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Today Would Have Been Her 12th Birthday…

Fenway Park a week before about a week after Sophia’s first birthday.

Beautiful ‘Coach Me Maria’ Yummy Heart,

Every May 12 is different. Some are celebrations. Some are uneventful. Some are sad. Some just slip by… This one SUCKS, in fact, it’s been sucking for weeks now. The heart-wrenching sadness, I thought time would take care of, has had a resurgence this year. I’ve been crying for weeks so much so that my eyelids might be in a permanent state of puffy. Why? Well, it’s partly the deplorable state of the world… partly that even babies on this planet die… mostly because I wish I could bring her back.

Our beautiful our beloved Sophia died suddenly on June 22, 2006 for physical reasons no one, even today, understands. It was completely unexpected. It gutted us. It was extra hard because our little girl had just joyously celebrated her first birthday!

What a GLORIOUS day that was! Sophia was the happiest kid and it was super easy to fall in love with her. She had Downs and that just brought her level of LOVE to a whole new level. IT WAS SOOOOOO AWESOME TO BE AROUND THAT KIND OF LOVE! People literally came from all over the world for her birthday! Her life was a HUGE CELEBRATION… a month later Sophia lay dead in our arms. This can be such a cruel planet! A total gut punch that seems to revisit me whenever the mood strikes it. It leaves me heartbroken and in pieces.

Quite honestly, I am sick of crying. Occasionally I blocked the crying because what’s the use? Will it bring Sophia back???? After a while it’s just plain depressing and quite honestly lonely. Dead babies. Who wants to talk about that? And who wants to be around you when you are that sad? To be honest, the answer is not a lot of people. I am tired of hiding my feelings because people are so very uncomfortable about death, especially a baby’s death. They don’t know what to say. Many avoid us. They think we are “weird.” The reality is, they are right. It’s true. We are! When your child suddenly dies something in you shifts… in “icky” ways… but also in “magical” ones.

I realize I’m not honoring anyone by focusing on the icky so I begin looking for other ways to give meaning to Sophia’s amazing life. Parents often find ways to honor their beloved’s child life… like create a scholarship, dedicate a bench or start a race/event in that person’s honor… These did not feel like things that would honor Sophia’s short life.

I DID NOT FIND IT… IT FOUND ME!… (Actually it STALKED me!)
Way before Sophia was born I had been an international business and life coach. After her death I became a different kind of coach. I started channeling… and processing some AMAZING information having to do with our energy body, which most people know almost NOTHING about. It’s the kind of information that people so desperately need right now. As I say in my book Finally FULL Of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA “Pain is part of life, suffering is optional.”

For almost ten years, my way of honoring Sophia was to write a blog. That blog was seen by Oprah Show producers and that was one of the reasons I got to be on two Oprah Shows! People were so very inspired by the blog that I kept writing. Every Friday for five years I wrote through pregnancies, temper tantrums, snow storms, clients, miscarriages, broker exams, arguments, business meetings, breast feedings, vacations… At first it took me the whole day to do the blog. By the end I could write a really powerful one within 20 minutes. Isn’t it amazing what happens when we FOCUS?

I wrote NO MATTER WHAT, because it was my sacred time to be with Sophia. I felt I could honor her, by helping others. It felt indescribably amazing when people, even total strangers, would write and say that what I had written changed their life. Breath-giving!

From all that writing came a calling to write a book. I was really bad at that too at first… So bad that I burned the first, second and third fully written manuscripts I had written, because they were not in alignment with the magical connection I have with Sophia… Finally, after 10 years in November of 2016… just days after the election, Finally FULL Of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA was unleashed into the world! It is the book that was calling to me!

For 10 years, I could not understand why it took so very long for the book to “come” but when it came out just days after the shocking election of the 45th president of the United States, I knew that everything is indeed divine… even when it does not make sense to us! Finally FULL Of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA captures the love vibration that Sophia and I still share. It’s a gift to the world downloaded here by me… an accidental writer with a big, sensitive heart and a geeky personality. #geeksunite #scienceisreal

This life is ugly, very ugly… but it is also magical. When we get stuck in the ugly… we live the the curse side. When we are able to shift our focus, we can live out the gift. That is the core definition of happiness.

Look, let’s be clear… happiness is not a straight line. Ugly still happens. Ugly will never not happen. It’s a part of this planet but it does not mean I have to move in! Each day I feel what I feel and remember to choose my focus. I invite you today to do the same. Take a moment… especially when the UGLY hits… and CHOOSE.

So today as I am reminded that I GET TO CHOOSE THE GIFT… I suddenly realize as I write this that this is the first birthday that the book Finally FULL Of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA is done… not almost… or just another re-write… or just one more round of edits… but DONE, DONE, DONE!!!

This is not about a product, it’s about a legacy. It’s a tool that helps people realize why they bothered to get a body in the first place! Countless people have told me how much the book is making a difference in their lives!

It makes my heart sing for joy to know that each time someone buys, recommends, gifts, opens, underlines, remembers, quotes, shares, reviews, learns, posts, lends, orders Finally FULL Of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA the LOVE VIBRATION on Mother Earth grows just a wee bit more! (That’s why I’m always writing LOVE RISING in my posts!)

Took this birthday photo this morning. We have this butterfly gate in front of our house in honor of our sweet girl Sophalicious!

I feel the information in the book is my way I’m honoring Sophia. In her name, I get to help make the world a better place one heart at a time. It’s sometimes ugly/messy work but so well worth it!

This weekend is also Mother’s Day in the States (last weekend in Europe)… and I could not think of a better post that this one to share with you. When I started it I had no idea where it was going… (I’m getting better at surrendering to what shows up) … but it ended in LOVE! HAPPY MOTHER’s DAY!

Happy Birthday Beautiful Sophia! I THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart for choosing me to be your mamã. I LOVE YOU with all my heart! Beijinhos amor! Parabens!

Weirdmaste,                                                           Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa de Lourdes Cerveira Salomão-Schmidt www.coachmemaria.com                                                                            The birthday girl’s mamã  🙂

HOW YOU CAN HELP…

HELP SPREAD SOPHIA’s LOVE… I turn 50 on May 29th and I have a goal to get at least 50 Amazon reviews for Finally FULL Of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA. Guess what?! We’re up to 42!

GROW THE LOVE by leaving your review. It’s super easy!… https://www.amazon.com/Finally-Full-Yourself-Unlocking-Spiritual/product-reviews/0998191213/ref=cm_cr_dp_d_ttl?ie=UTF8&reviewerType=all_reviews&sortBy=recent#R1T2S8B9VMNRHZ

 

Where to buy Finally FULL Of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA…

ONLINE

  • Amazon… https://www.amazon.com/dp/0998191213/ref=rdr_ext_tmb
  • Barnes & Noble… http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/finally-full-of-yourself-maria-salom-o-schmidt/1125253329?ean=9780998191218

IN STORES

  • Barnes & Noble or any bookstore… Call to pre-order. Takes about 2-3 days.

IN MASSACHUSETTS…

  • Cambridge… The Harvard Bookstore  
  • Holliston… Coffee Haven and Fiske’s General Store 
  • Medfield… Holistic Wellness Center 
  • Medway… TC Scoops and The Enchanted Fox 
  • Natick… Five Crows 
  • Newton… Boston College Bookstore                                                                             
  • Walpole… She Breathes 

If you have a favorite local bookstore suggest they carry it. I’d love, love, love to come do a book signing and/or workshop at your local bookstore!

This is a grassroots LOVE MOVEMENT that only grows when you spread the word.

Read it! Review it! Share it!

LOVE RISING!

Are You Feeding Your FEAR OF MONEY?

Feeding the LOVE is the only way to grow your wings... wings give you the FREEDOM you seek... and that seeks you!

Feeding the LOVE is the only way to grow your wings… wings give you the FREEDOM you seek… and that seeks you!

Hello Beautiful Coach Me Maria Loves!

There is fear all around us. What happens when we are living mindless, unconnected lives, we think that fear is feedback. The fear becomes the BOUNDARY of our life. We don’t ever want to touch or feel it so we live deep within our life’s box…cramped, small, just within the “I’m ok.” limits. Everyone else around us does it too so we think this IS LIVING.

