Today Would Have Been Her 12th Birthday…
Beautiful ‘Coach Me Maria’ Yummy Heart,
Every May 12 is different. Some are celebrations. Some are uneventful. Some are sad. Some just slip by… This one SUCKS, in fact, it’s been sucking for weeks now. The heart-wrenching sadness, I thought time would take care of, has had a resurgence this year. I’ve been crying for weeks so much so that my eyelids might be in a permanent state of puffy. Why? Well, it’s partly the deplorable state of the world… partly that even babies on this planet die… mostly because I wish I could bring her back.
Our beautiful our beloved Sophia died suddenly on June 22, 2006 for physical reasons no one, even today, understands. It was completely unexpected. It gutted us. It was extra hard because our little girl had just joyously celebrated her first birthday!
What a GLORIOUS day that was! Sophia was the happiest kid and it was super easy to fall in love with her. She had Downs and that just brought her level of LOVE to a whole new level. IT WAS SOOOOOO AWESOME TO BE AROUND THAT KIND OF LOVE! People literally came from all over the world for her birthday! Her life was a HUGE CELEBRATION… a month later Sophia lay dead in our arms. This can be such a cruel planet! A total gut punch that seems to revisit me whenever the mood strikes it. It leaves me heartbroken and in pieces.
Quite honestly, I am sick of crying. Occasionally I blocked the crying because what’s the use? Will it bring Sophia back???? After a while it’s just plain depressing and quite honestly lonely. Dead babies. Who wants to talk about that? And who wants to be around you when you are that sad? To be honest, the answer is not a lot of people. I am tired of hiding my feelings because people are so very uncomfortable about death, especially a baby’s death. They don’t know what to say. Many avoid us. They think we are “weird.” The reality is, they are right. It’s true. We are! When your child suddenly dies something in you shifts… in “icky” ways… but also in “magical” ones.
I realize I’m not honoring anyone by focusing on the icky so I begin looking for other ways to give meaning to Sophia’s amazing life. Parents often find ways to honor their beloved’s child life… like create a scholarship, dedicate a bench or start a race/event in that person’s honor… These did not feel like things that would honor Sophia’s short life.
I DID NOT FIND IT… IT FOUND ME!… (Actually it STALKED me!)
Way before Sophia was born I had been an international business and life coach. After her death I became a different kind of coach. I started channeling… and processing some AMAZING information having to do with our energy body, which most people know almost NOTHING about. It’s the kind of information that people so desperately need right now. As I say in my book Finally FULL Of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA “Pain is part of life, suffering is optional.”
For almost ten years, my way of honoring Sophia was to write a blog. That blog was seen by Oprah Show producers and that was one of the reasons I got to be on two Oprah Shows! People were so very inspired by the blog that I kept writing. Every Friday for five years I wrote through pregnancies, temper tantrums, snow storms, clients, miscarriages, broker exams, arguments, business meetings, breast feedings, vacations… At first it took me the whole day to do the blog. By the end I could write a really powerful one within 20 minutes. Isn’t it amazing what happens when we FOCUS?
I wrote NO MATTER WHAT, because it was my sacred time to be with Sophia. I felt I could honor her, by helping others. It felt indescribably amazing when people, even total strangers, would write and say that what I had written changed their life. Breath-giving!
From all that writing came a calling to write a book. I was really bad at that too at first… So bad that I burned the first, second and third fully written manuscripts I had written, because they were not in alignment with the magical connection I have with Sophia… Finally, after 10 years in November of 2016… just days after the election, Finally FULL Of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA was unleashed into the world! It is the book that was calling to me!
For 10 years, I could not understand why it took so very long for the book to “come” but when it came out just days after the shocking election of the 45th president of the United States, I knew that everything is indeed divine… even when it does not make sense to us! Finally FULL Of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA captures the love vibration that Sophia and I still share. It’s a gift to the world downloaded here by me… an accidental writer with a big, sensitive heart and a geeky personality. #geeksunite #scienceisreal
This life is ugly, very ugly… but it is also magical. When we get stuck in the ugly… we live the the curse side. When we are able to shift our focus, we can live out the gift. That is the core definition of happiness.
Look, let’s be clear… happiness is not a straight line. Ugly still happens. Ugly will never not happen. It’s a part of this planet but it does not mean I have to move in! Each day I feel what I feel and remember to choose my focus. I invite you today to do the same. Take a moment… especially when the UGLY hits… and CHOOSE.
So today as I am reminded that I GET TO CHOOSE THE GIFT… I suddenly realize as I write this that this is the first birthday that the book Finally FULL Of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA is done… not almost… or just another re-write… or just one more round of edits… but DONE, DONE, DONE!!!
This is not about a product, it’s about a legacy. It’s a tool that helps people realize why they bothered to get a body in the first place! Countless people have told me how much the book is making a difference in their lives!
It makes my heart sing for joy to know that each time someone buys, recommends, gifts, opens, underlines, remembers, quotes, shares, reviews, learns, posts, lends, orders Finally FULL Of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA the LOVE VIBRATION on Mother Earth grows just a wee bit more! (That’s why I’m always writing LOVE RISING in my posts!)
I feel the information in the book is my way I’m honoring Sophia. In her name, I get to help make the world a better place one heart at a time. It’s sometimes ugly/messy work but so well worth it!
This weekend is also Mother’s Day in the States (last weekend in Europe)… and I could not think of a better post that this one to share with you. When I started it I had no idea where it was going… (I’m getting better at surrendering to what shows up) … but it ended in LOVE! HAPPY MOTHER’s DAY!
Happy Birthday Beautiful Sophia! I THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart for choosing me to be your mamã. I LOVE YOU with all my heart! Beijinhos amor! Parabens!
Weirdmaste, Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa de Lourdes Cerveira Salomão-Schmidt www.coachmemaria.com The birthday girl’s mamã 🙂
HOW YOU CAN HELP…
HELP SPREAD SOPHIA’s LOVE… I turn 50 on May 29th and I have a goal to get at least 50 Amazon reviews for Finally FULL Of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA. Guess what?! We’re up to 42!
GROW THE LOVE by leaving your review. It’s super easy!… https://www.amazon.com/Finally-Full-Yourself-Unlocking-Spiritual/product-reviews/0998191213/ref=cm_cr_dp_d_ttl?ie=UTF8&reviewerType=all_reviews&sortBy=recent#R1T2S8B9VMNRHZ
Where to buy Finally FULL Of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA…
- Amazon… https://www.amazon.com/dp/0998191213/ref=rdr_ext_tmb
- Barnes & Noble… http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/finally-full-of-yourself-maria-salom-o-schmidt/1125253329?ean=9780998191218
- Barnes & Noble or any bookstore… Call to pre-order. Takes about 2-3 days.
- Cambridge… The Harvard Bookstore
- Holliston… Coffee Haven and Fiske’s General Store
- Medfield… Holistic Wellness Center
- Medway… TC Scoops and The Enchanted Fox
- Natick… Five Crows
- Newton… Boston College Bookstore
- Walpole… She Breathes
If you have a favorite local bookstore suggest they carry it. I’d love, love, love to come do a book signing and/or workshop at your local bookstore!