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Today Would Have Been Her 12th Birthday…

Fenway Park a week before about a week after Sophia’s first birthday.

Beautiful ‘Coach Me Maria’ Yummy Heart,

Every May 12 is different. Some are celebrations. Some are uneventful. Some are sad. Some just slip by… This one SUCKS, in fact, it’s been sucking for weeks now. The heart-wrenching sadness, I thought time would take care of, has had a resurgence this year. I’ve been crying for weeks so much so that my eyelids might be in a permanent state of puffy. Why? Well, it’s partly the deplorable state of the world… partly that even babies on this planet die… mostly because I wish I could bring her back.

Our beautiful our beloved Sophia died suddenly on June 22, 2006 for physical reasons no one, even today, understands. It was completely unexpected. It gutted us. It was extra hard because our little girl had just joyously celebrated her first birthday!

What a GLORIOUS day that was! Sophia was the happiest kid and it was super easy to fall in love with her. She had Downs and that just brought her level of LOVE to a whole new level. IT WAS SOOOOOO AWESOME TO BE AROUND THAT KIND OF LOVE! People literally came from all over the world for her birthday! Her life was a HUGE CELEBRATION… a month later Sophia lay dead in our arms. This can be such a cruel planet! A total gut punch that seems to revisit me whenever the mood strikes it. It leaves me heartbroken and in pieces.

Quite honestly, I am sick of crying. Occasionally I blocked the crying because what’s the use? Will it bring Sophia back???? After a while it’s just plain depressing and quite honestly lonely. Dead babies. Who wants to talk about that? And who wants to be around you when you are that sad? To be honest, the answer is not a lot of people. I am tired of hiding my feelings because people are so very uncomfortable about death, especially a baby’s death. They don’t know what to say. Many avoid us. They think we are “weird.” The reality is, they are right. It’s true. We are! When your child suddenly dies something in you shifts… in “icky” ways… but also in “magical” ones.

I realize I’m not honoring anyone by focusing on the icky so I begin looking for other ways to give meaning to Sophia’s amazing life. Parents often find ways to honor their beloved’s child life… like create a scholarship, dedicate a bench or start a race/event in that person’s honor… These did not feel like things that would honor Sophia’s short life.

I DID NOT FIND IT… IT FOUND ME!… (Actually it STALKED me!)
Way before Sophia was born I had been an international business and life coach. After her death I became a different kind of coach. I started channeling… and processing some AMAZING information having to do with our energy body, which most people know almost NOTHING about. It’s the kind of information that people so desperately need right now. As I say in my book Finally FULL Of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA “Pain is part of life, suffering is optional.”

For almost ten years, my way of honoring Sophia was to write a blog. That blog was seen by Oprah Show producers and that was one of the reasons I got to be on two Oprah Shows! People were so very inspired by the blog that I kept writing. Every Friday for five years I wrote through pregnancies, temper tantrums, snow storms, clients, miscarriages, broker exams, arguments, business meetings, breast feedings, vacations… At first it took me the whole day to do the blog. By the end I could write a really powerful one within 20 minutes. Isn’t it amazing what happens when we FOCUS?

I wrote NO MATTER WHAT, because it was my sacred time to be with Sophia. I felt I could honor her, by helping others. It felt indescribably amazing when people, even total strangers, would write and say that what I had written changed their life. Breath-giving!

From all that writing came a calling to write a book. I was really bad at that too at first… So bad that I burned the first, second and third fully written manuscripts I had written, because they were not in alignment with the magical connection I have with Sophia… Finally, after 10 years in November of 2016… just days after the election, Finally FULL Of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA was unleashed into the world! It is the book that was calling to me!

For 10 years, I could not understand why it took so very long for the book to “come” but when it came out just days after the shocking election of the 45th president of the United States, I knew that everything is indeed divine… even when it does not make sense to us! Finally FULL Of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA captures the love vibration that Sophia and I still share. It’s a gift to the world downloaded here by me… an accidental writer with a big, sensitive heart and a geeky personality. #geeksunite #scienceisreal

This life is ugly, very ugly… but it is also magical. When we get stuck in the ugly… we live the the curse side. When we are able to shift our focus, we can live out the gift. That is the core definition of happiness.

Look, let’s be clear… happiness is not a straight line. Ugly still happens. Ugly will never not happen. It’s a part of this planet but it does not mean I have to move in! Each day I feel what I feel and remember to choose my focus. I invite you today to do the same. Take a moment… especially when the UGLY hits… and CHOOSE.

So today as I am reminded that I GET TO CHOOSE THE GIFT… I suddenly realize as I write this that this is the first birthday that the book Finally FULL Of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA is done… not almost… or just another re-write… or just one more round of edits… but DONE, DONE, DONE!!!

This is not about a product, it’s about a legacy. It’s a tool that helps people realize why they bothered to get a body in the first place! Countless people have told me how much the book is making a difference in their lives!