This is how you feed fear. You make it your master. The illusion is that if you stay within that ‘box’, you will be “safe”.

NEWSFLASH #1: There is no “SAFE” on planet earth! WE ALL DIE! Yup! We are all going to die and the kicker is that none of us knows when. HA! What a crazy ride this is, eh?  This is no new news but it is something most of us ignore or surppress. So knowing you are going to DIE ANYWAY what keeps you soooooo small?

This week I’ve been working a lot on the HAPPY ME! Retreat in Portugal that’s going on Oct 4-9th. It breaks my heart a bit that sooooo many people who need it say “no” but then spend money on other things that still keep them stuck and stagnant.

Click here to see this week's video.

Click here to see this week’s video.

NEWSFLASH #2: MONEY IS JUST ANOTHER FORM OF ENERGY. What you focus on show up stronger and bigger in your life. Money is one of the number one reasons why say most people don’t do something. Their lives are literally formed by what they think they can afford. What they think they can afford is directly linked to one’s idea of self-worth and value.

NEWSFLASH #3: NOTHING IS GOING TO SHIFT UNLESS YOU DO. The bottom line is that you get to choose the “channel” you live on. When something in your life comes up that ignites your soul, how open are you? Do you explore the idea? Do you truly consider it? Or do you resign yourself to not having enough money…. The wouldn’t it be nice, but I cannot afford that. Just notice when you do it. Notice where you are feeling the feeling. Notice and move through it. YOU ARE THE ONE WHO IS CONSTANTLY DESIGNING YOUR LIFE. Choose with intention, remembering that you are universal LOVE. The only time you are not flowing with abundance and love is when you block it out… thus feeding the fear.

Check out this week’s COACH ME MARIA video blog for more about feeding the fear! This one I recorded a while ago but it is being released fresh now because the content is so relevant to so many.

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS Many people have said they are interested in the HAPPY ME! Retreat in stunning Portugal BUT the money comes up as a typical stumbling block. If they came they have told me they know they would have INCREDIBLE LIFE SHIFTS, and yet they don’t give themselves that gift. If you are brave enough to come you’ll realize that the fear of the money is NOTHING compared to the AMAZING LIFETIME VALUE this trip will have on transforming your life into your alignment. I’ve updated the photos and added more information so check it out and open to the possibilities of raising the vibration of your life. Check it out at www.coachmemaria.com/portugalretreat

WHAT HAS BUTTERFLYMOMS MEANT TO YOU?

Four of my six children... all gifts from the heart! (even when I forget that they are!!!! 😉

Hello Beautiful ButterflyMoms Community!

We are a few weeks away from the “official” three year anniversary of the ButterflyMoms blog. Writing the blog is something I have done no matter what at least EVERY Friday since then…those who know me personally know how rare that is for me to have that kind of commitment. It has been an act of love, humility and magic. It feels wonderful that I touched thousands of people’s lives by just SHOWING UP AS ME…my MBA brain still finds that a little hard to “understand”.

As I write and news of ButterflyMoms has spread, instead of things getting BIGGER, they have actually gotten SMALLER and SLOWER. Savoring each comment that people write, Touching the pain of having lost Sophia physically but finding a way to still connect to her essence and beauty, Hearing feedback of how others have started their own journey because they see the courage I have put into mine, Sharing my Oprah Winfrey Show adventures, Introducing you to amazing people along the way, Schlepping my book sales stories and creating a list of where they have sold, Getting inspired to start the ButterflyMoms Soul Support Group, Putting on magical retreats that fill us with such wonderful abundance and link us with our unique joys!….the joys I have attracted into my life because I have CARVED out SACRED SPACE every Friday has added such depth to my life. It has transformed in my own way of connecting with SOURCE ENERGY (what people call God, Allah, Buddha, etc.)

If you are reading this you are part of the magic space that is ButterflyMoms. Whether it is your first of hundredth time here, it is pretty amazing that out of all the NOISE in the world, you have tuned into this source…one whose intention is to FEED YOUR SOUL. There is no real “advertising” yet thousands of people still find there way here… that is just soooooo MAGNIFICENT! (sigh)

So over the next few weeks as we end the 3 year anniversary and step into the 4th year of ButterflyMoms I am asking for your stories, your ideas, your connections. One of the biggest ways we all leak energy is that people who are touched by something at ButterflyMoms either don’t share it with anyone or they send me a private email. Each week up to 2,000 people read the blog yet few leave any comment. Over the next few weeks I ask that you comment so that you can unleash the trapped energy in your life. Think of it as an exercise for your heart. Remember that each week I open my heart and share what I find inside. For this to happen I have to turn off my brain and let my heart speak. I know there are some VERY POWERFUL stories out there. I have heard some of them yet many others have not. That is a lot of wasted inspiration. Whether yours is powerful to you or not is the mind creeping in again…(Nice try brain! We are on to you! 😉 Take a moment now, don’t filter, don’t wait until later, just sit down and ask yourself and type the answers to… WHAT HAS THE BUTTERFLYMOMS BLOG MEANT TO ME? WHAT MAKES ME KEEP COMING BACK? WHAT HAS BEEN ONE OF THE MOST POWERFUL LIFE LESSONS FOR ME? WHAT SHIFTS HAVE A MADE IN MY LIFE?

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

P.S. Please help me support my dream! … It’s been TWENTY YEARS in the making! The book “Entrepreneurial Moms Extraordinaire” is the amazing wisdom of 21 entrepreneurial moms who are passing on their knowledge to those who don’t have time for beating around the bush! We all need to make money and live our lives well NOW YOU WILL LOVE IT! Please order the book now and join the hundreds of happy readers before you who took the leap of faith in helping someone grow…http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

WHAT IS BUTTERFLYMOMS?
ButterflyMoms is a community of people who realize they are souls first and human being second. They want to explore more about themselves, to find out what makes them happy and how they can lead a life of purpose. It is simply about FEEDING YOUR SOUL. Although it has the name “MOMS” in the title it is more about being nurturing to your own transformation, as the butterfly is to its own metamorphosis. This community is led by Maria Salomão-Schmidt whose transformation was ignited by the birth and death of her BELOVED thirteen month old daughter Sophia (Sophalicious), the original butterfly.

*Every Thursday Night we have a BUTTERFLYMOMS SOUL SUPPORT GROUP at 783 Washington Street in Holliston, MA at 8pm that feeds your soul. They started after Maria manifested her dream…with the help of Sophia…to be a guest on THE OPRAH WINFREY SHOW and every week since she had done the SOUL SUPPORT GROUP on Thursday nights. Any questions call my cell at 617.877.3616.

*Every Friday Morning, as a way of honoring her daughter Sophia’s soul, Maria gets up at 4:30-5:00am to write the weekly BUTTERFLYMOMS BLOG. Hundreds of people read it every week to feed their souls. Maria started writing the blog in May 2009 and has written EVERY Friday since. Tell your friends… http://butterflymoms.wordpress.com

WHAT ELSE IS GOING ON? MORE WAYS TO FEED YOUR SOUL…

√  Next BUTTERFLYMOMS SOUL SUPPORT GROUP is Thursday, April 26th at 8pm. Come learn to feed your magnificent soul!…783 Washington St, Holliston…. Come to this safe place where you can work out your blocks and talk about your dreams!!! Held at the offices of Brick House Realty (783 Washington S, Holliston, MA). Plenty of FREE & EASY PARKING in the back lot… and come right in the back entrance. Only $25, or just $20 if pay through Paypal http://bit.ly/mS7c70.

√  I have space for two more coaching clients. If you are interested send me an email maria @butterflymoms.com

√  Here is the magnificent ButteflyMoms interview on Nancy L. Cantor‘s Dream Factory Television Show… I hope you watch it and that it feeds your soul! ! http://vimeo.com/30095902

√  No ENTREPRENEUR MOM EXTRAORDINAIRE books sold this week. If you have been thinking about starting a business or want to take your business to the next level this is a wonderful way to start. WAY cheaper than going back to school…and very helpful! To feed the soul of a friend buy them a copy by CLICKING HERE NOW… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U.  PLUS each book is personally (and lovingly) autographed.

