You have all been very quiet over the last few weeks. I wonder what is brewing… I sincerely ask that if you read this blog to acknowledge your presence EACH TIME by leaving a comment, hitting the like button or rating it. I know a lot of ButterflyMoms come and read the blog every week but they don’t SHOW THEMSELVES.
That gets me thinking…where else in your life do you not show yourself. While I was getting my MBA (back in the 1900’s) 😉 I learned that most women do this type of behavior a lot. I like to call it FLYING UNDER THE RADAR.
GIRL! If you are going to bother flying then make sure it’s WAY above the radar! LET THEM KNOW YOU ARE HERE AND THAT YOU ARE READY FOR ALL THE WONDERFUL ADVENTURES LIFE HAS IN STORE! Send the universe a message through your actions that you want a life that is worthy of being seen.
I can feel your jaw clench and your breath almost stop as you read these words. Take heart, dearheart. You are safe. FEEL THAT STATEMENT. Take a deep deep breath and feel, “I AM SAFE. I AM SOOO SAFE. BECAUSE I AM SAFE I AM FREE TO EXPERIENCE ALL OF LIFE.” Nothing can happen to you today that is not meant for your best and highest good. We know they are all lessons. This is the Earth School after all! There are sooooooo many spirits who would LOVE to be able to be here on Planet Earth to play but they are not here, YOU ARE! It is SUCH a COOL EXPERIENCE! Look down at your hands. Move them. Turn them. Wiggle your fingers. Feel your skin. Feel the bones under your skin. You are made from the same magical material as makes up the stars. Savor the experience. Most people go through life FORGETTING how VERY COOL THIS EXPERIENCE can be with one critical ingredient….GRATITUDE FOR BEING HERE!
I am grateful for you! Are you grateful for you?
ROCK ON BUTTERFLYMOMS!!!!!!!!!!!
Great big hugs,
|an affectionate soubriquet for the person that has woken your heart and dispelled your misgivings about the world at large|
The Sophia Center proudly brings you our very first event…
MANIFEST YOUR DREAMS NOW! Workshop
* WANT TO MANIFEST YOUR DREAMS BUT DID NOT KNOW WHERE TO START?
* FEELING STUCK?
* NEED A LITTLE (AFFORDABLE) NUDGE?
where you will learn how to tune into and connect with your “juice”, your ENERGY! If it’s time for you to start making your dreams a reality then come have fun and live the life you want!
783 Washington Street, Holliston
Only $39… 10 % of this event will go towards the ‘Clean Earth Fund’
Who is the lovely Gabriele? Gabriele has been on a spiritual path of self-awareness and healing for the past 25 years. Her interest in personal growth has led her to a spiritual teacher in India, massage studies in Thailand, a Reiki certification and studies at Pathwork Vermont’s Center for Psycho-Spiritual Education. She graduated in 2010 from the Rhys Thomas Institute of Energy Medicine and is currently enjoying studies with Jim Self, a renowned teacher, in his ‘Mastering Alchemy’ course. Through her personal healing work she is creating a safe, focused space for clients to open to their own healing potential. She facilitates client healing with high Quality Flower Essences and combining her finely tuned intuition with sharing her passion of all she has learned. In order to address the heartache she has been feeling about how human beings are polluting our incredible planet, Gabriele recently set up the ‘Clean Earth Fund’ to support and promote programs that assist in bringing our beautiful Planet Earth into balance. This month’s contributions will go to Japan to support Dr. Masuro Emoto’s Aid Work. www.emotopeaceproject.blogspot.com.
Class size is limited. To sign up go to http://xrl.us/bjk8ye or drop off a check at 783 Washington Street, Holliston.
PPPS The “Book Gods” must have taken the week off this week because zero books were sold. Make the Book Gods happy and buy your best friend a copy! Just click here… To order now go to http://alturl.com/ugrbj. Don’t fly under the radar…BE REPRESENTED!