It makes my heart sing for joy to know that each time someone buys, recommends, gifts, opens, underlines, remembers, quotes, shares, reviews, learns, posts, lends, orders Finally FULL Of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA the LOVE VIBRATION on Mother Earth grows just a wee bit more! (That’s why I’m always writing LOVE RISING in my posts!)

Took this birthday photo this morning. We have this butterfly gate in front of our house in honor of our sweet girl Sophalicious!

I feel the information in the book is my way I’m honoring Sophia. In her name, I get to help make the world a better place one heart at a time. It’s sometimes ugly/messy work but so well worth it!

This weekend is also Mother’s Day in the States (last weekend in Europe)… and I could not think of a better post that this one to share with you. When I started it I had no idea where it was going… (I’m getting better at surrendering to what shows up) … but it ended in LOVE! HAPPY MOTHER’s DAY!

Happy Birthday Beautiful Sophia! I THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart for choosing me to be your mamã. I LOVE YOU with all my heart! Beijinhos amor! Parabens!

Weirdmaste,                                                           Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa de Lourdes Cerveira Salomão-Schmidt www.coachmemaria.com                                                                            The birthday girl’s mamã  🙂

HOW YOU CAN HELP…

HELP SPREAD SOPHIA’s LOVE… I turn 50 on May 29th and I have a goal to get at least 50 Amazon reviews for Finally FULL Of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA. Guess what?! We’re up to 42!

GROW THE LOVE by leaving your review. It’s super easy!… https://www.amazon.com/Finally-Full-Yourself-Unlocking-Spiritual/product-reviews/0998191213/ref=cm_cr_dp_d_ttl?ie=UTF8&reviewerType=all_reviews&sortBy=recent#R1T2S8B9VMNRHZ

 

Where to buy Finally FULL Of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA…

ONLINE

  • Amazon… https://www.amazon.com/dp/0998191213/ref=rdr_ext_tmb
  • Barnes & Noble… http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/finally-full-of-yourself-maria-salom-o-schmidt/1125253329?ean=9780998191218

IN STORES

  • Barnes & Noble or any bookstore… Call to pre-order. Takes about 2-3 days.

IN MASSACHUSETTS…

  • Cambridge… The Harvard Bookstore  
  • Holliston… Coffee Haven and Fiske’s General Store 
  • Medfield… Holistic Wellness Center 
  • Medway… TC Scoops and The Enchanted Fox 
  • Natick… Five Crows 
  • Newton… Boston College Bookstore                                                                             
  • Walpole… She Breathes 

If you have a favorite local bookstore suggest they carry it. I’d love, love, love to come do a book signing and/or workshop at your local bookstore!

This is a grassroots LOVE MOVEMENT that only grows when you spread the word.

Read it! Review it! Share it!

LOVE RISING!

HOW TO MOVE THROUGH YOUR PAIN…

photos of choicepoint 1Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

I’ve been avoiding writing this one particular blog entry all day long because last week’s was so powerful. The powerful part does not bother me, in fact, I love that almost 2,000 people read it in just one week! From the feedback it seems that it was a wonderful way to honor my beautiful friend Aida, 45 who died suddenly last week of a heart attack at the beginning of her yoga class.

STUNNING AIDA, A BEAUTY FROM THE INSIDE OUT!

STUNNING AIDA, A BEAUTY FROM THE INSIDE OUT!

Besides missing my dear friend Aida, my heart breaks for those who have also unexpectedly lost loved ones. With each of the deaths in my life, I’ve gotten closer to realizing that death does not have to be this way.

Many of us have grown up with the concept of a “heaven”. When Sophia, our beautiful one year old angel died, many said to me things like, “At least she is in a better place.” The more I think about this response, the more I realize that most people don’t really “face” death so whatever they are told about it they blindly believe. If they can avoid it all together they do… and I don’t blame them. If you grew up in a culture/family/world where death was what you did to criminals who commit heinous crimes then WHY WOULD YOU EVER have a positive idea of death!?! From the moment we are born we are warned to avoid death… “Be careful because this, that or the other can kill you!”

A week before she died our beautiful Sophia on her 1st birthday! I just LOVE looking at her beautiful face!!!!!

A week before she died our beautiful Sophia on her 1st birthday! I just LOVE looking at her beautiful face!!!!!

When Sophia died my whole world order blew up! SHATTERED! Things I too blindly believed were no longer possible to believe. The thing about death is that it makes you or breaks you.

At first, for most of us, it breaks us… breaks our hearts, to be exact. I did not want to feel the pain. It was so bad that felt like I wanted to peel my skin right off. The knowledge that my child had died was too much for my brain to wrap around. I treasured the moment I would temporarily focus on something else and dreaded the horror of the moments of re-remembering, painfully observing that part of me that thought it was just a dream… and realizing that it was not. The pain is absolutely horrific. I would not wish it on my least favorite person! It is big enough to contemplate taking your own life. (pause) Yes, it is that intensely painful.