THE BOOK… “Mom Entrepreneur Extraordinaire”
The following is a list of places where ButterflyMoms live who bought our wonderful book, MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE… Buy one so you can put your part of the world on the list, like so many other beautiful ButterflyMoms have!

“Mom Entrepreneur Extraordinaire” BOOKS SOLD INSIDE THE UNITED STATES

CALIFORNIA
Anaheim 1
Fullerton 1
Sacramento 1
San Bruno 1

CONNECTICUT
Cromwell 1
Greenwich 1
Yalesville 1

FLORIDA
Fort Lauderdale 1

GEORGIA
Roswell 1

KENTUCKY
Louisville 1

MAINE
Biddeford 1

MARYLAND
Chestertown 1

MASSACHUSETTS

Ashland 3
Blackstone 2
Bolton 1
Canton 1
Framingham 1
Holliston 17
Hudson 4
Medway 5
Millis 1
Millbury 4
New Bedford 1
North Easton 1
Rutland 1
Sherborn 1
South Grafton 1
Watertown 1
Westborough 1
Wrentham 1
Worcester 3
Wrentham 1

MISSOURI
Lee’s Summit 1

NEW HAMPSHIRE
Laconia 1

NEW YORK
Scarsdale 1
Stony Brook 1

OHIO
Dublin 1

RHODE ISLAND

Newport 1

VERMONT
Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

“Mom Entrepreneur Extraordinaire” BOOKS SOLD OUTSIDE UNITED STATES

AUSTRIA
Wien 2

IRELAND
Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY
Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN
Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL
Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

SCOTLAND
Greenock 1

SPAIN
Madrid 1
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*To buy your copy Click now… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

REMEMBER…

*Mark your calendar to read ButterflyMoms EVERY Friday!

*Share the ButterflyMoms blog with your beloved friends! Spread the love… http://butterflymoms.wordpress.com/

Shifting From PAIN to an AHA!!!!

Making Sure 2012 is About Nurturing the Little Girl Inside Me

AS YOU ENTER TODAY’s BLOG TAKE A DEEP CLEANSING BREATH (IN…………HOLD…………OUT……..…WIGGLE YOUR TOESIES)….GROUND YOUR SELF…. FEEL HOW VEEEEEEEERY GOOD IT FEELS TO FEEL…YESSSSSSSSSSSSS! It’s all FEEDBACK TO GET YOU BACK TO YOUR JOY…. YOUR CHOICE… Now let’s begin today’s adventure!

 

<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3

Dearest ButterflyMoms,

I have been doing the ButterflyMoms workshops for months and months now. It is hard to believe but each one is different based on who is there. Each person adds to the “flavor” of the event, as does the day, weather, food, temperature, lighting, etc. Everything factors in to create a very unique “unfolding” each week. I have no idea why but last night’s was one of my VERY favorite. The people who showed up were present and willing to be vulnerable. Magic happens when those two things come together. It is one of most incredible feelings to watch people, especially women, especially moms, shift from pain to AHA!!!! (deep breath here!) :)!!!!

I want to feel happy and play more in the world!

It breaks my heart that I see sooooooo many women struggling with life. It is only now in my 40’s that I’ve truly started finding the “tools” that help me regulate my energy, intention, focus and flow. For soooooooo many years I kept hitting that wall of frustration, trying everything I knew to break free. No matter what I tried I just felt ICKY. Not that I did not have moments of joy, of course I did, but not like now. Now I have the most amazing experience…like going from black and white (rabbit-eared) TV to  FULL-SPECTRUM COLOR FLAT SCREEN TV…with BOSE surround sound! OH YA BABY! YOU KNOW WHAT I’M TALKIN’ BOUT! 😉

So the next step of my journey is leading me to do a day long workshop at one of the coolest places on earth… The Peace Abbey in Sherborn, Massachusetts. It’s one of THE MOST magical places you can go and yet most people speed right by it and miss all it has to offer… much like we do in our life. I believe that when you stand on the side of love, wonderful things start to unfold. I am feeling this wonderfully delicious surge of energy around doing this event. It will have all of the elements you need to get happy and grounded in your life. There will be wonderfully yummy homemade vegetarians meals, incredible workshops, shamanic journeying, yoga, journaling, meditation…etc.

I Want Others To Feel Good Too...There are Soooooooo Many Princess in The World Who Have Forgotten That They are!

This year is a year of self-care for me. For too long I have been neglecting my body and my needs. To be the best ______________ (I can fill in the blank with any of the following: MAMA, DAUGHTER, WIFE, LOVER, FRIEND, SISTER, BOSS, NEIGHBOR, ENTREPRENEUR, WRITER, BUSINESS OWNER, ARTIST…) then I need to start with me FIRST. I want to be able to offer an affordable way others can have the same gift! I hope you come on this wonderful journey with me. I promise you will not regret it…unless you decide not to come! 😉

So here are the details… I’ve put them in this form so you can not only get more information so you can sign up, but also so you can take this paragraph and help spread the word… Please do. We want a wonderful mix of people there so we can create a wonderful “recipe” of flavors as we do in the weekly ButterflyMoms workshops.  Here it is…

Let's All Play and Learn Together!

ButterflyMoms ONE DAY RETREAT is Saturday, March 24 at 8am-5pm. To be held at the wonderful PEACE ABBEY in Sherborn, Massachusetts, the place that Mother Theresa helped build, something so magical right under our noses. Where some of the world’s most magnificent people have been like Maya Angelou, Mohammad Ali, Joan Baez, Mother Theresa…we now will have the honor of having our first day-long ButterflyMoms Retreat.…There will be yoga, workshops, meditation, shamanic journeying and much more. Talk about a whole day to get your life back on track in such a fun way! The price is only $149 including all supplies, meals and workshops. There is nothing to do but SHOW UP! Space it limited so to guarantee your spot sign up now at…. https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=V446L9J3TZXRA or send your check to Maria Salomão-Schmidt, 783 Washington Street, Holliston, MA 01746.

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

P.S. Help me support my dream… It’s been TWENTY YEARS in the making!!!! Entrepreneurial Moms Extraordinaire is the amazing wisdom of 21 entrepreneurial moms who are passing on their knowledge to those who don’t have time for beating around the bush! We all need to make money and live our lives well NOW. YOU WILL LOVE IT!!!! Please order it now and join the hundreds of happy readers before you who took the leap of faith in helping someone grow…http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

 

WHAT IS BUTTERFLYMOMS?
ButterflyMoms is a community of people who realize they are souls first and human being second. They want to explore more about themselves, to find out what makes them happy and how they can lead a life of purpose. It is simply about FEEDING YOUR SOUL. Although it has the name “MOMS” in the title it is more about being nurturing to your own transformation, as the butterfly is to its own metamorphosis. This community is led by Maria Salomão-Schmidt whose transformation was ignited by the birth and death of her BELOVED thirteen month old daughter Sophia (Sophalicious), the original butterfly.

 

*Every Thursday Night we have a ButterflyMoms workshop at 783 Washington Street in Holliston, MA at 8pm that feeds your soul. They started after Maria manifested her dream…with the help of Sophia…to be a guest on THE OPRAH WINFREY SHOW and every week since she had done the workshop on Thursday nights.

 

*Every Friday Morning, as a way of honoring Sophia’s soul, Maria gets up at 4:30am to write the weekly ButterflyMoms blog. Hundreds of people read it every week to feed their souls. Maria started writing the blog in 2009 and has written EVERY Friday since.

 

WHAT ELSE IS GOING ON? MORE WAYS TO FEED YOUR SOUL…

√  ButterflyMoms ONE DAY RETREAT is Saturday, March 24 at 8am-5pm. To be held at the wonderful PEACE ABBEY in Sherborn, Massachusetts, the place that Mother Theresa helped build, something so magical right under our noses. Where some of the world’s most magnificent people have been like Maya Angelou, Mohammad Ali, Joan Baez, Mother Theresa…we now will have the honor of having our first day-long ButterflyMoms Retreat.…There will be yoga, workshops, meditation, shamanic journeying and much more. Talk about a whole day to get your life back on track in such a fun way! The price is only $149 including all supplies, meals and workshops. There is nothing to do but SHOW UP! Space it limited so to guarantee your spot sign up now at…. https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=V446L9J3TZXRA or send your check to Maria Salomão-Schmidt, 783 Washington Street, Holliston, MA 01746.