Here is where the books have gone to ButterflyMoms…
North Easton 1
South Grafton 1
Stony Brook 1
Wien, Austria 2
Dublin, Ireland 1
Rome, Italy 3
When you buy a book you represent your area. Let’s see where all the ButterflyMoms live!!! :)! This is FUN! To buy your copy Click here now…http://bit.ly/gRxe4U
Mark your calendar to read ButterflyMoms EVERY Friday! 🙂
It is sooooooooooo wonderful to wake up EVERY Friday morning way before even the sun gets up knowing that I’m going to CONNECT WITH YOU! It feels wonderful knowing I’m feeding so many souls by just being myself! And for you, beautiful ButterflyMoms, when you CONNECT in this manner there is less DEFENSE because you can read slowly or a part of it and then come back to it later. In other words, you can process it at any speed you wish. I like to think of it like a “pitching fork” that is used for aligning notes. When you come to ButterflyMoms and let the words “tune your life” you re-align to your true life’s purpose…and that is why we are all here, after all! It’s as simple and luscious as that! So here we go…
The last few months have been ovary-busters! WHEW-EW CHILD! Some seriously crazy stuff has been unfolding. Many people did not find it comfortable for me to be in that ICKY PLACE but I did not want to leave it because I had not processed what I was going through. I have not fully left this uncomfortable place but I have found some incredible nuggets of information. The biggest one right now is that I do not have to own what I cannot control.
Sometimes as Moms we put ourselves in the position of God/Goddess/Allah/ Buddha. By this I mean we take on EVERYONE’s issues and make it our own. This is an impossible task that has killed the life force of many of our ancestors. Think about that harsh reality!
I was doing a meditation in my energy medicine school last weekend and I realized that I was guilty of wanting to fix everyone’s problems so that they could be safe….so that I could be safe. My fear of not being safe was so big that I oftentimes did not even check in with the person to see if they wanted my help or not. HELLOOOOO REALITY CHECK! This summer I had three very strong (energetically speaking) individuals do that to me and I can tell you that from the receiving side, it does NOT feel good at all when others try to SAVE YOU WITHOUT YOUR PERMISSION!! ICKY!!!! YUCK!!!!
My childhood did not exactly teach me about TRUST so now in adulthood I’m sticking in my pinky toe to see if the waters of trust feel right to me. I know there is a large “reward”, amazing treasures, if I can open up, really open up to the magnificence that is all around. Being closed cuts us off from sooooooooooo much cool “stuff”!!! …..and I’m talking about experiences, not things. SIDENOTE: Author Dan Buetner http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dan_Buettner studies real sources of happiness. He quoted a study that the impact of new material things only lasts 9 months but experiences add value over time. 🙂 (and THAT is why ladies and gentlemen that I LOVE to travel!!!!) 😉
So back to this idea of trying to fix everything (hope I did not give you whiplash just now by moving back to the topic from which we digressed 😉 MOMMY MARTYRS DON’T HELP ANYONE! It is a not-so-great way to use your energy and then when you get depleted you get VERY cranky, moody or both and then, much like Godzilla, unleash your wrath unto the closest unsuspecting victims. You and I both now it can get very, very icky because the anger gets so big that you either attack someone else or turn it against yourself. For many of us we don’t know there is a third option, YES my fellow BUTTERFLYMOMS!!! YES, there is a THIRD OPTION and that is to give it away!
Now that I’ve totally confused you allow me to explain…Whenever we run across something that is too much to handle simply do the parts of it that you can, no matter how small or insignificant they feel, and then for the parts you cannot handle simply give them up to….here is where the fun begins. I did a mental exercise where I realized that I could give my ickies or the things that were too big for me to handle to rocks. Yes, you read it correctly, R-O-C-K-S, ROCKS!! In my exercise the rocks actually said “GIVE US YOUR PAIN. GIVE US YOUR HURT. WE LOVE EATING THAT STUFF.” Well, I did and know what? IT FELT AWWWWWWWESOME!!! Yes it did! I felt a huge weight being lifted. I found that it works MUCH better to stop acting like God and simply give it up to Spirit. Something happens where we think we need to do it all ourselves…(how’s that workin’ fer ya?)…..and that is simply not the case. THAT is why we feel so overwhelmed and why we keep trying to fill it with more STUFF!!! Do you see it? Take an aerial view of your life. Can you see where you have done this? Can you see where you do this? Here’s your chance to feed the rocks!!!
Now my brain is scared that I just blogged that the rocks spoke to me but in this exercise they did so I’m going outside my comfort zone and letting you know too. Hope it helps some of you out there. I know it might seem silly but SILLY WORKED for me and it just may work for you, plus it’s 1. FREE 2. Does not hurt anyone and 3. No one knows that you are doing it….unless you put it on your own blog!!! 😉
I’m hearing little feet, gotta put on my “Mommy hat”.
