Hello Beautiful ButterflyMoms,
I truly believe that everything or everyone that enters your life is a sign, a reflection of what you need to “learn” or of what you are putting out. This week I had some very ICKY things happen. Add to that lack of sleep (we had to get up at 3:00am to drive to NY) and it was a RECIPE FOR MAJOR “LEARNING”. (Can you see me with my fingers in the shape of an “L” on my forehead? 😉
When something ICKY happens I used to just shut down, get mad, blame the other person, talk about how unfair this was, etc. You get the idea. I still do that sometimes but it’s for shorter periods because when I NOTICE I’m in that world, I see how very painful it is for me. Pain is a very helpful motivator.
When I NOTICE I check in with myself. I often am in situations where I want to be liked. It is a very strange thing for me. When I lived in San Francisco I used to be a pretty good public speaker. I got asked to speak all over the world including Japan, Philippines, Portugal, Israel, Los Angeles, New York and Toronto.
One day I was the keynote speaker for a conference in San Francisco in front of 700 people. Just before the talk the master of ceremonies (M.C.) told me to cut my speech by a third because they had run out of time with the other speakers. I’m not really great about the concept of “time” when I speak because when I speak I lose track it. Well, I guess I cut it too short for their liking. When it was over I had about 30 people in line who wanted to ask me questions, get autographs or just let me know how much they enjoyed my talk, then the M.C. came over to tell me what a horrible job I had done and what a bad speaker I was. I am sad to admit it but his comments CRUSHED me. I stopped speaking after that in public. Someone had OUTED me. They had seen what I believed deep inside, that I was a bad speaker… at least that was my fear and we all know what FEAR is, right? FEAR is nothing but “FALSE EVIDENCE APPEARING REAL”. (Deep breath) Even now it still gets me how I gave my power away like that.
If I look at my whole life so far, I can see that faceless M.C. is a gift to me. Yes, he can also be a curse but there is no helpful lesson in that perspective. It still exists but you can only pick one perspective and I choose to see him as a gift. I find it INCREDULOUS that even though I have met THOUSANDS of people since I interacted with him and he sticks out so prominently. Ahhhh the fear of not being good enough! That wicked saboteur has kept me small for much of my life. It does not make me feel good at all.
So this week someone who is in my life sent me a very angry letter. Let’s call her Alice. I specifically spoke my truth in a way in a letter that ignited her FEAR/ANGER. She lambasted me. Alice called me names. She told me how mean and disgusting I was. Initially it hurt but then I checked in with it and asked what Byron Katie, “Is it true?” Some things were true. Some things belonged to me, most of it belonged to her. Alice was not in a space of listening. When I felt “hurt” by what she wrote, I was also not truly “listening”. I attracted this incident in my life so there is a gift, in fact, I believe the ickier it is the more of a gift it is.
It is important to remember that other people’s happiness is NONE OF OUR BUSINESS. Contrary to how most of us were “domesticated” by society it is not our responsibility to make others happy. What I have found is checking in with myself, remembering to nurture myself is fundamental. It’s like building a solid structure, you have to start with the main beam and then go from there. Each one of us is the main beam in our lives. Today as you go about your life, remember to start with you.
Getting rid of what does not feel right/good to you, even though you are supposed to do it, is the first step in a really wonderful life, no matter who likes you or does not. There is YOUR SHIT and THERE SHIT… keep the two separate at all times… and for goodness sakes when you notice your shit… DUMP IT!!!! 😉 (pun intended)
Great big hugs,
Take a moment and FEEL YOUR LIFE for a moment. Let the ICKIES fall away. Embrace the love. Forgive yourself for not living the perfect life your mind has tricked you into thinking you should be living. Just be. That is all that is needed for happiness.
WHAT IS BUTTERFLYMOMS?
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*Every Thursday Night we have a BUTTERFLYMOMS SOUL SUPPORT GROUP at 783 Washington Street in Holliston, MA at 8pm that feeds your soul. They started after Maria manifested her dream…with the help of Sophia…to be a guest on THE OPRAH WINFREY SHOW and every week since she had done the SOUL SUPPORT GROUP on Thursday nights. There was only supposed to be one workshop but people kept asking to be able to come the next week and the next week and the next week until a whole year has gone by!!!!Any questions call my cell at 617.877.3616.
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