3. The gift of being able to light the path for someone else who is STUCK in the same spot.

Activate your gifts now by clicking below and leaving your message on the ButterflyMoms blog. Be in the now, hear the voices that are holding you back and do it anyway…this simple exercise is your first step of how to follow your dreams… Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh!

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

PS   HEY! HEY! I CO-AUTHORED A BOOK! WOW! The following is a list of places where ButterflyMoms live who bought our wonderful book MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE… Buy one so you can put your city/town/country on the list like so many other beautiful ButterflyMoms have!

UNITED STATES

California

Anaheim 1

Fullerton 1

Sacramento 1

San Bruno 1

Connecticut

Greenwich 1

Yalesville 1

Florida

Fort Lauderdale 1

Kentucky

Louisville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 2

Bolton 1

Holliston 13

Hudson 4

Medway 3

North Easton 1

Sherborn 1

South Grafton 1

Watertown 1

Worcester 3

Missouri

Lee’s Summit 1

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

Vermont

Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN

Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

SCOTLAND     

Greenock

SPAIN

Madrid 1

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Bigger Boobies, Getting Approval and Chasing The Dream

Dearest Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

First some housekeeping issues…

*My motherboard is still in Wisconsin getting fixed…with manuscripts of my next two books and I’m still going through my 8,000 emails from when I could not access my computer. If you sent me an email and I did not respond please don’t take it personally, I could only access emails through an iPhone and it was impossible for me to do that with such a high volume of emails. Shifting through them now.

*The www.butterflymoms.com website is still a work in progress. Thank you for bearing with me as right now the blogs are not all there and it makes it a bit tricky to read prior blogs (for those who want to really experience how very amazing this journey has been). It will get better. For right now it is what it is. ;)…Gentle reminder again to SURRENDER! 😉

Now let’s enter into the heart of today’s ButterflyMoms blog….As you enter today’s blog I offer a gentle reminder to take eight super-deep BREATHS! 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7 aaaaaand………..8! AHHHHHHHHHHH! Breathing makes the journey juicier…and gives you more ENERGY POINTS for your day! 😉

This is the first morning in a long time that I can write again without having to give an Oprah report. She is still, very much, a guiding light for me. Now, I just move forward knowing that her energy and this latest experience is something that propels me forward into my destiny. Whatever that destiny is, is what is written in my heart…the trick is to get your brain to either TURN OFF or ALLOW you to start going towards YOUR path. Manifesting your destiny is not just a cool “new age” phrase. It is your soul’s plan for being on this planet.

Think about that. Most of us lead “under the radar” lives. We do what is “expected” of us. We worry that it is not enough. When we feel the ICKIES we STASH them deep inside…quick before anyone sees what our true feelings are. We are jealous of others who we PERCEIVE as prettier, wealthier, smarter, better looking mate, more kids, less kids, thinner ankles, bigger boobs, smaller boobs, better house, better zip code….the list is pretty much ENDLESS. Guess what?  On planet earth you will NEVER get 100% of EVERYONE’s approval! EVER! Even candidates who run for office who are super, super, super popular NEVER, EVER, EVER get 100%of the votes for that is simply not how the world is wired. The BIG difference between people who go for what they want and those who don’t is this….People who go for what they want FEEL that NOT GOING FOR IT is MORE PAINFUL than just maintaining their current life.

For me, pre-kids, I THOUGHT I was on a pretty good projectile. I THOUGHT I was GOING AFTER my DREAMS and I was. I was CHASING. CHASING. CHASING. Energetically when you chase something it runs from you even more! We’ve all seen that in some form in our lives. It was a very cool life in many ways, but also one FULL OF LIVING JUST OUTSIDE MY JOY…NEVER QUITE THERE.

This tremendous Oprah Show experience has brought MY “THERE” into my “HERE”. Take that in for a moment. How can YOU bring your dreams, passions, desires into YOUR “HERE”, the only place it can really be SAVOURED…and quite frankly, DEVOURED! 😉  YUMMA-LISH Y’ALL!!!!!!! 😉

Yesterday, I had my first workshop since the Oprah experience and it was FANTABULOUS!!! I hope the people who were there will leave a comment below as some have on Facebook because it was such an awesome experience! The energy was simply fabulous. We got to the heart of issues. We shifted energy around to where it better served us. We learned some TOOLS to help us cope with life’s ickies. We learned how to call our power back. We moved ENERGETIC BOULDERS that were on TOP of us under us so we could stand even taller! It FELT soooooooooooooo amazing to be with these ButterflyMoms! WOW!