If you are going through the grieving process for Aida or anyone else, I would like to help you. I ask that you first get to a place where you can hear/read this with as much focus as you can muster. Energetically, grieving is a massive leak of energy on your part, that is one of the reasons you feel like shit! Although there are many, many leaks of energy, the biggest leak usually comes from:

  1.  The guilt of not having done something different that would have changed the outcome of the situation (the death). It’s the “LAND OF IF ONLY’S”. Example, “If only I had not _________________ she would not have been in that car.”
  1. The non-acceptance of the death. This is when you hear people say some version of, “No, no! This cannot be happening. No! I cannot believe ________ died!”

These two will get you into one of the biggest un-alignments a human can experience. There is ZERO joy in either of these scenarios. The energy is just leaking out so thinking about leaving the body is not a surprise because energetically to the body it feels like the energy is leaving and not being replenished. Being in this space for a while is common, especially in our culture. It is a natural part of the mourning process. Unfortunately, many people can live in this energy-draining space for a very long time.

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Julia Cameron

“The trick is to metabolize pain as energy.  The key to doing that is to know, to trust, and to act as if a silver lining exists if you are only willing to look at the work differently or walk through a different door.”

~ Julia Cameron

The simplest way to stop the energy leaking is to ask the simple question, “WHAT IS THE GIFT?” Yes, I’m asking you to ask the most absurd question but I can promise you that this question works. It’s the question that I heard on the Oprah Show 11 years before Sophia’s death and the moment she died that question popped into my head and rolled around in there over and over and over again. I now see that the reason the question is so powerful. It unlocks the GRATITUDE and LOVE, two of the most POWERFUL ENERGY FILLERS for your soul.

IMG_8613We are spirits here on the earth school. Our bodies belong to this realm but our souls do not. LOVE does not die. It lives on. The sooner we get back into alignment with our LOVE for our departed, the sooner we feel them around us again, sure in a completely different form but still there, REALLY STILL THERE! The grief prevents us from feeling fully sensing them. There is a better way to accept death, a healthier way. I want to thank all those who have passed in my life, especially: Maria de Lurdes, Mandy, Derry, Joscelyn, Nancy, Aida and Sophia. I thank you for the gifts your lives and deaths have given me… and still I miss hugging you!

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

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images4WHAT IS BUTTERFLYMOMS?
ButterflyMoms is a community of people who realize they are souls first and human being second. They want to explore more about themselves, to find out what makes them happy and how they can lead a life of purpose. It is simply about FEEDING YOUR SOUL. Although it has the name “MOMS” in the title it is more about being nurturing to your own transformation, as the butterfly is to its own metamorphosis. This community is led by Maria Salomão-Schmidt whose transformation was ignited by the birth and death of her BELOVED thirteen month old daughter Sophia (Sophalicious), the original butterfly.

*Every Friday Morning, as a way of honoring her daughter Sophia’s soul, Maria writes the weekly BUTTERFLYMOMS BLOG. Hundreds of people read it every week to feed their souls. Maria started writing the blog in May 2009 and has written EVERY Friday since. Maria is a Reiki master and every time you read it you are showered with healing love.  Tell your friends… http://butterflymoms.wordpress.com and spread the love!!! FEED YOUR SOUL!!!!!

Sophia’s Angel Date is Today… Six Years Have Come and Gone!

Thank you Aunt Diane for this amazing tribute for Sophia!

Today’s ButterflyMoms blog is dedicated to the outstanding members of Holliston’s Police and Fire Department who responded to our nightmare 911 call, when our beloved 13 month old daughter Sophia had suddenly stopped breathing and died. THANK YOU does not even begin to address the gratitude we feel for you! YOU ARE IN OUR HEARTS! WE SEE YOU! 🙂

Dearest ButterflyMoms,

I have been writing and re-writing this blog because everything is constantly shifting here. I hope you take the time to read it with an open heart and maybe even open up a shift for yourself. (smile)

WOW! (deep breath) So today is the day… It is hard to believe that it has been six years since our beloved 13 month old Sophia suddenly died. (pause) I am feeling so many raw emotions right now that it’s like being inside of a tornado, without the calm part. (sigh)

So last night’s ButterflyMoms Soul Support Group was one of the best ever for me, personally, because I was able to feel safe enough to crack my heart wide open and feel the loss of our beloved Sophia in front of everyone. I had done it privately but not that deeply in public.

A week before she died on the very spot she died…

For me there is a fear of grieving in public. I fear that people will judge me because I’m “not over it” yet. The fear has always been that if I let myself “go there” and let others see the INTENSELY DEEP PAIN I HAVE EXPERIENCED OF ACTUALLY SEEING MY BABY SUDDENLY DIE BEFORE MY EYES, they would judge me and see my darkest weaknesses. Sure people publicly say it’s fine but sometimes when you look into their eyes they don’t want you to “go there” because they don’t want to be reminded there is a “there”.  They just want to live in their calculated box.

