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RIGHT UNDER OUR NOSES…AN AWARD!

The treasures of the universe are right under our noses. Those of us who like to travel do so because it gives us the ability to see ourselves more clearly.  When we travel to different place we get out of our routines and given the rare opportunity to travel without many of our ASSUMPTIONs and SHOULDs. We see more of our core. One of the biggest missed resources, are the people right under our noses.  We oftentimes get enamored by some big author or star but it’s those people under our noses that carry the most treasure for our hearts. The most magical ones are the ones that most people do not notice if they are moving too fast. I think you know what I mean. If you live mostly in your head you can travel at WARP 3 light speed which SEEMS pretty fast but when you live mostly in your soul you don’t need to travel anywhere because you just think it and you are already there. (SIDENOTE: Can you imagine if housework were like that – that is a working mother’s wet dream!!!!! 😉 ) 

Our beautiful ButterflyMoms... Nancy Senior

Our first "RIGHT UNDER YOUR NOSE AWARD" WINNER!!!

Today I would like to share with you someone who is very special to me. Someone whose heart is one of the biggest ones I know. When I first met her she intimidated me. I could not “figure” her out. That was because I was “processing” her through my head, not my heart. It is my deep honor today to nominate Nancy Ellen Senior as the very first RIGHT UNDER YOUR NOSE AWARD. I asked take the “boring” out of how most “bio’s” are written and write about her SELF as if her life were a roadmap. Could she share some of the points that stand out for her as major gifts/lessons/aha’s. If she could give a gift to all mothers, what would that gift be? My Beautiful ButterflyMoms, it is my deepest honor to present to you, THE Magnificent NANCY ELLEN SENIOR (sound the trumpets)!!!!!!!!!!

A BIO by Nancy Ellen Senior 🙂

I start by feeling what it feels like to be honored.  An honor with someone I love and loves me back is such a big part of my life.  It leads me right into what an honor Life is.  I have had my share of the bad, the sad and the ugly and can still say “Yes, living is an honor.”   If I didn’t have my battle scars I could still feel that this Life is an honor and that is what I most wish all Mom’s got as a gift if they don’t already have it.  Life is an Honor.  That could be all I need to say in my Bio.

I didn’t always think that in those curious times of doubt and pain.  I don’t always think it now but that is in times of being outside of my core.  I don’t travel there very often anymore.

So now there is this interesting request for a map of my life.  I am getting out my crayons and markers; rulers and scissors, oh and glue too.

Nancy as a little girl

The journey began when my Mom said yes to my Dad.  Another child?  Okay.  We will call her Nancy Ellen, sort of after her grandmother, sort of from a name I heard in the park one day.  “And well, Red, we are running out of names as we birth our 8th child.”  So my map includes 7 sisters and 3 brothers.

One of the places on my map is when I was stopped along the way because I was not encouraged and not allowed to be me.  Those you can see colored in gray.  I cut them out of my life but recently glued them back in.  It is hard to know where you are going if you don’t know where you have been.   The trick is not to stay in those gray-dingy places and that is another gift I would love to see all Mom’s open, the gift of not getting stuck in those old dank places, keep moving forward.

Next there is a place marked with sadness, sorrow, confusion, anger and a bit of black, blue and blood.  I have never been able to cut out of my Life map entirely the times when violence reigned down on me though I was able to get off that highway and change directions.  But it is like having pebbles in your tires, not doing any harm but you can hear them.  Well, I just bought myself new tires and there are no more pebbles.  I got them at the FORGIVENESS STORE. 

The place that is seemingly the most dense in my Life map is when I battled breast cancer.  My son was only 13.  I think to every Mom I don’t need to say more.  Leaving my child behind was not an option.  It was the most painful experience ever to see the fear in his young, beautiful eyes.  It was the power I needed to get us through it.

In that “forest” I found the gift of FORGIVENESS.  All these years later I am still turning pages in that book to learn what it is and what it is not.   I am giving my Self the gift every person should receive, FORGIVENESS of oneself.  This is a map separate from the others.  I am putting it in the pocket over my heart.           

The thing I most want to not have in my knapsack as I continue to travel is doubt.  The mileage I can get out my life sinks to a big low when I am carrying doubt with me.   So without doubt I submit this bio of my life.  Here is what I love to share.  We all have a map with all the places we have been.  Some of mine I ran through, I may or may not want to go back.  There are places I have no idea how I got to and places I have no idea how I got out of.  I am a silly, excited girl when I think about the places on my map I have yet to go.  I have CHOICE when I pack my AWARENESS and that allows me the power to change the roads I take and even take others with me from time to time.  So without doubt I am keeping my crayons and markers, scissors and glue, adding in a compass in case I decide (on purpose) to get “lost”.  The little girl inside of me continues to like it best when my feet are bare and whenever I get a cut, it is a gentle reminder of how I am always healing.

Nancy and some of her sisters. She is one of eight "kids"!

Nancy Ellen Senior is a full-spectrum healer who has a wonderful blog. You can receive more of Nancy’s musings and wisdom at http://frontporchhealing.com/

Great big hugs,

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS Special prayer requests go out to ELLIOTT from our blog a few weeks back who just had open heart surgery. Our good wishes and love are you with you beautiful Elliott! I hope you are reading this and know that you have made the world a better place by simply following your heart.

PPS Second special prayer request to the beautiful people of Japan, especially the mothers, who are unable to find food or water for their kids. May all of us find several moments today and for many days to send them as much LOVE LOVE LOVE as we each know how. Our heart goes out to you!!!!!!!

PPPS “Mom Entrepreneur Extraordinaire” Book sales were great last week! My friends got together and sold five more books which was AWESOME! Please take a moment today to support someone’s heart work and add a little more to your own life! It is an example of 21 women who are successful at making money their own way so they can still have time for their kids. People really love the book because it’s ACTUALLY USEFUL!! There are three ways you can buy it.