They have asked that we meet again so I’m extending this invitation to you. We are meeting next Thursday, June 9th , 8pm at 783 Washington Street, Holliston. Easy to get to on Route 16 with plenty of free parking in the back. Cost is $25 at the door (you still need to pre-register though because space is limited) or just $20 if you drop off a check or pay through Paypal… http://bit.ly/mS7c70

I am personally inviting you to this workshop to help YOU get back to the HAPPY YOU! It’s food for your soul…like a triple-dose of the ButterflyMoms blog!  Come play with me and some of the other ButterflyMoms! Simply sign up here… www.butterflymoms.com/workshops.html.

I am deeply grateful and deeply humble by all the LOVE LOVE  LOVE! It is there for all of us to partake in. Just scoop up a great big heaping spoonful of LOVE and rub it on like lotion! Imagine the day you will have by doing that!! Have a RUB A DUB DAY!!! 😉

Great big hugs,

Maariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS  Zero books sold this week. The following is a list of places where ButterflyMoms live who bought our wonderful book MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE…

UNITED STATES

California

Anaheim 1

Fullerton 1

Sacramento 1

San Bruno 1

Connecticut

Greenwich 1

Yalesville 1

Kentucky

Louisville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 2

Holliston 10

Hudson 4

Medway 3

North Easton 1

Sherborn 1

South Grafton 1

Watertown 1

Worcester 3

Missouri

Lee’s Summit 1

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

Vermont

Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN

Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

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WHO KNEW MY DREAM WOULD WEIGH 308 POUNDS?!

Have Tea With Your Fellow ButterflyMoms EVERY Friday!

Good Morning Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

It feels soooooooo awesome to connect with you again today! When I sit down to write I literally do it as if we were sitting here together having an iced or hot tea (depending on your mood and location ;). It is another way I practice connecting to the universal energy that we all come from. It feels AMAZING, FAMILIAR, NURTURING, JOY-FULL, and even FUN! Thank you for your part in this wonderful formula we call ButterflyMoms!

A GROWING GREETING…

If you have ever tried yoga (and I highly, highly, highly suggest that you do!!!) many teachers begin and end their class with the word “NAMASTE”. It is a Sanskrit word used as a greeting, but one that calls your BEST and HIGHEST good, as well as the BEST and HIGHEST good of the other person! Each time you greet someone you are saying, the God/Goddess/Love energy in me sees the God/Goddess/Love energy in you! “NAMASTE” calls you each back to your core essence, back into your zone! Your zone is not my zone BUT when each of us is in alignment we have true peace. In this space there is only LOVE. TRUE LOVE, not those mushy Hollywood myths that people love to mirror. 😉

TRY THIS…

For the next week either out loud or to yourself when you see someone instead of just saying “HEY” , “HI”, “HOW’S IT GOIN”, WHAT’S SHAKIN’ or HOW’S IT HANGIN’, how about you take a deep breath and say NAMASTE, even if it’s only in your mind. Think of it as a sweet, sweet alignment for your soul….it’s free and fun and is also a deep, magical gift to the others you come across in your day. 😉

Tuesday was my husband Doug’s last chemotherapy appointment for this round. He has an ornery auto-immune disease called vasculitis that has been getting our attention for the last two years. So

Give Your Ickies to the Rocks

while the last round of snow storms hit we were at Mass General in Boston getting his infusion. At the very same time my books were finally delivered. It was 308 pounds of pure DREAM  REALIZATION and its name is called Mom Entrepreneur Extraordinaire! WOW! WOW! WOW! Dream Realization Feels Good y’all!!!!! REAL GOOD!!! 😉 The book did not come in the way I thought it would but I was open to the way it did. The result is that this New Year I got a break from putting down “WRITE A BOOK” as my new year’s resolution!!! 😉 (only took 20 years!!! 😉

