Being a mother can be a wonderful thing and yet there are aspects of it I have struggled with though. One of them is, to be quite honest is something most don’t really bring up, FRIENDS. Many women end up becoming friends with the moms of the kids in their mommy group. Some of these groups, for some reason, develop a lot of toxicity in the sense that we are suddenly transported back to middle school. What forms is basically a clique with its own hierarchical system. There are the leaders and the followers. “In” members and “out” members.
A client called me yesterday completely distraught because of how she was being treated by her group, women she had known for years and years. Major life lesson here. Life gives you EXACTLY what you need. Whether it’s a mommy group or a job, when it’s “time” for you to move on from a group you will be “released” one way or another. Energetically it’s the same thing that happens when a baby is being ready to be born. A million different little things work together to “release” the baby at just the right time, no matter how comfort-cozy it is in the womb. When it no longer serves you to be with that group you are also released…even if you go kicking and screaming.
So let’s say you are part of one of these groups, it could really be any group, and when you leave (whether you get kicked out or do it out of your own accord), there may be some very ICKY feelings floating up. WHAT IF…you took those feelings as a gift? WHAT IF… you paid attention to how much of your precious energy you were mindlessly using up to lament this occurrence?
If someone call you a “giraffe” you think…”wow that person has their own stuff going on.” Right? Even if you were in public you would still be fine because it’s obvious you are not a giraffe…DUH!
Well what happens is someone calls you a ____________________ (asshole, jerk, pig, bad mother, cow…). Then how do you feel? DEEP BREATH HERE. And how would you feel if it were in public? Hmmmmmm? 😉 If you are TRIGGERED by a word that means that at least a part of you FEARS it is true. ANOTHER DEEP BREATH HERE.
At this point also notice if you are JUST READING this and your mind is PREVENTING YOU FROM ACTUALLY FEELING THE EXERCISE ABOVE. Noticing this is important because if it’s happening here, with something so simple and “safe”, it’s most likely happening ALL OVER YOUR LIFE.
You have two choices right now as you read (and feel) this…The first CHOICE you have is to FIGHT/FLIGHT against this ICKINESS. This can come in the form of either ATTACKING the other person or DISMISSING/COCOONING/RUNNING AWAY from the experience. Most of us have unconsciously chosen this choice all our lives as an AUTOMATIC RESPONSE but now we are being taught something that uses our ENERGY in a much more efficient way…which brings us to the third CHOICE.
Choice two is to simply NOTICE how you are feeling but what was said. Let’s say the word that most triggered you was COW, notice how you feel when someone says that word around you. Whatever gets triggered is what needs to come out and be released from your believe system for it is a hidden fear that no longer serves you. If it brings up issues of your being over-weight than play with that for a while. Notice if that is something that you believe is true. If it is, do you want to do something about it? If you do, fine. If you don’t fine. It is your life. It is your body. It is your energy to use as you so wish.
Now back to the expulsion from your group…fears will certainly come up, which gives you the WONDERFUL opportunity to check in with yourself and see what FEAR is ready to be released. Our bodies belong to this planet. When we are born we come with soooo many wonderful gifts that most of us have never been taught how to use. Imagine getting a brand new top-of-the-line music system and never even taking it out of the box. How you use your energy and how you TRANSLATE what is happening in your life, determines how much juiciness/aliveness/joy your life has. There are many ways to do this, one simple way is to read this blog every Friday to feed your soul. PEACE TO YOU!
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