Great big honkin’ hugs my lovelies,
COOL EVENTS SECTION….
This week is the inauguration week for BFMs listing your events all over our planet. Send me your cool events that feed other ButterflyMoms’ Souls by Wed to have them included in Friday’s ButterflyMoms blog…
– From one of OUR ButterflyMoms, Nancy Senior in Worcester, MA…This Saturday, January 29th and Sunday 30th all day, it’s the Three Rivers Building Community Retreat! Come experience many different treatments demos including Reiki, Healings, Massage, Yoga, Raw foods and more. Affordable and fun! For more info: www.threeriversbuilding.com . I’m going with my girls Sat morning! Come join us!
– From one of OUR ButterflyMoms, Betty Ripley, Holliston, MA…Sewing 101 Class. Come learn how to sew in a class environment that is supportive and fun. The way Betty knows how to teach a class it simply just another form of meditation. The four week class starts Monday, January 31, 7-9pm for $75. I’m taking the class too! For more details call Maria 617.877.3616. Betty is also teaching a quilting class and has kids’ classes.
– From one of OUR ButterflyMoms, Becky Geer-Linnell, Medway, MA…Kniting 101 & Beyond Class. Just like the sewing class this is an incredibly fun way to connect to yourself by doing something that human being have been doing for thousands of years. Come learn how to knit in a wonderful environment. The four week class starts Tuesday, January 31, 7-9pm for $75. For more details call me 617.877.3616.
– From one of OUR ButterflyMoms, Maria Salomão-Schmidt, Holliston, MA AND ALL OVER THE WORLD!…Stitch n’ Bitch Get Together at Doug Sent Me Green Cleaners in the downtown of an idyllic New England town called Holliston, Massachusetts. It was sooooo incredibly cathartic. It was so wonderful that the people who came asked if we could do it again in two weeks instead of a month. If you don’t live close enough to Holliston to come Thursday, Feb 3 from 6-8pm then join your own group. Building community is another way we feed our soul and it’s FREE! For more info go to their official site…. http://stitchnbitch.org/
PS WONDERFUL NEWS!!! My first book “Entrepreneurial Moms Extraordinaire” was shipped on Monday!!! For ButterflyMoms who order it online it is discounted to $19.99 for ButterflyMoms (down from $25). Please order a copy and recommend to your online friends. Click here to buy, and post the link on your Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, …. http://bit.ly/gRxe4U. WHEW WHO!!!!!!!!
Every Friday when I sit at my computer I am met with a flood of ideas and voices all crowding each other to be heard. My first reaction is to feel overwhelmed. What happens next is critical. I have one of two choices. One, I can “stand down”, which is a cool line I picked up from watching action movies, which means I can abandon my writing, OR, two, I can choose to surrender. What do I mean by surrendering? In surrendering I simply sit back, change my breath pattern (feels like taking a big sigh, sometimes even two or three…depends on the day), and asking, much like that 70’s gameshow, “Will the real ______ please stand up.” In this case I’m asking for help from the universe to guide me to write towards “my best and highest good”.
Once I make that request I’m given only the very first part of what to write about. I surrender again as I feel my mind creep in with “helpful” suggestions. There is a place for your mind but, in writing, I find that REALLY good writing happens only when your brain serves as background information help and not the main writer. The main writing, at least for me, comes from spirit. It’s so fun for me to write, because I never know how it’s going to turn out.
The very first time I experienced this (that I am super conscious of) was the morning I awoke after my little girl Sophia’s sudden death. As I was sleeping I started getting a stream of words coming through. I tried to ignore it but I had a DEEP KNOWING that I would not remember it later and that it was important that it be shared. My mind was still semi-asleep as my soul guided my body downstairs to my desk and began to write as fast as I could to catch up to the words that were streaming in. Those were the words that I later read at her funeral and can be found here…. http://www.becauseofsophia.com/whoissophia.asp#Letter
The universe is always channeling energy through you. You have sooooo many resources around you that if you STOPPED to REALIZE it you would be amazed, delighted and humbled. Today, slow down, listen to your inner voice, use your breath. Do it consciously. For some because you don’t do this very often you might get the voice of fear/judgment. That is the ego! It is only happy when it is controlling you. It can only control you if you forget that your ego is NOT YOU! Remember in the Tom & Jerry or Bugs Bunny cartoons when you saw the devil and the angel on the character’s shoulder? The devil is the ego. It is only happy if you are not. Here’s where most people get lost in the mix, judging or punishing the ego only makes it stronger. The only way to get rid of it is to BRING GENTLE AWARENESS to it. Realize that it is not you but your fears. Realize that when the ego is on YOUR TRUE SELF cannot be. The TREASURE of who YOU really are is buried underneath that layer of icky. This is not “good” or “bad”, it is just the reason for why your life is the way it is. All you have to do is ACTIVATE CHOICE. Is this how I want to live my life? YES, stay the same. NO, then shift to breath and awareness of the present moment, like me and my writing, you will be given only the next step. Trust in that. Sit back, activate your breath and ACTIVATE YOUR NOW! The only power we have is in the present moment. This season of gift-giving give yourself the gift of ACTIVATING YOURS.
