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Are You Feeling Lost?

IMG_2582Dearest ButterflyMoms,

Sometimes to be found we need to feel lost. Where we get even more lost is when we start freaking out. I’m going through that right now…

I have fallen deeper in love with Portugal. It is a much simpler life here. I have about 5% of the “stuff” here that I have in the States. We’re on a VERY tight budget, I have no car, no dependable cell phone and even so, except for not having my gorgeous husband and our son Christopher here, I’m as happy as a pig in shit.

I know that probably surprises some of you, because in a way it does me too, so I broke it down.

map of PortugalIt hit me hard when I came to the realization this past week that I’ve lived in America for over 43 years!!!! (Bear with me because inside I still think I’m about 16 so there is a part of me that can’t grasp 40 years of anything! 😉 ) On many levels I am truly the American dream. From kindergarten to graduate school I was educated in America. I’ve lived in Altlanta, Boston, New York and San Francisco. I’ve traveled extensively throughout the United States too and have even driven down both the East and the west coast a few times. I say this because I have seen a lot America and lived here long enough to get a very strong sense of what we are about.

Sister bonding and love!

Sister bonding and love!

IN GENERAL, there are two main reasons I’m being pulled to stay in Portugal for at least another year. One is the amazing weather here but it’s more than that, there is a magic in the air that, even with the economic crisis, makes this one of the most popular places in the world to visit and live. There is something cellular here that I love about the air, the trees, the water, the people, the food. I love that even in the dead of winter you can see flowers blooming all over the place! There is a lot of sunshine here and I love that! It’s one of those things we don’t think about but that affect us in profound ways. Because of this we go outside to walk or play most every day, even for just a few minutes. It is a fabulous way to connect to nature, each other, our bodies and our community!

Calling Papa and Christopher on Skype has made a huge difference.

Calling Papa and Christopher on Skype has made a huge difference.

The second difference between America and Europe is simply the way people live their lives. In America we truly believe that hard work is paramount and being “lazy” is one of the worst things you can be called. In Europe, in general, there is a natural order, a beginning and end of each workday. In the States there are way less lines of demarcation. Work and life are a blended blur. We live to work, but I don’t think we really see it. Being away for a whole year I see it now, and where I see it most is in my children…

My cousin, her grand daughter and our girls! Priceless!

My cousin, her grand daughter and our girls! Priceless!

My girls, especially our Olivia who has learning issues, is thriving here. It’s like the community has risen up at all levels to support them not in an overt way but in an inclusive way. They definitely believe in the “it takes a village” mentality so when kids do something that is unsafe some adult around them will immediately pipe in. There is ZERO concern for how it looks. It is simply how things are done. There is also a lot of tenderness, a kindness from the people. Kids are adored here.

Mother's Day Tradition... Breakfast in bed, one of my VERY favorite memories of this lifetime!

Mother’s Day Tradition… Breakfast in bed, one of my VERY favorite memories of this lifetime!

Olivia's skirt she made from plastic trash bags! GO OLIVIA!

Olivia’s skirt she made from plastic trash bags! GO OLIVIA!

The new school the girls are at is simply awesome! The level, depth and width of the subjects they are learning are amazing.

For example, today Mialotta, who is in third grade, for the first time today is using the camera she made in school. Olivia, who is in the first grade, had a fashion show last week in front of the whole school. The items the kids wore were made from recycled materials like newspapers, plastic bags, etc. Kids got crazy creative and Olivia won 1st place for her grade and 4th overall for the whole school. It was awesome! She was soooo excited to be acknowledged by all the big kids in her school!

International friends, amazing views... heaven.

International friends, amazing views… heaven. How’s this for lunch?

Even with all this said I still ADORE America and especially the people in it. I am completely torn. It gives me more of an insight of what my mom went through when she immigrated to the States.

When we don’t know what to do it’s important to stay open, keep breathing, keep letting go and being open to the messages that are being sent. I am vulnerable but I am happy and I know whatever happens I’m in love with my beautiful husband and children, and whatever we pick it will be perfect for the magical journey we are on!

CALL TO ACTION…

If you like this blog for goodness sakes hit the LIKE button and SHARE IT!

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

IMG_2579ELSE IS GOING ON? MORE WAYS TO FEED YOUR SOUL… 

√  COACHING: NOW IS THE TIME!!!! STOP EFFORTING and START LIVING! For those who want a coach with a lot of heart, I’m here to help you get rid of your blocks and go towards your goal. I’m living what I have been teaching clients for nearly two decades. Whether you are curious or serious send me an email to maria@butterflymoms.com to set up a time to get you to your first step. For those who want something to shift in their lives this is a great time!!!

√  SPEAKING: I have spoken all over the world including the United States, Japan, Israel, Philippines, Canada and Portugal. When you ever hear of a conference or organization that needs a passionate speaker, please pass on my email maria@butterflymoms.coms.

√  INTERVIEW: Here is the magnificent ButteflyMoms interview on Nancy L. Cantor‘s Dream Factory Television Show… I hope you watch it and that it feeds your soul! ! http://vimeo.com/30095902. If you know anyone who would like to do an interview I can be reached at maria@butterflymoms.com to set up a time.

√ BOOKS FOR SALE: “Mom Entrepreneur Extraordinaire” See list below for all the places in the world where this book has been sold! Last year I co-authored the book ENTREPRENEUR MOM EXTRAORDINAIRE. If you have been thinking about starting a business or want to take your business to the next level this is a wonderful way to start. WAY cheaper than going back to school…and very helpful! To feed the soul of a friend, buy them a copy by CLICKING HERE NOW… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U.  Feel part of the magic below and see where in the world people have bought this book…

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A picnic with friends at a fabulous park. Now that’s a playdate!

CALIFORNIA
Anaheim 1
Fullerton 1
Sacramento 1
San Bruno 1

CONNECTICUT
Cromwell 1
Greenwich 1
Yalesville 1

FLORIDA
Fort Lauderdale 1

Seminole 1

GEORGIA
Roswell 1

ILLINOIS

Lake Forrest 1

IMG_2619KENTUCKY
Louisville 1

MAINE
Biddeford 1

MARYLAND
Chestertown 1

MASSACHUSETTS
Ashland 3
Blackstone 2
Bolton 1
Canton 1
Framingham 1
Holliston 17
Hudson 4
Medway 8
Millis 1
Millbury 4
New Bedford 1
North Easton 1
Rutland 1
Sherborn 1
South Grafton 1
Watertown 1
Westborough 1
Wrentham 1
Worcester 3

IMG_2584MISSOURI
Lee’s Summit 1

NEW HAMPSHIRE
Laconia 1

NEW YORK
Scarsdale 1
Stony Brook 1

OHIO
Dublin 1

RHODE ISLAND
Bristol 1

Newport 1

VERMONT
Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

 

I love giving the kids cool creative surprises. Here is a simple one with spaghetti that helps them learn to spell.

I love giving the kids cool creative surprises. Here is a simple one with spaghetti that helps them learn to spell.

BOOKS SOLD OUTSIDE UNITED STATES

AUSTRIA
Wien 2

IRELAND
Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY
Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN
Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL 
Carcavelos 1

Lisboa 11

Ovar 1

Sintra 1

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

SCOTLAND
Greenock 1

SPAIN
Madrid 1
* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * *

**To buy your copy Click now… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

 

Ancient trees

Ancient trees

WHAT IS BUTTERFLYMOMS?
ButterflyMoms is a community of people who realize they are souls first and human being second. They want to explore more about themselves, to find out what makes them happy and how they can lead a life of purpose. It is simply about FEEDING YOUR SOUL. Although it has the name “MOMS” in the title it is more about being nurturing to your own transformation, as the butterfly is to its own metamorphosis. This community is led by Maria Salomão-Schmidt whose transformation was ignited by the birth and death of her BELOVED thirteen month old daughter Sophia (Sophalicious), the original butterfly.

*Every Friday Morning, as a way of honoring her daughter Sophia’s soul, Maria writes the weekly BUTTERFLYMOMS BLOG. Hundreds of people read it every week to feed their souls. Maria started writing the blog in May 2009 and has written EVERY Friday since. Maria is a Reiki master and every time you read it you are showered with healing love.  Tell your friends… http://butterflymoms.wordpress.com and spread the love!!! FEED YOUR SOUL!!!!!

 

IMG_2547USE YOUR VOICE…

I invite you add your comments below and leave your mark that will inspire others through your authenticity.

 

Do Boundaries REALLY Matter?

Me in Chicago as a guest on THE OPRAH SHOW. Oprah was in the background! :)

Me in Chicago as a guest on THE OPRAH SHOW. Oprah was in the background! 🙂

Dearest BFMs,

THE SIGNIFICANCE OF TODAY…

Today is MAY 17 and it’s a VERY special day for several reasons:

*It’s the ButterflyMoms blog’s four year anniversary!!!

My VIP Badge which gave me the access to my dreams!  PRICELESS!

My VIP Badge which gave me the access to my dreams! PRICELESS!

*It’s the two year anniversary of being a guest on THE OPRAH WINFREY SHOW!!!

My mom and I on my 1st birthday in Portugal.

My mom and me.

*It’s my Mama’s 76th birthday!!!

 

DO BOUNDARIES MATTER?…

Imagine that after an especially tough week one of your best friends  surprises you and says I’m taking you to your FAVORITE restaurant anywhere in the world! You pack your bags and head to the airport! Arrangements for your children have already been made so you are all covered there too. There is a beautiful limousine to pick you up and drop you off at the airport. You have a wonderful time on the plane catching up with your friend and feeling like a queen after the on-flight massage, pedicure and manicure (hey, we can all dream, right 🙂

When you land a limousine is waiting for you and your friend. It whisks you to your favorite restaurant. It’s the kind of place that has 8 courses of the most scrumptious food anyone has EVER tasted. Just reading the menu makes your mouth water. Take a moment to think of your FAVORITE foods. They have ALL of them, exactly like you like them! You and your friend order. As the servers begin bringing in the wonderful dishes you take each one and stick it in the blender in front of you. As soon as every dish is regally delivered to you, you turn on the blender and let it do its thing.  Drink up, right?