  1. Send a check for $25 to Maria Salomão-Schmidt, ButterflyMoms 783 Washington Street, Holliston, MA 01746. Let me know how many copies and where you want it sent.
  2. Come buy a copy at 783 Washington Street, Holliston, MA 01746.
  3. Order online right now…http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

The Magic of Elliott Spreads…

Good Morning Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

You’ll never guess who called me last night!? Our beautiful ELLIOTT from last week’s post! I wish I had the technology know-how to take the message from my cell’s VM and transfer it here but for now I think you will get a kick out of me transcribing what his sweet voice said…”Hello Maria this is Elliott. I just wanted to call you and tell you that I read your blog and it was a very nice blog and I was reading the comments. It was very sweet. I guess it does make a difference, you know, encounters like that. As I mentioned it makes ripples and it affects people and those people affect other people. I told my wife about it and she was very pleased. She was very, very pleased. Anyway, I hope to speak to you again and perhaps see you at Starbucks (chuckling) and continue or conversation. You take care and thank you very much, bye-bye.”

It just gives me goosebumps to hear that message again this morning. WOW! It seriously feels like touching MAGIC and the only way to touch magic is to BE PRESENT. If you chase it or try to grab it *POOF* it disappears. The blog last week was one of THE highest rated ButterflyMoms post so far. It touched a nerve in people. It contains what we all seek, L-O-V-E, True Love. To truly LOVE one needs to be fully present. In that moment, Elliott, my daughter Mialotta and I were FULLY IN THE PRESENT HAVING FUN, and that rippled to the baristas behind the counter, and then to all the ButterflyMoms who rippled it to….you let us know!

LOVE is contagious! It’s fun! Many of us  spend hours thinking about the fear of not having enough money or time but how much time do we spend being present with our LOVE. Love for and of anything around you. Many of us cannot access this without realizing this point so we, especially in AMERICA, we hoard. Oh yes we do. Someone observed to me that American garages are filled with sports equipment from every sport you can imagine but do the people really use it, well, no, not most of us but we keep the stuff because….I have been writing ButterflyMoms long enough to know that you can fill in your own answer. YOU KNOW THAT TOO! Each of us has our own answers, we just need to be in the present moment and open to hearing them. Oftentimes we pay others  A WHOLE LOT of money to either confirm what we already know or cover up what we desperately don’t want others to “find” out.

My Four Living Children in Newport for a Day Trip...Did you notice the words above Christopher's head?

Allow me to save you some time and heartache, most people, on some level, think they are either “NOT ENOUGH” or “TOO MUCH”. Some can even feel both things about different parts of their lives. 🙂 When you feel this way and you don’t address it in the present, you will live life in the LAND OF SHOULD filling it up with as much STUFF as you can to find THAT ONE THING THAT WILL FILL YOUR EMPTINESS.

The magic of Elliott has continued growing I wonder where it will take you next…

Great big honkin’ hugs sishtah- friends! (and those brothas from anotha motha who faithfully read ButterflyMoms EVERY Friday! I see you!),

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

ButterflyMoms founder…YAY!

PS We BUTTERFLYMOMS have won our FIRST AWARD!!!! YAY!!!!!!!! (standing ovation!!!) We won the “IRRESISTIBLY BRILLIANT BLOG AWARD given by Rev. Melissa Bennett who writes the blog “Pen, Paper, Prayer”.This is our very first blog award and I am so thankful to Rev. Melissa for thinking of us. In the spirit of generosity, I have also been asked to confer this award upon ten blogs and authors whose work inspires and moves me. Next week I will post our top 10 list. If you have suggestions post them below so that we can promote people who are living their passions! AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! FEELS AWESOME!….like touching magic 😉

PPS  It has been three weeks since my BIG DREAM got delivered to me, the book I helped write called “Entrepreneurial Moms Extraordinaire”!!! I sold FOUR books last week which was much better and zero last week. If you have been meaning to buy yours please do right now! My goal is to sell at least 300 in 2011. The people who have read it love it. I sign every book and wrap it with lots of love! You never know what magic comes to you when you create magic for others! To order now go to http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

Here is where the books have gone to ButterflyMoms…

UNITED STATES

California

Sacramento 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 1

Holliston 6

Hudson 4

Medway 1

Worcester 2

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria  2

ITALY

Rome, Italy     3

When you buy a book you represent your area. Let’s see where all the ButterflyMoms live!!! :)! This is FUN! To buy your copy Click here now…http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

PPS Lots of LOVE being sent to the ButterflyMoms of Wisconsin! :)!

Sitting On Each Other’s Dreams…

Another day of ADVENTURES on Planet Earth Begins! :)!

Good Morning Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

 

Happy Glorious Friday Morning! (ok, I can hear some of you already… MY, Maria you are certainly chipper this a.m.!! 😉 Although it is a currently popular in the American culture to BELIEVE we are not “morning people”, that we don’t really wake up until we get our “beloved” caffeine…MORNINGS ARE ACTUALLY SPECTACULAR times because your brain is still not fully in control of you! This is one place you can start digging for magic in your life. PLAY with EARLY MORNINGS! You heard me Sistah-Friend, PLAY WITH YOUR EARLY MORNINGS! Why? Well, BECAUSE IT IS SOOOOOOOOO FUN! Early mornings are the rare times when you have not slipped back into your HUMAN DOMESTICATION.

Happy Birthday Beautiful Corinne...Here is a photo of ButterflyMoms helping to support one another!

Early Morning From My New England Kitchen Window...

Notice WHAT SIMPLE things REALLY inspires you. Your INTUITION is strongest then because sleeping is like you have been MEDITATING all night so your brain is less likely to interfere. It is a fabulous time to write to see what (or who) comes out. Many times our true self comes out. The fact is that we sometimes pay others who have developed their intuitive/psychic skills but don’t take the time to nurture our own skills.

