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Wiggle At Your Own Discretion….

Our guest speaker Paula Mark and her kids. SHE ROCKED THE HOUSE!!!

Good Morning Dearest Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

Here are this week’s important yet “wicked” fun ButterflyMoms updates…

*Just finished our 10th week in a row of ButterflyMoms workshops! WHEW WHO!!! This week had the beautiful Paula Mark of Holliston who runs Doe Hill Farm. Since we have been talking about the first three chakras she brought in the herbs that accompany them. We learned about infusions and concoctions and had a great time tasting and smelling them. It feels awesome! Next week we are doing something different. We’re continuing our 11th class again next Thursday, August 11th, 8pm.

Wait, there’s more…GREAT NEWS! For those for whom Thursday nights don’t work I’m going to teach ONE Wednesday night class on HOW TO MANIFEST WHAT YOU WANT from 7-9pm. See if this will work better for you. 🙂

Both workshops will be held at 783 Washington St, Holliston. Plenty of FREE parking in back. Only $25 at the door or just $20 if you drop off a check or pay through Paypal… http://bit.ly/mS7c70 .   If you have been thinking about coming just do it…Come to feed your soul! You will be soooooooooooo happy you did!

*SAVE THE DATE. I’m thrilled to let you know that we are having our very first ButterflyMoms retreat!!!! This time in Vermont. Save the date on your calendar for the weekend of October 22, 2011! You probably want to take that Friday off so that you have even more time to yourself!!! 🙂 TALK ABOUT REJUVINATING YOUR SOUL!!! WOW! 🙂 More details to follow!

*For the 17thth week my computer and website issues are still a work in progress. My computer is now in the hands of the fifth computer guy, maybe the fifth time is the charm, eh? Please keep sharing the site to friends.

*No books sold this week. *To buy your very own personally autographed copy Click here now…http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

Now onto the ButterflyMoms blog…

Good Morning Beautiful ButterflyMoms!

We are experiencing the middle of summer and I’m personally sensing a SHIFT. Are you? I have taken enough classes, read enough books, seen enough soap operas (both real and on TV) 😉 and lived enough to know that TRUE happiness comes for being present in the moment. Not to be rude but I don’t really need a long-bearded “guru” to tell me that, but KNOWING and DOING are two different worlds. What I do need is gentle and sometimes not-so-gentle reminders of being in the moment, where all of LIFE’s JUICE is! And I, for one, ENVISION myself living life in a JUICY WAY! How about you?

YUP this is definitely me! 😉

This week after years of procrastinating, my husband Doug and I went to the Ashram in Millis, Massachusetts and took a yoga class there. Now I’ve been doing yoga for a very long time, longer than most on the east coast and whenever I CARVE out the time for it, I feel sooooooooo wonderful! I feel like I’m connecting to the fun part of me, the deeper more present part of me.

Now two nights before I had seen EAT, PRAY, LOVE (book is better but movie is good too) and I had that vision of her there in my mind. I like Julia Roberts’ energy so it was a reminder that yoga is fun and for me to CONNECT with that fun!

My yoga class was taught by the beautiful Victoria Haffer, the Ashram's director! She is sooo great at what she does!

Honor thy "toesies"... it should be one of the Commandments

So there I was at the Ashram in Millis in this STUNNING room. I was sitting in a pose with my knees bent in the position most of us call the BUTTERFLY…did not get that HIT until now, WOW! DUH! The Butterfly! Ahhhhhh….never a dull moment!

So in this position the soles of my feet are together and as I’m looking down I see my toes and especially the bottom of my toes…that started me thinking, no, not thinking more like wondering while I was OBSERVING my “toesies” (as my 3 year old Isabella would call them). For a few PRECIOUS MOMENTS I was completely mesmerized by them. They seemed to wiggle at their own discretion. They seemed really happy and childlike to me. I noticed I had never REALLY noticed them, especially the bottom of my “toesies”. I thought about all the thousands and thousands of miles they have helped me move from one place to another. REALLY take that in for a moment. I let myself feel what it would feel like if I had not had that ability. In those few precious moments I was in my own blissful world, being present and loving every moment.

Sometimes in a world full of people who are SLEEPING or going through life on AUTOMATIC PILOT, only something huge like drugs, sugar or Disneyland can bring some satisfaction but really THE SECRET is much closer than most of “the advertisers” would lead us to believe, just look down at your “beautiful” “toesies”, notice them, wiggle them, love them and thank them for all the happiness and adventure they have brought and continue to bring to your life….This is being in the present moment. This is the recipe for how joy and meaning gets invited into your life…I invite you to send out YOUR INVITATION every moment you see your BEAUTIFUL TOESIES!  :)!!!!!

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS   HEY! I CO-AUTHORED A BOOK! WOW! The following is a list of places where ButterflyMoms live who bought our wonderful book MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE… Buy one so you can put your city/town/country on the list like so many other beautiful ButterflyMoms have! 🙂

UNITED STATES

California

Anaheim 1

Fullerton 1

Sacramento 1

San Bruno 1

Connecticut

Greenwich 1

Yalesville 1

Florida

Fort Lauderdale 1

Kentucky

Louisville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 2

Bolton 1

Holliston 12

Hudson 4

Medway 3

North Easton 1

Sherborn 1

South Grafton 1

Watertown 1

Worcester 3

Missouri

Lee’s Summit 1

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

Vermont

Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN

Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

SPAIN

Madrid 1

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Millions of Tiny, Little CHOICES

Dearest Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

Here are this week’s important ButterflyMoms updates…

*Started our ButterflyMoms Chakra workshops and welcomed some new faces. Thank you Denise, Kerri, Jennifer, Mary, Christine and Susan and  to Karen, Raquel, Nancy, Ellen, Maria, Nancy, Karen, Karin, Hilde, Christine, Donna, Jess and Gaynor who were there in spirit! We’re meeting again next Thursday, July 21st, 8pm at 783 Washington St, Holliston. Plenty of FREE parking in back. Only $25 at the door or just $20 if you drop off a check or pay through Paypal… http://bit.ly/mS7c70 . 🙂  Come to feed your soul!

*For the 13 or 14th week my computer and website issues are still a work in progress. Please keep sharing the site to friends. I apologize for the hiccups.

*No new books sold for MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE this week. Third week of no book sales. All potential book buyers must be on vacation… I hope they come back soon! ;). Keep putting your dream out there too!

 

THIS WEEK's BUTTERLYMOMS WINNER... Kerri Miller holding her! prize!!

 

*We had our second ButterflyMoms blog contest and picked the winner last night at the ButterflyMoms workshop. (drum roll) Envelop please…And the winner is…. the beautiful KERRI  MILLER of Holliston. Kerri has attended all seven of the ButterflyMoms workshops!!!! YAY KERRI! I guess all the power of attraction exercises are paying off, eh?! 😉 Kerri Miller is a Holistic Health Practitioner and Feng Shui Master, coaching those seeking better health by integrating Nutritional Coaching, Energetic Healing,  Aromatherapy! More contests coming in the fall!

