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What Type of Anger Do You Carry?

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Anger is one of the strongest of human emotions. There are two types of anger. Listen to this week’s CMM video blog to learn the difference and see which one you actually need to move you forward.

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Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

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WHEN PEOPLE ARE MEAN TO YOU…

IMG_0560Eileen, Maria and Little Red Riding HoodDearest ButterflyMoms,

Thank you for coming into the ButterflyMoms blog and feeding your soul! GREAT TO HAVE YOU HERE! I’ve been hitting a few bumps these last few weeks and during the last three days I’ve noticed some serious ones that have caused me to question how EXPOSED I am in the world.

You see, from my parents I learned to STAND UP for those who cannot stand up for themselves and for the things that are important to me. That seems like a slam dunk, but oftentimes it is not. In general, others in our society want to keep us small, and this week I realized why many people do play it small.

It can be heart-breaking when you speak from your heart, yet someone still feels threatened and attacks. This week that came from someone I was building a professional relationship with. I posted something on Facebook that was not to this person’s liking and received severe accusations of my character and intentions, and an immediate end to our relationship.

Doug, Maria with Mame in her kitchenToday at the grocery store, one of the registers opened up so I wheeled up to it. There was a woman behind me who angrily huffed and went to a smaller line. While in line I saw a man looking around to see if anyone was looking and then dumped a dirty tissue on the floor. I called him on it. The lady next to him immediately attacked me because she said I had cut her in line and used this opportunity of the tissue to side with him and slam me. I tried to apologize to calm her down and explain my intention, but she was late for work and it became obvious that someone had to pay.  (A funny cultural side note, All three of us were speaking in really high voices and our arms animatedly moving about. That is pretty normal for a situation like this in Portugal, but if this were in America people watching this would have thought we were going to fight! Thinking about this now makes me giggle. Gotta love cultural differences!)

All these events stuffs can easily bring me into POOR ME mode. From a very early age I just wanted people to like me. I thought I had nipped that in the bud but this week I was proven wrong. I go over these events over and over and ask what the message is. Was I a jerk? Was I appropriate?

As for the colleague, in the first story I mentioned, I believe I simply stood up for something that is not popular but that I believe in my heart needs to stood up for. The fact that it makes her feel uncomfortable that people even bring up the subject is not mine to own. Know what is your shit and what is not. This is not my shit, but when the second incident happened today I had to ask why I am attracting this ICKY channel shit. It does not feel good and makes me want to run out of the store crying.

IMG_1798In the second situation I can see that I was putting my SHOULDs on someone else on one level because I was telling the man he should not drop his dirty tissue. That comes from the part of me that believes that we are all accountable to each other and our earth. Dropping a tissue is not something that fits the greater good. This one I am conflicted on. That is MY belief and obviously not his. Do I really have a right to say, “DON’T DO THAT BECAUSE I DON’T LIKE POLLUTING?”

The last one of the lady in line I am not conflicted on because it is clear that it’s her stuff. I was in front of her when they opened the new line. I understand that she was just frustrated with the long lines when she was late for work, and took it out on me. I sent love and blessings for all three of those people, especially the lady who was late for work. It is an act of forgiveness, which Oprah Winfrey defines at letting go of the idea that the past will be different. These things happened and I am letting them go.

When I went on Facebook today I noticed that my favorite quote is on my main page, “Other people’s opinions of me are none of my business.” I see that this is a lesson that is coming up for me. These three people and incidents, even though they felt really ICKY are all gifts. They are all reminders to protect my energy and not let other people’s reactions affect my mood or well-being.

I invite you to notice the people in your life who you are trying to please when it is their issue, not yours. Break that energy drain and feel how good it feels!

We need our energy to accomplish our life’s mission. It begins right now! I send you much love in letting go.

Great big hugs,

Mariaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

1 stuckWHAT ELSE IS GOING ON? MORE WAYS TO FEED YOUR SOUL TO START 2013 OFF ON THE RIGHT FOOT!…

√  REIKI 1 WORKSHOP: I’m teaching Reiki 1 in Cascais, Portugal (Feb 16 & Feb 23 10:00-2:30). Cost is only €130, includes materials, Reiki 1 certification and attunement. Class size limited and will fill up very quickly so if interested email me at maria@butterflymoms.com.de Arcos, 2770-210 Paço de Arcos, Portugal. Fee is 25€ at door. Sign up right now and get in for only 20€. Do it here…http://tinyurl.com/cslw7l4. See you there!!!!! Please RSVP so we can plan accordingly.

