Beautiful ‘Coach Me Maria’ Yummy Heart,
Every May 12 is different. Some are celebrations. Some are uneventful. Some are sad. Some just slip by… This one SUCKS, in fact, it’s been sucking for weeks now. The heart-wrenching sadness, I thought time would take care of, has had a resurgence this year. I’ve been crying for weeks so much so that my eyelids might be in a permanent state of puffy. Why? Well, it’s partly the deplorable state of the world… partly that even babies on this planet die… mostly because I wish I could bring her back.
Our beautiful our beloved Sophia died suddenly on June 22, 2006 for physical reasons no one, even today, understands. It was completely unexpected. It gutted us. It was extra hard because our little girl had just joyously celebrated her first birthday!
What a GLORIOUS day that was! Sophia was the happiest kid and it was super easy to fall in love with her. She had Downs and that just brought her level of LOVE to a whole new level. IT WAS SOOOOOO AWESOME TO BE AROUND THAT KIND OF LOVE! People literally came from all over the world for her birthday! Her life was a HUGE CELEBRATION… a month later Sophia lay dead in our arms. This can be such a cruel planet! A total gut punch that seems to revisit me whenever the mood strikes it. It leaves me heartbroken and in pieces.
Quite honestly, I am sick of crying. Occasionally I blocked the crying because what’s the use? Will it bring Sophia back???? After a while it’s just plain depressing and quite honestly lonely. Dead babies. Who wants to talk about that? And who wants to be around you when you are that sad? To be honest, the answer is not a lot of people. I am tired of hiding my feelings because people are so very uncomfortable about death, especially a baby’s death. They don’t know what to say. Many avoid us. They think we are “weird.” The reality is, they are right. It’s true. We are! When your child suddenly dies something in you shifts… in “icky” ways… but also in “magical” ones.
I realize I’m not honoring anyone by focusing on the icky so I begin looking for other ways to give meaning to Sophia’s amazing life. Parents often find ways to honor their beloved’s child life… like create a scholarship, dedicate a bench or start a race/event in that person’s honor… These did not feel like things that would honor Sophia’s short life.
I DID NOT FIND IT… IT FOUND ME!… (Actually it STALKED me!)
Way before Sophia was born I had been an international business and life coach. After her death I became a different kind of coach. I started channeling… and processing some AMAZING information having to do with our energy body, which most people know almost NOTHING about. It’s the kind of information that people so desperately need right now. As I say in my book Finally FULL Of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA “Pain is part of life, suffering is optional.”
For almost ten years, my way of honoring Sophia was to write a blog. That blog was seen by Oprah Show producers and that was one of the reasons I got to be on two Oprah Shows! People were so very inspired by the blog that I kept writing. Every Friday for five years I wrote through pregnancies, temper tantrums, snow storms, clients, miscarriages, broker exams, arguments, business meetings, breast feedings, vacations… At first it took me the whole day to do the blog. By the end I could write a really powerful one within 20 minutes. Isn’t it amazing what happens when we FOCUS?
I wrote NO MATTER WHAT, because it was my sacred time to be with Sophia. I felt I could honor her, by helping others. It felt indescribably amazing when people, even total strangers, would write and say that what I had written changed their life. Breath-giving!
From all that writing came a calling to write a book. I was really bad at that too at first… So bad that I burned the first, second and third fully written manuscripts I had written, because they were not in alignment with the magical connection I have with Sophia… Finally, after 10 years in November of 2016… just days after the election, Finally FULL Of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA was unleashed into the world! It is the book that was calling to me!
For 10 years, I could not understand why it took so very long for the book to “come” but when it came out just days after the shocking election of the 45th president of the United States, I knew that everything is indeed divine… even when it does not make sense to us! Finally FULL Of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA captures the love vibration that Sophia and I still share. It’s a gift to the world downloaded here by me… an accidental writer with a big, sensitive heart and a geeky personality. #geeksunite #scienceisreal
This life is ugly, very ugly… but it is also magical. When we get stuck in the ugly… we live the the curse side. When we are able to shift our focus, we can live out the gift. That is the core definition of happiness.