Now onto the ButterflyMoms blog…

We’ve all heard the saying, “Life is what happens to you when you are making other plans.” Well that is JUST how my morning went. In the middle of writing my blog I heard a H-U-G-E thump. I don’t know if you have ever heard the sound of a body falling…even from a very short distance. It is a very eerie sound. I heard this sound this morning…It was one of our exchange students who had an infection on her leg and did not let us know. She was in severe pain and did not sleep at night at all. She was exhausted and literally passed out downstairs in the kitchen at like 6am this morning! Long story short she is fine after six hours of an ambulance ride, working out insurance from another country, CAT scan, blood samples, injections of morphine, shots of novocain, draining her wound, saline drip and antibiotics, standing in line, booking a follow up appointment and getting prescriptions.

The day was filled with emotion! Being in the hospital not knowing if she was ok or not triggered when I was there five years ago when Sophia died. I have to admit that a lot of times when I’m with other people around, I SWALLOW MY FEELINGS about her death, about missing her. I don’t know if I think people don’t want to be “bothered” or “cannot handle it”. I also FEAR that if I start crying it will trigger THE ABYSS OF PAIN that parents who lose children KNOW in their cells. It is almost PALPABLE, this pain. I know it is not real but when you are IN IT, it feels like the most real things in the world.

Just like every day, my day was made up of millions of tiny, little choices. Today I chose to FEEL my grief when it came up and not BURY it somewhere inside. I cried in front of Laura, Doug, about four nurses, two doctors and one waitress. At least FOR TODAY I let go of what others would do or say. I FELT THE FEELING and THEN EXPRESSED IT…this time is through tears…other times is through HUGGING.

Hugging Massachusetts Governor Deval Patrick

I HUG a lot because each time I do it gives me the opportunity to CONNECT with another soul and show my GRATITITUDE for being here. I have found in this lifetime that we as humans have a tendency of neglecting our bodies, a lot! Hugging allows people to GROUND themselves and BE PRESENT. Most people LOVE hugs because it brings them to their present moment. I have a suspicion that when people don’t like hugs it’s probably because it triggers a past moment instead of a present one.

Today I allowed myself to FEEL SAD and it did not send me to the ABYSS OF PAIN I so fear, at times. This journey has a lot to do with trust. The only power we have is CHOICE. When I try to CONTROL things Igive away the only power I’ve ever had, that is the power of CHOICE! When I’m in my present moment and feeling what comes up I CREATE an OPPORTUNITY to raise my quality of life by allowing ENERGY to NATURALLY FLOW. Blocking ENERGY leads to nothing but grief and pain.

I invite you to PLAY with whatever feelings come up for you…FEELINGS ARE WISDOM, it is how the universe communicates. When I FEAR MY FEELINGS I BLOCK MY FLOW OF ABUNDANCE! Just noticing when I do it….and the consequences I receive for FLOW or  LACK OF FLOW. CHOICE is the key. The key only exists in the PRESENT MOMENT. May you remember to savor your “NOW”!

Great big hugs,

Maariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

The following is a list of places where ButterflyMoms live who bought our wonderful book MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE…

UNITED STATES

California

Anaheim 1

Fullerton 1

Sacramento 1

San Bruno 1

Connecticut

Greenwich 1

Yalesville 1

Florida

Fort Lauderdale 1

Kentucky

Louisville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 2

Bolton 1

Holliston 12

Hudson 4

Medway 3

North Easton 1

Sherborn 1

South Grafton 1

Watertown 1

Worcester 3

Missouri

Lee’s Summit 1

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

Vermont

Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN

Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

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Mandy Heliotis and Sophia Schmidt… NOW WHAT?!

Dearest Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

Here are this week’s important housekeeping issues….

*Last night we had yet another ButterflyMoms Manifestation Class. We fed a lot of souls. 🙂 Because it feels so good we’re having another one. We’re meeting next Thursday, June 23th, 8pm at 783 Washington St, Holliston. Easy to get to on Rt 16 & FREE parking in back. Only $25 at the door (still let me know you’re coming because space is limited) or just $20 if you drop off a check or pay through Paypal… http://bit.ly/mS7c70 . It’s a simple first step to get back to the happy you…so grab on to it! 🙂

*My computer and website stuff was put on hold due to our Mandy’s passing. My intention is to address it this week so I will be better at answering your emails. 😉  For right now it is what it is. ;)…My gentle reminder again to SURRENDER! continues 😉

*We sold zero MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE books last week. If it has been your intention to buy a book please do so this week by clicking here… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U. A list of where in the world books have been bought by other ButterflyMoms is at the end of this blog. It’s a pretty spectacular list of places. When you buy a book yours is added too!

Now onto the blog…

All the initial “funeral” attention is over. Although it has only been a little over a week I have found that this is one of the hardest phases of mourning. My world has totally shifted again HOWEVER most everyone else is still living their lives like before. They have moved on. They have enough OTHER THINGS in their life to “forget”, those closest to Mandy don’t have that luxury. Wherever we go we see her face. At random moments we remember her smell. We feel her around us but oftentimes feel helpless to connect. How do you communicate with someone who no longer has form?

Joy Dorsey and Rhys Thomas...Two Very Talented Healers and Teachers!

I am in my second year of school for this at the Rhys Thomas Energy Medicine School. I am much better than I used to be at connecting to things that have no form but still realize how very, very little I actually know. For me, specifically, I have a double dose of AWARENESS right now because in just a few days, on June 22, it will be our Sophia’s 5th Anniversary of her passing. It sounds cliché but I KNOW they are together. I mean I know that Sophia helped Mandy with her transition. As I write this there is a part of me that is FLASHING a big red WARNING light saying, “Don’t talk about this! What are people going to think.” Well, in my experience with everything I have studied and gone through, for me this is all true. I think the more people know about this the more we can get on with the business of enjoying the precious little time we have here in this lifetime…so I continue…

When we first got the call last week it was to say that Mandy had been hurt in a car accident and that it was dire. At that point she was already dead but we did not know that. I immediately sat on my couch and attempted to “tune in” to Mandy’s energy field. We do this in class for practice but this was the real deal. I desperately wanted information. In class I find myself blocking and even belittling my abilities because I see how much better others are at it than I am.  (Sidenote: Oftentimes we are our own worst enemies. We are our own BULLIES stomping any possibility of success. Notice when your BULLY comes out and how it affects your life.)

When I tuned in I got that there was something wrong with her wrists. I got that she was surrounded by lots of angels with lots of blue in the background like the magical ceiling at Notre Dame Basilica in Montreal. I got that she could not breathe. I was so IN THE MOMENT that I asked Sophia to go to her and see if she could see anything.