 

√  COACHING: For those who want a coach with a lot of heart, I’m here to help you get rid of your blocks and go towards your goal. I’m living what I have been teaching clients for nearly two decades. Whether you are curious or serious send me an email to maria@butterflymoms.com to set up a time to get you to your first step. For those who want something to shift in their lives this is a great time!!!

 

√  INTERVIEW: Here is the magnificent ButteflyMoms interview on Nancy L. Cantor‘s Dream Factory Television Show… I hope you watch it and that it feeds your soul! ! http://vimeo.com/30095902

 

√ BOOKS FOR SALE: “Mom Entrepreneur Extraordinaire” See list below for all the places in the world where this book has been sold! Last year I co-authored the book ENTREPRENEUR MOM EXTRAORDINAIRE. If you have been thinking about starting a business or want to take your business to the next level this is a wonderful way to start. WAY cheaper than going back to school…and very helpful! To feed the soul of a friend, buy them a copy by CLICKING HERE NOW… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U.  Feel part of the magic below and see where in the world people have bought this book…

Buy the book and support two people's dreams! :)

Buy the book and support two people’s dreams! 🙂

BOOKS SOLD INSIDE THE UNITED STATES

CALIFORNIA
Anaheim 1
Fullerton 1
Sacramento 1
San Bruno 1

CONNECTICUT
Cromwell 1
Greenwich 1
Yalesville 1

FLORIDA
Fort Lauderdale 1

Seminole 1

GEORGIA
Roswell 1

ILLINOIS

Lake Forrest 1

KENTUCKY
Louisville 1

MAINE
Biddeford 1

MARYLAND
Chestertown 1

MASSACHUSETTS
Ashland 3
Blackstone 2
Bolton 1
Canton 1
Framingham 1
Holliston 17
Hudson 4
Medway 8
Millis 1
Millbury 4
New Bedford 1
North Easton 1
Rutland 1
Sherborn 1
South Grafton 1
Watertown 1
Westborough 1
Wrentham 1
Worcester 3

MISSOURI
Lee’s Summit 1

NEW HAMPSHIRE
Laconia 1

NEW YORK
Scarsdale 1
Stony Brook 1

OHIO
Dublin 1

RHODE ISLAND
Bristol 1

Newport 1

VERMONT
Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

 

BOOKS SOLD OUTSIDE UNITED STATES

AUSTRIA
Wien 2

IRELAND
Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY
Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN
Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL
Carcavelos 1

Lisboa 11

Ovar 1

Sintra 1

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

SCOTLAND
Greenock 1

SPAIN
Madrid 1
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To buy your copy Click now… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

 

My cousin Cristina and my girls... ;)

My cousin Cristina and my girls… 😉

WHAT IS BUTTERFLYMOMS?
ButterflyMoms is a community of people who realize they are souls first and human being second. They want to explore more about themselves, to find out what makes them happy and how they can lead a life of purpose. It is simply about FEEDING YOUR SOUL. Although it has the name “MOMS” in the title it is more about being nurturing to your own transformation, as the butterfly is to its own metamorphosis. This community is led by Maria Salomão-Schmidt whose transformation was ignited by the birth and death of her BELOVED thirteen month old daughter Sophia (Sophalicious), the original butterfly.

*Every Friday Morning, as a way of honoring her daughter Sophia’s soul, Maria writes the weekly BUTTERFLYMOMS BLOG. Hundreds of people read it every week to feed their souls. Maria started writing the blog in May 2009 and has written EVERY Friday since. Maria is a Reiki master and every time you read it you are showered with healing love.  Tell your friends… http://butterflymoms.wordpress.com and spread the love!!! FEED YOUR SOUL!!!!!

SCOTLAND and LOVE…. BUTTERFLYMOMS-STYLE :)!