FROM LAST WEEK…CONNECTING THE THREADS

The assignment last week was to TRY THIS…For the next week either out loud or to yourself when you see someone instead of just saying “HEY” , “HI”, “HOW’S IT GOIN”, WHAT’S SHAKIN’ or HOW’S IT HANGIN’, how about you take a deep breath and say NAMASTE, even if it’s only in your mind. Think of it as a sweet, sweet alignment for your soul….it’s free and fun and is also a deep, magical gift to the others you come across in your day. 😉

How did it work for you? If you did not do it, no worries, take the guilt out of it. Look at it with childlike wonder and see where in your life you have simple, good things that will help activate the life you want. Do you not see these opportunities or just choose not to take them? Explore your unconscious habits. See what you can unlock and release today. Become lighter and happier. Like the song says, “I’m ALREADY THERE, take a look around.” Your happiness is already there you just have to notice and be open to it. :)!

Isabella enjoying her early morning in New England

HAPPY VD! 😉

It’s almost Valentine’s Day and that is the holiday of the heart, the fourth chakra. This chakra is the great connector of your lower self (the part that you don’t want people to see) and your higher self (the part you aspire to live in). The truth is that as the best-selling author Debbie Ford shares in her book Dark Side of the Light Chasers, we need both our dark and our light sides to be complete. The people who try to EXTRACT part of themselves end up doing more damage than not because when you cut off one part you cut off the other too because it’s all about balance. I personally like to know that I have a very healthy dark side that I don’t need to live in but if someone hurts my children or me I can access, fully, at my beckon call. I call it my MAMA BEAR mode. 😉 The KEY is not to LIVE THERE! That is when you are running your system into exhaustion because you are now accessing your fight or flight buttons and taxing the crap out of your organs, like your pancreas, adrenals, thyroid and yes, ladies, even your ovaries. These are all part of your endocrine system. It is part of the FIGHT or FLIGHT system that really was meant for us to access one every 2-3 years but in our society we access “several” times a day. It is one MAJOR way many of us are getting sick. If we were cars it’s like grinding your gears from over-use and not enough maintenance care. I do a fantastic healing for my clients to help them align themselves so it is possible to get out of this cycle. Notice when it happens to you and be gentle with yourself. It is all about noticing and letting go…and asking for help when you need it.

ButterflyMoms in Worcester (yes there are men ButterflyMoms too! 😉

FEED SOMEONE’s SOUL…AND YOUR OWN!

I see sooo many amazing people out there, especially MOMS who are following their passion. Unlike gigantor corporations who have a shitload of resources, loopholes and connections, most small businesses have very little. The one thing we do have is each other. I ask you this week to reach out to someone who inspires you, someone who feeds your soul. Support her business in some way, buy her product even if it’s a small thing, tell three friends about her and ask them to support her, write her a note saying she inspires you. Tap into your own INSPIRATION. In this planet of ours whatever we send our money and energy to we get more of. Many of us are conditioned to go to Target, for example, to buy gifts for people but what about the beautiful ButterflyMoms in town who own small gift stores…go their first. In Holliston there are six options I can think of where I can go right to the owner and tell them my budget and describe the reason for the gift and they oftentimes find me the most amazing items! When you support another’s HEART JOURNEY you automatically give fuel to your own. FEEL HOW GOOD IT FEELS to support someone’s dream! (DEEP BREATH REMINDER: AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!)

The more you question your “SHOULDs” and you will EXPAND your JOY! It feels AMAZING, FAMILIAR, NURTURING, JOY-FULL, and even FUN! Thank you for your part in this wonderful formula we call ButterflyMoms! NAMASTE!

Great big honkin’ hugs to YOU!

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

ButterflyMoms founder…YAY!

PS  It has been a little over a week since my dream got delivered to me, the book I helped write called “Entrepreneurial Moms Extraordinaire”!!! So far I have sold about a book a day. My goal is to sell at least 300 in 2011. The people who have read it love it. If you want to be a part of that love order one now. I sign every book and wrap it with lots of love! You never know what magic comes to you when you create magic for others! To order now go to http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

 

Here is where the books have gone to ButterflyMoms…

UNITED STATES

Massachusetts

Holliston 5

Hudson 4

Worcester 2

Rhode Island

Newport 1

California

Sacramento 1

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria  2

ITALY

Rome, Italy     3

When you buy a book you represent your area. Let’s see where all the ButterflyMoms live!!! :)! This is FUN! http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

 

PPS A special THANK YOU TO the beautiful NANCY SENIOR of FRONT PORCH HEALING for her amazing LOVE and support! What a heart friend! You can check out her blog at http://frontporchhealing.com/

…And Then There Is OPTION #3!

Good Morning Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

It is sooooooooooo wonderful to wake up EVERY Friday morning way before even the sun gets up knowing that I’m going to CONNECT WITH YOU! It feels wonderful knowing I’m feeding so many souls by just being myself! And for you, beautiful ButterflyMoms, when you CONNECT in this manner there is less DEFENSE because you can read slowly or a part of it and then come back to it later. In other words, you can process it at any speed you wish. I like to think of it like a “pitching fork” that is used for aligning notes. When you come to ButterflyMoms and let the words “tune your life” you re-align to your true life’s purpose…and that is why we are all here, after all! It’s as simple and luscious as that! So here we go…

Winter in New England...from my deck.

The last few months have been ovary-busters! WHEW-EW CHILD! Some seriously crazy stuff has been unfolding. Many people did not find it comfortable for me to be in that ICKY PLACE but I did not want to leave it because I had not processed what I was going through. I have not fully left this uncomfortable place but I have found some incredible nuggets of information. The biggest one right now is that I do not have to own what I cannot control.

Sometimes as Moms we put ourselves in the position of God/Goddess/Allah/ Buddha. By this I mean we take on EVERYONE’s issues and make it our own. This is an impossible task that has killed the life force of many of our ancestors. Think about that harsh reality!