 

√  Next ButterflyMoms Workshops is February 9 at 8pm. Come learn to feed your magnificent soul!…783 Washington St, Holliston. Plenty of FREE & EASY PARKING in back. Only $25, or just $20 if pay through Paypal http://bit.ly/mS7c70 or drop off a check.

 

√  I have space for two more coaching clients. If you are interested send me an email maria @butterflymoms.com

 

 √  Here is the magnificent ButteflyMoms interview on Nancy L. Cantor‘s Dream Factory Television Show… I hope you watch it and that it feeds your soul! ! http://vimeo.com/30095902

 

√  We sold ONE ENTREPRENEUR MOM EXTRAORDINAIRE book this past week in Holliston, MA to ! Please help me reach my goal of selling twenty-four more books this month.  If you have been thinking about starting a business or want to take your business to the next level this is a wonderful way to start. WAY cheaper than going back to school…and very helpful! To feed the soul of a friend buy them a copy by CLICKING HERE NOW… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U.  PLUS each book is personally (and lovingly) autographed.

 

THE BOOK… “Mom Entrepreneur Extraordinaire”
The following is a list of places where ButterflyMoms live, who bought our wonderful book, MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE… Buy one so you can put your city/town/country on the list like so many other beautiful ButterflyMoms have!

UNITED STATES
California
Anaheim 1
Fullerton 1
Sacramento 1
San Bruno 1
Connecticut
Cromwell 1

Greenwich 1
Yalesville 1
Florida
Fort Lauderdale 1

Georgia
Roswell 1
Kentucky
Louisville 1
MAINE

Biddeford 1

Maryland
Chestertown 1
Massachusetts
Ashland 3
Blackstone 2

Bolton 1
Canton 1

Framingham 1

Holliston 16 (Yet another book sold this week in Holliston. THANK YOU Tara Hathaway! YOU ROCK!)
Hudson 4
Medway 3
Millis 1

Millbury 4
North Easton 1
Sherborn 1
South Grafton 1
Watertown 1
Westborough 1

Wrentham 1
Worcester 3
Wrentham 1
Missouri
Lee’s Summit 1
New York
Scarsdale 1
Stony Brook 1
Ohio
Dublin 1
Rhode Island
Newport 1
Vermont
Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2
AUSTRIA
Wien 2
IRELAND
Dublin, Ireland 1
ITALY
Rome, Italy 3
JAPAN
Tokyo  1
PORTUGAL
Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1
SCOTLAND  
Greenock 1
SPAIN
Madrid 1
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HOW YOUR COUCH CAN HELP YOUR DREAMS COME TRUE…

The amazing Jane Goodall...one of my favorite people!

Gorbachev a few years before I met him.

Beautiful ButterflyMoms!

EFFORTING. TO EFFORT. In most of our cultures VALUE is placed on HOW MUCH EFFORT you put into something. My background is that I’m TRAINED in both the CORPORATE and ENTREPRENEURIAL worlds. I have my MBA. I got it because I wanted to know what “they” know. It was a combination of being curious, wanting to make more money and wanting to feel safe. My area of expertise is MARKETING and more specifically PUBLIC RELATIONS. I’ve done work with some of the world’s most incredible people like author and humanitarian Jane Goodall, former president of the USSR Mikael Gorbachev and companies like Yahoo!, Sun Microsystems, Procter & Gamble, Continental Airlines and Reebok. I’ve even done work for the governments of Portugal and Japan. I have been doing this work for decades and I am very good at it.

So when I looked at my DREAM goal for getting on The Oprah Show, I took the same model as I do when I do PR. What are my objectives? What are my resources? Mind map it, set the list of tasks and off I would go. Well, what I found on that journey was THE MORE I EFFORTED the LESS PROGRESS I made. This really stumped me. This is the way that I’ve always done it, by mostly EFFORTING. At one point I was even going to WALK to Chicago…some of you who have read the blog for a while might remember that. It was a very foolish thing given that I had very small kids at home, no money, was not trained, had no equipment, etc, etc, etc…but as a Marcus Cherry’s mom used to say, “ A hard head makes a soft ass.” I was ignorance on fire. I did not trust the universe was going to give me my dream so I was going to circumvent the system! OH YA BABY! I THOUGHT I had it all worked out! Luckily for me the producers got wind of it and categorically told me that Oprah does not like stunts like that and if I did it I would never get on. I was disappointed but also a bit relieved. Can you imagine me walking 1,000 in the dead of winter?! I don’t know that they would have ever found my body!  😉

HOW I finally got on The Oprah Show is what I teach in Thursday night ButterflyMoms workshops that you keep seeing everywhere. This upcoming Thursday will be the 20th week anniversary! YAY! That is 20 weeks of helping people stop their EFFORTING. Twenty weeks of learning how to MANIFEST the life you want! It feels soooo good! It is me accomplishing my life’s goal of BEING THE FIRE THAT IGNITES PEOPLE’S SOUL!

This whole ButterflyMoms journey is one of the most delightful adventures of my life! The gift of being able to connect with others in SUCH a meaningful and profound manner is ABSOLUTELY SPECTACULAR! Each step of the way I have had to find the COURAGE to drop my ARMOR (ego, ways I used to do things, expectations, shoulds) at the entrance of each new chapter of the journey. As soon as I quiet down enough I can literally hear the next “request”, or maybe the word “suggestion” would be better because I do get to choose whether I do it or not. Sometimes I wish it were more automatic because FEAR can be such a powerful deterrent to FLYING (CONNECTING TO YOUR HEART) in this lifetime! :)! How many adventures have you missed in your lifetime because you took the hand of FEAR instead of that of your INTUITION? Hmmmmmm? NO JUDGING HERE! JUST OBSERVE. TAKE A VERY DEEP LUSCIOUS BREATH AND OBSERVE!!!! BE KIND TO YOURSELF AND THE ANSWER WILL FALL OUT OF YOU. :)!

The Incredible Creative Practitioner & Graphic Facilitator Karen Knight-Detering

In doing my first ever ButterflyMoms retreat I have hit upon the same issue that happened with The Oprah Show, my computer is acting up. I am noticing that technology gets very screwy when I step through the doorway of another cool adventure. That is probably no surprise to you because I have listed her the weeks and weeks of computer woes. So now, here we are two weekends before the retreat and the number of people who said they would sign up has not manifested. This week my talented friend Karen Knight-Detering shared this wonderful bit of wisdom. If you are trying to move a couch and need help because it is WAY too heavy and will scratch up the floor, you simply yell out, “Hey Charlie can you give me a hand here?” REMEMBER that when you need help with your DREAM remember the COUCH EXAMPLE…and SIMPLY ASK!

So today I am taking this lesson to heart and sincerely asking for help. I ask that you trust your INTUITION more than your FEAR and come for one of THE most MAGICAL weekends you will ever have. I ask that you sign up right now. Price is normally $365 but we are having an special price of $299 until October 15th so go to www.butterflymoms.com and sign up online. If you don’t immediately hear from me when you sign up, and I mean straight from me not an automated email, than please email or call me so that I can make sure you are all set. Email me directly at maria@butterflymoms.com or call me 617.877.3616 if you have questions.

This brings up a lot of anxiety and fear because in a way I’m making myself vulnerable by telling you what I need but what I’m learning is that to open one’s heart is to become a bit more vulnerable…but the rewards are soooooooo worth it!

Here is to a fantastic day!

Please read the updates and event below. They also feed your soul!

Big honkin’ hugs,

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

MORE WAYS TO FEED YOUR SOUL…

My Talk on IGNITING YOUR BIGGEST DREAM at the Dream Factory Community

√  Come the ButterflyMoms Vermont Retreat… and say YES! YES! YES! to your best life!  Take care of yourself! October 21-23 you have a date with yourself in Vermont at the beautiful Lareau Farm Inn for the first ever ButterflyMoms YES! YES! YES! Retreat. Price is only $299 if you pay before October 15, after that it goes up to $365 which includes all the workshops, materials, most meals and lodging. There are a very limited number of spots so don’t be on the outside wishing you had booked it! Reserve your spot now!! YOU WILL ABSOLUTELY LOVE IT! To book it send an email to maria@butterflymoms.com! Scholarships available. You will only regret NOT going!