Look, let’s be clear… happiness is not a straight line. Ugly still happens. Ugly will never not happen. It’s a part of this planet but it does not mean I have to move in! Each day I feel what I feel and remember to choose my focus. I invite you today to do the same. Take a moment… especially when the UGLY hits… and CHOOSE.
So today as I am reminded that I GET TO CHOOSE THE GIFT… I suddenly realize as I write this that this is the first birthday that the book Finally FULL Of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA is done… not almost… or just another re-write… or just one more round of edits… but DONE, DONE, DONE!!!
This is not about a product, it’s about a legacy. It’s a tool that helps people realize why they bothered to get a body in the first place! Countless people have told me how much the book is making a difference in their lives!
It makes my heart sing for joy to know that each time someone buys, recommends, gifts, opens, underlines, remembers, quotes, shares, reviews, learns, posts, lends, orders Finally FULL Of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA the LOVE VIBRATION on Mother Earth grows just a wee bit more! (That’s why I’m always writing LOVE RISING in my posts!)
I feel the information in the book is my way I’m honoring Sophia. In her name, I get to help make the world a better place one heart at a time. It’s sometimes ugly/messy work but so well worth it!
This weekend is also Mother’s Day in the States (last weekend in Europe)… and I could not think of a better post that this one to share with you. When I started it I had no idea where it was going… (I’m getting better at surrendering to what shows up) … but it ended in LOVE! HAPPY MOTHER’s DAY!
Happy Birthday Beautiful Sophia! I THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart for choosing me to be your mamã. I LOVE YOU with all my heart! Beijinhos amor! Parabens!
Weirdmaste, Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa de Lourdes Cerveira Salomão-Schmidt www.coachmemaria.com The birthday girl’s mamã 🙂
HOW YOU CAN HELP…
HELP SPREAD SOPHIA’s LOVE… I turn 50 on May 29th and I have a goal to get at least 50 Amazon reviews for Finally FULL Of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA. Guess what?! We’re up to 42!
GROW THE LOVE by leaving your review. It’s super easy!… https://www.amazon.com/Finally-Full-Yourself-Unlocking-Spiritual/product-reviews/0998191213/ref=cm_cr_dp_d_ttl?ie=UTF8&reviewerType=all_reviews&sortBy=recent#R1T2S8B9VMNRHZ
Where to buy Finally FULL Of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA…
- Amazon… https://www.amazon.com/dp/0998191213/ref=rdr_ext_tmb
- Barnes & Noble… http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/finally-full-of-yourself-maria-salom-o-schmidt/1125253329?ean=9780998191218
- Barnes & Noble or any bookstore… Call to pre-order. Takes about 2-3 days.
- Cambridge… The Harvard Bookstore
- Holliston… Coffee Haven and Fiske’s General Store
- Medfield… Holistic Wellness Center
- Medway… TC Scoops and The Enchanted Fox
- Natick… Five Crows
- Newton… Boston College Bookstore
- Walpole… She Breathes
If you have a favorite local bookstore suggest they carry it. I’d love, love, love to come do a book signing and/or workshop at your local bookstore!
This is a grassroots LOVE MOVEMENT that only grows when you spread the word.
Read it! Review it! Share it!
It has been a very long time since I’ve written a blog. Today is a very special occasion though because it would have been our Sophia’s 11th birthday. For the last ten years since her death she has been an absolute inspiration to me in so many ways. The biggest misunderstanding I see is that people think I don’t want to talk about her. At least for me, just because her body is gone does not mean the relationship is over. I am still Sophia’s mama. I still miss touching and holding her. That is where my heart breaks the most… not being able to see, hold, hear, touch and smell her.