I was doing a meditation in my energy medicine school last weekend and I realized that I was guilty of wanting to fix everyone’s problems so that they could be safe….so that I could be safe. My fear of not being safe was so big that I oftentimes did not even check in with the person to see if they wanted my help or not. HELLOOOOO REALITY CHECK! This summer I had three very strong (energetically speaking) individuals do that to me and I can tell you that from the receiving side, it does NOT feel good at all when others try to SAVE YOU WITHOUT YOUR PERMISSION!! ICKY!!!! YUCK!!!!

My girls :)!

My childhood did not exactly teach me about TRUST so now in adulthood I’m sticking in my pinky toe to see if the waters of trust feel right to me. I know there is a large “reward”, amazing treasures, if I can open up, really open up to the magnificence that is all around. Being closed cuts us off from sooooooooooo much cool “stuff”!!! …..and I’m talking about experiences, not things. SIDENOTE: Author Dan Buetner  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dan_Buettner studies real sources of happiness. He quoted a study that the impact of new material things only lasts 9 months but experiences add value over time. 🙂 (and THAT is why ladies and gentlemen that I LOVE to travel!!!!) 😉

So back to this idea of trying to fix everything (hope I did not give you whiplash just now by moving back to the topic from which we digressed 😉 MOMMY MARTYRS DON’T HELP ANYONE! It is a not-so-great way to use your energy and then when you get depleted you get VERY cranky, moody or both and then, much like Godzilla, unleash your wrath unto the closest unsuspecting victims. You and I both now it can get very, very icky because the anger gets so big that you either attack someone else or turn it against yourself. For many of us we don’t know there is a third option, YES my fellow BUTTERFLYMOMS!!! YES, there is a THIRD OPTION and that is to give it away!

When you let go of what you cannot control all you have left is BEAUTY!

Now that I’ve totally confused you allow me to explain…Whenever we run across something that is too much to handle simply do the parts of it that you can, no matter how small or insignificant they feel, and then for the parts you cannot handle simply give them up to….here is where the fun begins. I did a mental exercise where I realized that I could give my ickies or the things that were too big for me to handle to rocks. Yes, you read it correctly, R-O-C-K-S, ROCKS!! In my exercise the rocks actually said “GIVE US YOUR PAIN. GIVE US YOUR HURT. WE LOVE EATING THAT STUFF.” Well, I did and know what? IT FELT AWWWWWWWESOME!!! Yes it did! I felt a huge weight being lifted. I found that it works MUCH better to stop acting like God and simply give it up to Spirit. Something happens where we think we need to do it all ourselves…(how’s that workin’ fer ya?)…..and that is simply not the case. THAT is why we feel so overwhelmed and why we keep trying to fill it with more STUFF!!! Do you see it? Take an aerial view of your life. Can you see where you have done this? Can you see where you do this? Here’s your chance to feed the rocks!!!

Welcome to Option #3! It's all around us!

Now my brain is scared that I just blogged that the rocks spoke to me but in this exercise they did so I’m going outside my comfort zone and letting you know too. Hope it helps some of you out there. I know it might seem silly but SILLY WORKED for me and it just may work for you, plus it’s 1. FREE  2. Does not hurt anyone and 3. No one knows that you are doing it….unless you put it on your own blog!!! 😉

I’m hearing little feet, gotta put on my “Mommy hat”.

Great big honkin’ hugs my lovelies,

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

ButterflyMoms founder…YAY!

Yes, and she only JUST turned 7!!! 😉

COOL EVENTS SECTION….

This week is the inauguration week for BFMs listing your events all over our planet. Send me your cool events that feed other ButterflyMoms’ Souls by Wed to have them included in Friday’s ButterflyMoms blog…

MASSACHUSETTS

– From one of OUR ButterflyMoms, Nancy Senior in Worcester, MA…This Saturday, January 29th and Sunday 30th all day, it’s the Three Rivers Building Community Retreat! Come experience many different treatments demos including Reiki, Healings, Massage, Yoga, Raw foods and more. Affordable and fun! For more info: www.threeriversbuilding.com . I’m going with my girls Sat morning! Come join us!

– From one of OUR ButterflyMoms, Betty Ripley, Holliston, MASewing 101 Class. Come learn how to sew in a class environment that is supportive and fun. The way Betty knows how to teach a class it simply just another form of meditation. The four week class starts Monday, January 31, 7-9pm for $75. I’m taking the class too! For more details call Maria 617.877.3616. Betty is also teaching a quilting class and has kids’ classes.

– From one of OUR ButterflyMoms, Becky Geer-Linnell, Medway, MAKniting 101 & Beyond Class. Just like the sewing class this is an incredibly fun way to connect to yourself by doing something that human being have been doing for thousands of years. Come learn how to knit in a wonderful environment. The four week class starts Tuesday, January 31, 7-9pm for $75. For more details call me 617.877.3616.

ButterflyMoms ROCK! (get it?!) 😉

– From one of OUR ButterflyMoms, Maria Salomão-Schmidt, Holliston, MA AND ALL OVER THE WORLD!Stitch n’ Bitch Get Together at Doug Sent Me Green Cleaners in the downtown of an idyllic New England town called Holliston, Massachusetts. It was sooooo incredibly cathartic. It was so wonderful that the people who came asked if we could do it again in two weeks instead of a month. If you don’t live close enough to Holliston to come Thursday, Feb 3 from 6-8pm then join your own group. Building community is another way we feed our soul and it’s FREE! For more info go to their official site…. http://stitchnbitch.org/

Buy the book to feed your entrepreneurial soul!

PS  WONDERFUL NEWS!!! My first book “Entrepreneurial Moms Extraordinaire” was shipped on Monday!!! For ButterflyMoms who order it online it is discounted to $19.99 for ButterflyMoms (down from $25). Please order a copy and recommend to your online friends. Click here to buy, and post the link on your Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, …. http://bit.ly/gRxe4U. WHEW WHO!!!!!!!!