I thank you for showing up in your own life. If you have been attracted to our wonderful ButterflyMoms blog the universe is sending you a message that your soul already knows. Create from it what you need to. About 1,000 readers come to ButterflyMoms every week to feed their souls. Thank you for being a part of this wonderful community! As we all continue to celebrate this magical holiday season I wish you much AWARENESS in your life so that your pure JOY can come streaming in! MERRY EVERYTHING!
Great big hugs,
PS In this season of giving sometimes the best gifts are those that don’t cost anything. Give someone the gift of ButterflyMoms but just sending them the link…. www.butterflymoms.com and telling them to check out the blog section. Feed your friends’ and family’s souls for free! :)!
PPS Please help me support my dream, the one Sophia helped me push forward. After so much struggling and excuses, I am sooooooooooooooooooooooooo thrilled that my dream of writing a book is finally come true!!! It’s been TWENTY YEARS in the making!!!! Entrepreneurial Moms Extraordinaire is the amazing wisdom of 21 entrepreneurial moms who are passing on their knowledge to those who don’t have time for beating around the bush! We all need to make money NOW and live our lives well NOW. This book will definitely help in a very profound way! It’s coming out at the end of January. It will be $25 but if you pre-order it now you get it for only $19.99. Of course I will autograph it for you too! J Send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org and I will send you the order form. YOU WILL LOVE IT!!!!
Yesterday we started speaking about inspiration and then the subject evolved into another AWARENESS lesson. There must be a lot of growth going on because the subject of AWARENESS is popping a lot here for my intuitional writing! 😉 Go with the flow!
So today’s blog is going to be short and sweet so that you have time to really SEE YOURSELF today. (DEEP BREATH) Truly SEEING YOURSELF will unlock all that MAGNIFICENT TREASURE you have inside of you! It is WAYYYYYYYYYY bettter than any lottery you could win, promise!
So today, close your eyes (after you finish reading this, of course 😉 ) and picture yourself in 20 years if you have followed your best and highest good paths in life. Where are you? Is there anyone around you? What is the future you like? Let her give you a hug, a big one. She LOVES YOU! She wants the best for you. She sees how you are making choices that bring you a lot of suffering. She has been through all that. SHE IS YOU. No one knows you better than she does. What name will you give her so that you can easily identify her energy in your life? Mine is TAWANDAH!!!!! 😉 Will you be open and listen to what she has to say to you? Give yourself that gift. You are completely SAFE with her. SHE WANTS THE BEST FOR YOU. What advice does she have for you? (DEEP BREATHS)
Take a few moments to be with her and see what she shows you. We see time as linear but it is not. You have deep, deep wisdom there at your fingertips from your TAWANDAH. She wants to share with you the same way you would want to share if your younger self showed up in your life asking for advice. Reap the rewards of deep wisdom. Swim in the wonderful feeling of being around her. Feel her hugs. Feel free to ask her whatever you like. You might want to keep paper handy in case you want to write. You will forget this wisdom over time even if you have the best intentions, writing will help you remember.
If you feel comfortable share the nuggets of truth and wisdom you find. Be open to whatever kind of experience you have. This is fun! You are safe!
Great big hugs,
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Good Morning Beautiful ButterflyMoms!!!
Most of us take the complex ability of being to SPEAK for granted but it is SUCH an incredible gift, just ask those who do not have it. What most people do not realize is that speaking only works because of hearing. The two are so linked that if you were to lose your ability to hear, you would begin to lose your speech. When you speak, your hearing is a monitoring system, a feedback system for what you say. We have all experienced saying something and then a moment later saying “What did I say?” or “Did that come out of my mouth?”