WHAT?!!!! WAIT!!!! If someone gifted you with this experience is that how you would want to eat this fabulous banquet? NO???? Then why would you do it with the way you life your life? When we live a life without boundaries that is exactly what we are doing. Even if each piece is perfect, without limits and boundaries it becomes basically GUNK!

Ask yourself if you are living a GUNKY life! If the answer is yes then take your first step and acknowledge it. Being “mind-full” is paramount. Just like if you’ve ever meditated (or tried to ;), it’s all about GENTLY bringing your attention BACK TO AWARENESS. AWARENESS is your gate-keeper. It is built into you. It’s is one of the gifts you get when you are born. Those who use it have a much “fun-er-er” time on this planet! Don’t miss out on the fun! How are you feeling right now? Sit with whatever feelings come up. Never judge. Just feel. Just be. Wherever you are is exactly where you need to be. You are safe. Feel and let go. Feelings come from somewhere, bottling up or ignoring those feeling cause the death of your soul. Chew on that! 😉 (Pun intended!)

CALL TO ACTION…

I invite you add your comments below about what your dream is and how you can do one thing to move it forward. This whole process is about connection and moving forward.

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

One of The Oprah Show's make-up artists Robert. He is FANTASTIC and phenomenal at what he does! WOW!

One of The Oprah Show’s make-up artists Robert. He is FANTASTIC and phenomenal at what he does! WOW!

ELSE IS GOING ON? MORE WAYS TO FEED YOUR SOUL… 

√  COACHING: For those who want a coach with a lot of heart, I’m here to help you get rid of your blocks and go towards your goal. I’m living what I have been teaching clients for nearly two decades. Whether you are curious or serious send me an email to maria@butterflymoms.com to set up a time to get you to your first step. For those who want something to shift in their lives this is a great time!!!

√  INTERVIEW: Here is the magnificent ButteflyMoms interview on Nancy L. Cantor‘s Dream Factory Television Show… I hope you watch it and that it feeds your soul! ! http://vimeo.com/30095902

√ BOOKS FOR SALE: “Mom Entrepreneur Extraordinaire” See list below for all the places in the world where this book has been sold! Last year I co-authored the book ENTREPRENEUR MOM EXTRAORDINAIRE. If you have been thinking about starting a business or want to take your business to the next level this is a wonderful way to start. WAY cheaper than going back to school…and very helpful! To feed the soul of a friend, buy them a copy by CLICKING HERE NOW… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U.  Feel part of the magic below and see where in the world people have bought this book…

BOOKS SOLD INSIDE THE UNITED STATES

CALIFORNIA
Anaheim 1
Fullerton 1
Sacramento 1
San Bruno 1

CONNECTICUT
Cromwell 1
Greenwich 1
Yalesville 1

Front Row Seating to Oprah in an Audience of 13,0000!!!

Front Row Seating to Oprah in an Audience of 13,0000!!!

FLORIDA
Fort Lauderdale 1

Seminole 1

GEORGIA
Roswell 1

ILLINOIS

Lake Forrest 1

KENTUCKY
Louisville 1

MAINE
Biddeford 1

MARYLAND
Chestertown 1

MASSACHUSETTS
Ashland 3
Blackstone 2
Bolton 1
Canton 1
Framingham 1
Holliston 17
Hudson 4
Medway 8
Millis 1
Millbury 4
New Bedford 1
North Easton 1
Rutland 1
Sherborn 1
South Grafton 1
Watertown 1
Westborough 1
Wrentham 1
Worcester 3

MISSOURI
Lee’s Summit 1

NEW HAMPSHIRE
Laconia 1

NEW YORK
Scarsdale 1
Stony Brook 1

OHIO
Dublin 1

RHODE ISLAND
Bristol 1

Newport 1

VERMONT
Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

 

Maria in front of Oprah studiosBOOKS SOLD OUTSIDE UNITED STATES

AUSTRIA
Wien 2

IRELAND
Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY
Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN
Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL 
Carcavelos 1

Lisboa 11

Ovar 1

Sintra 1

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

SCOTLAND
Greenock 1

SPAIN
Madrid 1
* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * **To buy your copy Click now… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

 

Me and the Oprah Show camera crew who came to our house in Holliston

Me and the Oprah Show camera crew who came to our house in Holliston

WHAT IS BUTTERFLYMOMS?
ButterflyMoms is a community of people who realize they are souls first and human being second. They want to explore more about themselves, to find out what makes them happy and how they can lead a life of purpose. It is simply about FEEDING YOUR SOUL. Although it has the name “MOMS” in the title it is more about being nurturing to your own transformation, as the butterfly is to its own metamorphosis. This community is led by Maria Salomão-Schmidt whose transformation was ignited by the birth and death of her BELOVED thirteen month old daughter Sophia (Sophalicious), the original butterfly.

*Every Friday Morning, as a way of honoring her daughter Sophia’s soul, Maria writes the weekly BUTTERFLYMOMS BLOG. Hundreds of people read it every week to feed their souls. Maria started writing the blog in May 2009 and has written EVERY Friday since. Maria is a Reiki master and every time you read it you are showered with healing love.  Tell your friends… http://butterflymoms.wordpress.com and spread the love!!! FEED YOUR SOUL!!!!!

Simple “FORMULA” For Being HAPPY!!!!!

DSCN6552Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

Every guru in the world will tell you the secret to living a truly happy life is…. (drum roll)… to live in the moment. Ok, seems easy enough, but most of us find it almost impossible. We get so frustrated, in fact, that many of us start “doing” or “buying” a lot of other “stuff” so we can distract ourselves!

I’m in a phase where I SEE my life’s purpose. I KNOW what it is with every fiber of my body and it fills me with SUCH joy when I do this work of bridging people from the old ways of fear into the new ways of living from love! At the end of every coaching call or workshop I feel and see how powerful my work is and I am humbled by how very amazing it feels… to everyone!!!! This is simply what I was born to do!!!!!!! (Side note: Many people ask me, “How do you know it’s ‘right’ for you?” Well, how you know is that it feels good, the kind of feel good that leaves you fuller and lighter at the same time!)

DSCN6385To get to this point of knowing my calling (just got a flash from the first Matrix movie) there had to have been a lot of living in the moment because that is where ALL of your life’s juice is. Projecting into the future or living in the past are destructive tools of the ego and fear. They are draining and dangerous to your life’s light and cause a great “heaviness”. Those who lead incredible lives have learned to juice up by living in the present moment.

It is truly simple to live in the present moment if you don’t make it too complex or big. The challenge is that we start our day attached to our SHOULDs (what should/needs to get done today) and our TO DO LISTS. Here in Portugal, and in Europe, in general, people don’t live so much like that, yet they still get things done. The secret is that they live a lot more in the moment. They stop even for ten minutes, for example, and connect with their neighbors at their local café. In America, we tend to go to get our “fix”, not to connect. See the difference?

Living in the moment is really the most rewarding thing you can ever do because it’s like being on a vacation all the time. Think about it. Those people who go on vacation do so because they want to escape their lives. Just like those people who live for the weekend. I don’t know about you, but time is precious so being ok with hating most of your life is not how I want to live! When you live in the moment you begin to understand that you are in a dance with the universe, always getting valuable feedback that allows you to self-correct and live happy. We resonate best, live our best, happiest lives when we vibrate at this level. There is nothing more powerful than that.

Sometimes I'm soooo into the doing that I forget to do it with JOY so being HAPPY is my main goal of 2013. Many people think that is nuts but because it is so basic, many of us assume wrongly that we already are. I was one of those people.

Sometimes I’m soooo into the doing that I forget to do it with JOY so being HAPPY is my main goal of 2013. Many people think that is nuts but because it is so basic, many of us assume wrongly that we already are. I was one of those people.

Yesterday, I was writing my book and kept being interrupted by my adorable five year old, Isabella, whom I did not see as adorable at the time 😉 Instead of fighting it, I went with it. I surprised her by grabbing the colorful sticky notes in front of me and my magical big-girl pens. We started writing and drawing and giving her my FULL attention. She was in heaven. I was in heaven. We stuck notes on each other and had moments of long hugs and kisses as she sat on my lap, looking into my eyes and smiling. It was in those precious moments that I drank in her waning littleness and touched upon how quickly it all goes. It brought me so much joy that my heart almost burst out of my chest. Funny thing was that it did not last hours. It lasted the perfect amount of time and when it was done I had plenty of space (and inspiration) to write and Isabella was glowing with the fact her mommy had seen and loved her in a way that she felt completely loved and safe. Imagine that! Win-win!

The ugly truth is that I’ve been through phases in my life where I have resented my children. I am shocked by this even as I write it because I became a mom later in life and dreamed of having children for such a long time! The truth is that many parents hide this resentment on one level for fear of how it will look/sound, but in the meantime their ability to parent erodes. They begin hurting the very people they love the most. Let’s not judge, let’s acknowledge, know we are doing the best we can with what we have and move to a more PRESENT place. The simple fact is that when you are not taking care of yourself, which includes time JUST FOR YOU, you are unable to be a good parent, or have the happy life you see for yourself. That’s all there is to it!

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

 

Doing more yoga. This time on the beach in Carcavelos with Mialotta and our doggie "Tejo"

Doing more yoga. This time on the beach in Carcavelos with Mialotta and our doggie “Tejo”

WHAT ELSE IS GOING ON? MORE WAYS TO FEED YOUR SOUL TO START 2013 OFF ON THE RIGHT FOOT!… 

√  COACHING: For those who want a coach with a lot of heart, I’m here to help you get rid of your blocks and go towards your goal. I’m living what I have been teaching clients for nearly two decades. Whether you are curious or serious send me an email to maria@butterflymoms.com to set up a time to get you to your first step. For those who want something to shift in their lives this is a great time!!!