The GIFT OF OPRAH REJECTING ME…

Beautiful Sophia's First (and only) Birthday

Good Morning Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

We all have goals that get SHATTERED at some point. It’s what you do with the pretty shiny pieces that either shuts down your life or gives it a wonderful new road to take.  One of my goals has been to be ON the Oprah Show. I’ve had that dream for over 20 years. It comes more from my gutt than my head, if that makes sense to you. I have had a few cool near misses to connect with Oprah….Like back in the 1900’s 😉 I interviewed to host a show on her network OXYGEN and made it to runner-up. ARGHHHHHHH SOOO CLOSE!!!!! 😉 Most recently I applied to be a host of my own show on Oprah’s new network, OWN. I did not even make it to the top 40. Did I lose? Did I get the results I wanted? The ending I wanted SHIFTED into something else. What I learned from the experience  was to:

1. Ask for what I want. I had to go WAY outside my comfort zone to ask people for help to create the video I needed some said “no” but some said “YES!” too!

2. Carve out time for the things that are important to me. Waiting to do these things until everything else is done is not a life anyone wants to live, the proof is all around you!

3. Be flexible in what comes at you. See things as useful feeback so that you can flow vs stand stiff. You gain more power that way as long as you know what your main goal/passion is. It just might look different that when you first saw it, simply adjust and move forward.

4. Put yourself out there. You’ll NEVER regret putting yourself out there but you will regret (and play over and over and over in your head) what would have been if you had taken that one chance.

5. Naysayers are just part of the journey. Don’t take them personally. Even when you find something you love, that fills you, you will run into people (or they will run into you! 😉 ) who want to kill your dream. They think they are being “helpful” but really they are just speaking to you out of fear – Fear that you will fail and get hurt. Fear that you will succeed and they will be stuck without their dream. Wish them well and send them on their way….without your energy! You need your energy to be present to all the wonderful things that are coming your way!

Larry Bird and Magic Johnson

I saw a special on ESPN about a month ago about Larry Bird vs Magic Johnson and how they fed off each other. They played a better game because they had someone with whom to bounce off their greatness! Oprah is like that for me, for many of us I suspect. She allows us to dream big, bigger, biggest. She is totally playing on planet Earth testing all sorts of limits to see what she can create with the time she has left. She is my LB/MJ!!!! Thinking of her gets me in MY ZONE, that of being the fire that ignites people’s souls. Because of her I am able to visit “being in my zone” more often. From that place we have built ButterflyMoms into one of THE most beloved blogs…..Here are the official stats of what you have helped to create…..

 

 

 

 

FROM THE OFFICIAL WORDPRESS FILES…..

The stats helper monkeys at WordPress.com mulled over how this blog did in 2010, and here’s a high level summary of its overall blog health:

Healthy blog!

The Blog-Health-o-Meter™ reads Wow!!!

Crunchy numbers

Featured image

A Boeing 747-400 passenger jet can hold 416 passengers. This blog was viewed about 11,000 times in 2010. That’s about 26 full 747s.

In 2010, there were 85 new posts, growing the total archive of this blog to 93 posts. There were 260 pictures uploaded, taking up a total of 296mb. That’s about 5 pictures per week.

The busiest day of the year was August 3rd with 248 views. The most popular post that day was CONNECTING AGAIN…(AND a call from THE Oprah Show!).

Where did they come from?

The top referring sites in 2010 were facebook.com, butterflymoms.com, twitter.com, hollistonreporter.com, and linkedin.com.

Some visitors came searching, mostly for kelly davidson pappas, kids having fun at the zoo, nancy barton blog hopkinton, best wedding advice you ever received, and “lara fyfe”. ( I don’t get this part at all.)

Attractions in 2010

These are the posts and pages that got the most views in 2010.

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CONNECTING AGAIN…(AND a call from THE Oprah Show!) July 2010
22 comments

2

The Depths of a Mother’s Desperation – Part Two August 2010
10 comments

3

The Betrayal Of A “Friend”… December 2010
12 comments

4

IT IS TIME…..To WALK THE WALK…. September 2010
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Honoring One of Our Beautiful ButterflyMoms Who Died Last Week… July 2010
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IT’S MARIA AGAIN….

I only started the blog in May, seven months ago, and look how far we have come! I hope you have LOVED coming here. Mark your calendar. I write EVERY Friday. CARVE out time to come here to partake in the sacred that will help you feed your soul. Doing it alone SUCKS! You already know that! It only drains you. Thanks for helping us ButterflyMoms to this wonderful level! Talk about win-win!!!! YAY! Your being here CREATES CONTAGIOUS MAGIC!!! There a many more of us out there who could use our help so instead of sending a card send them the opportunity for them to get into their zone. Share  www.butterflymoms.com with them! (To share today’s blog with others: http://butterflymoms.wordpress.com/2011/01/07/the-gift-of-oprah-rejecting-me/)

BTW, here’s a little secret….(whispering) being on the Oprah Show is not dead yet!….I still talk to one of the producers every couple of weeks and you just never know!!! :)! (no longer whispering) KEEPIN’ HOPE ALIVE!!!

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS Big things are happening for 2011!!! YAY!!!!!!

My first book!!!!

My first book will be coming out at the end of January. It’s called Entrepreneurial Moms Extraordinaire. If you would like to pre-order a copy please let me know. They are normally $25 but I am including a special price for ButterflyMoms for $19.99. If you buy two I will also include the shipping! This is an extremely proud and happy event for me because I’ve been trying to do it for 20 years!!!

I opened my own healing practice called The Sophia Center on  January 1. If you have something in your life that you need help shifting either body-wise or life-wise I am here to help you. For the month of January I will be reducing the rate of $80 for 50 minutes to only $60 for a 50 minute session. Buy a five-pack of sessions and get another $25 off (only $275). If interested please me an email to maria@butterflymoms.com so you can book an appointment and start the year off with someone who has your back!! It would be a total honor to work with you!

YOUR ANGEL OR YOUR DEVIL?

We have this wondeful Christmas tradition of walking to get our Chritsmas tree! Another wonderful gift from living in beautifuul Holliston!