For me, in my grieving process, the best thing you can do when you are around me to help me deal with my grief is BE AUTHENTIC. To be authentic you need to be present with the other person. So, regardless if they are mad or sad DO NOT TRY TO FIX IT, just let them feel what they are feeling.

Sometimes having a safe space to process what is coming up is the best “gift” you can give someone because you are letting them process at their own pace. It might be extremely uncomfortable but THAT IS THE GIFT, to sit with someone as they birth their pain and grief out of their body and release it.

Sophia and Mialotta, Irish twins who ADORED each other!!! They were inseparable!

To me, that is one of the best gifts anyone can give… and the incredible women who showed up to the ButterflyMoms Soul Support Group yesterday did just that, they gave me the gift of grieving! Thank you for helping me clear out some of my deepest ickies! It feels sooooooo much better! THANK YOU!

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

WHAT IS BUTTERFLYMOMS?
ButterflyMoms is a community of people who realize they are souls first and human being second. They want to explore more about themselves, to find out what makes them happy and how they can lead a life of purpose. It is simply about FEEDING YOUR SOUL. Although it has the name “MOMS” in the title it is more about being nurturing to your own transformation, as the butterfly is to its own metamorphosis. This community is led by Maria Salomão-Schmidt whose transformation was ignited by the birth and death of her BELOVED thirteen month old daughter Sophia (Sophalicious), the original butterfly.

*Every Thursday Night we have a BUTTERFLYMOMS SOUL SUPPORT GROUP at 783 Washington Street in Holliston, MA at 8pm that feeds your soul. They started after Maria manifested her dream…with the help of Sophia…to be a guest on THE OPRAH WINFREY SHOW and every week since she had done the SOUL SUPPORT GROUP on Thursday nights. There was only supposed to be one workshop but people kept asking to be able to come the next week and the next week and the next week until a whole year has gone by!!!!Any questions call my cell at 617.877.3616.

*Every Friday Morning, as a way of honoring her daughter Sophia’s soul, Maria gets up at 4:30-5:00am to write the weekly BUTTERFLYMOMS BLOG. Hundreds of people read it every week to feed their souls. Maria started writing the blog in May 2009 and has written EVERY Friday since. Tell your friends… http://butterflymoms.wordpress.com
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√  Next BUTTERFLYMOMS SOUL SUPPORT GROUP is Thursday, June 28 at 8pm. It is a wonderful way to come learn to feed your magnificent soul!… The ButterflyMoms Soul Support Group grew out of the amazing experience had of being on of THE OPRAH SHOW’s very last guests. Now it’s your turn to come to this safe place where you can work out your blocks and talk about your dreams!!! Held at the offices of Brick House Realty (783 Washington S, Holliston, MA). Plenty of FREE & EASY PARKING in the back lot… and come right in the back entrance. Only $25, or just $20 if pay through Paypal http://bit.ly/mS7c70. RSVPing this time is necessary so we have enough supplies for the surprises that are going to happen! Bring your friends!!!

√  I have space for one more coaching/healing clients. If you are interested send me an email maria @butterflymoms.com

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What is the OPPOSITE of the SHIT Hitting the Fan?

Hello Beautiful ButterflyMoms!

I am soooo THANK-FULL for YOU! I am in the middle of SO MUCH MAGIC that I don’t even know where to begin. Three years ago someone was brave enough to give me an invitation to attend an open house for The Rhys Thomas Institute of Energy Medicine in Medway, Massachusetts (http://www.rhysthomasinstitute.com/). Like most of us life moves very fast for me so for me to even stop and go to such a thing…well, using the word “miracle” is not too ludicrous for the change that I at the time a mother of a 13, 5, 2 and 1 year old (who was still breast-feeding) would take 19 full weekends (Friday-Sunday) and countless other days of training over the last three years to get to this very profound and proud moment. It is also “funny” how this school is only 7 minutes from my house while others because they live in other parts of the world have to take several planes many times a year to attend this school! WOW!!!

So with all this it is with my heart wide open and full of gratitude that I announce that this weekend I am graduating from the Rhys Thomas Institute of Energy Medicine. I have gotten three other diplomas in my life, Hudson High, Boston College and Simmons College but this one this Sunday blows them all away.  Why do I have the ovaries to say that? Well, because the others were merely about my head and this one was still about my head but it was also about my heart. I am starting to see who I really am in this world and how I can live my life’s purpose…which for me is TO BE THE FIRE THAT IGNITES PEOPLE’S SOULS!! I live it now more and more and it is my ZONE. I could not have done it without the amazing program. I also could not have done it without the help of my incredible husband who all too often lives under the Maria light. Let me state publically and clearly that I could not do what I do without his amazing support! I would also like to thank my mom Raquel who many of you know had a very special birthday yesterday. She helped out a lot as did our friend Kären and my brother João. Thank you to my beautiful children who have helped ground me and taught me the concept of AUTHENTICITY. Finally I would like to thank my classmates and teachers. There are too many to name but the profound effect you have for my soul in this lifetime is ABSOLUTELY IMMEASURABLE!!! It takes a village and I am oh-so thankful for all your incredible support!!!