√  INTERVIEW: Here is the magnificent ButteflyMoms interview on Nancy L. Cantor‘s Dream Factory Television Show… I hope you watch it and that it feeds your soul! ! http://vimeo.com/30095902

√ BOOKS FOR SALE: “Mom Entrepreneur Extraordinaire” See list below for all the places in the world where this book has been sold! Last year I co-authored the book ENTREPRENEUR MOM EXTRAORDINAIRE. If you have been thinking about starting a business or want to take your business to the next level this is a wonderful way to start. WAY cheaper than going back to school…and very helpful! To feed the soul of a friend, buy them a copy by CLICKING HERE NOW… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U.  Feel part of the magic below and see where in the world people have bought this book…

IMAGE for MompreneurBOOKS SOLD INSIDE THE UNITED STATES

CALIFORNIA
Anaheim 1
Fullerton 1
Sacramento 1
San Bruno 1

CONNECTICUT
Cromwell 1
Greenwich 1
Yalesville 1

FLORIDA
Fort Lauderdale 1

Seminole 1

GEORGIA
Roswell 1

ILLINOIS

Lake Forrest 1

KENTUCKY
Louisville 1

MAINE
Biddeford 1

MARYLAND
Chestertown 1

MASSACHUSETTS
Ashland 3
Blackstone 2
Bolton 1
Canton 1
Framingham 1
Holliston 17
Hudson 4
Medway 8
Millis 1
Millbury 4
New Bedford 1
North Easton 1
Rutland 1
Sherborn 1
South Grafton 1
Watertown 1
Westborough 1
Wrentham 1
Worcester 3

MISSOURI
Lee’s Summit 1

NEW HAMPSHIRE
Laconia 1

NEW YORK
Scarsdale 1
Stony Brook 1

OHIO
Dublin 1

RHODE ISLAND
Bristol 1

Newport 1

VERMONT
Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

 

BOOKS SOLD OUTSIDE UNITED STATES

AUSTRIA
Wien 2

IRELAND
Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY
Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN
Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL 
Carcavelos 1

Lisboa 11

Ovar 1

Sintra 1

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

SCOTLAND
Greenock 1

SPAIN
Madrid 1
* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * **

To buy your copy Click now… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

 

DSCN2394WHAT IS BUTTERFLYMOMS?
ButterflyMoms is a community of people who realize they are souls first and human being second. They want to explore more about themselves, to find out what makes them happy and how they can lead a life of purpose. It is simply about FEEDING YOUR SOUL. Although it has the name “MOMS” in the title it is more about being nurturing to your own transformation, as the butterfly is to its own metamorphosis. This community is led by Maria Salomão-Schmidt whose transformation was ignited by the birth and death of her BELOVED thirteen month old daughter Sophia (Sophalicious), the original butterfly.

*Every Friday Morning, as a way of honoring her daughter Sophia’s soul, Maria writes the weekly BUTTERFLYMOMS BLOG. Hundreds of people read it every week to feed their souls. Maria started writing the blog in May 2009 and has written EVERY Friday since. Maria is a Reiki master and every time you read it you are showered with healing love.  Tell your friends… http://butterflymoms.wordpress.com and spread the love!!! FEED YOUR SOUL!!!!!

 

 

 

CRAVING SUNSHINE !

WEATHER Storms 3Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

It has been a long winter for many. Spring seems to be taking its sweet time getting here. It’s already April but for many places it is still very rainy and cold. Lack of sunshine can wreak havoc on our energy levels. It is something subtle but if you were to check in you see that it really affects you on a very basic and deep level. No matter what all the sunscreen corporations want you to believe, we humans REALLY NEED to be in direct sunlight. It feels good to your whole being… body, mind and, yes, even your soul.

snowHere in Portugal, it’s been rather rainy lately. We here are a Mediterranean culture for which the sun is intimately woven in our lives. When there is a disruption to that relational flow of warmth, people really feel it here.

Portugal

Portugal at sunset with friends

Today, the sun was out and it was absolutely wonderful to see the amount of people, families, dogs, kids, bikes, kites, surfers, yogi’s… were out playing with nature today. Seems like too basic of a thing to notice but, for me, it was a lesson in gratitude all day long. I was so happy all day long because every time I stopped and took time to look at people’s faces, I would see the absolute joy radiating from their eyes. MAGICAL if you are on the “channel” to “feel” it!

portugal_vintage_travel_posterToday’s blog is as easy and simple as can be. The type of easy and simple that unlocks the life of your dreams.

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

WHAT ELSE IS GOING ON? MORE WAYS TO FEED YOUR SOUL TO START 2013 OFF ON THE RIGHT FOOT!… 

√  COACHING: For those who want a coach with a lot of heart, I’m here to help you get rid of your blocks and go towards your goal. I’m living what I have been teaching clients for nearly two decades. Whether you are curious or serious send me an email to maria@butterflymoms.com to set up a time to get you to your first step. For those who want something to shift in their lives this is a great time!!!

√  INTERVIEW: Here is the magnificent ButteflyMoms interview on Nancy L. Cantor‘s Dream Factory Television Show… I hope you watch it and that it feeds your soul! ! http://vimeo.com/30095902

Buy the book and support two people's dreams! :)

Buy the book and support two people’s dreams! 🙂

√ BOOKS FOR SALE: “Mom Entrepreneur Extraordinaire” See list below for all the places in the world where this book has been sold! Last year I co-authored the book ENTREPRENEUR MOM EXTRAORDINAIRE. If you have been thinking about starting a business or want to take your business to the next level this is a wonderful way to start. WAY cheaper than going back to school…and very helpful! To feed the soul of a friend, buy them a copy by CLICKING HERE NOW… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U.  Feel part of the magic below and see where in the world people have bought this book…

BOOKS SOLD INSIDE THE UNITED STATES

CALIFORNIA
Anaheim 1
Fullerton 1
Sacramento 1
San Bruno 1

CONNECTICUT
Cromwell 1
Greenwich 1
Yalesville 1

FLORIDA
Fort Lauderdale 1

Seminole 1

GEORGIA
Roswell 1

ILLINOIS

Lake Forrest 1

KENTUCKY
Louisville 1

MAINE
Biddeford 1

MARYLAND
Chestertown 1

Travel-Portugal-Fly-TWA-jetsMASSACHUSETTS
Ashland 3
Blackstone 2
Bolton 1
Canton 1
Framingham 1
Holliston 17
Hudson 4
Medway 8
Millis 1
Millbury 4
New Bedford 1
North Easton 1
Rutland 1
Sherborn 1
South Grafton 1
Watertown 1
Westborough 1
Wrentham 1
Worcester 3

MISSOURI
Lee’s Summit 1

NEW HAMPSHIRE
Laconia 1

NEW YORK
Scarsdale 1
Stony Brook 1

OHIO
Dublin 1

RHODE ISLAND
Bristol 1

Newport 1

VERMONT
Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

 

portugal sunny beachBOOKS SOLD OUTSIDE UNITED STATES

AUSTRIA
Wien 2

IRELAND
Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY
Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN
Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL 
Carcavelos 1

Lisboa 11

Ovar 1

Sintra 1

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

SCOTLAND
Greenock 1

SPAIN
Madrid 1
* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * **

To buy your copy Click now… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

 

people_in_sunWHAT IS BUTTERFLYMOMS?
ButterflyMoms is a community of people who realize they are souls first and human being second. They want to explore more about themselves, to find out what makes them happy and how they can lead a life of purpose. It is simply about FEEDING YOUR SOUL. Although it has the name “MOMS” in the title it is more about being nurturing to your own transformation, as the butterfly is to its own metamorphosis. This community is led by Maria Salomão-Schmidt whose transformation was ignited by the birth and death of her BELOVED thirteen month old daughter Sophia (Sophalicious), the original butterfly.

*Every Friday Morning, as a way of honoring her daughter Sophia’s soul, Maria writes the weekly BUTTERFLYMOMS BLOG. Hundreds of people read it every week to feed their souls. Maria started writing the blog in May 2009 and has written EVERY Friday since. Maria is a Reiki master and every time you read it you are showered with healing love.  Tell your friends… http://butterflymoms.wordpress.com and spread the love!!! FEED YOUR SOUL!!!!!

HOW TO MOVE THROUGH YOUR PAIN…

photos of choicepoint 1Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

I’ve been avoiding writing this one particular blog entry all day long because last week’s was so powerful. The powerful part does not bother me, in fact, I love that almost 2,000 people read it in just one week! From the feedback it seems that it was a wonderful way to honor my beautiful friend Aida, 45 who died suddenly last week of a heart attack at the beginning of her yoga class.

STUNNING AIDA, A BEAUTY FROM THE INSIDE OUT!

STUNNING AIDA, A BEAUTY FROM THE INSIDE OUT!

Besides missing my dear friend Aida, my heart breaks for those who have also unexpectedly lost loved ones. With each of the deaths in my life, I’ve gotten closer to realizing that death does not have to be this way.

Many of us have grown up with the concept of a “heaven”. When Sophia, our beautiful one year old angel died, many said to me things like, “At least she is in a better place.” The more I think about this response, the more I realize that most people don’t really “face” death so whatever they are told about it they blindly believe. If they can avoid it all together they do… and I don’t blame them. If you grew up in a culture/family/world where death was what you did to criminals who commit heinous crimes then WHY WOULD YOU EVER have a positive idea of death!?! From the moment we are born we are warned to avoid death… “Be careful because this, that or the other can kill you!”

A week before she died our beautiful Sophia on her 1st birthday! I just LOVE looking at her beautiful face!!!!!

A week before she died our beautiful Sophia on her 1st birthday! I just LOVE looking at her beautiful face!!!!!

When Sophia died my whole world order blew up! SHATTERED! Things I too blindly believed were no longer possible to believe. The thing about death is that it makes you or breaks you.