Dearest ButterflyMoms,

Every Friday when I sit at my computer I am met with a flood of ideas and voices all crowding each other to be heard. My first reaction is to feel overwhelmed. What happens next is critical. I have one of two choices. One, I can “stand down”, which is a cool line I picked up from watching action movies, which means I can abandon my writing, OR, two, I can choose to surrender. What do I mean by surrendering? In surrendering I simply sit back, change my breath pattern (feels like taking a big sigh, sometimes even two or three…depends on the day), and asking, much like that 70’s gameshow, “Will the real ______ please stand up.” In this case I’m asking for help from the universe to guide me to write towards “my best and highest good”.

Once I make that request I’m given only the very first part of what to write about. I surrender again as I feel my mind creep in with “helpful” suggestions. There is a place for your mind but, in writing, I find that REALLY good writing happens only when your brain serves as background information help and not the main writer. The main writing, at least for me, comes from spirit. It’s so fun for me to write, because I never know how it’s going to turn out.

About two weeks before Sophia died. This was at her first birthday party which was an incredibly magical day!

The very first time I experienced this (that I am super conscious of) was the morning I awoke after my little girl Sophia’s sudden death. As I was sleeping I started getting a stream of words  coming through. I tried to ignore it but I had a DEEP KNOWING that I would not remember it later and that it was important that it be shared. My mind was still semi-asleep as my soul guided my body downstairs to my desk and began to write as fast as I could to catch up to the words that were streaming in. Those were the words that I later read at her funeral and can be found here…. http://www.becauseofsophia.com/whoissophia.asp#Letter

The universe is always channeling energy through you. You have sooooo many resources around you that if you STOPPED to REALIZE it you would be amazed, delighted and humbled. Today, slow down, listen to your inner voice, use your breath. Do it consciously. For some because you don’t do this very often you might get the voice of fear/judgment. That is the ego! It is only happy when it is controlling you. It can only control you if you forget that your ego is NOT YOU! Remember in the Tom & Jerry or Bugs Bunny cartoons when you saw the devil and the angel on the character’s shoulder? The devil is the ego. It is only happy if you are not. Here’s where most people get lost in the mix, judging or punishing the ego only makes it stronger. The only way to get rid of it is to BRING GENTLE AWARENESS to it. Realize that it is not you but your fears. Realize that when the ego is on YOUR TRUE SELF cannot be. The TREASURE of who YOU really are is buried underneath that layer of icky. This is not “good” or “bad”, it is just the reason for why your life is the way it is. All you have to do is ACTIVATE CHOICE. Is this how I want to live my life? YES, stay the same. NO, then shift to breath and awareness of the present moment, like me and my writing, you will be given only the next step. Trust in that. Sit back, activate your breath and ACTIVATE YOUR NOW! The only power we have is in the present moment. This season of gift-giving give yourself the gift of ACTIVATING YOURS.

I thank you for showing up in your own life. If you have been attracted to our wonderful ButterflyMoms blog the universe is sending you a message that your soul already knows. Create from it what you need to. About 1,000 readers come to ButterflyMoms every week to feed their souls. Thank you for being a part of this wonderful community! As we all continue to celebrate this magical holiday season I wish you much AWARENESS in your life so that your pure JOY can come streaming in! MERRY EVERYTHING!

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂 

PS In this season of giving sometimes the best gifts are those that don’t cost anything. Give someone the gift of ButterflyMoms but just sending them the link…. www.butterflymoms.com and telling them to check out the blog section. Feed your friends’ and family’s souls for free! :)!

PPS Please help me support my dream, the one Sophia helped me push forward. After so much struggling and excuses, I am sooooooooooooooooooooooooo thrilled that my dream of writing a book is finally come true!!! It’s been TWENTY YEARS in the making!!!! Entrepreneurial Moms Extraordinaire is the amazing wisdom of 21 entrepreneurial moms who are passing on their knowledge to those who don’t have time for beating around the bush! We all need to make money NOW and live our lives well NOW. This book will definitely help in a very profound way! It’s coming out at the end of January. It will be $25 but if you pre-order it now you get it for only $19.99. Of course I will autograph it for you too! J Send me an email at maria@butterflymoms.com and I will send you the order form. YOU WILL LOVE IT!!!!

YOGA IN DAH HOUSE!!!!

Hello Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

YOGA feeds YOUR SOUL...even if you only do it 3 minutes/day!!

So, how is your life’s journey so far? How are you feeling? Take some deep, deep, deep breaths. How are you REALLY feeling?  BREATH is even more basic and important than even exercising! Yup you read that right. Think about it. When you are FEELING STRESSED if you pay attention to your breath it is usually very short. One way to get back into YOUR zone is to take deep, deep breaths. Just like when you learned how to walk, you were not good at it at first, but then you got the hang of it and now you don’t even remember not walking. Breath is the same way except some of us are only “crawling” with our breaths thinking that is all there is to breathing…..Au contraire, ma chère!!!!  There is a lot more to learn about how your breath, something you do every second of every day can help you connect with your happiness!

Kids are NATURAL Yogis. Do Yoga and it will bring back some of the fluidity of a child's body! IT FEELS SOOOOOOOOOO GOOD!!!

For years a tried to breathe better on my own and nothing worked until I started taking yoga classes. Now, I’m just putting it out there that IN MY EXPERIENCE yoga on the east coast is VERY different from yoga on the west coast (California, for example). On the west coast people tend to NOT have music or students talking during class. It is a time to be quiet and connected with yourself. Carving out a time like that in my week was absolutely GROUNDING and ENERGIZING. On the east coast, where people tend to be more conservative, in general, it is amazing to me that it’s very different, not in EVERY place, but in a lot of places. I would call it THREE-QUARTERS YOGA, almost there but that last piece of quiet and meditation is replaced by  aerobics class mentality. If you have taken yoga and not really connected, explore other places. I used to do mine at an ASHRAM in San Francisco that at first freaked me out because it had pictures of bearded guys in turbans all over the place. Growing up very Catholic this was a warning sign. My fear meter was through the roof but I was with my roommate, at the time, who I totally trusted so I tried it. Somewhere in the class my fear disappeared and amazing beauty and calm replaced it. That was about 15 years ago and it has made a HUGE difference in my life!!!! If you want a bigger SHIFT into your alignment start experimenting with local yoga classes. You get to support a local entrepreneur who is following their path, while getting wonderful benefits for you mind, body and soul! A TOTAL WIN-WIN!!!