√  Did an interview for Doreen G. Fulton‘s FREE virtual conference “Finally, an IEP for Mom! An Individualized Empowerment Plan for the Mom Who is Overworked, Overstressed and Overloaded!” ! I am soooooo excited to work with her! Check it out… http://believeinarayofhope-doreen.blogspot.com/

√  Finally here is the magnificent ButteflyMoms interview on Nancy L. Cantor‘s Dream Factory Television Show… I hope you watch it and that it feeds your soul! :)! http://vimeo.com/30095902

√  Just finished our 19th week in a row of ButterflyMoms Workshops!!!!! Next week will be our 20th so there will be lots of surprises!!!! Come next Thurs, October 13 at 8pm!  FRIDAY THE 13th and that is Sophia’s lucky number! J! Come feed your soul…783 Washington St, Holliston. Plenty of FREE & EASY PARKING in back. Only $25 or just $20 if pay through Paypal http://bit.ly/mS7c70

√  We no ENTREPRENEUR MOM EXTRAORDINAIRE books last week. To feed the soul of a friend buy them a copy by CLICKING HERE NOW… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

√  I have space for one more coaching clients. If you are interested send me an email maria@butterflymoms.com!

 

THE BOOK… “Mom Entrepreneur Extraordinaire”

The following is a list of places where ButterflyMoms live who bought our wonderful book MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE… Buy one so you can put your city/town/country on the list like so many other beautiful ButterflyMoms have!

UNITED STATES

California

Anaheim 1

Fullerton 1

Sacramento 1

San Bruno 1

Connecticut

Greenwich 1

Yalesville 1

Florida

Fort Lauderdale 1

Kentucky

Louisville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 3

Blackstone 2 Bolton 1

Holliston 14

Hudson 4

Medway 3

Millis 1

North Easton 1

Sherborn 1

South Grafton 1

Watertown 1

Wrentham 1

Worcester 3

Wrentham

Missouri

Lee’s Summit 1

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

Vermont

Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN

Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

SCOTLAND     

Greenock

SPAIN

Madrid 1

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Are YOU Engaged?

Dearest Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

Here are this week’s important ButterflyMoms updates…

Here are some of the amazing women who come to the ButterflyMoms workshops! This is what last night looked like! Talk about feeding your soul! WOW! LOVE how happy they are!! YAY!

*Continued our ButterflyMoms Chakra workshops and welcomed some new faces. Thank you Karin, Mary, Denise, Kerri, Jennifer, Mary and Gaynor! We’re meeting again next Thursday, July 28st, 8pm at 783 Washington St, Holliston. Plenty of FREE parking in back. Only $25 at the door or just $20 if you drop off a check or pay through Paypal… http://bit.ly/mS7c70 . 🙂  We all have SUCH a wonderful time learning about ourselves and clearing our “roadblocks”. If you have been thinking about coming just do it…Come to feed your soul! You will be soooooooooooo happy you did! 🙂

*For the 15thth week my computer and website issues are still a work in progress. Please keep sharing the site to friends. I apologize for the hiccups.

*No new books sold for MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE this week too. Fourth week of no book sales. Keep putting your dream out there too!

Now onto the ButterflyMoms blog…

Dearest ButterflyMoms!!!

Top of the mornin’ to ya! I’m feeling especially good after one of THE best ButterflyMoms workshops yesterday! :)! I also had two coaching clients yesterday and it felt AMAZING to them and to me!  It felt like I was in alignment with my heart.

So in the workshop we are talking about chakras and how they work or don’t work for us. I just noticed an event yesterday that is tickling my funny bone…you know the universe has a VERY funny sense of humor! :)! Well, I went into one of the banks in Holliston yesterday because my bankcard would not work with the code I had. It was CRAZY hot and muggy yesterday so I tried just the drive-through because I had my girls in the car and to take them out…if you have them you know what I mean 😉 Turns out I had to go inside to get it fixed. When I got inside one of the tellers said to another out loud, “Do you see that lady over there? Her name is Maria and she gives the BEST hugs. Go ask her for one.”&nbsp; Turns out she had gotten a hug from me THREE YEARS ago and it is STILL feeding her soul when she connects to it! :)! WOW! If you know me at all that by the time I left with my girls I had hugged EVERYONE at the bank and left them in a puddle of gushy-ness! :)! It was awesome!!!!!!!!The amazing women who come to my workshop also say they LOVE the hugs. If I were to dissect this HUG THING OF MINE, I can say that each time I hug I open my heart the biggest I know how. I am as present as I know how to be in those moments. It did not start off this way, it just evolved that way. How people react is very interesting. Oftentimes it’s like a moth to a light…like they are being DRAWN or PULLED…

My girls... :)!

When I got home after my workshop I was drawn to watch an Oprah Show I had recorded. It was about two 82 year old twin sisters from Knoxville, TN who SAW (to notice is the first step) that there were many people around them who were going hungry. They started THE LOVE KITCHEN based on the principle that EVERYONE IS GOD’s SOMEONE…(side note: if the “god” word freaks you out then replace it with any other word that works, it’s about the meaning not the actual word, itself. Many of us get tripped up on that….for me I use the word “universe”. CHOOSE what works best for you!) When you see these beautiful sisters you get a complete picture of what LOVE incarnate looks like. They are happy, simple, humble, kind, giving….and THEY LOVE TO HUG!!!!! My kind of peeps!!! I send Ellen and Helen LOVE, LOVE, LOVE all the way from Boston! They are on Facebook which if you go to their site you can access directly…  www.thelovekitchen.org. When you post let them know you read about them on ButterflyMoms. Spread the love!

A scene from NIGHT OF THE LIVING DEAD...is oftentimes how most of us live our lives

As I wrap up today, I want to leave you with the gentle reminder that we are SOULS having a HUMAN experience. Our TO DO list, although helpful, can also be crippling because they take us OUT OF OUR FEELINGS and into our heads. This will cause you to live a life that is NUMBED OUT. Take a moment. Touch something alive. Hug a tree! Hug a person…especially someone who REALLY needs it. Whenever I give money to homeless people I ask for a hug. YES, sometimes they are smelly but SO WHAT! I have a shower when I get home and they have no home! Plus the look on their face….and the way my heart opens up even just a little more….is priceless! :)!

ENGAGE YOUR LIFE! ACTIVATE IT NOW! BREATHE! FEEL! LIVE! If you were looking for a sign let this be it!!!! This is your “permission” to be you :)!!!! GO FOR IT! Stop acting like you have all the time in the world. Do YOU know how much time you have left on earth? Do you? No one does but we ALL KNOW it is FINITE. We will all die sooner or later, many with no warning so instead of just attaching to the things that have no meaning TO YOU I’m inviting you to ENGAGE YOUR LIFE!

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! FEELS GOOD!  (and no I have not had sugar or caffeine this a.m. I’m just thrilled that you gave your heart the gift of reading this blog! )

Great BIG honkin’ hugs,

Maariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

HEY! I CO-AUTHORED A BOOK! 😉 WOW!

The following is a list of places where ButterflyMoms live who bought our wonderful book MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE…

UNITED STATES

California

Anaheim 1

Fullerton 1

Sacramento 1

San Bruno 1

Connecticut

Greenwich 1

Yalesville 1

Florida

Fort Lauderdale 1

Kentucky

Louisville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 2

Bolton 1

Holliston 12

Hudson 4

Medway 3

North Easton 1

Sherborn 1

South Grafton 1

Watertown 1

Worcester 3

Missouri

Lee’s Summit 1

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

Vermont

Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN

Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

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Mandy Heliotis and Sophia Schmidt… NOW WHAT?!

Dearest Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

Here are this week’s important housekeeping issues….