At first, for most of us, it breaks us… breaks our hearts, to be exact. I did not want to feel the pain. It was so bad that felt like I wanted to peel my skin right off. The knowledge that my child had died was too much for my brain to wrap around. I treasured the moment I would temporarily focus on something else and dreaded the horror of the moments of re-remembering, painfully observing that part of me that thought it was just a dream… and realizing that it was not. The pain is absolutely horrific. I would not wish it on my least favorite person! It is big enough to contemplate taking your own life. (pause) Yes, it is that intensely painful.

If you are going through the grieving process for Aida or anyone else, I would like to help you. I ask that you first get to a place where you can hear/read this with as much focus as you can muster. Energetically, grieving is a massive leak of energy on your part, that is one of the reasons you feel like shit! Although there are many, many leaks of energy, the biggest leak usually comes from:

  1.  The guilt of not having done something different that would have changed the outcome of the situation (the death). It’s the “LAND OF IF ONLY’S”. Example, “If only I had not _________________ she would not have been in that car.”
  1. The non-acceptance of the death. This is when you hear people say some version of, “No, no! This cannot be happening. No! I cannot believe ________ died!”

These two will get you into one of the biggest un-alignments a human can experience. There is ZERO joy in either of these scenarios. The energy is just leaking out so thinking about leaving the body is not a surprise because energetically to the body it feels like the energy is leaving and not being replenished. Being in this space for a while is common, especially in our culture. It is a natural part of the mourning process. Unfortunately, many people can live in this energy-draining space for a very long time.

julia-cameron

Julia Cameron

“The trick is to metabolize pain as energy.  The key to doing that is to know, to trust, and to act as if a silver lining exists if you are only willing to look at the work differently or walk through a different door.”

~ Julia Cameron

The simplest way to stop the energy leaking is to ask the simple question, “WHAT IS THE GIFT?” Yes, I’m asking you to ask the most absurd question but I can promise you that this question works. It’s the question that I heard on the Oprah Show 11 years before Sophia’s death and the moment she died that question popped into my head and rolled around in there over and over and over again. I now see that the reason the question is so powerful. It unlocks the GRATITUDE and LOVE, two of the most POWERFUL ENERGY FILLERS for your soul.

IMG_8613We are spirits here on the earth school. Our bodies belong to this realm but our souls do not. LOVE does not die. It lives on. The sooner we get back into alignment with our LOVE for our departed, the sooner we feel them around us again, sure in a completely different form but still there, REALLY STILL THERE! The grief prevents us from feeling fully sensing them. There is a better way to accept death, a healthier way. I want to thank all those who have passed in my life, especially: Maria de Lurdes, Mandy, Derry, Joscelyn, Nancy, Aida and Sophia. I thank you for the gifts your lives and deaths have given me… and still I miss hugging you!

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

WHAT ELSE IS GOING ON? MORE WAYS TO FEED YOUR SOUL TO START 2013 OFF ON THE RIGHT FOOT!… 

√  COACHING: For those who want a coach with a lot of heart, I’m here to help you get rid of your blocks and go towards your goal. I’m living what I have been teaching clients for nearly two decades. Whether you are curious or serious send me an email to maria@butterflymoms.com to set up a time to get you to your first step. For those who want something to shift in their lives this is a great time!!!

√  INTERVIEW: Here is the magnificent ButteflyMoms interview on Nancy L. Cantor‘s Dream Factory Television Show… I hope you watch it and that it feeds your soul! ! http://vimeo.com/30095902

Mom Entrepreneur Extraordinaire_√ BOOKS FOR SALE: “Mom Entrepreneur Extraordinaire” See list below for all the places in the world where this book has been sold! Last year I co-authored the book ENTREPRENEUR MOM EXTRAORDINAIRE. If you have been thinking about starting a business or want to take your business to the next level this is a wonderful way to start. WAY cheaper than going back to school…and very helpful! To feed the soul of a friend, buy them a copy by CLICKING HERE NOW… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U.  Feel part of the magic below and see where in the world people have bought this book…

BOOKS SOLD INSIDE THE UNITED STATES

CALIFORNIA
Anaheim 1
Fullerton 1
Sacramento 1
San Bruno 1

CONNECTICUT
Cromwell 1
Greenwich 1
Yalesville 1

FLORIDA
Fort Lauderdale 1

Seminole 1

GEORGIA
Roswell 1

ILLINOIS

Lake Forrest 1

KENTUCKY
Louisville 1

MAINE
Biddeford 1

MARYLAND
Chestertown 1

MASSACHUSETTS
Ashland 3
Blackstone 2
Bolton 1
Canton 1
Framingham 1
Holliston 17
Hudson 4
Medway 8
Millis 1
Millbury 4
New Bedford 1
North Easton 1
Rutland 1
Sherborn 1
South Grafton 1
Watertown 1
Westborough 1
Wrentham 1
Worcester 3

MISSOURI
Lee’s Summit 1

NEW HAMPSHIRE
Laconia 1

NEW YORK
Scarsdale 1
Stony Brook 1

OHIO
Dublin 1

RHODE ISLAND
Bristol 1

Newport 1

VERMONT
Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

 

IMG_5226BOOKS SOLD OUTSIDE UNITED STATES

AUSTRIA
Wien 2

IRELAND
Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY
Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN
Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL 
Carcavelos 1

Lisboa 11

Ovar 1

Sintra 1

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

SCOTLAND
Greenock 1

SPAIN
Madrid 1
* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * **

To buy your copy Click now… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

 

images4WHAT IS BUTTERFLYMOMS?
ButterflyMoms is a community of people who realize they are souls first and human being second. They want to explore more about themselves, to find out what makes them happy and how they can lead a life of purpose. It is simply about FEEDING YOUR SOUL. Although it has the name “MOMS” in the title it is more about being nurturing to your own transformation, as the butterfly is to its own metamorphosis. This community is led by Maria Salomão-Schmidt whose transformation was ignited by the birth and death of her BELOVED thirteen month old daughter Sophia (Sophalicious), the original butterfly.

*Every Friday Morning, as a way of honoring her daughter Sophia’s soul, Maria writes the weekly BUTTERFLYMOMS BLOG. Hundreds of people read it every week to feed their souls. Maria started writing the blog in May 2009 and has written EVERY Friday since. Maria is a Reiki master and every time you read it you are showered with healing love.  Tell your friends… http://butterflymoms.wordpress.com and spread the love!!! FEED YOUR SOUL!!!!!

OMG! WHAT HAVE NICK AND SHERYL STARTED?

half the sky2Dearest ButterflyMoms,

When you sit down to read this blog you never know what is coming because the flavor is different each time. There are times when I sit down to write when I wish I could give you the power of ULTRA LASER FOCUS to drop away all the other distractions in your life and see directly from your heart… This is that post!

Today, is International Women’s Day. Being a “woman” is something that for most of us is something we completely take for granted. We simply don’t pay a lot of attention to this part of ourselves. How many days do you wake up and think about being a WOMAN? Might seem like an odd question but much of how you live your life is deeply based on how you perceive your gender. What you were taught, as well as what you rejected form how you let yourself be treated, what you are willing to accept and what you will reach out for!

Most of the people who read my blog are of a certain educational level. By that I mean that you at least need to be able to read (and in English) and have access to electricity and a computer. Most of the world’s women still don’t have the simple opportunity to even learn, to be safe, to not be cut, to own land, to have a voice. Those commercials of half-naked brown babies screaming in pain asking for us to sponsor them for the price of a cup of coffee have jaded us. Most of us change the channel. I know I do because I don’t connect to it.

Half the Sky_0At Christmas time we have all at one time or other sent or received cards that with PEACE ON EARTH printed over an idyllic holiday scene or pics of your ever-growing cute kids, but what do we do to create PEACE ON EARTH? There is no peace without safety, food, shelter first. The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world. Well if a large number of the women of our planet do not have access to these three things our entire world is BROKEN. The deep pain and misery that reverberates from that brokenness is our world today.

Sure you feel it and it feels icky, but really “What does this have to do with you?” We are all one. We are all connected. No real peace can come to you when our entire planet is this type of crisis mode. THERE IS NO “THEM”! THERE IS ONLY “US” and “WE”. Our whole planet is energetically shifting and we can all feel it reverberating. If you are still trying to HOLD on to the old paradigm you are having a REALLY HARD time because those “rules” no longer fit emotionally, physically, psychologically or energetically.

half the skyA book that will absolutely change your world is HALF THE SKY. It is a book that will help you live a more authentic life! Do yourself a favor and give yourself the gift of watching the trailer….http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MRfDzznfEOU from there here are things things you can do even if you may have little money and or time but there are ways you can make a difference…

  1. WORK ON YOU – the best way to make the world a better place is to start working on yourself. Now some will say that we are already perfect and there is nothing to work on and that is true, except that we take that perfection and add shit to it that adulterates (hey, do you like me dropping in my 6th grade vocabulary word, eh? Mrs. Grambolini would be proud! 😉 our life’s joy. Joy is a current that never stops in our life, we just drop SHOULD boulders on it and cut off our happiness.
  2. HELP THE “CONVERSATION” GO VIRAL – If you can see the entire movie. If you can’t just share the clip http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MRfDzznfEOU on all your social media sites. Share this blog and help get the word out. Call one good friend that you have been meaning to call anyway, grab a tea and even from your different locations watch it together wherever you both are. Talk about it, which leads me to #3…
  3. PLAY WITH IT (BIRTH CHANGE) INTO THE WORLD – Pick one action item to accomplish or organization to support. Energetically you will rejuvenate your whole life! It can be something easy. It just has to feel really good to you!

halfI part with this beautiful song sent to me by a woman, Kate Lamontagne who does an incredible job at building community in a little, beautiful New England town in Holliston, Massachusetts in the United States of America. http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=Dnq2QeCvwpw#!

Great big hugs,

Mariaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS FOR THOSE WHO CAN HANDLE SOMETHING EXTRA SPECIAL, check this out… http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qGsVrawY5j0 :)!!!!