Many of you know I’ve been working on my book for about ten years now and finally it is done, both with words and graphics, and is now being edited. Sophia has been my muse for the my life’s research that is contained in the book. The goal of the book is to reduce human suffering. Pain is a part of the human experience but suffering is not. I want to live as fully as I can, literally FULL OF MYSELF so I can access my own unique spiritual DNA. I want Sophia and my other children to be proud of their mama, like I am so very proud of mine.The book is soooo close to being done but my goal of having it done by today fell short and it broke my heart because I felt like I had failed to honor her.
At my Master Mind group this week I opened up and shared about this birthday and how sad I felt. It helped release some of blocked, heavy energy. That entire day I was present in what I was feeling in each moment. When I noticed a heaviness I created flow points from any end points I encountered.
Later that day I was walking with my beautiful daughter Olivia, who just turned the big ten, and our four doggies. I looked up into the sky and saw something I had never seen, a vertical rainbow! It was absolutely amazing so I started yelling at the people around us to look up. Everyone started looking up and “oohhhing” and “ahhhing”.
Then we noticed another rainbow that was also incredibly unusual because it was in the form of a circle! I had never seen a rainbow do that! I love, love, love rainbows so this was a special treat for me! I started feeling happier and more connected to Soph without the “ickie”, just the flow of love.
As Olivia and I walked up to the driveway of our house I looked up and noticed something in the clouds so amazing that I gasped as I dropped the dog leashes and bag of poop onto the cement. As clear as clear could be, I saw an angel. Usually clouds move and reshape into something else but not this one! This was a full on angel.
I took several photos because I thought people would never believe this so I’m including them here for you to see! Funny thing is when I look back at the rainbow photos I can see wings and an angel in those too! Look at the images yourself. Write below in the comment section what you see. I would really love to hear from you.
I believe it was Sophia reaching out to me! She did something else that knocked our socks off last year too. I know we could be making all this up but our whole lives are made up. We make it all up as we go along!
I just wanted to share this post with you to remind you that the tough times a temporary. GO WITH THE FLOW has never been more important… just not someone else’s flow… your own unique, magnificent flow! My book will come out and when it does it will be at the perfect time for when it needs to! It’s all connected to divine timing.
Great big hugs,
PS It would mean the world to me for you to sing, HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO SOPHIA in whatever way inspires you.
And because in our house we sing Happy Birthday in AT LEAST two languages, here it is in Portuguese…
Parabéns a você,
Nesta data querida.
Muitos anos de vida.
Hoje é dia de festa,
Cantam as nossas almas.
Para a menina Sophiaaaaaa,
Uma salva de palmas.
It’s a magnificent way to send more love into the world!
I got inspired to call you a “sweetie” today because we oftentimes forget that the absolute sweetness that is inside of us. We live in the sour. Give yourself some credit! This is one of the hardest places you can incarnate, both physically and emotionally speaking. This planet is full of pain if you focus on that. It is also full of love and movement in the directions of your dreams… That’s why you have dreams, btw. They are your built-in navigational system. Pay attention to them. Believe them. Nurture them. Grow them. Be pulled by them. Your dreams know the way. Your fear… and the fear of others… pulls you away from your dreams. Again….Pay attention to them. Believe them. Nurture them. Grow them. Be pulled by them.
We are at a pivotal time in our lives. Many of our relationships might be falling away as we begin naturally shifting closer to our authentic selves. Those who insist on staying at a different vibration, will continue being stuck. No judgement. That is their path and this is yours. Don’t confound the two. Send them LOVE. Remember that you ARE LOVE. Remember they are LOVE.
Today’s Coach Me Maria video blog is absolutely perfect for beginning to notice that when you do follow your dreams you might lose the very people you thought would always be there. That is the myth. If we stopped acting like we’d live forever and start embracing SHIFT, we’d all be a lot more happy in each moment… because ultimately that is all we really have. Here is the link to the video… click here!