For over 20 years I have dreamt about these 308 pounds. Imagined in my mind what it would feel like to finally publish my first book. I pictured what it would be like to hold it, smell it, turn the pages and autograph them for people. In those 20 years I’ve also taken lots and lots of shit and ridicule from those who did not believe in my dream. You may find it surprising that most of those people were not my enemies but actually close family and friends. Many of them love/like me but I was messing with their comfort zone of what was APPROPRIATE DREAMING and what was not. In their minds they were doing for my own good….to keep me safe ;). GENTLE REMINDER TO BREATHE HERE, LOOSEN YOUR SHOULDERS and MOVE YOUR JAW AROUND….AHHHHHHHHH! (Remember from last week’s blog to give your “ickies” to the rocks so that you can clearly see the message for you without all the crap-ola!!!! 😉

(SIDENOTE: Notice that I wrote “taken lots and lots of shit and ridicule from”. What that means to me is that I actually did let it affect me. To say it did not and that I was fully focused is a lie. I let it do the opposite of NAMASTE. I let myself (many, many, many times) fall back into the “I’m not as good as ____________________” (fill in whomever fits), especially if my ______________ (boyfriend/girlfriend/mother/cousin/grandfather/sister/uncle/dad/brother/aunt/teacher-whoever it is for you) says so. One of my favorite Eleanor Roosevelt quotes is “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”  Well, I gave my consent because I did not know that I was enough. I grew up in a VERY Portuguese home/community where acceptance is paramount.  I cannot tell you how many times I heard, “what are the neighbors going to think” At times I thought that I needed their approval in some way to feel whole, some days I still do, it’s a habit that is growing weaker ;).

Our Journey on Earth is about Learning How to FLY!!!!!!

Ahhhhhhh, my ButterflyMoms, we are our own prison guards!!! Really take this in. On “Amazing Home Makeover” (the show on ABC) there was a beautiful young man who was in college when his sister and mother died so instead of having his niece and nephews go into foster homes he quit school to take care of them. Even against huge odds he believes, “THE ONLY PERSON WHO CAN STOP YOU IS YOU!” Take it in, really take that in. What does this mean for you?  I invite you to fire your guard or at the very least start giving him/her some well-deserved TIME OFF!!!) He/She has served his/her purpose and now they can also be set free! SET YOURSELF FREE!!!!!!

When you don’t have a lot of support, you have the opportunity to create your own support systems that work for you. That is what the ButterflyMoms community is to me. It is a wonderful support system for those who want to FLY!!!!!! Tap into this support and create other like systems throughout your life that allow your soul to grow and expand. It is fun to explore the possibilities. The more you question your “SHOULDs” the more you will EXPAND your JOY!

Great big honkin’ hugs to YOU!

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

ButterflyMoms founder…YAY!

PS  In continuing to follow my soul’s dreams I ask for your help to get me to my goal of selling at least 300 copies of “Entrepreneurial Moms Extraordinaire” this year. So far I have only 11 orders…two from my mom ;)! If you feel inspired buy a book or two. I sign every book and wrap it with lots of love! You never know what magic comes to you when you create magic for others! To order now go to  http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

ANGRY AT GOD!

Thank you ButterflyMoms for your help especialy Helen for reaching out!

Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

First, I want to thank Helen Bannigan for her wonderful guest post yesterday. It is wonderful to have heart friends like her and those who reached out. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for lightening my burden and giving me a renewed sense of hope!

I find myself in a very precarious part of my life’s journey. For the most part, it does not feel very good to be where I am right now.  If I take the fear and the judgment away I can say that I am definitely experiencing a lot of deep “shifts”. There is a river of rapid, unexpected CHANGE currently re-arranging my life… and that usually does not feel very good to us humans, especially when you seem to be following “the” rules, but not getting the promised results.

I’ve been in a phase where something “icky” happens and I dust myself off,  put on a “stiff upper lip and conjure up all the self-help advice I’ve acquired over the years. Then another “Icky” thing happens, then another, then another, almost like “instead of it’s raining men, it’s raining icky.” It gets so bad that you start to think that the universe is pulling a cruel joke on you. It is seems like your whole life is deconstructing without your conscious consent. You think you are at that bottom and then you arrive at a new lower, bottom. Your life seems to be in free-fall mode. You feel scared, disconnected, and angry.