WHAT ELSE IS GOING ON? MORE WAYS TO FEED YOUR SOUL TO START 2013 OFF ON THE RIGHT FOOT!…

 

√  COACHING: For those who want a coach with a lot of heart, I’m here to help you get rid of your blocks and go towards your goal. I’m living what I have been teaching clients for nearly two decades. Whether you are curious or serious send me an email to maria@butterflymoms.com to set up a time to get you to your first step. For those who want something to shift in their lives this is a great time!!!

 

√  INTERVIEW: Here is the magnificent ButteflyMoms interview on Nancy L. Cantor‘s Dream Factory Television Show… I hope you watch it and that it feeds your soul! ! http://vimeo.com/30095902

 

√ BOOKS FOR SALE: “Mom Entrepreneur Extraordinaire” See list below for all the places in the world where this book has been sold! Last year I co-authored the book ENTREPRENEUR MOM EXTRAORDINAIRE. If you have been thinking about starting a business or want to take your business to the next level this is a wonderful way to start. WAY cheaper than going back to school…and very helpful! To feed the soul of a friend, buy them a copy by CLICKING HERE NOW… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U.  Feel part of the magic below and see where in the world people have bought this book…

 

half the sky 4BOOKS SOLD INSIDE THE UNITED STATES

CALIFORNIA
Anaheim 1
Fullerton 1
Sacramento 1
San Bruno 1

CONNECTICUT
Cromwell 1
Greenwich 1
Yalesville 1

half-the-sky-2FLORIDA
Fort Lauderdale 1

Seminole 1

GEORGIA
Roswell 1

ILLINOIS

Lake Forrest 1

KENTUCKY
Louisville 1

MAINE
Biddeford 1

MARYLAND
Chestertown 1

half the sky 3MASSACHUSETTS
Ashland 3
Blackstone 2
Bolton 1
Canton 1
Framingham 1
Holliston 17
Hudson 4
Medway 8
Millis 1
Millbury 4
New Bedford 1
North Easton 1
Rutland 1
Sherborn 1
South Grafton 1
Watertown 1
Westborough 1
Wrentham 1
Worcester 3

half the sky 6MISSOURI
Lee’s Summit 1

NEW HAMPSHIRE
Laconia 1

NEW YORK
Scarsdale 1
Stony Brook 1

OHIO
Dublin 1

halftheskybig1.jpg.scaled1000RHODE ISLAND
Bristol 1

Newport 1

VERMONT
Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

 

facts don't cease bcz they are ignoredBOOKS SOLD OUTSIDE UNITED STATES

AUSTRIA
Wien 2

IRELAND
Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY
Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN
Tokyo  1

HalfTheSkyPORTUGAL
Carcavelos 1

Lisboa 11

Ovar 1

Sintra 1

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

SCOTLAND
Greenock 1

SPAIN
Madrid 1
* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * **To buy your copy Click now… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

 

half the sky 1WHAT IS BUTTERFLYMOMS?
ButterflyMoms is a community of people who realize they are souls first and human being second. They want to explore more about themselves, to find out what makes them happy and how they can lead a life of purpose. It is simply about FEEDING YOUR SOUL. Although it has the name “MOMS” in the title it is more about being nurturing to your own transformation, as the butterfly is to its own metamorphosis. This community is led by Maria Salomão-Schmidt whose transformation was ignited by the birth and death of her BELOVED thirteen month old daughter Sophia (Sophalicious), the original butterfly.

*Every Friday Morning, as a way of honoring her daughter Sophia’s soul, Maria writes the weekly BUTTERFLYMOMS BLOG. Hundreds of people read it every week to feed their souls. Maria started writing the blog in May 2009 and has written EVERY Friday since. Maria is a Reiki master and every time you read it you are showered with healing love.  Tell your friends… http://butterflymoms.wordpress.com and spread the love!!! FEED YOUR SOUL!!!!!

Let me ask you a personal question…DO YOU PUT OUT?

My published article in the fabulous INTERNATIONAL WOMEN IN PORTUGAL publication!

My published article in the fabulous INTERNATIONAL WOMEN IN PORTUGAL publication!

Dearest ButterflyMoms,

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First some rockin’ news! I AM SOOOO EXCITED! Yesterday I found out that I just got an article [“Your (quick and easy) Guide to Energy Therapies] published in “A JANELA”, the International Women In Portugal’s (IWP) global newsletter, Spring Edition! It is read by an international group of the most amazing women, not only in Europe but also in South Africa, Australia, New Zealand, South America, Canada, etc. I’m honored! It deeply fills my heart with so much joy to share energy work with people! I love getting chances like this one to live my life’s purpose of IGNITING PEOPLE’s SOULS! I’m giddy with joy!!!! Now onto this week’s ButterflyMoms blog… THANK YOU for popping in! <3!

 

We are more than halfway done with our year in Portugal and it is a very bittersweet time. There have been times in my life where I wish I could stop the clock and luxuriate in that very moment in time. Wishing for such things only wastes time but I cannot seem to help myself. The answers will come. They always do, meanwhile it’s good to stay as open as I know how. There are MANY ways to stay open. One of my favorites is in the middle of lots of ICKY thoughts simply sit back and from that “bubble of ickiness” and start looking at the world looking for beauty. Literally ask yourself the question, “Where is something beautiful in this room?” Energetically that shifts you from LEAKING energy back to filling your “container” with pure love energy. Another way of filling up your energetic container is through YOGA!!!!!!

 

Doug and Maria on the beach doing yoga in Carcavelos with a German yoga teacher! :)

Doug and Maria on the beach doing yoga in Carcavelos with a German yoga teacher! 🙂

Although I first started doing yoga back in the 1900’s ;), I have recently started doing yoga on a more regular basis again. Today, I was searching on YouTube for yogic music, which creates the atmosphere I love when I don’t have a teacher there to guide me. I came across this breath-giving video clip of one of my very favorite artists, MC Yogi, who I first heard about when I was in energy medicine school. Give yourself a FREE treat for your eyes, ears and soul… http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=K_74_qL8ErE#!

 

In one of his songs MC Yogi asks a question about LOVE, but not as MUSHY, KISS-KISS, SHACK-UP, GET-MARRIED way (which is from an emptiness desperately looking to be filled) but from a HOW DO YOU SERVE THE WORLD way (which is from a how to you give out into the world and that giving fills you – regardless if it is returned or not).

It is another form of the question that America’s beloved and controversial 35th president John F. Kennedy asked, “My Fellow Americans ask not what your country can do for you — ask what can you do for your country.” But then, he went on to a lesser known line, “My fellow citizens of the world, ask not what America will do for you, but what together we can do for the freedom of man.” Here is the clip to help you feel what you are reading… http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JLdA1ikkoEc

OMG! JFK was having a zen moment, well as “zen” as you could in the early 60’s! Sure it was sexist and American-centric but he was speaking at the highest level that he and the mainstream culture around him could handle. He was also speaking about LOVE! President Kennedy was calling the citizens of the world to unite!

 

I understand there were other political factors/layers going on at the time, but I can clearly see there something hit our cultural psyche for this quote to have survived and to still be recognizable over 50 years later. Especially in the American culture where history and geography are our some of our weakest subjects.  There is something energetically compelling there…

… and it started me thinking!

 

So you combine MC Yogi’s short video clip and that of President Kennedy and you have today’s ButterflyMoms assignment for you… It is simple, just a 27-step Assignment…(BAH HAH HA!) Just kidding! It is just a small question…

 

The divine Miss Olivia! :)

The divine Miss Olivia! 🙂

Ask yourself,

How much love

can I put out

into the world

in this moment?

 

Write it down so you can read it to yourself over and over. Post it in your car, wallet, office, toilet paper holder, fridge, sink, night stand. Use it on your kids. Use it in traffic (you know who you are! 😉 Use it with your family. Use it at work. Use it when looking for work. Use it when you are paying your bills. Use it when you are kissing someone. Use it when you are grocery shopping. Use it when you are about to eat. Use it when you are about to cheat on yourself. Use it when you are about to drink. Use it when you are about to do something you dislike. Use it when you are about to do something you love. Use it when you are mad or disappointed at someone. USE IT ALL UP!

 

Great big hugs,

Mariaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

 

 

Soooooo much LOVE that even when Doug went running along the Atlantic Ocean, he sweats in hearts... totally true photo. The second I saw it I asked him to hold his shirt and took the photo.

Soooooo much LOVE that even when Doug went running along the Atlantic Ocean, he sweats in hearts… totally true photo. The second I saw it I asked him to hold his shirt and took the photo.

WHAT ELSE IS GOING ON? MORE WAYS TO FEED YOUR SOUL TO START 2013 OFF ON THE RIGHT FOOT!…

 

√  COACHING: For those who want a coach with a lot of heart, I’m here to help you get rid of your blocks and go towards your goal. I’m living what I have been teaching clients for nearly two decades. Whether you are curious or serious send me an email to maria@butterflymoms.com to set up a time to get you to your first step. For those who want something to shift in their lives this is a great time!!!

 

√  INTERVIEW: Here is the magnificent ButteflyMoms interview on Nancy L. Cantor‘s Dream Factory Television Show… I hope you watch it and that it feeds your soul! ! http://vimeo.com/30095902

 

√ BOOKS FOR SALE: “Mom Entrepreneur Extraordinaire” See list below for all the places in the world where this book has been sold! Last year I co-authored the book ENTREPRENEUR MOM EXTRAORDINAIRE. If you have been thinking about starting a business or want to take your business to the next level this is a wonderful way to start. WAY cheaper than going back to school…and very helpful! To feed the soul of a friend, buy them a copy by CLICKING HERE NOW… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U.  Feel part of the magic below and see where in the world people have bought this book…

 

BOOKS SOLD INSIDE THE UNITED STATES

 

CALIFORNIA
Anaheim 1
Fullerton 1
Sacramento 1
San Bruno 1

 

CONNECTICUT
Cromwell 1
Greenwich 1
Yalesville 1

 

Asking how I can give out even more love!!!!!