Beautiful Mandy 🙂

It felt like Sophia had been with me all along – I just had not really noticed but when I brought awareness to it she was right there. Instantly I saw Sophia was in the scene “sitting” IN Mandy’s lap. Sophia  kept evaporating or turning into something other than form. I could tell she was trying to hang on but there was nothing to hang out to. There was no emotion with this just information. It was all very matter-of-fact.  That is all I got. I went back to Doug who was at the kitchen table desperately trying to call someone – anyone – to get more information about our beloved Mandy. I described what I saw and said, “I got nothing.”

Haunting photo I took of Mandy and Sophia...So Beautiful!

It was only later that I found out that Mandy had broken both wrists in the crash and she died pretty instantly. We think she broke her neck which would have caused her to stop breathing. Mandy was already dead by the time I tried to connect with her so the message I got was there was nothing there was accurate. The fact that in my moment of grief that I reached out to Sophia and got such a simple, yet powerful, message, gives me much solace.

This has been a very rough week but also a very POWERFUL one. I want to take from Mandy’s death not the cliché reminder TO ENJOY each moment we are given. We have heard that so many times that maybe we will do that for a few minutes/hours /days but after a while we DEFAULT to the “BUSY”. We don’t like to stay in the uncomfortable. We like to FILL in the gaps of silence with STUFF, THINGS, GADGETS, CALLS, TELEVISION, BUSY WORK, IPADS, IPODS, etc., so we don’t have to be. These pretty shiny things are wonderful in moderation but we have let them FILL OUR EXISTENCE. We don’t know where they begin and we end.

Jamie and Mialotta...two cousins making new memories

The gifts that Mandy has brought me this week are many. I got to CONNECT with her friends and even members from my family that I did not bother to connect with on a deep basis because life was just too busy. Well, DEATH blows the lid off of BUSY!!!!!

Aunt Mimi, Aunt Nini and James

I got to meet and savor some of her beloved friends including James, Danny and Billie. I got to connect with my other niece, beautiful Nicole, and nephew, beautiful Daniel who are much younger and who were in that cloud of grief that many adults don’t understand. It is a hard place for kids to be. Fortunately or unfortunately, I’m a bit of an “expert” on kids and grief so I let my instinct take over. I showed them that I REALLY saw them through a few things we did together. I could see the difference it made for them and it surprisingly made a HUGE difference for me! WHAT A GIFT!!! Now we have pledged to write letters to each other for a whole year. No emails or boxes, just a simple letter written between us. Mialotta and I have already sent the first one. It contained in the letter fun math problems (because Daniel is working on his math skills), stickers and some of the funnier Sunday comics…funny I had not read the Sunday comics in years…I used to LOVE it!!! Yes, another simple gift…AND there were many other gifts…

I got to see my own daughter process some of her grief from her baby sister’s death and that of her beloved artistic cousin. “Whose going to give me hugs and kisses like Mandy does?,” she said sobbing. I got the gift of meeting Mandy’s beloved high school art teacher who is starting a scholarship in Mandy’s memory. 🙂 Mandy would have LOVED that!!! You could easy tell she loved Mandy very much! Amy spoke about how Mandy loved her art and often came back to mentor other kids. I invited Amy to read ButterflyMoms this week. I hope she is reading it right now! 😉

Stan shared his poetry, his memories and his heart

I got the gift of connection with a long-time friend of the family Stan from Manhattan who is a dearheart and whom I’ve gotten to know over the years through FB. I got to connect with some of the family’s old friends/neighbors especially Tonya and Lou who taught me the gift of being present with someone’s grief, with just showing up and holding the space for a bereaved mother to simply cry her heart out for the child she will never again hold. I got the gift of deeply connecting with my brothers-in-law, a studly group of gentlemen with hearts the size of the Empire State Building. I got the gift of connecting to Valerie, Carrie and Evelyn who showed what true friendship and support is all about. I got the gift of connecting with my Sophia on a whole new level that I will continue to explore. There are many, many, many other gifts that I received and even more that I will receive from our beautiful Mandy.

Photo of Mialotta taken by Mandy Heliotis

I cannot change her death but I can live my life in a way that honors what she stood for, all that courage to be authentic, all that passion, all that love, all that vision, all that creativity, all that connection, all that presence. I can increase my AWARENESS of when she is around and how she still influences the world through the magnificence that we call MANDY!

One of Mandy's paintings...sooo much talent!

I invite you to live your life in the present moment and see all the wonderful gifts around you!!! BREATHEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE! 🙂 FEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEL! LLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLOVE!!!!

Great big hugs,

Maariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

The following is a list of places where ButterflyMoms live who bought our wonderful book MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE…

UNITED STATES

California

Anaheim 1

Fullerton 1

Sacramento 1

San Bruno 1

Connecticut

Greenwich 1

Yalesville 1

Kentucky

Louisville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 2

Holliston 11

Hudson 4

Medway 3

North Easton 1

Sherborn 1

South Grafton 1

Watertown 1

Worcester 3

Missouri

Lee’s Summit 1

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

Vermont

Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN

Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

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SHATTERED HEARTS…In Memory of our Beloved Mandy Heliotis!

Dearest Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

This week’s housekeeping issues will be at the end…in honor of our beloved Mandy Heliotis, our shooting star!

Today my heart has been once again shattered into a thousand pieces. I ask that as you enter today’s blog you take eight super-deep BREATHS! 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7 aaaaaand………..8! AHHHHHHHHHHH! Breathing helps you move through the pain of things. It helps you process and stay connected to the meaning instead of just the pain.

On Wednesday morning the phone begin to ring at 3am…at first the news and our state of mind was foggy. There had been a horrific car crash, Mandy, our beloved niece had been badly hurt and had been airlifted. We stopped breathing. We began praying/begging that she be fine to any gods that were listening. A little while later the words you would give anything not to hear…She is dead 🙁 Our beautiful beloved 26 year old niece was ripped out of her life in an instant by a drunk driver who hit them head on. Mandy lived a lot in her short life but she had sooooooooooooo much more living left to do! It seems almost too much to bear. Our hearts feel like they have shattered. To be honest I’m having a hard time deciding to write in the present or past tense and that hurts. I don’t want to use words like SHE WAS. I want to say SHE IS!!!!

Mandy always attended the games of her younger cousins. They adore her!!!

Tears blind me, breath escapes me, my chest tightens, groans come from deep inside. I feel like I want to throw up much of the time now. Thinking about it is sometime too painful. I think about her. I replay Mandy’s last moments. I wish you could have been there to change the outcome. I wish you could have stopped it. I think about her friend who was driving and only got a broken leg. I pray that she does not blame herself. I pray that she is eventually able to heal this event in her life…seems like such a colossal request right now. I think about the last time we saw each other , Mandy and I. I think about the last time we spoke. I feel in awe of the fact that her photo with Sophia was in the News Center 5 piece that Susan Wornick did for ABC. To see it go to www.butterflymoms.com and check out the WATCH section. I spoke to her about it about a week ago. Mandy said she loved it!