When we are learning a “new” language, one that our brain is not familiar with the sounds, even if we say the word perfectly, it FEELS ODD. It’s because in that system of learning this new sound is not familiar to your “ears” so it rejects it as not correct. Remembering this as you are learning a new language will help you greatly because it’s one of the simple “obstacles” most people don’t see but it slows them down – just like in life!
Yesterday’s main post was about OBSTACLES, things that keep our ButterflyMoms’ SOULS silent and in the background. That kind of life is one we would all HATE to live because it’s one that FEELS EMPTY. Think about it, NO SOUL, NO LIFE! The more you can create a life where your soul is easily heard, the more you will LOVE YOUR LIFE because YOUR SOUL is YOUR LIFE! 😉
If you combine the example above about hearing you see that FEEDBACK is KEY in your life and in this blog. Last month we had over 3,000 visitors and we are on track for that happening this month too. As the writer of this blog, I want to serve your best and highest good. It is challenging to do so without any FEEDBACK. Just like with the amazing art of SPEAKING, the system only works when the HEARING is working, otherwise it all breaks down.
For ButterflyMoms to grow and serve your core needs of providing the best quality SOUL FOOD WE NEED YOUR FEEDBACK/SUGGESTIONS/COMMENTS. We have created a wonderful FREE community where we have the chance to connect with our TRUE selves through baby steps (pun, although accidental, intended). This is a two-way street beautiful ButterflyMoms. You will find that if you put yourself out there it will help you in AMAZING WAYS that you cannot see right now because you are connecting to what works in your life.
However you have come to this blog, you have attracted something that is completely dedicated to YOUR HAPPINESS and that of other ButtterflyMommies out there! Add your FLAVOR to the mix so that we all MOVE FORWARD IN GIGGLY JOY!
Great big hugs,
PS Please post this blog wherever you can so we can get the word out to other ButterflyMoms who don’t realize there is a whole world of support out there. MWAH!
Hello Beautiful ButterflyMoms,
Inspiration comes from the most simple (right in front of your nose places). Poetry…..when is the last time you ENJOYED a good poem, if ever. Not for a class or to impress but to simply take it in at whatever level you were at? I got a poem called WILD GEESE from the wonderful ButterflyMom Maureen Gormely who writes the UU Sherborn “Church” bulletin. Doug grew up Lutheran and I grew up Catholic. When Sophia died we really struggled with the lack of community support around us. Our therapist suggested we go try the Unitarian Church in Sherborn, Massachusetts (UU Sherborn). That was almost four years ago and it has been an incredibly loving, safe, nurturing place where we can join with other like-minded people who believe in helping make our world a better place. It’s an amazing place because there it’s about human beings being kind to each other and working together for causes we believe in, both simple and big things like having gone down to New Orleans to help rebuild 10 times since it Katrina happened (about twice a year), creating temporary housing for people with no home, feeding the hungry, acknowledging teenagers. We also have an incredible community support so when someone is sick, or has a baby meals are provided for sometimes months. We received this AMAZING GIFT twice, when Isabella was born we had just adopted Olivia three months prior and then again when Doug had his life-threatening Vasculitis. It was an INCREDIBLE gift with no strings attached. They just showed up because we needed help. I also like that whatever your religious beliefs it does not matter there. You can believe whatever you want, even be an atheist!!! I lovingly call them the UN-CHURCH.;) Again, just like with the yoga example above, I grew up VERY Catholic so when fear rears its ugly head, my brain whips out the “be careful this must be a cult”. And my brain was right! Oh ya baby, it’s a cult all right, The CULT OF LOVE!!! 😉
IMPORTANT TRIBUTE HONORING ONE OF OUR BEAUTIFUL BUTTERFLYMOMS WHO DIED LAST WEEK:
Yesterday was the memorial service for the gorgeous ButterflyMom Nancy Barton, 47, from Hopkinton, Massachusetts, who team taught with me at UU Sherborn. She is SUCH an incredible soul! Nancy was an example of angels living among us, people who are living their lives in LOVE. They use their full five senses and open heart as they live their lives. They soak in life completely and leave nothing on the table!!! Yesterday at Nancy’s memorial, UU Sherborn was sooooooooooo packed that people had to park several parking lots away. Some even drove back hours and hours from their vacations to honor her. I wish I could have been there. If you had known her, you would have ADORED her too! She has left behind two beautiful young daughters Meghan and Halley, wonderful husband Jeff, and a sea of family and friends with broken hearts. When I taught with her, she knew she was sick but never complained and only once casually mentioned that she even had cancer. It caught me off guard because I thought I had misheard what she said. Having cancer for her was just not the focus of