This morning, after only a very few hours of sleep while finishing up some school stuff, I woke up feeling absolutely exhilarated!!! I want to ride in the magic of today and this weekend! What a glorious day! It started off with my 5am running group in which an incredible new member joined. I could have run another 3 miles I was feeling so good. Then at 6am I had my first client of the day. She is someone who has been to a lot of doctors who could not help her but with the work I have learned she is doing incredibly well. It is wonderful to see her face light up as she talks about how her life is shifting, even her husband is shifting because she is. As I got the girls ready for school, I had to pay extra special attention to Mialotta, my 8 year old today because she has a splint on her arm which thankfully yesterday we found out was only a sprain. It is hard for her to get dressed so I had some wonderful bonding time with my girls gingerly getting them dressed. It was such a gift. Finally, as I came down the stairs to get their forms signed and backpacks filled Mialotta and Olivia came in to let me know that THE ROBINS ARE BACK…

Some of you know the story about the robins and our Sophia. Every day Sophia and I would go to the back yard to see the beautiful robins’ nest that was eye–level if we are standing on the deck. Sophia love love loved those birds! I am having a hard time writing this because it is just sooooooo deep and profound for me! (breathe Maria breathe) Ok back to the blog… So the nest had about four or five babies in it and slowly day by day they all started flying out. On the last day, Sophia and I got there just in time to see the last one fly out, almost fall to the ground and then soar into the sky. It was SUCH a special moment for us. Sophia clapped, giggled and laughed as did her mommy 😉 The very next next our Sophia died and at the courtyard in the hospital there was a robin in a very unusual place that just sat there as I was calling people letting them know that Sophia had died. Again while Doug and I were walking home from the funeral home there were two robins standing directly under each other in a very odd way. They were completely freakishly aligned. So back to our yard… that nest has been empty for seven years since Sophia died and NOW, today as I am about to graduate from a white light mystic healing school, the robins have come back.

Dear ButterflyMoms I have no idea what this means. I just know that my beautiful daughter Sophia is sooooo close I could almost touch her. I wish I could touch her because it would be one of the greatest desires of my life. I wanted to share this with you because many of you have been on this journey with me. Yesterday was also the one year anniversary of the taping of my appearance on THE OPRAH SHOW! It is all hitting at once and I am taking it all in!

 

To celebrate the 1 year anniversary of our having our ButterflyMoms Soul Support Workshops we are having a very special celebration next Thursday. I hope if you have been sitting on the fence about coming that you finally come see what all the joy and shifting is about. It will be a pot luck so come prepared to have a wonderful time feeding your soul and your body! Details are below…

I thank you for being on this journey with me! YOU HAVE MADE IT THAT MUCH JUICIER!!!

 

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
🙂

P.S. Like the ButterflyMoms blog do ya? Want more ways to unlock your blocks?… Then come to the ButterflyMoms Soul Support Group most every Thursday at 8pm. Please note that the next one will be May 24th. 783 Washington Street in Holliston. Free and plenty of parking in the back. Only $25, or just $20 if pay through Paypal http://bit.ly/mS7c70. Come feed your soul!
In case you were wondering…

WHAT IS BUTTERFLYMOMS?
ButterflyMoms is a community of people who realize they are souls first and human being second. They want to explore more about themselves, to find out what makes them happy and how they can lead a life of purpose. It is simply about FEEDING YOUR SOUL. Although it has the name “MOMS” in the title it is more about being nurturing to your own transformation, as the butterfly is to its own metamorphosis. This community is led by Maria Salomão-Schmidt whose transformation was ignited by the birth and death of her BELOVED thirteen month old daughter Sophia (Sophalicious), the original butterfly.

*Every Thursday Night we have a BUTTERFLYMOMS SOUL SUPPORT GROUP at 783 Washington Street in Holliston, MA at 8pm that feeds your soul. They started after Maria manifested her dream…with the help of Sophia…to be a guest on THE OPRAH WINFREY SHOW and every week since she had done the SOUL SUPPORT GROUP on Thursday nights. Any questions call my cell at 617.877.3616.