*Last night we had yet another ButterflyMoms Manifestation Class. We fed a lot of souls. 🙂 Because it feels so good we’re having another one. We’re meeting next Thursday, June 23th, 8pm at 783 Washington St, Holliston. Easy to get to on Rt 16 & FREE parking in back. Only $25 at the door (still let me know you’re coming because space is limited) or just $20 if you drop off a check or pay through Paypal… http://bit.ly/mS7c70 . It’s a simple first step to get back to the happy you…so grab on to it! 🙂

*My computer and website stuff was put on hold due to our Mandy’s passing. My intention is to address it this week so I will be better at answering your emails. 😉  For right now it is what it is. ;)…My gentle reminder again to SURRENDER! continues 😉

*We sold zero MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE books last week. If it has been your intention to buy a book please do so this week by clicking here… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U. A list of where in the world books have been bought by other ButterflyMoms is at the end of this blog. It’s a pretty spectacular list of places. When you buy a book yours is added too!

Now onto the blog…

All the initial “funeral” attention is over. Although it has only been a little over a week I have found that this is one of the hardest phases of mourning. My world has totally shifted again HOWEVER most everyone else is still living their lives like before. They have moved on. They have enough OTHER THINGS in their life to “forget”, those closest to Mandy don’t have that luxury. Wherever we go we see her face. At random moments we remember her smell. We feel her around us but oftentimes feel helpless to connect. How do you communicate with someone who no longer has form?

Joy Dorsey and Rhys Thomas...Two Very Talented Healers and Teachers!

I am in my second year of school for this at the Rhys Thomas Energy Medicine School. I am much better than I used to be at connecting to things that have no form but still realize how very, very little I actually know. For me, specifically, I have a double dose of AWARENESS right now because in just a few days, on June 22, it will be our Sophia’s 5th Anniversary of her passing. It sounds cliché but I KNOW they are together. I mean I know that Sophia helped Mandy with her transition. As I write this there is a part of me that is FLASHING a big red WARNING light saying, “Don’t talk about this! What are people going to think.” Well, in my experience with everything I have studied and gone through, for me this is all true. I think the more people know about this the more we can get on with the business of enjoying the precious little time we have here in this lifetime…so I continue…

When we first got the call last week it was to say that Mandy had been hurt in a car accident and that it was dire. At that point she was already dead but we did not know that. I immediately sat on my couch and attempted to “tune in” to Mandy’s energy field. We do this in class for practice but this was the real deal. I desperately wanted information. In class I find myself blocking and even belittling my abilities because I see how much better others are at it than I am.  (Sidenote: Oftentimes we are our own worst enemies. We are our own BULLIES stomping any possibility of success. Notice when your BULLY comes out and how it affects your life.)

When I tuned in I got that there was something wrong with her wrists. I got that she was surrounded by lots of angels with lots of blue in the background like the magical ceiling at Notre Dame Basilica in Montreal. I got that she could not breathe. I was so IN THE MOMENT that I asked Sophia to go to her and see if she could see anything.

Beautiful Mandy 🙂

It felt like Sophia had been with me all along – I just had not really noticed but when I brought awareness to it she was right there. Instantly I saw Sophia was in the scene “sitting” IN Mandy’s lap. Sophia  kept evaporating or turning into something other than form. I could tell she was trying to hang on but there was nothing to hang out to. There was no emotion with this just information. It was all very matter-of-fact.  That is all I got. I went back to Doug who was at the kitchen table desperately trying to call someone – anyone – to get more information about our beloved Mandy. I described what I saw and said, “I got nothing.”

Haunting photo I took of Mandy and Sophia...So Beautiful!

It was only later that I found out that Mandy had broken both wrists in the crash and she died pretty instantly. We think she broke her neck which would have caused her to stop breathing. Mandy was already dead by the time I tried to connect with her so the message I got was there was nothing there was accurate. The fact that in my moment of grief that I reached out to Sophia and got such a simple, yet powerful, message, gives me much solace.

This has been a very rough week but also a very POWERFUL one. I want to take from Mandy’s death not the cliché reminder TO ENJOY each moment we are given. We have heard that so many times that maybe we will do that for a few minutes/hours /days but after a while we DEFAULT to the “BUSY”. We don’t like to stay in the uncomfortable. We like to FILL in the gaps of silence with STUFF, THINGS, GADGETS, CALLS, TELEVISION, BUSY WORK, IPADS, IPODS, etc., so we don’t have to be. These pretty shiny things are wonderful in moderation but we have let them FILL OUR EXISTENCE. We don’t know where they begin and we end.

Jamie and Mialotta...two cousins making new memories

The gifts that Mandy has brought me this week are many. I got to CONNECT with her friends and even members from my family that I did not bother to connect with on a deep basis because life was just too busy. Well, DEATH blows the lid off of BUSY!!!!!

Aunt Mimi, Aunt Nini and James

I got to meet and savor some of her beloved friends including James, Danny and Billie. I got to connect with my other niece, beautiful Nicole, and nephew, beautiful Daniel who are much younger and who were in that cloud of grief that many adults don’t understand. It is a hard place for kids to be. Fortunately or unfortunately, I’m a bit of an “expert” on kids and grief so I let my instinct take over. I showed them that I REALLY saw them through a few things we did together. I could see the difference it made for them and it surprisingly made a HUGE difference for me! WHAT A GIFT!!! Now we have pledged to write letters to each other for a whole year. No emails or boxes, just a simple letter written between us. Mialotta and I have already sent the first one. It contained in the letter fun math problems (because Daniel is working on his math skills), stickers and some of the funnier Sunday comics…funny I had not read the Sunday comics in years…I used to LOVE it!!! Yes, another simple gift…AND there were many other gifts…

I got to see my own daughter process some of her grief from her baby sister’s death and that of her beloved artistic cousin. “Whose going to give me hugs and kisses like Mandy does?,” she said sobbing. I got the gift of meeting Mandy’s beloved high school art teacher who is starting a scholarship in Mandy’s memory. 🙂 Mandy would have LOVED that!!! You could easy tell she loved Mandy very much! Amy spoke about how Mandy loved her art and often came back to mentor other kids. I invited Amy to read ButterflyMoms this week. I hope she is reading it right now! 😉

Stan shared his poetry, his memories and his heart

I got the gift of connection with a long-time friend of the family Stan from Manhattan who is a dearheart and whom I’ve gotten to know over the years through FB. I got to connect with some of the family’s old friends/neighbors especially Tonya and Lou who taught me the gift of being present with someone’s grief, with just showing up and holding the space for a bereaved mother to simply cry her heart out for the child she will never again hold. I got the gift of deeply connecting with my brothers-in-law, a studly group of gentlemen with hearts the size of the Empire State Building. I got the gift of connecting to Valerie, Carrie and Evelyn who showed what true friendship and support is all about. I got the gift of connecting with my Sophia on a whole new level that I will continue to explore. There are many, many, many other gifts that I received and even more that I will receive from our beautiful Mandy.

Photo of Mialotta taken by Mandy Heliotis

I cannot change her death but I can live my life in a way that honors what she stood for, all that courage to be authentic, all that passion, all that love, all that vision, all that creativity, all that connection, all that presence. I can increase my AWARENESS of when she is around and how she still influences the world through the magnificence that we call MANDY!

One of Mandy's paintings...sooo much talent!

I invite you to live your life in the present moment and see all the wonderful gifts around you!!! BREATHEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE! 🙂 FEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEL! LLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLOVE!!!!

Great big hugs,

Maariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

The following is a list of places where ButterflyMoms live who bought our wonderful book MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE…

UNITED STATES

California

Anaheim 1

Fullerton 1

Sacramento 1

San Bruno 1

Connecticut

Greenwich 1

Yalesville 1

Kentucky

Louisville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 2

Holliston 11

Hudson 4

Medway 3

North Easton 1

Sherborn 1

South Grafton 1

Watertown 1

Worcester 3

Missouri

Lee’s Summit 1

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

Vermont

Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN

Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

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Bigger Boobies, Getting Approval and Chasing The Dream

Dearest Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

First some housekeeping issues…

*My motherboard is still in Wisconsin getting fixed…with manuscripts of my next two books and I’m still going through my 8,000 emails from when I could not access my computer. If you sent me an email and I did not respond please don’t take it personally, I could only access emails through an iPhone and it was impossible for me to do that with such a high volume of emails. Shifting through them now.