her life, LIVING was! Nancy was an accomplished artists, teacher and gardener. She brought art and creativity into everything she did. When you looked into her eyes she was ALL THERE, fully open to connecting on heart level. She appreciated everything down to the simplicity of her children’s giggles. When her kids were young and colicky resourceful Nancy would simply do laps around the house to get rid of her ICKIES. When she was getting one of her many chemo therapies Nancy met The Red Sox’s Big Papi and was so present that she even remembered what he smelled like. She used all her senses to live in the moment! She was one of those beautiful people who easily befriend everyone because she is full expression of LOVE! If you are living your life ungrounded and not present you would have totally missed her because she lived live in the most REAL and simple of ways. The time I spent with her was around children and she was wonderful at connecting with them. I am thankful for even the briefest of interactions we had. Nancy was the mom I aspire to be. I have her creativity but not her patience! 😉 I have stored the example of her life and love in my heart. It makes me a better person having had the honor of calling her my friend. We will miss you beautiful Nancy!
I pass on this beautiful poem from one of our ButterflyMoms, Maureen, TO YOU in memory of one of our very own ButterflyMoms, Nancy, who has left our Earth “game”. May you take a moment to use your breath to take in where you are right now and honor her journey. Even if you have never met you her essence reaches you even now. She is a gentle reminder that our time here is limited no matter who you are, what you own or how much you have accomplished. We all have an end. It’s what you do with your middle that counts. MAKE IT COUNT! Nancy soaked in every sweet part of her life. She left nothing unsaid and fully loved those around her (and let them love her). Read this one as slowly as you can. See if captures your imagination! I think Nancy would love that! 😉
You do not have to be good.
You do not have to walk on your knees
for a hundred miles through the desert, repenting.
You only have to let the soft animal of your body
love what it loves.
Tell me about despair, yours, and I will tell you mine.
Meanwhile the world goes on.
Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rain
are moving across the landscapes,
over the prairies and the deep trees,
the mountains and the rivers.
Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air,
are heading home again.
Whoever you are, no matter how lonely,
the world offers itself to your imagination,
calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting–
over and over announcing your place
in the family of things.
~ Mary Oliver
Great big hugs,
PS If this blog feeds your soul please send it to friends. It’s less calories than chocolate and FREE!
PPS I’m thankful for you! Thanks for coming back every day to feed your soul!!!
PPS If you have a poem you want to share honoring Nancy’s life please post it here. I think she would be tickled pink that we all join together in this wonderful game of sharing poetry with each other! Please share something even if you did not know Nancy. 🙂
I am in love with the country of my birth. The love is activated by the intoxicating smells of the land and the food. My heart opens up whenever I hear Portuguese spoken, especially when I least expect it. When I was a kid I spent many of my entire summers in Portugal. We would go to my Tia Olga, Tio Zé’s and Mamé’s home in Lisboa (Americans write it “Lisbon”). Our family was small back then but we made up for it with “amigos do coração” (heart friends) that had become family to us over the years. Because no one had a lot of kids in that circle and there were four of us, we got tons and tons of attention. What kid does not LOVE that! “Mariazinha!!!” (Cultural Note: adding “inho” or “inha” to a name is like adding a “y” in English, example “Bill” into “Billy”. It is used as a form of endearment.:)) We visited with our wonderful family in Lisboa and then a month in the beaches of the Algarve in a town called Portimão for the month of August. By the time I was in my mid 20’s I had already traveled to 23 countries but nothing compared to the air, food, ocean, love, culture, sand, sun, connection I experienced from the land of my birth, PORTUGAL! And for the record, I have been to many of the islands in the Açores (Americans write it “Azores”), Madeira and all over the mainland. I know some people try to separate it but to me it is all the land of my heart. It is all PORTUGAL! It is where I have formed the most priceless, happiest memories. There is something very magical about this place! As I sit here writing from Portugal, my children sleeping around me, just smelling the air activates a deep love I don’t quite understand but one to which I am deeply drawn. (ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh….hope you can feel it because it feels great!!!!!!! 😉 )