Throbbing heartache rips through Mandy’s immediate family, through our families into our extended families and friends. Everyone feels the loss. If you ever met Mandy you would know why. AHHHHHHHHHHHHH Beautiful Mandy! She IS AUTHENTIC and REAL. Mandy had an eye (and a hand) for art and photography. She IS KIND. Even out of her body SHE IS STILL ALL ABOUT LOVE! Mandy honored both the dark and the light sides of herself and at SUCH a young age brought incredible amounts of beauty into the world. When someone does that, you miss them even more. ;( I feel like the world got a little dimmer when her soul left planet earth. I am certainly not the only one!

Our beautiful Mandy

Grief is such a powerful thing. It can cut you at the knees. It affects us on every level if we let it. The parts we cut off from the grief are the parts that will eventually give us or biggest pain. I have learned with Sophia’s death that it all comes in waves…Sometimes I cannot bear living another moment and other times I just feel the love and gratitude for having been loved and had the honor of loving such a magnificent soul!  Mandy, sweetie, you are a MAGNIFICENT SOUL! We miss you already!

I am deeply grateful and deeply humble by all the outpouring of LOVE LOVE LOVE from those of you who sent their condolences! Thank you for reaching out. In lieu of flowers her beloved mom, dad and sisters ask that in lieu of flowers you give a donation in Mandy Heliotis’ name to MADD (Mothers Against Drunk Driving).

Great big hugs,

Maariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS  Here are this week’s important housekeeping issues….

*Thank you to everyone who came last night to the ButterflyMoms Manifestation Class. A special thank you to the beautiful Kerri Miller, the beautiful Denise Gidopoulos, the beautiful Kären Humphrey, the beautiful Gaynor Greenberg, the beautiful Jennifer Burgett and the beautiful Susan Carlson who came to the workshop and helped me deal with my grief by being present with that energy and allowing it to move wherever it needed to go. If you feel stuck or like you want to move forward but keep hitting ROADBLOCKS then come next week to our spectacular workshop. We make it at 8pm so you can put your kids to bed or get out of work with plenty of time to show up. Everyone says they’re learning the tools they can use to start moving towards her heart’s desire! 🙂 The group has asked that we meet again so I’m extending this invitation to you. We’re meeting next Thursday, June 16th, 8pm at 783 Washington St, Holliston. Easy to get to on Route 16 and plenty of FREE parking in back. Cost is only $25 at the door (you still need to pre-register because space is limited) or just $20 if you drop off a check or pay through Paypal… http://bit.ly/mS7c70 . It’s a simple first step…so grab on to it! J

*My computer’s motherboard is still in Wisconsin getting fixed…BREATHE. Sometimes in life things take longer that you expected/wanted but letting go is the best way. I‘ve been without access to my files in almost 3 months and I am just observing and letting go, ESPECIALLY when I feel the Land of Should creep in!!!! 😉

*The www.butterflymoms.com website is still a work in progress. Again, thank you for bearing with me. For right now it is what it is. ;)…Gentle reminder again to SURRENDER! 😉

One book sold this week to the lovely Kat Malone. Thanks beautiful Kat! The following is a list of places where ButterflyMoms live who bought our wonderful book MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE…

UNITED STATES

California

Anaheim 1

Fullerton 1

Sacramento 1

San Bruno 1

Connecticut

Greenwich 1

Yalesville 1

Kentucky

Louisville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 2

Holliston 11

Hudson 4

Medway 3

North Easton 1

Sherborn 1

South Grafton 1

Watertown 1

Worcester 3

Missouri

Lee’s Summit 1

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

Vermont

Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN

Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

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STRIPPING YOURSELF ON MOTHER’S DAY!

Dearest Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

Sometimes it seems that life is stripping you raw. No matter what you try, things that are a deep part of our life fall apart, go “wrong”, break, and/or simply disappear. I have noticed patterns in my life where this happens. I’m in one of those very patterns. It started with my son Christopher accidently spilling water next to my computer. As that glass of water fell, my life’s trajectory shifted into a new direction and I entered into the LAND OF YOU-ARE-ABOUT-TO-LOSE-A-WHOLE-BUNCH-OF –VERY –IMPORTANT-DATA-AND-SPEND-A-LOT-OF-MONEY-AND-TIME-HOPELESSLY-TRYING-TO-FIX-IT! After three weeks of trying to recover it, my hard drive is being flown to Wisconsin to see if they can recover my original mother board (how appropriate with Mother’s Day this weekend). The computer I bought less than 2 weeks ago had a corrupt operating system and I spent a large part of yesterday at Apple with the technicians, talking to my computer guy, looking for files…..Believe I COULD go on and on around this but let’s move to a bird’s eye view of the situation, shall we.

It is PRETTY obvious that I’m being STRIPPED RAW of my technology. I can get into my head very easily. I know I’m doing this because I get into those LIFE MODELS of “WORK-CHORES-KIDS-TV-SLEEP” (not in that order). I carve out very little time to hang out with friends or to read or anything like that. As much as I dislike to admit it, my GREAT TRANQUILIZER is my television and BOY DO I USE IT TO MEDICATE myself. Sure it’s entertaining but when you are lacking sleep and you choose TV over sleep like I do almost EVERY night I know there is an issue. I know I could spend my time more wisely. I know my life would shift in ways I have been dreaming about. (DEEP BREATH HERE)

This is one of those BRIDGE POINTS in life where you begin to SEE what the issue is and then you add CHOICE. Sure I can HIDE from my CHOICE but that is not, not making a CHOICE. As the double negative shows here in this sentence, we cannot be NEUTRAL. Life NEVER stops flowing. Sometimes we want to stop it and say NO but life keeps on flowin’ and the same way you cannot stop the ocean, you cannot stop this rhythm of life so what to do?

Key here is to, as my good friend Keith has been reminding me for the last couple of years, “SURRENDER”. Surrender the fight! Whatever you FIGHT grows. PICTURE that and then take a moment to FEEL it in your body. If your child does not do what you want and you begin to YELL does that make the situation any better really? If you lower your voice and speak to that child does it shift things in a different direction without the ICKIES? If you find yourself in NOT TAKING CARE OF ME MODE is fighting with yourself about how you SHOULD going to help you?

This Mother’s Day consciously TAKE OFF your boxing gloves, STRIP YOURSELF RAW, knowing that you are always safe. As the beautiful Carolyn Myss and Wayne Dyer both say, it is an illusion that we control anything really. We have the power of CHOICE, like WHAT TO FOCUS ON, but the big stuff is out of our hands so instead of STRESSING OUT your whole ride, why not let go and ENJOY IT?

FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY EVER-GROWING HEART…..HAPPY MOTHERS’ DAY!!!!

Great big hugs,

Maariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS No books sold this week. This week buy a copy for you and your best friend Just click here… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U. BE REPRESENTED! This is FUN!

Here is where the books have gone to ButterflyMoms…

UNITED STATES

California

Fullerton 1

Sacramento 1

Connecticut

Yalesville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 2

Holliston 10

Hudson 4

Medway 3

North Easton 1

Sherborn 1

South Grafton 1

Worcester 3

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN

Tokyo  1

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THE LAND of ONE DAY I’LL GET to “IT”….

Happy Friday Morning Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHH MORNING. What is the weather “BEING” where you are? (we always say doing but really the weather is simply being and that is an AWESOME reminder to us, right?) For me after a BITTER cold and snowy winter today promises to be a perfect spring day. The joy of the “singing” birds outside my window tell me that it is so. 🙂 There is a sound I have not heard for a LONG time and it feels wonderful. I HIGHLY suggest that ANY time you have the opportunity to CONNECT with nature, DO IT!!! DO IT!!! DO IT!!

Sooooooo, this morning I am struck by two very different worlds. Every Friday morning I CARVE out the time to write our beloved ButterflyMoms blog. It is effortless, fun and exciting. What is NOT effortless, fun and exciting is the other, growing world AROUND the time I have carved for ButterflyMoms for in that space lives THE LAND of ONE DAY I’LL GET TO IT!!

This is the Land where we stockpile lots of emails, tasks and dreams that we have EVERY INTENTION of doing but just because of the sheer volume we would have to live 527,000 years to get to every project, belated birthday card, friend we mean to visit, item we need to return, recipe we want to try, museum we want to see, trip we want to take, email that begs for a response…..On this Planet Earth adventure we have the limit of time. The society at large thinks that is the worst thing and tries to give us tips on how to CRAM IN MORE. I’m here to tell you to GIVE YOURSELF the FREEDOM to DUMP the hope of ever getting to that list, instead give yourself 15 GOLDEN MINUTES and write down the TOP JUICY things you want to do and DO THOSE FIRST. Most of us are soooooo flooded in our lives that we oftentimes do the HAVE TOs/MUNDANE CRAP (efforting EVERY STEP of the way) instead of FLOWING with the items on our TO DO LIST THAT WE LOVE…. OR AT THE VERY LEAST LIKE! THE BEST FORMULA FOR YOUR TO DO LIST is do the thing you LOVE FIRST, Things you LIKE SECOND and things you TOLERATE THIRD. Most of us do it the other way around and then….well, most of us simply run out of time.

DEEP BREATH HERE TO CLEAR THE ICKIES. REMEMER TO STAY IN WHAT YOU ARE FEELING RIGHT NOW AND NOT HAVE TO FIX IT. BREATHE……………..FEELS GOOD TO JUST BE! 🙂

ROCK ON BUTTERFLYMOMS!!!!!!!!!!! EMBRACE THE GRACE!!!

Great big hugs,

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS Sold five more books this week!!! YAY! One of them all the way to a ButterflyMom in JAPAN!!!!!! So now the beautiful island of Japan is being represented! Soooooo wonderful! Thank you my beautiful friend Joli in Japan! Thank you to Linda in Holliston who put it on her to do list and just kept coming until we were finally there at the same time! Thank you beautiful Darlene in Holliston! I also donated a signed copy to the Sherborn UU Church Auction with a ButterflyMoms stainless steel water bottle (gotta give back, right?) 😉 Thank you beautiful Janine in Holliston for your book order too! I ask that you buy you and your best friend a copy! Just click here… To order now go to http://bit.ly/gRxe4U. Don’t fly under the radar…BE REPRESENTED! This is FUN! The town of Holliston is starting to pull ahead…will no one stop them? 😉

Here is where the books have gone to ButterflyMoms…

UNITED STATES

California

Sacramento 1

Connecticut

Yalesville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 2

Holliston 10

Hudson 4

Medway 3

North Easton 1

Sherborn 1

South Grafton 1

Worcester 3

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN

Tokyo  1

When you buy a book you represent your area. Let’s see where all the ButterflyMoms live!!! :)! This is FUN! To buy your copy Click here now…http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

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RIGHT UNDER OUR NOSES…AN AWARD!

The treasures of the universe are right under our noses. Those of us who like to travel do so because it gives us the ability to see ourselves more clearly.  When we travel to different place we get out of our routines and given the rare opportunity to travel without many of our ASSUMPTIONs and SHOULDs. We see more of our core. One of the biggest missed resources, are the people right under our noses.  We oftentimes get enamored by some big author or star but it’s those people under our noses that carry the most treasure for our hearts. The most magical ones are the ones that most people do not notice if they are moving too fast. I think you know what I mean. If you live mostly in your head you can travel at WARP 3 light speed which SEEMS pretty fast but when you live mostly in your soul you don’t need to travel anywhere because you just think it and you are already there. (SIDENOTE: Can you imagine if housework were like that – that is a working mother’s wet dream!!!!! 😉 ) 

Our beautiful ButterflyMoms... Nancy Senior

Our first "RIGHT UNDER YOUR NOSE AWARD" WINNER!!!

Today I would like to share with you someone who is very special to me. Someone whose heart is one of the biggest ones I know. When I first met her she intimidated me. I could not “figure” her out. That was because I was “processing” her through my head, not my heart. It is my deep honor today to nominate Nancy Ellen Senior as the very first RIGHT UNDER YOUR NOSE AWARD. I asked take the “boring” out of how most “bio’s” are written and write about her SELF as if her life were a roadmap. Could she share some of the points that stand out for her as major gifts/lessons/aha’s. If she could give a gift to all mothers, what would that gift be? My Beautiful ButterflyMoms, it is my deepest honor to present to you, THE Magnificent NANCY ELLEN SENIOR (sound the trumpets)!!!!!!!!!!

A BIO by Nancy Ellen Senior 🙂

I start by feeling what it feels like to be honored.  An honor with someone I love and loves me back is such a big part of my life.  It leads me right into what an honor Life is.  I have had my share of the bad, the sad and the ugly and can still say “Yes, living is an honor.”   If I didn’t have my battle scars I could still feel that this Life is an honor and that is what I most wish all Mom’s got as a gift if they don’t already have it.  Life is an Honor.  That could be all I need to say in my Bio.

I didn’t always think that in those curious times of doubt and pain.  I don’t always think it now but that is in times of being outside of my core.  I don’t travel there very often anymore.

So now there is this interesting request for a map of my life.  I am getting out my crayons and markers; rulers and scissors, oh and glue too.

Nancy as a little girl

The journey began when my Mom said yes to my Dad.  Another child?  Okay.  We will call her Nancy Ellen, sort of after her grandmother, sort of from a name I heard in the park one day.  “And well, Red, we are running out of names as we birth our 8th child.”  So my map includes 7 sisters and 3 brothers.