*The www.butterflymoms.com website is still a work in progress. Thank you for bearing with me as right now the blogs are not all there and it makes it a bit tricky to read prior blogs (for those who want to really experience how very amazing this journey has been). It will get better. For right now it is what it is. ;)…Gentle reminder again to SURRENDER! 😉

Now let’s enter into the heart of today’s ButterflyMoms blog….As you enter today’s blog I offer a gentle reminder to take eight super-deep BREATHS! 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7 aaaaaand………..8! AHHHHHHHHHHH! Breathing makes the journey juicier…and gives you more ENERGY POINTS for your day! 😉

This is the first morning in a long time that I can write again without having to give an Oprah report. She is still, very much, a guiding light for me. Now, I just move forward knowing that her energy and this latest experience is something that propels me forward into my destiny. Whatever that destiny is, is what is written in my heart…the trick is to get your brain to either TURN OFF or ALLOW you to start going towards YOUR path. Manifesting your destiny is not just a cool “new age” phrase. It is your soul’s plan for being on this planet.

Think about that. Most of us lead “under the radar” lives. We do what is “expected” of us. We worry that it is not enough. When we feel the ICKIES we STASH them deep inside…quick before anyone sees what our true feelings are. We are jealous of others who we PERCEIVE as prettier, wealthier, smarter, better looking mate, more kids, less kids, thinner ankles, bigger boobs, smaller boobs, better house, better zip code….the list is pretty much ENDLESS. Guess what?  On planet earth you will NEVER get 100% of EVERYONE’s approval! EVER! Even candidates who run for office who are super, super, super popular NEVER, EVER, EVER get 100%of the votes for that is simply not how the world is wired. The BIG difference between people who go for what they want and those who don’t is this….People who go for what they want FEEL that NOT GOING FOR IT is MORE PAINFUL than just maintaining their current life.

For me, pre-kids, I THOUGHT I was on a pretty good projectile. I THOUGHT I was GOING AFTER my DREAMS and I was. I was CHASING. CHASING. CHASING. Energetically when you chase something it runs from you even more! We’ve all seen that in some form in our lives. It was a very cool life in many ways, but also one FULL OF LIVING JUST OUTSIDE MY JOY…NEVER QUITE THERE.

This tremendous Oprah Show experience has brought MY “THERE” into my “HERE”. Take that in for a moment. How can YOU bring your dreams, passions, desires into YOUR “HERE”, the only place it can really be SAVOURED…and quite frankly, DEVOURED! 😉  YUMMA-LISH Y’ALL!!!!!!! 😉

Yesterday, I had my first workshop since the Oprah experience and it was FANTABULOUS!!! I hope the people who were there will leave a comment below as some have on Facebook because it was such an awesome experience! The energy was simply fabulous. We got to the heart of issues. We shifted energy around to where it better served us. We learned some TOOLS to help us cope with life’s ickies. We learned how to call our power back. We moved ENERGETIC BOULDERS that were on TOP of us under us so we could stand even taller! It FELT soooooooooooooo amazing to be with these ButterflyMoms! WOW!

They have asked that we meet again so I’m extending this invitation to you. We are meeting next Thursday, June 9th , 8pm at 783 Washington Street, Holliston. Easy to get to on Route 16 with plenty of free parking in the back. Cost is $25 at the door (you still need to pre-register though because space is limited) or just $20 if you drop off a check or pay through Paypal… http://bit.ly/mS7c70

I am personally inviting you to this workshop to help YOU get back to the HAPPY YOU! It’s food for your soul…like a triple-dose of the ButterflyMoms blog!  Come play with me and some of the other ButterflyMoms! Simply sign up here… www.butterflymoms.com/workshops.html.

I am deeply grateful and deeply humble by all the LOVE LOVE  LOVE! It is there for all of us to partake in. Just scoop up a great big heaping spoonful of LOVE and rub it on like lotion! Imagine the day you will have by doing that!! Have a RUB A DUB DAY!!! 😉

Great big hugs,

Maariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS  Zero books sold this week. The following is a list of places where ButterflyMoms live who bought our wonderful book MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE…

UNITED STATES

California

Anaheim 1

Fullerton 1

Sacramento 1

San Bruno 1

Connecticut

Greenwich 1

Yalesville 1

Kentucky

Louisville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 2

Holliston 10

Hudson 4

Medway 3

North Easton 1

Sherborn 1

South Grafton 1

Watertown 1

Worcester 3

Missouri

Lee’s Summit 1

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

Vermont

Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN

Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

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OPRAH UPDATE…One, Six and Thirteen!

 

 

Dearest Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

First, an Oprah update. The producer called again this past week and there was renewed hope that I would be on one of the last shows. He even had us get Sophia’s birth and death certificate to send to him just in case he could do something but that did not pan out. It is sad but at least I put myself out there and there are many more adventures I cannot even imagine coming my way! I’m excited! Thanks for coming on that journey with me!

Just finished a Goddess Weekend that was out of this world! It was at this retreat last year that I started writing ButterflyMoms on a consistent basis. So HAPPY ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY BUTTERFLYMOMS!!!

The retreat got me thinking that we can all use a little time away to re-group and re-energize soooooo….(trumpets please)…… We are scheduling our first ButterflyMoms Retreat the weekend of October 22, 2011 in Mad River Vermont at a magical inn! We are still working on the details but space will be limited so if you are at all interested let me know. Carving out the time for our highest good is the best thing we can do for ourselves! :)!

I ask you to take a DEEP, DEEP BREATH with me as I enter into today’s blog…

Sophia and Me at her first birthday party

I never know how I’m going to be on May12 and June 22. Those are my Sophia’s birthday and deathday.

Sometimes sooooooooooooooooo much emotion wants to come out that I’m afraid those around me cannot handle it. Quite honestly most of my grieving has been alone…or SWALLOWING MY GRIEF because of this fear that others cannot handle it. Some of the work I’ve been doing at the Rhys Thomas Energy Medicine School, especially lately, has allowed me to open/release some of that energy, some very powerful stuff!

It’s hard, you know, to talk to others about the birth and death of your baby because if that other person REALLY went “THERE” with you it…well, I can’t say I honestly know what would happen, but it’s a lot of pain and in a way I guess I protect others from it because then I think I need to save them from it. I don’t know if I’m making sense to you but this is how I feel. There is soooo much magic that has come from her death but I would give it all up to have Sophia back in my arms. I don’t know if that is the PC thing to say but that is how MY HEART FEELS. I miss her sooooooooooooooooo much, our Sophalicious. I have had many, many people die in this lifetime, losing your baby is TOTALLY a different feeling. It is that type of grief that can knock the wind out of my sails and because I have so many responsibilities I cannot crawl into bed and stay there so I activate AUTOMATIC PILOT, put on a smiley face and go off into my day.  I KNOW I’m not the only one! Sometime I do it so automatically, in fact, that I don’t know that I’ve ACTIVATED it. I NOTICE that when I do this I take a VERY DEEP BREATH and then probably don’t exhale for the rest of the day. That is how I perceive it.

Grieving, for me, is this endless circle of wanting to get to HIGHER GROUND, to being as “ok” with Sophia’s death as I can be and then being hit by a Tsunami of pain, never knowing who you are going to be in front of when it happens.

At Sophia's Christening with Parents, Siblings and God Parents... Sooo much LOVE!

esterday would have been Sophia’s 6th birthday. She died at 13 months so it’s fitting that I’m writing this on Friday the 13th…. BTW, found out that Friday the 13th is a VERY POWERFUL GODDESS DAY…When  the Roman Catholic Church was trying to take over, they made it a bad luck day instead. I, for one am reclaiming the magic of Friday the 13th!!! Who’s with me? 😉

Today’s blog is just pouring out of me and I’m not stopping it. It has REALLY wanted to come out. The word that keeps coming up around yesterday is HUMBLE, HUMBLE, HUMBLE.