Good Morning Dearest Beautiful ButterflyMoms,
Here are this week’s ButterflyMoms updates…

*Just finished our 11th week in a row of ButterflyMoms workshops and for those who have been coming regularly we are starting to see a wonderful difference! It seems that we are always welcoming new faces too! Welcome Wendy Ryan who is a longtime reader, first time workshop attendee! :)! It was wonderful to have you there with the rest of us! Life can be easier than all the efforting we tend to do when we are all stressed out! Come join us next Thursday for our workshop on Thursday, Aug 12th at 8pm workshop! It is a truly magical, fun time! 🙂 ButterflyMoms workshops are held at 783 Washington St, Holliston. Plenty of FREE & EASY PARKING in back. Only $25 at the door or just $20 if you drop off a check or pay through Paypal… http://bit.ly/mS7c70 .  If you have been thinking about coming just do it…Come to feed your soul! You will be soooooooooooo happy you did!

YOU are a part of an AMAZING community! Sip this blog and feed your soul!

*SAVE THE DATES…

>OH YES WE ARE!!! We are having our very first ButterflyMoms retreat!!!! This time inVermont. Save the date on your calendar for the weekend of October 22! Take that Friday off so that you have even more time to yourself!!! TALK ABOUT REJUVINATING YOUR SOUL!!! WOW! More details to follow next week!

>I will be speaking at the DreamFactory Luncheon on September 22 from 11:30-2:00pm. Topic will be IGNITE YOUR BIGGEST DREAM! Will be held in Framingham at the Bella Costa restaurant (147 Cochituate Road). Lunch for first time attendees to the DreamFactory Community is $25. (and the lunch is VERY yummy!) You will be able to sign up next week! ☺!

*After 18 weeks of computer issues I have FINALLY found a computer person who knows what he is doing!!!! I’m back up on my computer so there will be NO MORE computer updates!!!

The flag of Scotland!!!

*TWO BOOKS SOLD THIS WEEK and one is to a new country! YAY SCOTLAND (one of my FAVORITE countries) IS IN DAH HOUSE!!!!!  Also another book was bought in Holliston making it our lucky 13 – (13 is the number of months that Sophia lived so it’s always a lucky number for me!) A GREAT BIG THANK YOU to the beautiful Gaynor Ross Greenberg for supporting my dream…and hers!!!! See the cool list of all the countries and states where people have bought books…*To buy your very own personally autographed copy: Click here now…http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

Now onto the ButterflyMoms blog…

Good Morning Beautiful ButterflyMoms!

As I go through my week many things touch my soul in a meaningful way. In doing the work I do, I constantly struggle with going back and forth with how I view the world. I grew up being taught that in this world there are GOOD people and BAD people and that our actions were either GOOD or BAD. I think this one “little” point messes people up more than anything because it opens up the possibility to start JUDGING others…and ourselves. If we are not “PERFECT” (whatever that means) than we are not worthy and we punish ourselves through lack of self-care, like not sleeping enough, not eating what will nurture our precious bodies, not moving our bodies enough…you know what I mean, right?
I went to an all-day DreamFactory Community training yesterday in Framingham. When it was almost time for lunch I asked if lunch was being brought in or if we were going out. They said that everyone brought something to share…Well, obviously I did not get that memo so I panicked! I could feel my breath become shallow and my chest feel like there was a big boulder on it. I went to the front desk and asked the wonderful receptionist if I could order something for the group. The group leader Nancy Cantor sensed my state of worry and asked me to come back into the room. Nancy said that everyone had brought enough and we could all share. She said we were all there for community and this was an exercise in doing just that.

Now I am WELL-TRAINED in the ART OF GIVING. I believe most women, especially, are,…BUT how good are YOU at the ART OF RECEIVING! Well, this simple, simple incident triggered something for me and I hate to admit it but I started crying. In that moment I felt totally UNWORTHY somehow because I was not contributing like I was taught to, even as a little girl.
Nancy asked me to look around the room and look at people’s faces and see if they looked like they were being put out or used. As I scanned the room looking into the women’s eyes, I saw nothing but LOVE and COMPASSION in their eyes and smiles. It was MAGNIFICENT to be a part of such LOVE from total strangers. It was humbling, truly humbling. With all the ICKIE news about what is happening on our planet, it can grow the FEAR and ANGER in us. Now there is a place for that but the way it is being activated there are large numbers of people who LIVE THERE! To live in fear/anger/sadness serves no one!