*Every Friday Morning, as a way of honoring her daughter Sophia’s soul, Maria gets up at 4:30-5:00am to write the weekly BUTTERFLYMOMS BLOG. Hundreds of people read it every week to feed their souls. Maria started writing the blog in May 2009 and has written EVERY Friday since. Tell your friends… http://butterflymoms.wordpress.com
WHAT ELSE IS GOING ON? MORE WAYS TO FEED YOUR SOUL…

√  Next BUTTERFLYMOMS SOUL SUPPORT GROUP is Thursday, May 24 at 8pm. It s a VERY SPECIAL one because it is the one year anniversary of the BUTTERFLYMOMS SOUL SUPPORT GROUP! We are having a pot luck so please bring a healthy dish if you are able. It is a wonderful way to come learn to feed your magnificent soul!…783 Washington St, Holliston…. The ButterflyMoms Soul Support Group grew out of the amazing experience had of being on of THE OPRAH SHOW’s very last guests. There was only supposed to be one workshop but people kept asking to be able to come the next week and the next week and the next week until a whole year has gone by!!!! Now it’s your turn to come to this safe place where you can work out your blocks and talk about your dreams!!! Held at the offices of Brick House Realty (783 Washington S, Holliston, MA). Plenty of FREE & EASY PARKING in the back lot… and come right in the back entrance. Only $25, or just $20 if pay through Paypal http://bit.ly/mS7c70. RSVPing this time is necessary so we have enough supplies for the surprises that are going to happen! 🙂 Bring your friends!!!

√  I have space for one more coaching clients. If you are interested send me an email maria @butterflymoms.com

√  Here is the magnificent ButteflyMoms interview on Nancy L. Cantor‘s Dream Factory Television Show… I hope you watch it and that it feeds your soul! ! http://vimeo.com/30095902

√  No ENTREPRENEUR MOM EXTRAORDINAIRE books sold this week. If you have been thinking about starting a business or want to take your business to the next level this is a wonderful way to start. WAY cheaper than going back to school…and very helpful! To feed the soul of a friend buy them a copy by CLICKING HERE NOW… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U.  PLUS each book is personally (and lovingly) autographed.

THE BOOK… “Mom Entrepreneur Extraordinaire”
The following is a list of places where ButterflyMoms live who bought our wonderful book, MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE… Buy one so you can put your part of the world on the list, like so many other beautiful ButterflyMoms have!
“Mom Entrepreneur Extraordinaire” BOOKS SOLD INSIDE THE UNITED STATES
CALIFORNIA
Anaheim 1
Fullerton 1
Sacramento 1
San Bruno 1
CONNECTICUT
Cromwell 1
Greenwich 1
Yalesville 1
FLORIDA
Fort Lauderdale 1
GEORGIA
Roswell 1
KENTUCKY
Louisville 1
MAINE
Biddeford 1
MARYLAND
Chestertown 1
MASSACHUSETTS
Ashland 3
Blackstone 2
Bolton 1
Canton 1
Framingham 1
Holliston 17
Hudson 4
Medway 5
Millis 1
Millbury 4
New Bedford 1
North Easton 1
Rutland 1
Sherborn 1
South Grafton 1
Watertown 1
Westborough 1
Wrentham 1
Worcester 3
Wrentham 1
MISSOURI
Lee’s Summit 1
NEW HAMPSHIRE
Laconia 1
NEW YORK
Scarsdale 1
Stony Brook 1
OHIO
Dublin 1
RHODE ISLAND
Newport 1
VERMONT
Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2
“Mom Entrepreneur Extraordinaire” BOOKS SOLD OUTSIDE UNITED STATES
AUSTRIA
Wien 2
IRELAND
Dublin, Ireland 1
ITALY
Rome, Italy 3
JAPAN
Tokyo  1
PORTUGAL
Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1
SCOTLAND
Greenock 1
SPAIN
Madrid 1
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SHATTERED HEARTS…In Memory of our Beloved Mandy Heliotis!

Dearest Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

This week’s housekeeping issues will be at the end…in honor of our beloved Mandy Heliotis, our shooting star!

Today my heart has been once again shattered into a thousand pieces. I ask that as you enter today’s blog you take eight super-deep BREATHS! 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7 aaaaaand………..8! AHHHHHHHHHHH! Breathing helps you move through the pain of things. It helps you process and stay connected to the meaning instead of just the pain.

On Wednesday morning the phone begin to ring at 3am…at first the news and our state of mind was foggy. There had been a horrific car crash, Mandy, our beloved niece had been badly hurt and had been airlifted. We stopped breathing. We began praying/begging that she be fine to any gods that were listening. A little while later the words you would give anything not to hear…She is dead 🙁 Our beautiful beloved 26 year old niece was ripped out of her life in an instant by a drunk driver who hit them head on. Mandy lived a lot in her short life but she had sooooooooooooo much more living left to do! It seems almost too much to bear. Our hearts feel like they have shattered. To be honest I’m having a hard time deciding to write in the present or past tense and that hurts. I don’t want to use words like SHE WAS. I want to say SHE IS!!!!

Mandy always attended the games of her younger cousins. They adore her!!!