We instinctually want to pass on to our kids what has had meaning to us in our lives. This summer I carved out the time to give my girls the same gift, the gift of spending the summer in Portugal! To do this now with children, especially when they are very young can be a logistical nightmare but there are other factors too in this “modern” world of family we know live in….step-parenting. 😉 I could not include our sweet Christopher because his mother would not allow him to come for that long…. (great future topic, or volume ;)!, the trials and tribulations of being a step parent! 😉
When I was single I used to go to Portugal twice a year. People wondered how I did that but it’s really just about thinking outside the box and being creative with your money and time. I used to rent my house in San Francisco out for a month and then stay with family in Portugal. (I learned that trick from my “adopted” Tia Luisa who had a flat in London and in Portugal! THANKS TIA LUISA!!!!) It was actually cheaper for me to go to Portugal than to live in the States. The funny thing was that people thought I had to be wealthy because I was always traveling. Little did they know I was just being creative with my laptop and my mortgage ;)…. In retrospect, now having four children and having to pay for EVERY “THING” for them I was a lot “wealthier” then because I was just paying for me! 😉 Now it’s like I travel with my very own posse, just like in the HBO series ENTOURAGE. Every trip involves paying for not just for my meals, airline tickets (that USED to be cheaper for kids back in the day now there is very little if any discount), activity passes, etc., but also those of five other souls. Even renting a car for example, we have to rent BIGGER otherwise the car seats don’t fit….and yes, we traveled with car seats. 😉
There are soooooo many different roads I can take today’s blog. The lessons are many. The one that is coming up for me most is to share with you my wonderful ButterflyMoms is that AWARENESS in our own lives is the HEART OF OUR STORY! When we are on automatic pilot we miss the best part of our lives! My taking the time to write this has brought a deep awareness into my being which is bringing a deep THANKFULNESS. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. I’ve been having trouble connecting to the internet here and it’s been hot….and with three jet-lagged little kids, well, let’s just say that I’ve had “moments” of CRANKY myself. 🙁 Sitting down and writing this helps me to RE-SET my FOCUS METER on what is working in my life. 🙂
I invite you today to write what is working in your life. Start writing about what you liked from your summers as a child. Re-create what you liked for yourself and your kids (even if they are in their 60’s and far away). This is the first ASSIGNMENT I’ve ever really give out. I ask you to write back and let me/us know what came up for you. I have a FEELING that we have a lot to LEARN and LOVE from each other!
In the meantime, I will continue to share in the juiciest soul journeys here as they unfold!
Great big hugs,
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PPS Nothing yet with the Oprah contest. I will keep you posted!
Hey Beautiful ButterflyMoms!
First I want to apologize for being M.I.A. for a couple of days. The blog software was acting VERY funky. I wrote an entire blog and when I tried to download photos it would not let me. I tried for hours (yes, I’m stubborn that way) and then the software glitch of the photos “ate” my blog (YUP! That is the technical term for it ;)) Needless to say I was bit bummed, especially because I had no time left to do another one. (These blogs take at least a couple of hours to write each time.) Now onto the real part of the blog…
WOW! I am completely humbled by the outpour of love and support a couple of days ago at the four year anniversary of our Sophia’s death. It was an emotional few days. Each year I never know what “flavor” the day will take. This year I wanted to ride the energy of this time of year and do something I’ve been dreaming of doing since I was a child. It all started when I got an email from a friend saying I should apply to the Oprah contest for having your own talk show. I was busy. I get a lot of emails. I added it to my TO DO PILE where things go to die. 😉 That same day I get another email from another friend about the same thing. Wow! Two in one day! That was cool and I wanted to do it but my screaming kids and work were still pulling me harder than my dream. The universe, forever patient, kept at it. Over the next three days four more people (who don’t even know each other) emailed me the Oprah contest with a chorus of “YOU should do this!” or “This would be perfect for you!” or “I can totally see you do this!” Six people! How could I resist, I ask you? I decided then to unpack a dream I had kept deep inside of me, cocooning until all the right circumstances would arise. In these moments you want to pinch yourself because there were days when you could not picture your dreams coming true. Since I was a little kid I had dreamed about having my own talk show. I love the camera. I love people. I had no idea how I would do that. You don’t exactly go to talk show university so other things got in the way and my life played out the way it has. I started realizing when I was in Chicago a few weeks ago that many of the careers I had were all to prepare me for this. That thought was a WAVE OF KNOWING that washed over me as I was in the lobby of the Chicago Sheraton. It felt wonderful!