PS I ABSOLUTELY LOVE “YOGA DANCE”. It is a GREAT, GREAT, GREAT yoga to take your kids of all ages to and dance around with lots of fun dancing and some occasional yoga moves thrown in. For me it’s more of a fun dancing event but everyone loves it, especially your kids who see YOUR CHILD-SIDE come out and PLAY!!!

GREAT BIG HUGS,

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS Remember to come back for your daily SOUL FOOD…..and for goodness sakes share it with friends! MWAH!

It’s ANTI-AMERICAN to Have a Small Refrigerator… BUT LITTLE FRIDGE = BIG LIFE!

Dearest ButterflyMoms,

I am super excited today! I hardly slept! Yet another article came out about our Oprah adventure! It’s in the Business Section of the Boston Globe.  I’m only in there for a short, non-descript two paragraphs, but as least I’m thankful my name showed up. :)!

Checking in with myself I’m finding that I’m riding today’s roller coaster of WHAT-IF LAND with its terrifying highs of “What if I make the first cut?” and the earth-shattering lows of “What if I don’t make it?” Yes, even though I write the ButterflyMoms blog, I am only human 😉

Potting Training in Portugal....A Great Mommy Grounding Reminder!

I found out (from reading the article) that they will most likely announce the finalists today, at least the top five from the votes. Ahhhhhhhhhh, being in the moment right now is a challenge because I keep slipping into the Land of What-If! In this state I tend to start eating or watching more TV or some other behavior that brings me OUT OF MY ZONE, the land of everyone’s “HOLE-Y-NESS”. Again, when I bring AWARENESS to it, (meaning I observe without judging me or the situation), I don’t need to do anything else, it just goes away. STRESS, is not real. Repeat after me, STRESS is NOT REAL but its side effects are! Pay attention to what your body is telling you, instead of getting angry at the symptoms. Look for the cause! Plus, in my case, it also helps to be potty training a two year old while all this is going on! Nothing like baby “peepies” and “poopies” to bring you back to earth! :)!!! Thanks Isabella! 😉 (DEEP BREATHS EVERYONE) :)!!!!

As I sit here writing in my Aunt’s home I am surrounded by my family’s history. They moved here to Alameda das Linhas Torres (how’s that for a street name ;)) in the Lumiar section of Lisboa WAY before I was even born. At the time this street was the Hollywood section of the era and there were many film companies here. The rest was all fabulous farming estates that have now been replaced by high-rise apartment buildings. One thing that has not changed here is how people shop for food! Ahhhh the food here……………..YUMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM!

In the US, we buy in bulk, even if we think we don’t, we do compared to Europe. In the US, we buy food that will last a long time because we have set up society where we buy a lot at once, that is why we have enormous fridges…and oftentimes another fridge in the garage or basement – am I right?! No judging, just noticing and then asking, “Is this how I want to live my life.” (deep breath here just for fun) 😉

Your Fridge is the Gateway to your Life! It says a lot of about how you LIVE your life, or don't. This is our Mame's fridge in Portugal! The perfect size for LOVE!

If we really thought about it we would realize that for “normal” food to last a long time, “they” need to do something to it for that to happen. We are sooooo busy that we don’t think we just mindlessly buy a week or two or three’s worth of food. Here, people have small refrigerators. By “here” I mean most of the world. 😉 The result is that the food here is AMAZINGLY FRESH! The best example is tomatoes. My aunt made me a tomato salad that was sooooo good I asked her what salad dressing she had used. She said “just salt”! WHAT! JUST SALT?! Needless to say I eat it at EVERY meal! It is sooooooo yummy! I’ve even been secretly scheming about how to bring a case of it back! 😉 (Just kidding US Department of Agriculture! 😉

The title of today’s blog is about re-looking at life from what we assume is PERMANENT. Having a large fridge means you probably have a life that involves more food that is genetically modified and processes so it can last longer and be more resistant to travel. According to the Department of Energy, refrigerators tend to use the most electricity in a house. Even if you have a big fridge I ask that you consider pretending you have a little one and live like our cousins do around the world. Here we go food shopping every day or every other day and it’s actually FUN because we are in and out. If we all did this the quality of our food would dramatically change….and then maybe we could all enjoy those magical tomatoes with a pinch of salt! Mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm! HEAVEN!!!

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS   I had no idea that yesterday’s toys topic would have such a huge response! I will write more about that topic soon because there is a lot more to write about.

PPS  Please keep the comments coming. We have about 100 people a day who consistently read our ButterflyMoms blog, but only a small number of people write. Please leave your comments. It helps the quality of the blog and increases the energy that makes it a even better place for us to feed our souls daily!

PPPS  I invite you to keep inviting your friends, posting it online or basically just spreading the word about ButterflyMoms. It’s a simple way we can ease the lives of Mommies (and Daddies who come here every day too for their soul food). Just tell them to go to www.butterflymoms.com and go to the blog section! 😉

PPPPS If you want to read today’s Boston Globe article go to…. http://www.boston.com/ae/tv/articles/2010/07/09/a_casting_call_from_oprah/

Excuse Me!

Our little ones are watching how we live our life lesssons....or don't. 🙂

Dearest ButterflyMoms,

I soooo enjoy connecting with you every time I write. I often imagine an “army” of amazing ButterflyMoms out there who sometimes feel alone and disconnected. You give away your power when you are in that “un-zone”. Always remember that you are NEVER alone. When you feel totally alone it is because your brain has been answering questions that do not serve you. What questions? Questions like: “How could I have been so stupid?”, “What is wrong with me?”, “Why does nothing seem to go right for me?”, “Why is my life so boring?” or some version of these.  NOW let’s all utter a “CANCEL! CANCEL!” to all the questions you just read!!!  😉 Your BRAIN is basically a computer and it answers the questions you FEED it. Our society in general tends to ask more “negative” questions than positive ones. For some of us those questions are such habit for us that they are almost unconscious. Someone probably said it to you a long time ago, that person is no longer there but you have incorporated the questions.