If you just put yourself out there with an OPEN HEART you will see that the LOVE will grow. There are no guarantees. Heartache will happen but the heartache that I have experienced gives the deeper depth to the LOVE I can hold in my heart. My intention today for myself, the gift I’m giving myself is to LOVE DEEPLY…how about you? How will you LOVE DEEPLY today?

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
🙂

PS   HEY! I CO-AUTHORED A BOOK! WOW! The following is a list of places where ButterflyMoms live who bought our wonderful book MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE… Buy one so you can put your city/town/country on the list like so many other beautiful ButterflyMoms have!

UNITED STATES

California

Anaheim 1

Fullerton 1

Sacramento 1

San Bruno 1

Connecticut

Greenwich 1

Yalesville 1

Florida

Fort Lauderdale 1

Kentucky

Louisville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 2

Bolton 1

Holliston 13 (Yay Gaynor Ross Greenberg!!!! You are lucky #13!)

Hudson 4

Medway 3

North Easton 1

Sherborn 1

South Grafton 1

Watertown 1

Worcester 3

Missouri

Lee’s Summit 1

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

Vermont

Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN

Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

SCOTLAND      (NEW COUNTRY ADDED THIS WEEK!!! YAY!!!!!!!)

Greenock          (Thank you for adding Greenock on the ButterflyMoms map! Gaynor Greenberg bought a book for her sister! YAY!)

SPAIN

Madrid 1

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Have a fabulous week!

*To buy your copy Click here now…http://bit.ly/gRxe4U


*Mark your calendar to read ButterflyMoms EVERY Friday!

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WILL MY “POOPIES” EVER SMELL GOOD?

Dearest Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

Here are this week’s important ButterflyMoms updates…

*We just had our fourth ButterflyMoms Manifestation Class and each week one or two more people come. It is soooooo awesome to see people shift before everyone’s eyes. Most of the crap we have is just trapped energy and we teach ways to release it. It feels really good to come and because it feels so good we are having another one next week. We’re meeting next Thursday, June 30th, 8pm at 783 Washington St, Holliston. Plenty of FREE parking in back. Only $25 at the door (still let me know you’re coming so we have enough chairs and materials) or just $20 if you drop off a check or pay through Paypal… http://bit.ly/mS7c70 . It’s a wonderful way to let go of a lot of your blocks! It’s inspiring!J

*My computer and website issues are still unresolved. MAN! This is a long lesson!!! Sometimes I wish I were a faster learner!!! SHEEESH!!! It is heartbreaking that my web guru did not update my ButterflyMoms post as I requested several times and I am left with the sadness that for the first time the actual ButterflyMoms site did not get the blog post for the week. If you read it, it was because you got it from Facebook. If you are reading this you are one of the lucky few who has access to this blog and I ask that you help ButterflyMoms by sending it to your friends so that we IGNITE as many souls as we can!

*It was an exciting week for MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE book sales! We sold three books this week…Yay!!! Great big THANK YOU to Robin Dahill from Bolton, MA  and Jennifer Hill from Fort Lauderdale, Florida (notice they both have “Hill” in their name – very interesting! 😉 ) who are representing brand new towns where MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE have never sold before!!! YAY! Also a GRAND THANK YOU to the incredible Christine Hart of Holliston, MA who after months of trying to fit in coming in to get her own personalized copy did so this week. What a treat it is to connect with these amazing women! Gratitude abounds!  Remember, an ever-growing list of where in the world books have been bought by other ButterflyMoms is at the end of this blog. It’s a pretty spectacular list of places. When you buy a book yours is added too!

Now onto the blog…

Sure! I'll take just one more thing...no problem!!! Just throw it on the pile!

I was processing something last night at the ButterflyMoms Manifestation Class that was so big that I had to do it “publicly”. The class offers a SAFE SPACE where any of us can say where we feel stuck. I had a MAJOR ENERGY DRAIN this week. There have been a lot of major stresses in my life but one of the biggest is MY STRUGGLE with how I want desperately to control the events of my life! I have not let go of the illusion that IF I can just CONTROL THIS or THAT then I will be safe. It is absolutely amazing how VERY STUBBORN I am at simply learning how to SURRENDER! ARGHHHHHHH!!!!!!