The whole process/journey together seemed overwhelming so I broke it down into steps. First, I tried to find out how much it cost to get it professionally done. It was WAY too expensive, especially just for a 3 minute video. Plus, I would have been disappointed had I not done it myself. I think creativity is a vital part of this journey. Our spiritual side is made from ENERGY and CREATING is what energy does. It loves doing it! If you are not doing creative things in your life you are cutting off your “spiritual oxygen”.
BTW, your mini assignment today is do something CREATIVE. You must use items you already own and that are around your office or home. Paint, glue, color, cut, Lego, draw…pick your creative outlet and have at it. If you are having trouble starting just tell yourself you will only do it for 15 minutes and see what happens! Give yourself some extra FUN energy! It’s even more powerful than caffeine!!! J
Second, I had to find and HD camcorder (translation: HELLO WORLD! HERE ARE ALL MY LINES & WRINKLES!!! HOORAY!!!! ;)). I was reminded of the power of ASKING for what we want. Out of the blue three kind souls offered they magic creating machines to me!
Thirdly, I requested/begged a designer friend of mine to film at Brick House Realty’s office. Now the cool thing is that I have been on a few television sets, been on TV and done modeling so I understand a bit about what one needs to bring. I had a little MARKETBASKET plastic bag with two simple changes of clothing, two necklaces, mascara, eye liner, lipstick and my Italian red patent leather hoochie mama shoes. I have not worn make-up in a year or more but learned the basics a long time ago! I had forgotten that and it felt good. Since I don’t usually wear make-up when I do people think I got a facelift or something! It’s very funny! J
Next, the contest rules are VERY specific about lighting, sound, etc. We filmed for about two hours. When I reviewed the tape I was disappointed to find that the lighting was not the best and the street sounds were picked up during the filming. We realized we could not film there. We asked a local photographer friend of ours if we could use his photo studio and he agreed. The four hours of film footage we got there (two cameras rolling simultaneously) was awesome as was the sound.
There were many side roads and tribulations in this whole process so far, times when I just thought that maybe quitting was my next direction. I knew I’d regret that so I kept on keeping on, as they say in American folk songs. 😉
This whole process was about asking for what I needed. It was a wonderful series of exercises about going with the flow of what is there and not what I wanted to be there. I realize that part of being happy on this planet is to know WHEN it’s a good time to PUSH ON and NOT ACCEPT what is going on AND WHEN IT’S TIME to GO WITH THE FLOW!
Two nights ago I pulled an all-nighter so I could edit the video. This entire process has been an act of L-O-V-E!!! You are now officially a direct part of making this dream come true because you have been so supportive! Oprah is having a contest for people who want their own talk show. I made a video that just went up two days ago Tuesday night and therefore we are way behind the others who have millions of votes because they started in May! I worked really hard to create this video and now comes the stage where I need help promoting it. I know you are super busy but I humbly ask for your help in making this miracle happen! Here’s how:
The Opera Winfrey Network (OWN) contest is designed for people to vote multiple times at once (like 101) so please go back & vote as many times as you can every day July 3! REALLY NEED YOUR HELP to continue the momentum of the SNOWBALL WE HAVE CREATED so please:
- Vote as many times as you can-at least 101/day would be awesome 😉 (BTW, they only update votes every hour so when you vote the number won’t change to you but it is being counted)
- Send friends an email offering them to be a part of this adventure 😉
- Post it on your Facebook, Twitter, MySpace, LinkedIn, etc.
- Make it a game and involve others. We only have a few days to attract this miracle! :)!
THANKS for helping me live my dream! This is FUN…thanks for being a part of it!!!! Let’s build the momentum of our SNOWBALL but reaching out to others and voting! Our goal is 2 million votes by July 3.
My friend Corinne wrote, “Please read below, view clip, VOTE-VOTE-VOTE… FWD-FWD-FWD to others striving to achieve their goals and PRAY-PRAY-PRAY.”
If the link doesn’t work go to “oprah.com to” “your own show” and look up “THE MARIA SHOW” by “Maria Salomao-Schmidt”!
Thank you for being part of this MIRACLE!
Great big hugs,