Tears blind me, breath escapes me, my chest tightens, groans come from deep inside. I feel like I want to throw up much of the time now. Thinking about it is sometime too painful. I think about her. I replay Mandy’s last moments. I wish you could have been there to change the outcome. I wish you could have stopped it. I think about her friend who was driving and only got a broken leg. I pray that she does not blame herself. I pray that she is eventually able to heal this event in her life…seems like such a colossal request right now. I think about the last time we saw each other , Mandy and I. I think about the last time we spoke. I feel in awe of the fact that her photo with Sophia was in the News Center 5 piece that Susan Wornick did for ABC. To see it go to www.butterflymoms.com and check out the WATCH section. I spoke to her about it about a week ago. Mandy said she loved it!

Throbbing heartache rips through Mandy’s immediate family, through our families into our extended families and friends. Everyone feels the loss. If you ever met Mandy you would know why. AHHHHHHHHHHHHH Beautiful Mandy! She IS AUTHENTIC and REAL. Mandy had an eye (and a hand) for art and photography. She IS KIND. Even out of her body SHE IS STILL ALL ABOUT LOVE! Mandy honored both the dark and the light sides of herself and at SUCH a young age brought incredible amounts of beauty into the world. When someone does that, you miss them even more. ;( I feel like the world got a little dimmer when her soul left planet earth. I am certainly not the only one!

Our beautiful Mandy

Grief is such a powerful thing. It can cut you at the knees. It affects us on every level if we let it. The parts we cut off from the grief are the parts that will eventually give us or biggest pain. I have learned with Sophia’s death that it all comes in waves…Sometimes I cannot bear living another moment and other times I just feel the love and gratitude for having been loved and had the honor of loving such a magnificent soul!  Mandy, sweetie, you are a MAGNIFICENT SOUL! We miss you already!

I am deeply grateful and deeply humble by all the outpouring of LOVE LOVE LOVE from those of you who sent their condolences! Thank you for reaching out. In lieu of flowers her beloved mom, dad and sisters ask that in lieu of flowers you give a donation in Mandy Heliotis’ name to MADD (Mothers Against Drunk Driving).

Great big hugs,

Maariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS  Here are this week’s important housekeeping issues….

*Thank you to everyone who came last night to the ButterflyMoms Manifestation Class. A special thank you to the beautiful Kerri Miller, the beautiful Denise Gidopoulos, the beautiful Kären Humphrey, the beautiful Gaynor Greenberg, the beautiful Jennifer Burgett and the beautiful Susan Carlson who came to the workshop and helped me deal with my grief by being present with that energy and allowing it to move wherever it needed to go. If you feel stuck or like you want to move forward but keep hitting ROADBLOCKS then come next week to our spectacular workshop. We make it at 8pm so you can put your kids to bed or get out of work with plenty of time to show up. Everyone says they’re learning the tools they can use to start moving towards her heart’s desire! 🙂 The group has asked that we meet again so I’m extending this invitation to you. We’re meeting next Thursday, June 16th, 8pm at 783 Washington St, Holliston. Easy to get to on Route 16 and plenty of FREE parking in back. Cost is only $25 at the door (you still need to pre-register because space is limited) or just $20 if you drop off a check or pay through Paypal… http://bit.ly/mS7c70 . It’s a simple first step…so grab on to it! J

*My computer’s motherboard is still in Wisconsin getting fixed…BREATHE. Sometimes in life things take longer that you expected/wanted but letting go is the best way. I‘ve been without access to my files in almost 3 months and I am just observing and letting go, ESPECIALLY when I feel the Land of Should creep in!!!! 😉

*The www.butterflymoms.com website is still a work in progress. Again, thank you for bearing with me. For right now it is what it is. ;)…Gentle reminder again to SURRENDER! 😉

One book sold this week to the lovely Kat Malone. Thanks beautiful Kat! The following is a list of places where ButterflyMoms live who bought our wonderful book MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE…

UNITED STATES

California

Anaheim 1

Fullerton 1

Sacramento 1

San Bruno 1

Connecticut

Greenwich 1

Yalesville 1

Kentucky

Louisville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 2

Holliston 11

Hudson 4

Medway 3

North Easton 1

Sherborn 1

South Grafton 1

Watertown 1

Worcester 3

Missouri

Lee’s Summit 1

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

Vermont

Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN

Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

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OPRAH UPDATE…One, Six and Thirteen!

 

 

Dearest Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

First, an Oprah update. The producer called again this past week and there was renewed hope that I would be on one of the last shows. He even had us get Sophia’s birth and death certificate to send to him just in case he could do something but that did not pan out. It is sad but at least I put myself out there and there are many more adventures I cannot even imagine coming my way! I’m excited! Thanks for coming on that journey with me!

Just finished a Goddess Weekend that was out of this world! It was at this retreat last year that I started writing ButterflyMoms on a consistent basis. So HAPPY ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY BUTTERFLYMOMS!!!

The retreat got me thinking that we can all use a little time away to re-group and re-energize soooooo….(trumpets please)…… We are scheduling our first ButterflyMoms Retreat the weekend of October 22, 2011 in Mad River Vermont at a magical inn! We are still working on the details but space will be limited so if you are at all interested let me know. Carving out the time for our highest good is the best thing we can do for ourselves! :)!