One of the places on my map is when I was stopped along the way because I was not encouraged and not allowed to be me.  Those you can see colored in gray.  I cut them out of my life but recently glued them back in.  It is hard to know where you are going if you don’t know where you have been.   The trick is not to stay in those gray-dingy places and that is another gift I would love to see all Mom’s open, the gift of not getting stuck in those old dank places, keep moving forward.

Next there is a place marked with sadness, sorrow, confusion, anger and a bit of black, blue and blood.  I have never been able to cut out of my Life map entirely the times when violence reigned down on me though I was able to get off that highway and change directions.  But it is like having pebbles in your tires, not doing any harm but you can hear them.  Well, I just bought myself new tires and there are no more pebbles.  I got them at the FORGIVENESS STORE. 

The place that is seemingly the most dense in my Life map is when I battled breast cancer.  My son was only 13.  I think to every Mom I don’t need to say more.  Leaving my child behind was not an option.  It was the most painful experience ever to see the fear in his young, beautiful eyes.  It was the power I needed to get us through it.

In that “forest” I found the gift of FORGIVENESS.  All these years later I am still turning pages in that book to learn what it is and what it is not.   I am giving my Self the gift every person should receive, FORGIVENESS of oneself.  This is a map separate from the others.  I am putting it in the pocket over my heart.           

The thing I most want to not have in my knapsack as I continue to travel is doubt.  The mileage I can get out my life sinks to a big low when I am carrying doubt with me.   So without doubt I submit this bio of my life.  Here is what I love to share.  We all have a map with all the places we have been.  Some of mine I ran through, I may or may not want to go back.  There are places I have no idea how I got to and places I have no idea how I got out of.  I am a silly, excited girl when I think about the places on my map I have yet to go.  I have CHOICE when I pack my AWARENESS and that allows me the power to change the roads I take and even take others with me from time to time.  So without doubt I am keeping my crayons and markers, scissors and glue, adding in a compass in case I decide (on purpose) to get “lost”.  The little girl inside of me continues to like it best when my feet are bare and whenever I get a cut, it is a gentle reminder of how I am always healing.

Nancy and some of her sisters. She is one of eight "kids"!

Nancy Ellen Senior is a full-spectrum healer who has a wonderful blog. You can receive more of Nancy’s musings and wisdom at http://frontporchhealing.com/

Great big hugs,

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS Special prayer requests go out to ELLIOTT from our blog a few weeks back who just had open heart surgery. Our good wishes and love are you with you beautiful Elliott! I hope you are reading this and know that you have made the world a better place by simply following your heart.

PPS Second special prayer request to the beautiful people of Japan, especially the mothers, who are unable to find food or water for their kids. May all of us find several moments today and for many days to send them as much LOVE LOVE LOVE as we each know how. Our heart goes out to you!!!!!!!

PPPS “Mom Entrepreneur Extraordinaire” Book sales were great last week! My friends got together and sold five more books which was AWESOME! Please take a moment today to support someone’s heart work and add a little more to your own life! It is an example of 21 women who are successful at making money their own way so they can still have time for their kids. People really love the book because it’s ACTUALLY USEFUL!! There are three ways you can buy it.

  1. Send a check for $25 to Maria Salomão-Schmidt, ButterflyMoms 783 Washington Street, Holliston, MA 01746. Let me know how many copies and where you want it sent.
  2. Come buy a copy at 783 Washington Street, Holliston, MA 01746.
  3. Order online right now…http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

The Magic of Elliott Spreads…

Good Morning Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

You’ll never guess who called me last night!? Our beautiful ELLIOTT from last week’s post! I wish I had the technology know-how to take the message from my cell’s VM and transfer it here but for now I think you will get a kick out of me transcribing what his sweet voice said…”Hello Maria this is Elliott. I just wanted to call you and tell you that I read your blog and it was a very nice blog and I was reading the comments. It was very sweet. I guess it does make a difference, you know, encounters like that. As I mentioned it makes ripples and it affects people and those people affect other people. I told my wife about it and she was very pleased. She was very, very pleased. Anyway, I hope to speak to you again and perhaps see you at Starbucks (chuckling) and continue or conversation. You take care and thank you very much, bye-bye.”

It just gives me goosebumps to hear that message again this morning. WOW! It seriously feels like touching MAGIC and the only way to touch magic is to BE PRESENT. If you chase it or try to grab it *POOF* it disappears. The blog last week was one of THE highest rated ButterflyMoms post so far. It touched a nerve in people. It contains what we all seek, L-O-V-E, True Love. To truly LOVE one needs to be fully present. In that moment, Elliott, my daughter Mialotta and I were FULLY IN THE PRESENT HAVING FUN, and that rippled to the baristas behind the counter, and then to all the ButterflyMoms who rippled it to….you let us know!

LOVE is contagious! It’s fun! Many of us  spend hours thinking about the fear of not having enough money or time but how much time do we spend being present with our LOVE. Love for and of anything around you. Many of us cannot access this without realizing this point so we, especially in AMERICA, we hoard. Oh yes we do. Someone observed to me that American garages are filled with sports equipment from every sport you can imagine but do the people really use it, well, no, not most of us but we keep the stuff because….I have been writing ButterflyMoms long enough to know that you can fill in your own answer. YOU KNOW THAT TOO! Each of us has our own answers, we just need to be in the present moment and open to hearing them. Oftentimes we pay others  A WHOLE LOT of money to either confirm what we already know or cover up what we desperately don’t want others to “find” out.

My Four Living Children in Newport for a Day Trip...Did you notice the words above Christopher's head?

Allow me to save you some time and heartache, most people, on some level, think they are either “NOT ENOUGH” or “TOO MUCH”. Some can even feel both things about different parts of their lives. 🙂 When you feel this way and you don’t address it in the present, you will live life in the LAND OF SHOULD filling it up with as much STUFF as you can to find THAT ONE THING THAT WILL FILL YOUR EMPTINESS.

The magic of Elliott has continued growing I wonder where it will take you next…

Great big honkin’ hugs sishtah- friends! (and those brothas from anotha motha who faithfully read ButterflyMoms EVERY Friday! I see you!),

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

ButterflyMoms founder…YAY!