Life sometimes feel overwhelming!

As someone who has been to third world countries and seen how many/most of the people of our planet Earth live, there is a part of me, THE JUDGE, who rides me like a mule. “Look at you! You have running water, heat, a car that works, healthy children, a body that works, etc…SNAP OUT OF IT! “ And I did,  I did “snap out of it again and again but there is a part of us that we bury when we simply “snap out of it” without acknowledging what is going on because it’s not convenient, or it makes others uncomfortable, or because it does not feel good, or_____________ (you fill in your own answer).

I get the sense that many feel this way but being raised the way we have been it is not “proper” for us to feel “icky” for very long or even simply be ANGRY. Well-wishers and loved ones also tell me to think about all that I have and to be thankful for that. It is true that I do have a lot to be thankful for but sometimes we feel what we feel and cutting off those feelings or sugar-coating what is going on in life, well quite honestly, sometimes life just SUCKS!

I remember back to a time when we had someone from Early Intervention coming to the house when we first had Sophia. Wise, white-haired Barbara was a wonderful soul who came to the house once a week to help us cope with Sophia having Downs and to make the most out of her life. She had a conversation with Doug once that helped snap everything into place. Barbara also had a special needs son who was now a man, she just blurted out one day, “Ya, it sucks.” Just saying those words released Doug in a very deep way. To be able to say that it sucks that you are in that situation without all the KUMBAHYAH fanfare feels REFRESHING! It is acknowledging your true feelings, not what you are supposed to feel.

What does it all mean when it's all falling apart.

It is only when we acknowledge that things do ROYALLY SUCK that we can begin to “move past the sucking”!!! Ignoring it just lets the SUCKINESS grow and fester. It may seem to go away but it only gets nastier and when it finally oozes back into your life you will wish you had addressed it MUCH sooner.

I spent my whole life creating a plan and working that plan of how to avoid pain and have the life I wanted. Over the last few years the universe has completely blown up that world. I AM RAW. Right now my life feels like it’s coming at me full speed. I feel like a rag doll getting thrown around. I don’t know where life is leading me but I will continue to be as authentic and present as I know how. Mark your calendars to come back every Friday for the unfolding journey. Feel free to share your comments below. This is how we can all learn and grow our ButterflyMoms souls.

Great big hugs,

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS  My first book “Entrepreneurial Moms Extraordinaire” is scheduled to be shipped at the end of next week. For ButterflyMoms who order it online it is discounted to $19.99 for ButterflyMoms (down from $25). Please order a copy and recommend to your online friends. Click here to buy, and post the link on your Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, …. http://bit.ly/gRxe4U.

PPS Yesterday we had our first Stitch n’ Bitch at Doug Sent Me Green Cleaners in the downtown of an idyllic New England town called Holliston, Massachusetts. It was sooooo incredibly cathartic. It was so wonderful that the people who came asked if we could do it again in two weeks instead of a month. If you don’t live close enough to Holliston to come Thursday, Feb 3 from 6-8pm then join your own group. Building community is another way we feed our soul. For more information you can go to their official website…. http://stitchnbitch.org/

STOP, DROP and NAP!!!

Dearest ButterflyMoms,

I don’t know where you are reading this but I’m writing today from my kitchen with my three daughters 2, 4 and 6 who are acting like they ingested all of their Halloween candy in just the last hour! They are screaming, drawing, running, giggling, screeching and whining all around me. (SERENITY NOW! SERENITY NOW!!!) 😉

As mothers, we are oftentimes told by the “experts” the series of steps we need to have the perfect, socially acceptable, life, but they oftentimes don’t add to that equation, the fact that mothers/parents must do it with a backdrop depth of distraction that can drive a person to ____________ (fill in the blank) (Sometimes I fantasize about how even going on the reality show “Survivor” with all its drama, plotting, starvation, wet/cold conditions, etc., would be like a  vacation, compared to how challenging it can be to deal with all the levels we go through as parents.) Being only responsible for myself for six weeks????? SIGN ME UP JEFF!