I ask you to take a DEEP, DEEP BREATH with me as I enter into today’s blog…

Sophia and Me at her first birthday party

I never know how I’m going to be on May12 and June 22. Those are my Sophia’s birthday and deathday.

Sometimes sooooooooooooooooo much emotion wants to come out that I’m afraid those around me cannot handle it. Quite honestly most of my grieving has been alone…or SWALLOWING MY GRIEF because of this fear that others cannot handle it. Some of the work I’ve been doing at the Rhys Thomas Energy Medicine School, especially lately, has allowed me to open/release some of that energy, some very powerful stuff!

It’s hard, you know, to talk to others about the birth and death of your baby because if that other person REALLY went “THERE” with you it…well, I can’t say I honestly know what would happen, but it’s a lot of pain and in a way I guess I protect others from it because then I think I need to save them from it. I don’t know if I’m making sense to you but this is how I feel. There is soooo much magic that has come from her death but I would give it all up to have Sophia back in my arms. I don’t know if that is the PC thing to say but that is how MY HEART FEELS. I miss her sooooooooooooooooo much, our Sophalicious. I have had many, many people die in this lifetime, losing your baby is TOTALLY a different feeling. It is that type of grief that can knock the wind out of my sails and because I have so many responsibilities I cannot crawl into bed and stay there so I activate AUTOMATIC PILOT, put on a smiley face and go off into my day.  I KNOW I’m not the only one! Sometime I do it so automatically, in fact, that I don’t know that I’ve ACTIVATED it. I NOTICE that when I do this I take a VERY DEEP BREATH and then probably don’t exhale for the rest of the day. That is how I perceive it.

Grieving, for me, is this endless circle of wanting to get to HIGHER GROUND, to being as “ok” with Sophia’s death as I can be and then being hit by a Tsunami of pain, never knowing who you are going to be in front of when it happens.

At Sophia's Christening with Parents, Siblings and God Parents... Sooo much LOVE!

esterday would have been Sophia’s 6th birthday. She died at 13 months so it’s fitting that I’m writing this on Friday the 13th…. BTW, found out that Friday the 13th is a VERY POWERFUL GODDESS DAY…When  the Roman Catholic Church was trying to take over, they made it a bad luck day instead. I, for one am reclaiming the magic of Friday the 13th!!! Who’s with me? 😉

Today’s blog is just pouring out of me and I’m not stopping it. It has REALLY wanted to come out. The word that keeps coming up around yesterday is HUMBLE, HUMBLE, HUMBLE.

I was COMPLETELY blown away by the outpouring of LOVE, LOVE, LOVE that our family received yesterday!  We had more than 200 people (I can’t even believe I’m typing that number!!!) reach out via email, phone, text, voicemail, facebook and even a handful of  in person visits from dear friends who seemed to really be holding a space of LOVE for the day as I had requested on FB. This may surprise you writing how I do but I usually don’t open myself up to get the love BECAUSE TO OPEN TO THE LOVE, YOU HAVE TO BE OPEN TO THE PAIN. I was more vulnerable yesterday than I have been in a long time and that is why I was able to ASK for what I needed. I asked for others to hold us in LOVE…and I highly suggest it because it felt wonderful! Like floating, really if you let yourself go….there is a downside though that is ALSO important to know about…. WARNING: When that happens SHIT that has been in your life’s “basement” comes up….and baby that shit stinks! It was soooo powerful that it rocked my marriage. We had to work some things out. Key is to go with the flow, stay open, stay authentic and for goodness sakes KEEP MOVING FORWARD (but in a BEING PRESENT WAY)!!!

A very special thank you to all those who reached out yesterday. YOU deeply help me and my family heal a bit more. I was going to try to list everyone’s name here but if I forgot someone that would not do. I would invite you to go to my Facebook page and read all the magnificent comments from around the world. It is a magnificent example of SHEER LOVE!!! I am deeply grateful and deeply humble by that LOVE!

Great big hugs,

Maariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

Sophia and her Vovo

PS  A plethora of books sold this week! We FINALLY SOLD ONE IN PORTUGAL!!!! YAY! (Thank you Madrinha Juvenalia Figueiredo!) We also sold two in VERMONT (Thank you Evelyn and Kristen Meyer!) which is a new state for us and one in Watertown, MA (Thank you Christine McDade!) and another in CONNECTICUT (Thank you Sheryn MacMunn)! WHEW WHO!!!! I LOVE BEING ON THIS JOURNEY WITH YOU! SOOOO FUN!!!!

Here is where the books have gone to ButterflyMoms…

UNITED STATES

California

Fullerton 1

Sacramento 1

Connecticut

Greenwich 1

Yalesville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 2

Holliston 10

Hudson 4

Medway 3

North Easton 1

Sherborn 1

South Grafton 1

Watertown 1

Worcester 3

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

Vermont

Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN

Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

Me at Hemingway's House in Key West

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