On Wednesday it was Sophia’s “Angel Date” and quite honestly one of the major feelings I was feeling was RAGE. Now, being a “middle-aged” mom in a small, idyllic New England town that is usually NOT a very “acceptable” thing to feel. Most who feel this I suspect, bury it….DEEP inside for fear that someone will see it. Well, seems like that RAGE is exactly what needed to come up for me because the universe kept sending me ICKY situations where it was basically a Petri dish for RAGE to grow.

A client of mine helped by being super angry at a “bump” that was fixed but still this client wanted to be in ANGRY ZONE and attempt to “punish” me while she was at it by treating me in condescending ways that even the other agent was surprised at. I want to say to her, “Is this how you treat people when things don’t go your way?” This actually happened on Sophia’s “Angel Date” and so it made it EXTRA RAW. Add to the mix the fact that most of our family did not even bother to CONNECT with us about Sophia on her death day, it grew my CAULDRON OF RAGE to the boiling point. I was deep in the LAND OF SHOULD and not present to the fact that while I was handing out JUDGMENTS of others like they were Pez, I was neglecting the fact these people were gifts to me. I was SOOOOOO in their space that I was burning a phenomenal amount of energy. The result was that I screamed at my kids and husband and basically acted like a crazy person because I was so energy depleted and not PRESENT with MY SELF.

Now my profile, for those who know profiles should come as no surprise. I am an ENFORCER/CARISMATIC LEADER. (E/CL). Let me give you the Cliff Notes version of the profiles. Each of us has a light side and a dark side. We need both sides. If you cut off the dark, you cut off the light. That’s just how it works. Your power comes from the dark side. The dark side is not “bad” unless you ignore it and then the energy builds up until it explodes! That is almost NEVER PRETTY. Well, the Oprah experience, being one of her last five guests EVER!!! YAY!!!!!!!!!! (just had a mini celebration moment there again) opened up a huge part of my light side and in response a huge part of my dark/power side opened up too….hmmmm, very interesting!

Basically people, there is a lot of heavy shit we all carry around with us. I did an exercise yesterday that showed that at the ButterflyMoms workshop that everyone got, but when I SHOWED them, they REALLY GOT IT! As we become energetically “lighter” the SHIT will come up. Yes, indeedie for each of us it has and will continue. LISTEN UP, if you have not SHIT coming up you are not living your life! Hear me! This is why we are here to CLEAR THE SHIT! People who live meaningful lives are present with whatever comes. Hell, it does not always have to be pretty to be worth living through! The gift in my whole week, why all these icky situations came up for me was a huge opportunity for me to FACE and LET GO of some of my rage. These laws of the universe work like gravity does. It is ALWAYS “on”.

How many times in your life do feel like you are getting pummeled? Instead of looking at the common link or observing what gift this could be bringing we WHIP OUT THE LABELS:  MY LIFE….(fill in the blank)… “isn’t fair”, “hard”, “sucks”, blah, blah, blah…..what could have been a major gift of awareness and release of energy turns into another large piece of emotional roadkill that you throw into your “basement” for it to further rot with all the other stuff you have thrown down there. I think it’s safe to say that most of us lead very SMELLY lives. It is the ones who look like they have it “all together” who are efforting the most at keeping up the façade. It does not matter how much crap you have. Each moment of every day brings with it the ability to accept the gift of AWARENESS, the launching pad of a phenomenally rich “vita dolce”!!!

Great big hugs,

Maariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

The following is a list of places where ButterflyMoms live who bought our wonderful book MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE…

UNITED STATES

California

Anaheim 1

Fullerton 1

Sacramento 1

San Bruno 1

Connecticut

Greenwich 1

Yalesville 1

Florida (New state added to our book list just this week…Yay Jennifer Hill!)

Fort Lauderdale 1

Kentucky

Louisville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 2

Bolton 1 (New town to our book list just this week…Yay Robin Dahill!)

Holliston 12 (Brought the number up to 12…Yay Christine Hart!)

Hudson 4

Medway 3

North Easton 1

Sherborn 1

South Grafton 1

Watertown 1

Worcester 3

Missouri

Lee’s Summit 1

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

Vermont

Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN

Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

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ANGRY AT GOD!