I’ve done it again! DAMN IT! It snuck up on me! It’s right in the middle of the holiday season and I’ve already forgotten to take care of myself. For me it’s mostly lack of sleep. It is my “gateway” catalyst for me going down that dark, dark road of silent and dutiful martyrdom. I feel like if I put my head down this very second, I would start drooling and snoring instantly. No doubt about it.

We are talking about deep exhaustion. It sneaks up on you, a lost hour of sleep here watching a football game that went too long, or a movie that grabbed you just 10 minutes BEFORE your bedtime. It’s the countless times you got woken up to wipe a nose or a butt in the middle of the night. It’s the getting up early to prepare for a presentation before everyone else is up. It’s all these “little” episodes of lack of sleep that over time transport you to the Land of Ickies. Ahhh, the Land of Ickies, a very non-magical place where everything has a lower annoyance threshold, where you tend to eat more and mindlessly, where you are attracted more to TV/computers and less to books. It is a land where your dreams slip further and further away from reach. It is not a happy place. Being here for long periods of times erodes your connection to your soul. We have all seen moms who have been here too long…sometimes I see glimpses of her in the mirror. It is an epidemic that is so wide-spread that it has even started seeping into society’s fabric as the “new normal”.

Want to GET YOUR HAPPY BACK?  Ah, well then, it’s off to the Land of Love for you! What happens there? Well, that is where you love what you do, where you use your feelings and intuition guides you, where you attract the abundance of money and love effortlessly, where you find your life’s purpose. You have no need to judge yourself of others there and you see much more of the beauty that is always all around you. – To attain the golden ticket back to the Land of Love all you need to do is STOP, DROP and NAP! PLEASE try this at home!

If you need a prescription for it I will certainly write you one! Just let me know! 😉 Feel free to write one for yourself and a friend today. Imagine what the world would look like with all us napping! Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh, activating my nap as soon as I file this blog! Won’t you join me?

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS  PS I’m sooooo thrilled that my dream of writing a book is finally come true!!! Entrepreneurial Moms Extraordinaire is the amazing wisdom of 21 entrepreneurial moms who are passing on their knowledge to those who don’t have time for beating around the bush! We all need to make money NOW and live our lives well NOW. This book will definitely help in a very profound way! It’s coming out at the end of January. It will be $25 but if you pre-order it now you get it for only $19.99. Of course I will autograph it for you too! 🙂 Send me an email at maria@butterflymoms.com and I will send you the order form. YOU WILL LOVE IT!!!!

 

Preparing for Your Dreams

Hello Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

No matter what you believe we all enter planet Earth basically the same way. None of us knows how much time we have here or when our time will end.  (deep breath) That is one of THE juiciest of life’s gifts…and one of the most overlooked! What we do in between those two events is our life. How are you living yours?

This can be a scary question to many of us but think about it, isn’t it scarier to live someone else’s life instead of yours? Always wishing you were doing something else or working like a dog until you have ENOUGH __________, meanwhile just getting older and things getting more “complicated”.

We as human beings don’t usually like change very much but NOTHING is ever the same, NOTHING. Think about that. (Deep Breath) You simply have a choice to fight the flow or embrace it. The quality of your life is determined by this one little choice that you make every second of the day. What is something tiny you can do to create more of the life you dream about RIGHT NOW?

Ready, set, glow……

LOVE YOU!

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS Thank you to everyone who has reached out. I’m DEEPLY humbled and honored. It can be VERY scary to put out your dream for all the world to see. I can assure you that my mind has been working overtime to torment me but I know now that it means well. Befriending your brain is one of the kindest things you can do for yourself.

Yes, I’ve taken on a VERY big bite. I am thankful for the opportunity to as this blog post suggests to learn how to better flow with life. Hey let’s call it LIFE SURFING, going with the flow of life! :)! Gentle reminder that MAGIC is waiting for you at EVERY corner! How cool is that?!

Please remember to tell your friends about this adventure. We are here to start a movement of happy, authentic, glowing ButterflyMoms (and some dads who sneak in … 😉 ) Together we all make the world a better place!