I was COMPLETELY blown away by the outpouring of LOVE, LOVE, LOVE that our family received yesterday!  We had more than 200 people (I can’t even believe I’m typing that number!!!) reach out via email, phone, text, voicemail, facebook and even a handful of  in person visits from dear friends who seemed to really be holding a space of LOVE for the day as I had requested on FB. This may surprise you writing how I do but I usually don’t open myself up to get the love BECAUSE TO OPEN TO THE LOVE, YOU HAVE TO BE OPEN TO THE PAIN. I was more vulnerable yesterday than I have been in a long time and that is why I was able to ASK for what I needed. I asked for others to hold us in LOVE…and I highly suggest it because it felt wonderful! Like floating, really if you let yourself go….there is a downside though that is ALSO important to know about…. WARNING: When that happens SHIT that has been in your life’s “basement” comes up….and baby that shit stinks! It was soooo powerful that it rocked my marriage. We had to work some things out. Key is to go with the flow, stay open, stay authentic and for goodness sakes KEEP MOVING FORWARD (but in a BEING PRESENT WAY)!!!

A very special thank you to all those who reached out yesterday. YOU deeply help me and my family heal a bit more. I was going to try to list everyone’s name here but if I forgot someone that would not do. I would invite you to go to my Facebook page and read all the magnificent comments from around the world. It is a magnificent example of SHEER LOVE!!! I am deeply grateful and deeply humble by that LOVE!

Great big hugs,

Maariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

Sophia and her Vovo

PS  A plethora of books sold this week! We FINALLY SOLD ONE IN PORTUGAL!!!! YAY! (Thank you Madrinha Juvenalia Figueiredo!) We also sold two in VERMONT (Thank you Evelyn and Kristen Meyer!) which is a new state for us and one in Watertown, MA (Thank you Christine McDade!) and another in CONNECTICUT (Thank you Sheryn MacMunn)! WHEW WHO!!!! I LOVE BEING ON THIS JOURNEY WITH YOU! SOOOO FUN!!!!

Here is where the books have gone to ButterflyMoms…

UNITED STATES

California

Fullerton 1

Sacramento 1

Connecticut

Greenwich 1

Yalesville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 2

Holliston 10

Hudson 4

Medway 3

North Easton 1

Sherborn 1

South Grafton 1

Watertown 1

Worcester 3

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

Vermont

Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN

Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

Me at Hemingway's House in Key West

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I’m Sorry I Simply Can’t FIT My FEELINGS in TODAY!

Good Morning Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

WOW! For the first time in a long time I feel overwhelmed by what to write. I like to write with whatever is coming and when my mind gets in the way with “helpful” suggestions I feel very disconnected. I’m simply noticing this, not judging it.

If I am to be honest with you and with myself, what is really coming up for me is my beautiful baby girl Sophia. ButterflyMoms has grown to about 700-1,000 readers a week on a consistent basis and some of you don’t really know why it started. My motivation for doing ButterflyMoms was the life and sudden death of our 13 month old daughter Sophia, MY ORIGINAL BUTTERFLY. Yesterday someone who did not know asked all the questions that you THOUGHT had finally had enough time to “accept”. Most times it is fine and even welcomed. Yesterday, however my emotions came out in a big way and I missed her as if her death had just happened. Grief is not a linear journey! THAT is for sure!!!

As a mother who has lost a child, you miss your child’s touch, voice, smile, smell…Ohhhhh and Sophia had SUCH an awesome, awesome smell. She smelled like wonderful flowers. It was uncanny! I LOVED to nestle my nose up against her tummy to selfish get the biggest whiff I could and have the side benefit of those amazing giggles!! You can understand the connection we had a bit more to know that when I walked into the funeral home and saw her in her little casket, just SEEING her, my body started instantly lactating. I had to put on a coat because my shirt was drenched with milk. My heart was crying as my body was still soooo connected with her that is was trying to feed her body, even as my mind knew she was dead. Even though we are approaching the fifth year of her death, it is still devastatingly heartbreaking at times. I know there are lots and lots and lots of gifts that have come from this. I am not in any way knocking them. It is just society, in general, wants you to MOVE ON and to be honest that is partially true. REPLAYING the past again and again is a waste of the present HOWEVER sometimes as you go along living with your daily business feelings come up that are VERY strong. WARNING: This is NOT the time to have a stiff upper lip! When a feeling comes up pay attention to it. If you don’t take care of it, it will “take care” of you! THAT IS FOR DAMN SURE!

Things, ESPECIALLY feelings, that we STUFF DOWN to “get rid of them” only start to fester and puss. It is much better to let yourself FEEL what is happening in that moment because there are gifts that come from those OPENINGS too! Here are some of the gifts I got from staying open yesterday…

Gift Number 1…When I went to pick up my youngest from preschool I was in a very “feeling state”. Immediately, like a tractor beam a mom, whom I rarely see, out-of-the-blue confided her fear in what was going on with her own son’s health. Kate was replaying the FUTURE WHAT-IF MOVIE to try to keep him safe. The interesting thing is that if you stay in this “movie” you oftentimes miss the cues in the present that will prevent that movie from occurring. (DEEP BREATH – FEEL THAT STATEMENT) Kate seemed a lot more grounded and happy as she drove away.

Gift Number 2…After Kate left, another mom Dima came to pick up her daughter and when she asked about my day I felt a huge emotional wave building. As I felt it get bigger I asked for what I needed….a hug. I broke down sobbing, the kind that I don’t usually do around people I don’t know very well. I had no choice. It felt wonderful to receive such a beautiful gift of a deeply caring hug and fully being present with another person. I believe that she also felt she received a gift- that of being able to be fully present with another human being.

Gift Number 3…Went to Medway with my two youngest girls to run some errands for Brick House Realty and ButterflyMoms. We stopped to get hot chocolates (no whip, no foam, extra side of love) 😉 and there was a mom there with her son who had AMAZING energy. We spoke a bit and then as we were getting into our cars I approached her, told her I had a very emotional day and that my intuition was telling me to invite her to come read the ButterflyMoms blog. ( I had business cards made and pass them out all the time! If you need some let me know!) Well, ButterflyMoms, it was yet another direct hit on the LOVE fest chart! As “luck” would have it she is a cancer survivor and was out with her little son to take in the precious moments she had! We hugged three times!!! 😉 It made both of us feel better. It felt soooooo good!!

Gift Number 4…Spent time with my oldest daughter Mialotta. It was time JUST for her and me. I spend a lot of time with her, just not always PRESENT time. This time I was and I could see the joy in her face and I’m hoping it was a reflection of the joy in my heart that she was mirroring…think maybe it was.

Gift Number 5…One of my client’s, her dad has cancer and the prognosis is not good. I shared my day with her and shared the quiet wisdom I acquired from the day. I did not give her all the details. I simply held a certain energy level that I felt affected her in a very loving way. It was the perfect way to end such an incredible day!

May you allow your feelings a voice and notice all the gifts that come from you being present and vulnerable, knowing that no matter what you are ALWAYS SAFE and ALWAYS LOVED!

I LOVE YOU! :)!

Great big honkin’ hugs sistah- friends!

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa 

🙂

ButterflyMoms founder…YAY!

PS For those who have not heard we BUTTERFLYMOMS have won our FIRST AWARD!!!! YAY!!!!!!!! (standing ovation!!!) We won the “IRRESISTIBLY BRILLIANT BLOG AWARD. I need a couple more weeks to pick our top 10. If you have any suggestions let me know!

PPS It has been four weeks since my BIG DREAM got delivered to me, the book I helped write called “Entrepreneurial Moms Extraordinaire”!!! I sold only TWO books last week which is way below my goal. If you have been meaning to buy yours please do now. My goal is to sell at least 300 in 2011. The people who have read it truly love it! You simply can’t fit any more love into a book! 😉 I sign every book and wrap it with lots of love! You never know what magic comes to you when you create magic for others! To order now go to http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

Here is where the books have gone to ButterflyMoms…

UNITED STATES

California

Sacramento 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 1

Holliston 6

Hudson 4

Medway 1

Worcester 2

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

When you buy a book you represent your area. Let’s see where all the ButterflyMoms live!!! :)! This is FUN! To buy your copy Click here now… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

Please tell your friends to mark their calendars to read ButterflyMoms EVERY Friday! 🙂 SPREAD THE LOVE…It’s fun and free!!!!

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