Asking how I can give out even more love!!!!!

FLORIDA
Fort Lauderdale 1

Seminole 1

 

GEORGIA
Roswell 1

 

ILLINOIS

Lake Forrest 1

 

KENTUCKY
Louisville 1

 

MAINE
Biddeford 1

 

MARYLAND
Chestertown 1

 

DSCN4798MASSACHUSETTS
Ashland 3
Blackstone 2
Bolton 1
Canton 1
Framingham 1
Holliston 17
Hudson 4
Medway 8
Millis 1
Millbury 4
New Bedford 1
North Easton 1
Rutland 1
Sherborn 1
South Grafton 1
Watertown 1
Westborough 1
Wrentham 1
Worcester 3

 

MISSOURI
Lee’s Summit 1

 

NEW HAMPSHIRE
Laconia 1

 

NEW YORK
Scarsdale 1
Stony Brook 1

 

OHIO
Dublin 1

 

Picking grapes at a magnificent Portuguese winery at someone's birthday party

Picking grapes at a magnificent Portuguese winery at someone’s birthday party

RHODE ISLAND
Bristol 1

Newport 1

 

VERMONT
Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

 

BOOKS SOLD OUTSIDE UNITED STATES

AUSTRIA
Wien 2

 

IRELAND
Dublin, Ireland 1

 

ITALY
Rome, Italy 3

 

JAPAN
Tokyo  1

 

PORTUGAL
Carcavelos 1

Lisboa 11

Ovar 1

Sintra 1

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

 

SCOTLAND
Greenock 1

 

DSCN4752SPAIN
Madrid 1
* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * **

 

To buy your copy Click now… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

 

 

WHAT IS BUTTERFLYMOMS?
ButterflyMoms is a community of people who realize they are souls first and human being second. They want to explore more about themselves, to find out what makes them happy and how they can lead a life of purpose. It is simply about FEEDING YOUR SOUL. Although it has the name “MOMS” in the title it is more about being nurturing to your own transformation, as the butterfly is to its own metamorphosis. This community is led by Maria Salomão-Schmidt whose transformation was ignited by the birth and death of her BELOVED thirteen month old daughter Sophia (Sophalicious), the original butterfly.

*Every Friday Morning, as a way of honoring her daughter Sophia’s soul, Maria writes the weekly BUTTERFLYMOMS BLOG. Hundreds of people read it every week to feed their souls. Maria started writing the blog in May 2009 and has written EVERY Friday since. Maria is a Reiki master and every time you read it you are showered with healing love.  Tell your friends… http://butterflymoms.wordpress.com and spread the love!!! FEED YOUR SOUL!!!!!

 

Is It Too Late For You?

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At Lisbon Airport saying good-bye to Vovo (“granny” in Portuguese)

Dearest ButterflyMoms,

Successful people, just like successful businesses, know EXACTLY who they are, who they serve and what their goals are. Without knowing these things a lot of time gets spent trying to figure out which fire to put out and simply re-inventing the wheel. In other words there is a lot of constant chaos. As many of us know it is completely exhausting to live this way!

If we don’t know what we stand for, we spend our whole lives sitting and waiting for the “right ___________” (fill in the blank)

a) time   b) opportunity  c) job  d) mate  e) sign  f) qualifications   g) person   h) amount of money.

On my list is to spend more time with the people who make my heart sing and feed my soul! :)

On my list is to spend more time with the people who make my heart sing and feed my soul! 🙂

We are all guilty of this at some point in our lives. It is a fabulous way to increase the pain in your life, if you are into that! So if you are into that keep on truckin’! If you want “better”, and chances are that if you are reading this you do indeed want better, here is a way you can do “better”…

Part of what I like to do, regardless if you are my coaching client or not, is to ignite your soul! Next week is already March and if you have not yet done your life design for 2013 here is your second chance. It’s easier than you think. In order for you to stop chasing your tail, and start living your life from total alignment, take a precious few minutes and answer the following five simple questions…

 

*  WHAT TRULY FEEDS YOUR SOUL? 

 

*  WHAT DO YOU WANT TO LEARN? 

 

*  WHAT DO YOU WANT TO ACCOMPLISH? 

 

*  WHAT DO YOU WANT TO GIVE? 

 

*  WHAT DO YOU WANT TO RECEIVE?

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Isabella drew this at age 4 here in Portugal. Artists run in her dad’s side of the family. Her grandfather, Herb, was the head of the Metropolitan Museum of Fine Art in NY. He did the King Tut exhibit! :)!

Answer them right now because this blog self-destructs for you in 30 minutes from when you first read it. (Ok, it really doesn’t but if you act like it will, the sense of urgency will override any of life’s dangly-annoying-get-you-nowhere to do’s. So just do it within 30 minutes).

Use markers, pretty pens, fun paper and have a blast writing your unique answers. Please don’t filter because that crushes your creativity, just write whatever comes and then go back and give your answers a little shape. Once you have your top answers, find a fun way to put them into your calendar. Start the little steps that will get you to the life you dream… it does not happen any other way. Whatever you focus on you will get more of. Full stop (as the Brits say)!

Biking and moving my body more with my kids are also on my list for 2013!

Biking and moving my body more with my kids are also on my list for 2013! This is what January looks like in Portugal! NICE!!!!!!

The end of 2013 is going to come any way. It will either come with you having done this or with you not. Which life would you prefer? Don’t tell me… just go out and live it! We will know what you chose by looking at your life! 🙂

Great big hugs,

Mariaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

Here I am accomplishing the goal of taking better car of myself. This time by cutting 8 inches of my hair off! I am learning how to have fun playing  with new hairstyles! :)

Here I am accomplishing the goal of taking better care of myself. This time by cutting 8 inches of my hair off! I am learning how to have fun playing with new hairstyles! 🙂

WHAT ELSE IS GOING ON? MORE WAYS TO FEED YOUR SOUL TO START 2013 OFF ON THE RIGHT FOOT!…

 

√  COACHING: For those who want a coach with a lot of heart, I’m here to help you get rid of your blocks and go towards your goal. I’m living what I have been teaching clients for nearly two decades. Whether you are curious or serious send me an email to maria@butterflymoms.com to set up a time to get you to your first step. For those who want something to shift in their lives this is a great time!!!

 

√  INTERVIEW: Here is the magnificent ButteflyMoms interview on Nancy L. Cantor‘s Dream Factory Television Show… I hope you watch it and that it feeds your soul! ! http://vimeo.com/30095902

 

√ BOOKS FOR SALE: “Mom Entrepreneur Extraordinaire” See list below for all the places in the world where this book has been sold! Last year I co-authored the book ENTREPRENEUR MOM EXTRAORDINAIRE. If you have been thinking about starting a business or want to take your business to the next level this is a wonderful way to start. WAY cheaper than going back to school…and very helpful! To feed the soul of a friend, buy them a copy by CLICKING HERE NOW… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U.  Feel part of the magic below and see where in the world people have bought this book…

 

Sunny day on the "other side" of the Atlantic Ocean! I have an increasing amount of loves on either side!!!

Sunny day on the “other side” of the Atlantic Ocean! I have an increasing amount of loves on either side!!!

BOOKS SOLD INSIDE THE UNITED STATES

CALIFORNIA
Anaheim 1
Fullerton 1
Sacramento 1
San Bruno 1

CONNECTICUT
Cromwell 1
Greenwich 1
Yalesville 1

FLORIDA
Fort Lauderdale 1

Seminole 1

The girls also had a goal of getting a new doggie after we rescued our first, so now we have rescued two doggies! :)

The girls also had a goal of getting a new doggie after we rescued our first, so now we have rescued two doggies! 🙂

GEORGIA
Roswell 1

ILLINOIS

Lake Forrest 1

KENTUCKY
Louisville 1

MAINE
Biddeford 1

Eating more LIVING foods like veggies, nuts and fruits is also on my list for 2013! Such amazing options if you only ask!

Eating more LIVING foods like veggies, nuts and fruits is also on my list for 2013! Such amazing options if you only ask!

MARYLAND
Chestertown 1

MASSACHUSETTS
Ashland 3
Blackstone 2
Bolton 1
Canton 1
Framingham 1
Holliston 17
Hudson 4
Medway 8
Millis 1
Millbury 4
New Bedford 1
North Easton 1
Rutland 1
Sherborn 1
South Grafton 1
Watertown 1
Westborough 1
Wrentham 1
Worcester 3

MISSOURI
Lee’s Summit 1

NEW HAMPSHIRE
Laconia 1

NEW YORK
Scarsdale 1
Stony Brook 1

Doing more yoga. This time on the beach in Carcavelos with Mialotta and our new doggie "Tejo"

Doing more yoga. This time on the beach in Carcavelos with Mialotta and our new doggie “Tejo”

OHIO
Dublin 1

RHODE ISLAND
Bristol 1

Newport 1

VERMONT
Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

 

BOOKS SOLD OUTSIDE UNITED STATES

AUSTRIA
Wien 2

IRELAND
Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY
Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN
Tokyo  1

Sometimes I'm soooo into the doing that I forget to do  it with JOY so being HAPPY is my main goal of 2013. Many people think that is nuts but because it is so basic, many of us assume wrongly that we already are. I was one of those people.

Sometimes I’m soooo into the doing that I forget to do it with JOY so being HAPPY is my main goal of 2013. Many people think that is nuts but because it is so basic, many of us assume wrongly that we already are. I was one of those people.

PORTUGAL
Carcavelos 1

Lisboa 11

Ovar 1

Sintra 1

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

SCOTLAND
Greenock 1

SPAIN
Madrid 1
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To buy your copy Click now… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

 

Watch out these animals bite!!!!!! ROAR!!!!!

Watch out these animals bite!!!!!! ROAR!!!!!