I will keep you posted! I need help finding an RV to borrow. Who can help?

The Depths of a Mother’s Desperation – Part Two

WARNING: The content you are about to read is soooooooo inspiring that it may cause tears and an uncontrollable urge to send this blog to others. Do not fight the urges. Do not adjust your computer. Do giggle and cry and ponder and share and breathe and write and draw and sing and whatever else feels good to you in the moment. What you are feeling is the AUTHENTIC YOU, reaching out of its shell. Feel free to TRY THIS AT HOME…AND OFTEN! “FEED YOUR SOUL!!!!!!!!!!!”  It’s soooooo easy! Start here…

These are the first photos we ever got of Olivia from the social worker. I looked at these photos for hours and hours. She looked so stiff and so sad to me.

Hello Beautiful ButterflyMoms!

I was floored when I checked to see that with yesterday’s post we are now up to almost 700 people who have come to read this week’s ButterflyMoms’ blog! WOW! …..AND with no nudie photos or gratuitous sex….although ButterflyMoms KNOW there is a place for that too!  YESIREE!!!!!! 😉 (wink, wink, wink) Thank you for sharing BUTTERFLYMOMS with your friends and family. From the AMAZING feedback it seems that the combination of me writing, and you sharing, is FEEDING a lot of souls – that warms the cockles of my heart! THANK YOU! I’m writing this in my gratitude journal! That’s for sure! I invite you to write in yours today. It compounds your energy in the direction that you want. It gives you more light and fullness in this lifetime.  Baby steps will get us there….each day closer and closer…AND nothing says we can’t have FUN as we go! When I taught in Japan I used to say all the time, “If you are not laughing, you are not learning.” I believe that quote still applies now, especially with what we are doing here with ButterflyMoms! We are all learning how to feed our once starving souls. It is a process. It is an adventure. I LOVE that we are doing this together! YIPEEEEEEEEEE!

Yesterday’s blog entry was part one of two parts. It was about getting gifts, but not just any gift. It was about being offered another human being.  YUP! You read me correctly, being offered a real PERSON! Yesterday was about Thailand when I was 22. Today is about the United States of America less than three years ago when I was 40.

Our very first meeting. Olivia could not keep her eyes off of Doug. This photo shows that beautifully!

I used to read voraciously as a child because I wanted so desperately to escape the tragedy of parts of my childhood. I could escape in books. I felt like a beautiful bird in a cage. I could see the outside but could not leave. I knew that one day the cage door would open so I wanted to learn as much as I could of the outside world while I was “trapped” in this one. The Hudson Public Library was my gateway to knowledge, fun and creativity. I LOVED, LOVED, LOVED that place! To this day I have a HUGE respect for libraries because of what wonderful gifts I received there as a child.

The first time I ever held our Divine Miss Olivia

[SIDENOTE: I ask that you support your local library. It is usually a very small amount of money to “become a friend”. As a business owner both my husband Doug and I apply separately as members of the library. It’s very inexpensive to join and soooo much good comes from our libraries! It is another example of something AMAZING right under our noses that we FORGET TO NOTICE. I ask you today to bring AWARENESS to yours (your library, not your nose ;)). Become a member today. IT FEELS GREAT! Go there. Smile at the people. Take out some books. Check out a section you never gave yourself time to check out. Feel the space. Take your Gratitude Journal and do some entries while you are there. There is no right or wrong way to enjoy your library. Connect with things that represent what public libraries do and you will attract more of that into your life! It’s as simple as that! Put it in your calendar NOW and do it! You will FEEL THE DIFFERENCE! Now back to our regularly scheduled blog entry….. 😉 ]

This is the first time Mialotta ever met her new baby sister. Olivia was totally unemotional. I had never seen a chlld act like that. You could tell she had not experienced deep MAMA LOVE!

So one day by the back wall I picked out a book at the Hudson Public Library that changed my life. It was a book about a couple who meant to adopt one child and ended up adopting A LOT of them. I had never been exposed to adoption but after reading it I KNEW that was something that would one day make up the fabric of my life. I put the wish (a strong visualization with lots of feeling) out into the universe and let it go, knowing it would take care of itself when the time was right. (I did not know that was what I was doing but that was what I was, in fact, doing.) It is a very powerful way to manifest what you want.