Here’s a very silly example of something I used to do. It seems that in my 20’s I was always apologizing to everyone and everything. I started noticing that I even apologized to FURNITURE immediately after bumping into it!!! WOW! You read it right, FURNITURE!!!! When you are IN something sometimes you don’t see it. Give yourself the GIFT of NOTICING what is going on for you and how you are AUTOMATICALLY reacting to situations. How you react is a direct reflection of what is going on in your head. What had to be going on in my head and self-esteem for me to apologize to furniture? Now that I am past that life lesson it seems VERY odd to me that someone (ME!) would apologize to furniture when they bumped into it but that is where I was mentally at the time. As Maya Angelou says, “When I know better, I do better.” 🙂  I LOVE MAYA ANGELOU!!! She is such a GLOBAL AUNTIE:)!

Being kind to yourself as you go through life’s lessons is one of THE fastest and most fun ways to GET THROUGH the lessons! Bring awareness to your life. You will start seeing examples around you to help you GET THE LESSON. The Universe/God/Allah/Buddah/Goddess whatever you believe is there like your very own personal Genie to help your dreams come true. Bring awareness to your thoughts of LIMITATION. Bring awareness to your thoughts of ABUNDANCE. Which of these two do you give the most value? Which of these two do you give your energy? Which of these two do you give your time? The answers give you the life you lead right now. If you want any part of that life to change, change your answers…………. 🙂 !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Great big hugs,

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

 PS Invite a friend or two to read ButterflyMoms. :)! They will feel good and so will you!

HELP! THE STRESS MONSTER IS AT MY DOOR!!

Hello Beautiful ButterflyMoms!

After a month of writing pretty much every day the last week has been a bit off. The Oprah contest has taken up a lot of the time I usually write here. I’m also leaving today for Portugal with my three little ones for the summer so these two things have side-swiped me a tad. Let me re-phrase that. I CHOSE to spend my time on other things. I wish I had more time! There are soooooo many COOL things to do in the world! I look forward to the time when I can get paid for writing because I LOVE it and wish I could do more of it.

As I am packing for a seven week adventure, I find myself constantly getting off my “zone” and into total “HALF EMPTY” mode. Every time I do something sixteen more things pop up and my heart starts to race, the kids get more annoying, I start moving more quickly, my voice gets louder… I’m going into panic mode. THE FEAR races in the form of questions…..”What am I forgeting?” “How will I get all this done?” “How much time do I have left?” “Why didn’t I do this earlier?”…you get the drift. Without AWARENESS the day turns from “BAD” to “WORSE” and most of us don’t even realize it, and that is THE SECRET, REALIZE IT!!!! It’s right there under our noses. It’s not hard to do. All we have to do is NOTICE, BREATHE and RE-FOCUS on HALF-FULL.

So for me in this situation right now, I can CHOOSE to shift back into my zone by remembering that whatever I give out I will get back. This blog today is actually more for me because I actually just had to MINDFULLY SHIFT myself back to what I want my life to look like. The direction we are “sailing” in and the ATTITUDE we are “wearing” today DIRECTLY AFFECTS the quality of our day. Today as you read this YOU have a choice. If you don’t choose,  just like with sails on a boat, you are giving the direction of your life to forces outside of yourself. So later when you hit the rocks, hard, you wonder, like in the Talking Heads song, “HOW DID I GET HERE?” You gave up your power by not noticing.

Start today. Start where you are. Let go of the control. Enjoy the steps. There is no place to “arrive”, that is a big, ugly, fat ‘ole MYTH! Don’t believe the hype my beautiful ButterflyMoms! Have fun today! Embrace your now! Use your feelings to see if you are in your zone or not! Surround yourself with people and things that you LOVE in the core of you! Do something VERY silly today. Then do it again! 😉 Notice nature. You will have so much fun and it’s a “natural” way to re-connect with yourself. When you notice nature you will notice that your breath changes, your heartrate changes. The STRESS MONSTER has a VERY hard time sticking around when you are truly NOTICING NATURE. Go outside right now wherever you are (unless you are on a plane ;)) and go Notice, Touch, Smell, Feel…maybe even TASTE! It’s always been there waiting for you to notice…. :)!

Great big hugs,

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

YOU can be a part of the legacy! Please help!

PS  ONLY THREE DAYS LEFT TO VOTE!!!!!  As some of you know, I’m on an incredible journey following my life’s mission and passion, being the FIRE THAT IGNITES PEOPLES’ SOULS. Oprah is starting a new network and she has put out a contest to find a talkshow host. My Show Idea is called THE MARIA SHOW. I ask you to please go here :), see my video 🙂 and vote for me as many times as you can :)… http://myown.oprah.com/audition/index.html?request=video_details&response_id=13674&promo_id=1

Also a really cool article was written about this journey yesterday. If you want to check it out here it is….

http://www.metrowestdailynews.com/news/x2071995078/Holliston-mom-hopes-to-join-Oprahs-network

You can help me on my quest by:

1. VOTE for THE MARIA SHOW (as many times as you can each day until July 3)

2. SHARE with family and friends. One ButterflyMom, Rebecca, is even hosting a Wine and Click Party in honor of the cause where moms bring their laptops and vote! Sooo cool! Use your creativity. THANKS REBECCA!!!

3. POST on your FB, website, Twitter, MySpace, blog,…..

Here is the link again: http://myown.oprah.com/audition/index.html?request=video_details&response_id=13674&promo_id=1

I hope you come play with the other BUTTERFLYMOMS and ME!!!! THANK YOU SOOOOOOOOO MUCH!

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