WHAT IS BUTTERFLYMOMS?
ButterflyMoms is a community of people who realize they are souls first and human being second. They want to explore more about themselves, to find out what makes them happy and how they can lead a life of purpose. It is simply about FEEDING YOUR SOUL. Although it has the name “MOMS” in the title it is more about being nurturing to your own transformation, as the butterfly is to its own metamorphosis. This community is led by Maria Salomão-Schmidt whose transformation was ignited by the birth and death of her BELOVED thirteen month old daughter Sophia (Sophalicious), the original butterfly.

*Every Friday Morning, as a way of honoring her daughter Sophia’s soul, Maria writes the weekly BUTTERFLYMOMS BLOG. Hundreds of people read it every week to feed their souls. Maria started writing the blog in May 2009 and has written EVERY Friday since. Maria is a Reiki master and every time you read it you are showered with healing love.  Tell your friends… http://butterflymoms.wordpress.com and spread the love!!! FEED YOUR SOUL!!!!!

WHEN PEOPLE ARE MEAN TO YOU…

IMG_0560Eileen, Maria and Little Red Riding HoodDearest ButterflyMoms,

Thank you for coming into the ButterflyMoms blog and feeding your soul! GREAT TO HAVE YOU HERE! I’ve been hitting a few bumps these last few weeks and during the last three days I’ve noticed some serious ones that have caused me to question how EXPOSED I am in the world.

You see, from my parents I learned to STAND UP for those who cannot stand up for themselves and for the things that are important to me. That seems like a slam dunk, but oftentimes it is not. In general, others in our society want to keep us small, and this week I realized why many people do play it small.

It can be heart-breaking when you speak from your heart, yet someone still feels threatened and attacks. This week that came from someone I was building a professional relationship with. I posted something on Facebook that was not to this person’s liking and received severe accusations of my character and intentions, and an immediate end to our relationship.

Doug, Maria with Mame in her kitchenToday at the grocery store, one of the registers opened up so I wheeled up to it. There was a woman behind me who angrily huffed and went to a smaller line. While in line I saw a man looking around to see if anyone was looking and then dumped a dirty tissue on the floor. I called him on it. The lady next to him immediately attacked me because she said I had cut her in line and used this opportunity of the tissue to side with him and slam me. I tried to apologize to calm her down and explain my intention, but she was late for work and it became obvious that someone had to pay.  (A funny cultural side note, All three of us were speaking in really high voices and our arms animatedly moving about. That is pretty normal for a situation like this in Portugal, but if this were in America people watching this would have thought we were going to fight! Thinking about this now makes me giggle. Gotta love cultural differences!)

All these events stuffs can easily bring me into POOR ME mode. From a very early age I just wanted people to like me. I thought I had nipped that in the bud but this week I was proven wrong. I go over these events over and over and ask what the message is. Was I a jerk? Was I appropriate?

As for the colleague, in the first story I mentioned, I believe I simply stood up for something that is not popular but that I believe in my heart needs to stood up for. The fact that it makes her feel uncomfortable that people even bring up the subject is not mine to own. Know what is your shit and what is not. This is not my shit, but when the second incident happened today I had to ask why I am attracting this ICKY channel shit. It does not feel good and makes me want to run out of the store crying.

IMG_1798In the second situation I can see that I was putting my SHOULDs on someone else on one level because I was telling the man he should not drop his dirty tissue. That comes from the part of me that believes that we are all accountable to each other and our earth. Dropping a tissue is not something that fits the greater good. This one I am conflicted on. That is MY belief and obviously not his. Do I really have a right to say, “DON’T DO THAT BECAUSE I DON’T LIKE POLLUTING?”

The last one of the lady in line I am not conflicted on because it is clear that it’s her stuff. I was in front of her when they opened the new line. I understand that she was just frustrated with the long lines when she was late for work, and took it out on me. I sent love and blessings for all three of those people, especially the lady who was late for work. It is an act of forgiveness, which Oprah Winfrey defines at letting go of the idea that the past will be different. These things happened and I am letting them go.

When I went on Facebook today I noticed that my favorite quote is on my main page, “Other people’s opinions of me are none of my business.” I see that this is a lesson that is coming up for me. These three people and incidents, even though they felt really ICKY are all gifts. They are all reminders to protect my energy and not let other people’s reactions affect my mood or well-being.

I invite you to notice the people in your life who you are trying to please when it is their issue, not yours. Break that energy drain and feel how good it feels!

We need our energy to accomplish our life’s mission. It begins right now! I send you much love in letting go.

Great big hugs,

Mariaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

1 stuckWHAT ELSE IS GOING ON? MORE WAYS TO FEED YOUR SOUL TO START 2013 OFF ON THE RIGHT FOOT!…

√  REIKI 1 WORKSHOP: I’m teaching Reiki 1 in Cascais, Portugal (Feb 16 & Feb 23 10:00-2:30). Cost is only €130, includes materials, Reiki 1 certification and attunement. Class size limited and will fill up very quickly so if interested email me at maria@butterflymoms.com.de Arcos, 2770-210 Paço de Arcos, Portugal. Fee is 25€ at door. Sign up right now and get in for only 20€. Do it here…http://tinyurl.com/cslw7l4. See you there!!!!! Please RSVP so we can plan accordingly.

 

√  COACHING: For those who want a coach with a lot of heart, I’m here to help you get rid of your blocks and go towards your goal. I’m living what I have been teaching clients for nearly two decades. Whether you are curious or serious send me an email to maria@butterflymoms.com to set up a time to get you to your first step. For those who want something to shift in their lives this is a great time!!!

 

√  INTERVIEW: Here is the magnificent ButteflyMoms interview on Nancy L. Cantor‘s Dream Factory Television Show… I hope you watch it and that it feeds your soul! ! http://vimeo.com/30095902

 

√ BOOKS FOR SALE: “Mom Entrepreneur Extraordinaire” See list below for all the places in the world where this book has been sold! Last year I co-authored the book ENTREPRENEUR MOM EXTRAORDINAIRE. If you have been thinking about starting a business or want to take your business to the next level this is a wonderful way to start. WAY cheaper than going back to school…and very helpful! To feed the soul of a friend, buy them a copy by CLICKING HERE NOW… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U.  Feel part of the magic below and see where in the world people have bought this book…

Buy the book and support two people's dreams! :)

Buy the book and support two people’s dreams! 🙂

BOOKS SOLD INSIDE THE UNITED STATES

CALIFORNIA
Anaheim 1
Fullerton 1
Sacramento 1
San Bruno 1

CONNECTICUT
Cromwell 1
Greenwich 1
Yalesville 1

FLORIDA
Fort Lauderdale 1

Seminole 1

GEORGIA
Roswell 1

ILLINOIS

Lake Forrest 1

KENTUCKY
Louisville 1

MAINE
Biddeford 1

MARYLAND
Chestertown 1

MASSACHUSETTS
Ashland 3
Blackstone 2
Bolton 1
Canton 1
Framingham 1
Holliston 17
Hudson 4
Medway 8
Millis 1
Millbury 4
New Bedford 1
North Easton 1
Rutland 1
Sherborn 1
South Grafton 1
Watertown 1
Westborough 1
Wrentham 1
Worcester 3

MISSOURI
Lee’s Summit 1

NEW HAMPSHIRE
Laconia 1

NEW YORK
Scarsdale 1
Stony Brook 1

OHIO
Dublin 1

RHODE ISLAND
Bristol 1

Newport 1

VERMONT
Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

 

BOOKS SOLD OUTSIDE UNITED STATES

AUSTRIA
Wien 2

IRELAND
Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY
Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN
Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL
Carcavelos 1

Lisboa 11

Ovar 1

Sintra 1

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

SCOTLAND
Greenock 1

SPAIN
Madrid 1
* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * **

To buy your copy Click now… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

 

My cousin Cristina and my girls... ;)

My cousin Cristina and my girls… 😉

WHAT IS BUTTERFLYMOMS?
ButterflyMoms is a community of people who realize they are souls first and human being second. They want to explore more about themselves, to find out what makes them happy and how they can lead a life of purpose. It is simply about FEEDING YOUR SOUL. Although it has the name “MOMS” in the title it is more about being nurturing to your own transformation, as the butterfly is to its own metamorphosis. This community is led by Maria Salomão-Schmidt whose transformation was ignited by the birth and death of her BELOVED thirteen month old daughter Sophia (Sophalicious), the original butterfly.

*Every Friday Morning, as a way of honoring her daughter Sophia’s soul, Maria writes the weekly BUTTERFLYMOMS BLOG. Hundreds of people read it every week to feed their souls. Maria started writing the blog in May 2009 and has written EVERY Friday since. Maria is a Reiki master and every time you read it you are showered with healing love.  Tell your friends… http://butterflymoms.wordpress.com and spread the love!!! FEED YOUR SOUL!!!!!

THE UGLY SIDE OF HOLLISTON…. A Call to Bring Out the LOVE!

 Dearest ButterflyMoms,

 

Although I’m writing this from Portugal, we live in Holliston, Massachusetts. It is one of the most idyllic little New England towns you can imagine! There are many wonderful things about Holliston, but the two worst things are lack of a septic system and town gossip… ultimately, they are the same thing because they are both about shit!

 

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When we first opened the space we combined our businesses in the same space. Our dry cleaners is now called GREEN CLEANERS and is the only earth-friendly in town. This was about four years ago when we opened our doors in the heart of downtown Holliston!

When we first opened the space we combined our businesses in the same space. Our dry cleaners is now called GREEN CLEANERS and is the only earth-friendly in town. This was about four years ago when we opened our doors in the heart of downtown Holliston!

Brick House Realty's frontFor years, many have commented to me about how much they dislike how gossipy and cliquey Holliston’s mommy’s groups can be. I had the same experience. I have also found this in the world of real estate. From the time I started BRICK HOUSE REALTY, a family-owned company, some of those in big-named real estate firms have made up lies and gone after our clients behind our backs. It is brutal because some people believe them and we have lost deals because of it. This is not a game to us. This is how we feed our children! Plus, they are not even telling the truth, they make stuff up! Sadly, we have seen this over and over again in our last 10 years in real estate in Holliston.