PS We BUTTERFLYMOMS have won our FIRST AWARD!!!! YAY!!!!!!!! (standing ovation!!!) We won the “IRRESISTIBLY BRILLIANT BLOG AWARD given by Rev. Melissa Bennett who writes the blog “Pen, Paper, Prayer”.This is our very first blog award and I am so thankful to Rev. Melissa for thinking of us. In the spirit of generosity, I have also been asked to confer this award upon ten blogs and authors whose work inspires and moves me. Next week I will post our top 10 list. If you have suggestions post them below so that we can promote people who are living their passions! AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! FEELS AWESOME!….like touching magic 😉

PPS  It has been three weeks since my BIG DREAM got delivered to me, the book I helped write called “Entrepreneurial Moms Extraordinaire”!!! I sold FOUR books last week which was much better and zero last week. If you have been meaning to buy yours please do right now! My goal is to sell at least 300 in 2011. The people who have read it love it. I sign every book and wrap it with lots of love! You never know what magic comes to you when you create magic for others! To order now go to http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

Here is where the books have gone to ButterflyMoms…

UNITED STATES

California

Sacramento 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 1

Holliston 6

Hudson 4

Medway 1

Worcester 2

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria  2

ITALY

Rome, Italy     3

When you buy a book you represent your area. Let’s see where all the ButterflyMoms live!!! :)! This is FUN! To buy your copy Click here now…http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

PPS Lots of LOVE being sent to the ButterflyMoms of Wisconsin! :)!

Sitting On Each Other’s Dreams…

Another day of ADVENTURES on Planet Earth Begins! :)!

Good Morning Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

 

Happy Glorious Friday Morning! (ok, I can hear some of you already… MY, Maria you are certainly chipper this a.m.!! 😉 Although it is a currently popular in the American culture to BELIEVE we are not “morning people”, that we don’t really wake up until we get our “beloved” caffeine…MORNINGS ARE ACTUALLY SPECTACULAR times because your brain is still not fully in control of you! This is one place you can start digging for magic in your life. PLAY with EARLY MORNINGS! You heard me Sistah-Friend, PLAY WITH YOUR EARLY MORNINGS! Why? Well, BECAUSE IT IS SOOOOOOOOO FUN! Early mornings are the rare times when you have not slipped back into your HUMAN DOMESTICATION.

Happy Birthday Beautiful Corinne...Here is a photo of ButterflyMoms helping to support one another!

Early Morning From My New England Kitchen Window...

Notice WHAT SIMPLE things REALLY inspires you. Your INTUITION is strongest then because sleeping is like you have been MEDITATING all night so your brain is less likely to interfere. It is a fabulous time to write to see what (or who) comes out. Many times our true self comes out. The fact is that we sometimes pay others who have developed their intuitive/psychic skills but don’t take the time to nurture our own skills.

FROM LAST WEEK…CONNECTING THE THREADS

The assignment last week was to TRY THIS…For the next week either out loud or to yourself when you see someone instead of just saying “HEY” , “HI”, “HOW’S IT GOIN”, WHAT’S SHAKIN’ or HOW’S IT HANGIN’, how about you take a deep breath and say NAMASTE, even if it’s only in your mind. Think of it as a sweet, sweet alignment for your soul….it’s free and fun and is also a deep, magical gift to the others you come across in your day. 😉

How did it work for you? If you did not do it, no worries, take the guilt out of it. Look at it with childlike wonder and see where in your life you have simple, good things that will help activate the life you want. Do you not see these opportunities or just choose not to take them? Explore your unconscious habits. See what you can unlock and release today. Become lighter and happier. Like the song says, “I’m ALREADY THERE, take a look around.” Your happiness is already there you just have to notice and be open to it. :)!

Isabella enjoying her early morning in New England

HAPPY VD! 😉

It’s almost Valentine’s Day and that is the holiday of the heart, the fourth chakra. This chakra is the great connector of your lower self (the part that you don’t want people to see) and your higher self (the part you aspire to live in). The truth is that as the best-selling author Debbie Ford shares in her book Dark Side of the Light Chasers, we need both our dark and our light sides to be complete. The people who try to EXTRACT part of themselves end up doing more damage than not because when you cut off one part you cut off the other too because it’s all about balance. I personally like to know that I have a very healthy dark side that I don’t need to live in but if someone hurts my children or me I can access, fully, at my beckon call. I call it my MAMA BEAR mode. 😉 The KEY is not to LIVE THERE! That is when you are running your system into exhaustion because you are now accessing your fight or flight buttons and taxing the crap out of your organs, like your pancreas, adrenals, thyroid and yes, ladies, even your ovaries. These are all part of your endocrine system. It is part of the FIGHT or FLIGHT system that really was meant for us to access one every 2-3 years but in our society we access “several” times a day. It is one MAJOR way many of us are getting sick. If we were cars it’s like grinding your gears from over-use and not enough maintenance care. I do a fantastic healing for my clients to help them align themselves so it is possible to get out of this cycle. Notice when it happens to you and be gentle with yourself. It is all about noticing and letting go…and asking for help when you need it.

ButterflyMoms in Worcester (yes there are men ButterflyMoms too! 😉

FEED SOMEONE’s SOUL…AND YOUR OWN!

I see sooo many amazing people out there, especially MOMS who are following their passion. Unlike gigantor corporations who have a shitload of resources, loopholes and connections, most small businesses have very little. The one thing we do have is each other. I ask you this week to reach out to someone who inspires you, someone who feeds your soul. Support her business in some way, buy her product even if it’s a small thing, tell three friends about her and ask them to support her, write her a note saying she inspires you. Tap into your own INSPIRATION. In this planet of ours whatever we send our money and energy to we get more of. Many of us are conditioned to go to Target, for example, to buy gifts for people but what about the beautiful ButterflyMoms in town who own small gift stores…go their first. In Holliston there are six options I can think of where I can go right to the owner and tell them my budget and describe the reason for the gift and they oftentimes find me the most amazing items! When you support another’s HEART JOURNEY you automatically give fuel to your own. FEEL HOW GOOD IT FEELS to support someone’s dream! (DEEP BREATH REMINDER: AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!)

The more you question your “SHOULDs” and you will EXPAND your JOY! It feels AMAZING, FAMILIAR, NURTURING, JOY-FULL, and even FUN! Thank you for your part in this wonderful formula we call ButterflyMoms! NAMASTE!

Great big honkin’ hugs to YOU!

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

ButterflyMoms founder…YAY!

PS  It has been a little over a week since my dream got delivered to me, the book I helped write called “Entrepreneurial Moms Extraordinaire”!!! So far I have sold about a book a day. My goal is to sell at least 300 in 2011. The people who have read it love it. If you want to be a part of that love order one now. I sign every book and wrap it with lots of love! You never know what magic comes to you when you create magic for others! To order now go to http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

 

Here is where the books have gone to ButterflyMoms…

UNITED STATES

Massachusetts

Holliston 5

Hudson 4

Worcester 2

Rhode Island

Newport 1

California

Sacramento 1

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria  2

ITALY

Rome, Italy     3

When you buy a book you represent your area. Let’s see where all the ButterflyMoms live!!! :)! This is FUN! http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

 

PPS A special THANK YOU TO the beautiful NANCY SENIOR of FRONT PORCH HEALING for her amazing LOVE and support! What a heart friend! You can check out her blog at http://frontporchhealing.com/

…And Then There Is OPTION #3!