I, like most of us, had an idea of what I wanted a partnership and family to look like. I had no idea how I would get there. There were times where the HARDER I TRIED to do the “RIGHT” things the further I seemed from having the “FAMILY” I dreamed about. Time kept moving on and still all I had were a bunch of Mr. I’m Not Ready’s, so I finally got to the point where I decided to let go and trust. It was then that I met Doug and it was like I entered a fantastic whirlwind. Honestly I’m surprised I did not get WHIPLASH! First, part of the package was a stepson, the lovely Master Christopher who is a total cutie pie, then Mialotta, then Sophia. Mialotta and Sophia were only 14 months apart. When Sophia died we kept trying to get pregnant but just kept miscarrying. I brought up adoption to Doug and over time he agreed to take it one step at a time. We would go to each meeting or class and he would say whether he felt ok to move forward. Before we knew it the state of Massachusetts called and asked if we wanted a HUMAN BEING. Please know that I’m not making light of this. I’m simply in awe of the whole process. Someone again was offering to give me a human being…and with no stretch marks! WOW! WOW! WOW! If you are paying attention to life that is deep!

One of the first meals she had in her new home. Already a difference in how she smiles.

[SIDENOTE: Adoption is something that is not very well understood by many people. It is possible to adopt from within the U.S. There are plenty of amazing children out there who don’t have anyone to call “Mom”. Ok so this is bigger than my asking you support your local library but it’s something that if you are attracted to will help you leave an incredible legacy. I’ve always fantasized about having a large group of girlfriends over for dinner and when they got there have about 20 kids there of all ages. I’d let everyone hang out and play games. The kids would leave after many giggles and when we all sat down to eat I would ask, “Weren’t those kids great?” They would all nod and smile thinking about them then I would say, “Every one of those children has no home. They have no Mom or Dad. They are alone

The Sisters Adore Each Other!

in the world.” Ok, since I can’t use my dinner party “ploy” on you now I’m asking you to pretend you were at that dinner party yourself. How would you feel? Here is some adoption information you may not know. If you adopt through the state of Massachusetts (I don’t know about other states but I believe it’s also free). It’s TOTALLY FREE to adopt. YUP, we did not pay a penny! Our Olivia also has FREE HEALTHCARE. Once legal NO ONE can take them away from you. Also her college is paid for if she goes to a state school! How is that for cool?! If you have specific questions I’d be happy to answer them. They help you find the right child for you. We got exactly the person we were meant to, the divine Miss Olivia. Most who don’t want to adopt do so because they freak out about not getting someone they envision. I find that you get exactly who you need and just like with most everything in life, you get to approve of each step of the process. If you want to move forward with a child, you also get their complete history. We found that VERY helpful. Just like with the children in Thailand, it breaks my heart that thousands of wonderful kids have no homes. We can solve this one! By just OPENING our mouths and sharing our Olivia adoption story there are now at least six kids who have been adopted. If we got the word out to enough people and explained what was RIGHT HAPPENING RIGHT UNDER THEIR NOSES there would be a safe, happy home for each and every child. It happens by starting with just one! If you would like a quick preview check out the link… http://www.mareinc.org/MARE-Online-Photolisting.html

The Mother's Day celebration at her schoolie where the kids prepared a yummy lunch for their mommies! So special!

I have to admit as a mom who lost a child I had a hard time for a long while because there was a part of me that felt guilty for having someone else’s child. If someone had my Sophia I could not bear the pain of it. My heart goes out to all the moms who have LOST children no matter how they were taken from them. I now know the pain of losing and that of receiving. In Part One, I spoke about my 22 year old self and feeling horrible that I could not take a child from her mother, then at 40, I felt the guilt of having someone else’s child. Life is a great big unfolding of the unexpected. It has come full circle for me in a way. You do the best with what is before you and as Maya Angelou says, “When you know better, you do better.” My desire is that by reading ButterflyMoms on a regular basis, you find YOUR BETTER!

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

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Olivia Now.... When you pour LOVE into anyone Miracles Happen.

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