 

The solution for me in both the mommy group situation and in the real estate world, was that I turned more to one-on-one relationships, largely not buying into the negativity. With this philosophy we have steadily grown each and every year and a business that started in our closet just finished another record-breaking year! So on that level we have been successful but in doing the stiff upper lip thing, there was still lots of sadness in all this for me. The whole talking about others is wrapped with layers of ickiness and is what tears communities apart. Really, it is just another form of bullying. A few gang up on whoever they deem as an “outsider” in order to feel superior. Bully starts in schools and continues into adulthood.

 

A little background for those who don’t know…I’m living one of my dreams this year. I am spending a year in Portugal with three of our children while Doug is home with our son Christopher, as it is his last year of high school. This is an adventure of a lifetime for our three youngest. They are living and going to school in Europe as children! It is a wonderful adventure with many ups and downs that I often share here on the ButterflyMoms blog every Friday. Doug just left last week after spending a whole month here. It was his second trip to visit us since we’ve been here.

 

Well, yesterday I was talking to my husband Dougie Fresh 😉 and he mentioned that he had run into someone who was acting a bit distant. As they started talking, Doug told him about having been in Portugal with us a month and how our kids were having the time of their lives. The man bent down and started laughing with relieve. The reason he was so standoffish at the beginning was he felt bad for Doug and did not know how to talk to him. Why you may ask did he feel bad for Doug? Well, his wife had been in a Holliston store where the people in there were all hanging out talking about what a lowlife I was to have left Doug suddenly and run away to Italy with “his” kids against the Doug’s and the children’s wishes.

 

Doug and Maria in Cascais 2012

Our Portuguese Christmas tree...

Our Portuguese Christmas tree…

My first reaction was of disbelief, then the anger and hurt crept in. I went to my Facebook page and posted the following: “OK, I don’t usually go “there” but I am so going there! I found out today that the rumor mill in Holliston has been spewing out an ugly rumor that I have run away from my husband to Italy and “stolen” our girls! They talked about how much of a lowlife I am to do that to Douglas Schmidt and our girls! WTF!!!!!!!! Do people have such low energy that they have to make up total shit about others and then dish it out over and over?!…. Please know that from an energetic point of view gossiping and judging others is the fastest way to lower your vibration, thus giving you a shitty life! If you are jealous of what I’m doing go follow your own dreams!!!!!”

 

In my mind, here I am living my dreams and giving my kids one of the biggest gifts I can think of, and some people who don’t even know me, or my family, are out there saying really nasty untruths. It hit a big nerve for me but it was obvious that it also hit a nerve for many others. The response from people was incredible, 200 comments or LIKES with lots of advice and humor. It felt good to read them, but there was still “something” still not in its place, something “icky”. In general, when people feel ICKY about something, we ignore it. When Sophia died we experienced a lot of this because people did not know what to say so they just avoided us or the topic. This is an unconscious way to react when humans feel uncomfortable.

 

Many people’s advice when someone is gossiping or judging is for us to “take the high road”. Well, there are two types of high roads. There is the one where you bury it and pretend things did not bother you, as you pretend to move on. This is the one most people take. It is like taking an energetic mortgage out and paying it in secret (subconsciously) for however long you choose to hold on to it (forgive).

 

Stunning city of Lisboa!!!!!

Stunning city of Lisboa!!!!!

The other “taking the high road” option is to move your perspective from “what have they done to me & why have they done it”, which is the micro (small) and move it into the macro (big) viewpoint. From the bigger vantage point anger dissipates because the new perspective allows us to understand that others who are participating in judgmental or gossipy behavior are energetically depleted. Allow me to explain…

 

DSCN5373Every morning you wake up you are given $100/100€ and what you think about either causes you to receive more energy or give up what you have stored. If we are not tuned into our life’s mission, we start burning energy like crazy, because we are not in alignment. Being in alignment is the same thing as being “in the zone”. Everything is going on effortlessly. When people are doing what they “should” be instead of what they know in their hearts they want to do, they become depleted. When they have no more “energy” they start stealing it from others. This is why “energy vampires” exist. They are simply people who don’t realize why they are doing it but they find themselves needing to yell at, talk about and put down others because they get an energy high off of it. Like a drug addict, the high does not last very long so they must continue doing it to get the desired effect.

 

Fear is also a huge part of this equation for it also causes your energy to bleed out. Love has the opposite effect. Love fills your energy vessel. Think about playing with a puppy or a little baby. Think of in that moment you lose the sense of time and “shoulds”. You are suddenly transported into an effortless, feel-good place that has you loving and living in that very moment in time. To me, I took that anger, sadness and frustration and built several “bully-free” or safe communities: The ButterflyMoms Group was one of them and the other two exist on Facebook… I’M HOLLISTON HAPPY and the newest one “HOLLISTON TRADING POST. The goal of all these was to take the LOVE that already exists in Holliston and magnify it because there is soooo much love there! All of these have been monster hits and continue to grow!

 

It is important to remember that we are all humans, spirits first, and bodies second. As the beautiful Maya Angelou said at the Boston conference I met her at, “We all do the best we can with what we know. When we know better, we do better.” Gossiping and Judgemental behavior is something we all do to some degree. It could be talking about a neighbor, co-worker, family member or movie star. It is a cultural norm in most places.  We don’t even realize we are doing it. As we evolve as human beings, taking back our energy and moving it from the unconscious to the conscious will help us more easily find our alignment, our happy life. My gift to you today is this…. Whenever you find yourself thinking about someone and how they should be doing this or that, I invite you to notice and LET GO of your “should” for that person. As much as you think you know them, you do not, even if it yourself. Stop “shoulding” all over yourself!

 

Life is a reflection...No one is “good” or “bad”, we humans a big, messy pile of a bit of everything. All we can really do is notice what part of us we are feeding. I notice that my actions yesterday were a bit defensive. In reality as Eleanor Roosevelt said (and my friend Helen Bannigan reminded me of last night), “Other people’s opinions of me are none of my business.” Someone else’s stuff is not a reflection of my self-worth. I am, however, attracting this lesson into my life and so examining what I find is my responsibility. As for the people who did the gossiping, they are “walking prayer-requests”. They are showing those around them that their energy is extremely depleted. Send them love from mother earth and cut the cord. It is the kindest thing you can do for them and our planet.

 

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

 

 

Doug embracing Portugal!

Doug embracing Portugal!

WHAT ELSE IS GOING ON? MORE WAYS TO FEED YOUR SOUL TO START 2013 OFF ON THE RIGHT FOOT!…

√  REIKI 1 WORKSHOP: I’m teaching Reiki 1 in Cascais, Portugal (Feb 16 & Feb 23 10:00-2:30). Cost is only €175, includes materials, Reiki 1 certification and attunement. Class size limited and will fill up very quickly so if interested email me at maria@butterflymoms.com.de Arcos, 2770-210 Paço de Arcos, Portugal. Fee is 25€ at door. Sign up right now and get in for only 20€. Do it here…http://tinyurl.com/cslw7l4. See you there!!!!! Please RSVP so we can plan accordingly.

 

√  COACHING: For those who want a coach with a lot of heart, I’m here to help you get rid of your blocks and go towards your goal. I’m living what I have been teaching clients for nearly two decades. Whether you are curious or serious send me an email to maria@butterflymoms.com to set up a time to get you to your first step. For those who want something to shift in their lives this is a great time!!!

 

√  INTERVIEW: Here is the magnificent ButteflyMoms interview on Nancy L. Cantor‘s Dream Factory Television Show… I hope you watch it and that it feeds your soul! ! http://vimeo.com/30095902

 

√ BOOKS FOR SALE: “Mom Entrepreneur Extraordinaire” See list below for all the places in the world where this book has been sold! Last year I co-authored the book ENTREPRENEUR MOM EXTRAORDINAIRE. If you have been thinking about starting a business or want to take your business to the next level this is a wonderful way to start. WAY cheaper than going back to school…and very helpful! To feed the soul of a friend, buy them a copy by CLICKING HERE NOW… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U.  Feel part of the magic below and see where in the world people have bought this book…

DSCN5455BOOKS SOLD INSIDE THE UNITED STATES

 

CALIFORNIA
Anaheim 1
Fullerton 1
Sacramento 1
San Bruno 1

CONNECTICUT
Cromwell 1
Greenwich 1
Yalesville 1

FLORIDA
Fort Lauderdale 1

Seminole 1

GEORGIA
Roswell 1

DSCN6701ILLINOIS      

Lake Forrest 1

KENTUCKY
Louisville 1

MAINE
Biddeford 1

MARYLAND
Chestertown 1

MASSACHUSETTS
Ashland 3
Blackstone 2
Bolton 1
Canton 1
Framingham 1
Holliston 17
Hudson 4
Medway 8
Millis 1
Millbury 4
New Bedford 1
North Easton 1
Rutland 1
Sherborn 1
South Grafton 1
Watertown 1
Westborough 1
Wrentham 1
Worcester 3

DSCN5549MISSOURI
Lee’s Summit 1

NEW HAMPSHIRE
Laconia 1

NEW YORK
Scarsdale 1
Stony Brook 1

OHIO
Dublin 1

RHODE ISLAND
Bristol 1

Newport 1

VERMONT
Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

Just some of the REALLY GOOD LOOKING volunteers... ;) Amazing people and their  equally amazing children! It was a big lovefest!!!

Just some of the REALLY GOOD LOOKING volunteers… 😉 Amazing people and their equally amazing children! It was a big lovefest!!!

BOOKS SOLD OUTSIDE UNITED STATES

AUSTRIA
Wien 2

IRELAND
Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY
Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN
Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL
Carcavelos 1

Lisboa 11

Ovar 1

Sintra 1

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

SCOTLAND
Greenock 1

SPAIN
Madrid 1
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Beautiful Guincho... Breath-giving!

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DSCN5945PS… To learn more about the Maya people check this out… http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maya_civilization <3

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