Good Morning Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

It is sooooooooooo wonderful to wake up EVERY Friday morning way before even the sun gets up knowing that I’m going to CONNECT WITH YOU! It feels wonderful knowing I’m feeding so many souls by just being myself! And for you, beautiful ButterflyMoms, when you CONNECT in this manner there is less DEFENSE because you can read slowly or a part of it and then come back to it later. In other words, you can process it at any speed you wish. I like to think of it like a “pitching fork” that is used for aligning notes. When you come to ButterflyMoms and let the words “tune your life” you re-align to your true life’s purpose…and that is why we are all here, after all! It’s as simple and luscious as that! So here we go…

Winter in New England...from my deck.

The last few months have been ovary-busters! WHEW-EW CHILD! Some seriously crazy stuff has been unfolding. Many people did not find it comfortable for me to be in that ICKY PLACE but I did not want to leave it because I had not processed what I was going through. I have not fully left this uncomfortable place but I have found some incredible nuggets of information. The biggest one right now is that I do not have to own what I cannot control.

Sometimes as Moms we put ourselves in the position of God/Goddess/Allah/ Buddha. By this I mean we take on EVERYONE’s issues and make it our own. This is an impossible task that has killed the life force of many of our ancestors. Think about that harsh reality!

I was doing a meditation in my energy medicine school last weekend and I realized that I was guilty of wanting to fix everyone’s problems so that they could be safe….so that I could be safe. My fear of not being safe was so big that I oftentimes did not even check in with the person to see if they wanted my help or not. HELLOOOOO REALITY CHECK! This summer I had three very strong (energetically speaking) individuals do that to me and I can tell you that from the receiving side, it does NOT feel good at all when others try to SAVE YOU WITHOUT YOUR PERMISSION!! ICKY!!!! YUCK!!!!

My girls :)!

My childhood did not exactly teach me about TRUST so now in adulthood I’m sticking in my pinky toe to see if the waters of trust feel right to me. I know there is a large “reward”, amazing treasures, if I can open up, really open up to the magnificence that is all around. Being closed cuts us off from sooooooooooo much cool “stuff”!!! …..and I’m talking about experiences, not things. SIDENOTE: Author Dan Buetner  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dan_Buettner studies real sources of happiness. He quoted a study that the impact of new material things only lasts 9 months but experiences add value over time. 🙂 (and THAT is why ladies and gentlemen that I LOVE to travel!!!!) 😉

So back to this idea of trying to fix everything (hope I did not give you whiplash just now by moving back to the topic from which we digressed 😉 MOMMY MARTYRS DON’T HELP ANYONE! It is a not-so-great way to use your energy and then when you get depleted you get VERY cranky, moody or both and then, much like Godzilla, unleash your wrath unto the closest unsuspecting victims. You and I both now it can get very, very icky because the anger gets so big that you either attack someone else or turn it against yourself. For many of us we don’t know there is a third option, YES my fellow BUTTERFLYMOMS!!! YES, there is a THIRD OPTION and that is to give it away!

When you let go of what you cannot control all you have left is BEAUTY!

Now that I’ve totally confused you allow me to explain…Whenever we run across something that is too much to handle simply do the parts of it that you can, no matter how small or insignificant they feel, and then for the parts you cannot handle simply give them up to….here is where the fun begins. I did a mental exercise where I realized that I could give my ickies or the things that were too big for me to handle to rocks. Yes, you read it correctly, R-O-C-K-S, ROCKS!! In my exercise the rocks actually said “GIVE US YOUR PAIN. GIVE US YOUR HURT. WE LOVE EATING THAT STUFF.” Well, I did and know what? IT FELT AWWWWWWWESOME!!! Yes it did! I felt a huge weight being lifted. I found that it works MUCH better to stop acting like God and simply give it up to Spirit. Something happens where we think we need to do it all ourselves…(how’s that workin’ fer ya?)…..and that is simply not the case. THAT is why we feel so overwhelmed and why we keep trying to fill it with more STUFF!!! Do you see it? Take an aerial view of your life. Can you see where you have done this? Can you see where you do this? Here’s your chance to feed the rocks!!!

Welcome to Option #3! It's all around us!

Now my brain is scared that I just blogged that the rocks spoke to me but in this exercise they did so I’m going outside my comfort zone and letting you know too. Hope it helps some of you out there. I know it might seem silly but SILLY WORKED for me and it just may work for you, plus it’s 1. FREE  2. Does not hurt anyone and 3. No one knows that you are doing it….unless you put it on your own blog!!! 😉

I’m hearing little feet, gotta put on my “Mommy hat”.

Great big honkin’ hugs my lovelies,

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

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ButterflyMoms founder…YAY!

Yes, and she only JUST turned 7!!! 😉

COOL EVENTS SECTION….

This week is the inauguration week for BFMs listing your events all over our planet. Send me your cool events that feed other ButterflyMoms’ Souls by Wed to have them included in Friday’s ButterflyMoms blog…

MASSACHUSETTS

– From one of OUR ButterflyMoms, Nancy Senior in Worcester, MA…This Saturday, January 29th and Sunday 30th all day, it’s the Three Rivers Building Community Retreat! Come experience many different treatments demos including Reiki, Healings, Massage, Yoga, Raw foods and more. Affordable and fun! For more info: www.threeriversbuilding.com . I’m going with my girls Sat morning! Come join us!

– From one of OUR ButterflyMoms, Betty Ripley, Holliston, MASewing 101 Class. Come learn how to sew in a class environment that is supportive and fun. The way Betty knows how to teach a class it simply just another form of meditation. The four week class starts Monday, January 31, 7-9pm for $75. I’m taking the class too! For more details call Maria 617.877.3616. Betty is also teaching a quilting class and has kids’ classes.

– From one of OUR ButterflyMoms, Becky Geer-Linnell, Medway, MAKniting 101 & Beyond Class. Just like the sewing class this is an incredibly fun way to connect to yourself by doing something that human being have been doing for thousands of years. Come learn how to knit in a wonderful environment. The four week class starts Tuesday, January 31, 7-9pm for $75. For more details call me 617.877.3616.

ButterflyMoms ROCK! (get it?!) 😉

– From one of OUR ButterflyMoms, Maria Salomão-Schmidt, Holliston, MA AND ALL OVER THE WORLD!Stitch n’ Bitch Get Together at Doug Sent Me Green Cleaners in the downtown of an idyllic New England town called Holliston, Massachusetts. It was sooooo incredibly cathartic. It was so wonderful that the people who came asked if we could do it again in two weeks instead of a month. If you don’t live close enough to Holliston to come Thursday, Feb 3 from 6-8pm then join your own group. Building community is another way we feed our soul and it’s FREE! For more info go to their official site…. http://stitchnbitch.org/

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