Thank you ButterflyMoms for your help especialy Helen for reaching out!

Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

First, I want to thank Helen Bannigan for her wonderful guest post yesterday. It is wonderful to have heart friends like her and those who reached out. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for lightening my burden and giving me a renewed sense of hope!

I find myself in a very precarious part of my life’s journey. For the most part, it does not feel very good to be where I am right now.  If I take the fear and the judgment away I can say that I am definitely experiencing a lot of deep “shifts”. There is a river of rapid, unexpected CHANGE currently re-arranging my life… and that usually does not feel very good to us humans, especially when you seem to be following “the” rules, but not getting the promised results.

I’ve been in a phase where something “icky” happens and I dust myself off,  put on a “stiff upper lip and conjure up all the self-help advice I’ve acquired over the years. Then another “Icky” thing happens, then another, then another, almost like “instead of it’s raining men, it’s raining icky.” It gets so bad that you start to think that the universe is pulling a cruel joke on you. It is seems like your whole life is deconstructing without your conscious consent. You think you are at that bottom and then you arrive at a new lower, bottom. Your life seems to be in free-fall mode. You feel scared, disconnected, and angry.

Life sometimes feel overwhelming!

As someone who has been to third world countries and seen how many/most of the people of our planet Earth live, there is a part of me, THE JUDGE, who rides me like a mule. “Look at you! You have running water, heat, a car that works, healthy children, a body that works, etc…SNAP OUT OF IT! “ And I did,  I did “snap out of it again and again but there is a part of us that we bury when we simply “snap out of it” without acknowledging what is going on because it’s not convenient, or it makes others uncomfortable, or because it does not feel good, or_____________ (you fill in your own answer).

I get the sense that many feel this way but being raised the way we have been it is not “proper” for us to feel “icky” for very long or even simply be ANGRY. Well-wishers and loved ones also tell me to think about all that I have and to be thankful for that. It is true that I do have a lot to be thankful for but sometimes we feel what we feel and cutting off those feelings or sugar-coating what is going on in life, well quite honestly, sometimes life just SUCKS!

I remember back to a time when we had someone from Early Intervention coming to the house when we first had Sophia. Wise, white-haired Barbara was a wonderful soul who came to the house once a week to help us cope with Sophia having Downs and to make the most out of her life. She had a conversation with Doug once that helped snap everything into place. Barbara also had a special needs son who was now a man, she just blurted out one day, “Ya, it sucks.” Just saying those words released Doug in a very deep way. To be able to say that it sucks that you are in that situation without all the KUMBAHYAH fanfare feels REFRESHING! It is acknowledging your true feelings, not what you are supposed to feel.

What does it all mean when it's all falling apart.

It is only when we acknowledge that things do ROYALLY SUCK that we can begin to “move past the sucking”!!! Ignoring it just lets the SUCKINESS grow and fester. It may seem to go away but it only gets nastier and when it finally oozes back into your life you will wish you had addressed it MUCH sooner.

I spent my whole life creating a plan and working that plan of how to avoid pain and have the life I wanted. Over the last few years the universe has completely blown up that world. I AM RAW. Right now my life feels like it’s coming at me full speed. I feel like a rag doll getting thrown around. I don’t know where life is leading me but I will continue to be as authentic and present as I know how. Mark your calendars to come back every Friday for the unfolding journey. Feel free to share your comments below. This is how we can all learn and grow our ButterflyMoms souls.

Great big hugs,

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS  My first book “Entrepreneurial Moms Extraordinaire” is scheduled to be shipped at the end of next week. For ButterflyMoms who order it online it is discounted to $19.99 for ButterflyMoms (down from $25). Please order a copy and recommend to your online friends. Click here to buy, and post the link on your Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, …. http://bit.ly/gRxe4U.

PPS Yesterday we had our first Stitch n’ Bitch at Doug Sent Me Green Cleaners in the downtown of an idyllic New England town called Holliston, Massachusetts. It was sooooo incredibly cathartic. It was so wonderful that the people who came asked if we could do it again in two weeks instead of a month. If you don’t live close enough to Holliston to come Thursday, Feb 3 from 6-8pm then join your own group. Building community is another way we feed our soul. For more information you can go to their official website…. http://stitchnbitch.org/

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