NAMASTE (or for those who are really wild… WEIRDMASTE)
Great big hugs,
Here’s an amazingly simple way to get back into your alignment. Everyone starts off being a child and whatever coping mechanisms we learned often keep us stuck. Learn how to see how your magnificent inner child can set your life free!
As always please leave your comments below.
Great big hugs,
Today’s video blog is again less than two minutes long so as to respect your time. It’s all about making sure you can instantly shift from fighting your life to embracing it. The topic is FEELNG ALONE. Most people don’t want to admit that they feel alone for fear of being judged by others, but when you do feel alone, it’s less about self-worth and more about feedback.
Check out the video to find out what feedback you are getting… CLICK HERE FOR TODAY’s SHORT VIDEO COACHING.
Great big hugs,
PS Today’s blog is dedicated to the beautiful Dr. Wayne Dyer who has been my teacher for decades. Although I still feel his energy, actually even more strongly than before, I will miss seeing and hearing him.
Dear Coach Me Maria Fans,
Don’t have a lot of time today? GREAT! That is why I make these videos short, sweet and powerful!
What a beautiful day to be alive! So many of us wake up and condition ourselves to focus on the HALF EMPTY LIFE… The consequences of that are horrifying. That is the road to living a boring, painful life.
Got two minutes? Then watch today’s CMM video and get yourself out of your icky ‘unnatural state’ and back to your yummy ‘natural state’ of LOVE LOVE LOVE!
Simply Click here to watch this week’s video… If you have trouble cut & paste this link… https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IprQvfjMt4o
Remember that LIFE IS RIGGED IN YOUR FAVOR!
PS Do you LOVE this video? Then share it with those you Love most. Give them the gift of themselves! 🙂
Hello Beautiful Coach Me Maria Loves!
There is fear all around us. What happens when we are living mindless, unconnected lives, we think that fear is feedback. The fear becomes the BOUNDARY of our life. We don’t ever want to touch or feel it so we live deep within our life’s box…cramped, small, just within the “I’m ok.” limits. Everyone else around us does it too so we think this IS LIVING.
This is how you feed fear. You make it your master. The illusion is that if you stay within that ‘box’, you will be “safe”.
NEWSFLASH #1: There is no “SAFE” on planet earth! WE ALL DIE! Yup! We are all going to die and the kicker is that none of us knows when. HA! What a crazy ride this is, eh? This is no new news but it is something most of us ignore or surppress. So knowing you are going to DIE ANYWAY what keeps you soooooo small?
This week I’ve been working a lot on the HAPPY ME! Retreat in Portugal that’s going on Oct 4-9th. It breaks my heart a bit that sooooo many people who need it say “no” but then spend money on other things that still keep them stuck and stagnant.
NEWSFLASH #2: MONEY IS JUST ANOTHER FORM OF ENERGY. What you focus on show up stronger and bigger in your life. Money is one of the number one reasons why say most people don’t do something. Their lives are literally formed by what they think they can afford. What they think they can afford is directly linked to one’s idea of self-worth and value.
NEWSFLASH #3: NOTHING IS GOING TO SHIFT UNLESS YOU DO. The bottom line is that you get to choose the “channel” you live on. When something in your life comes up that ignites your soul, how open are you? Do you explore the idea? Do you truly consider it? Or do you resign yourself to not having enough money…. The wouldn’t it be nice, but I cannot afford that. Just notice when you do it. Notice where you are feeling the feeling. Notice and move through it. YOU ARE THE ONE WHO IS CONSTANTLY DESIGNING YOUR LIFE. Choose with intention, remembering that you are universal LOVE. The only time you are not flowing with abundance and love is when you block it out… thus feeding the fear.
Check out this week’s COACH ME MARIA video blog for more about feeding the fear! This one I recorded a while ago but it is being released fresh now because the content is so relevant to so many.
Great big hugs,
PS Many people have said they are interested in the HAPPY ME! Retreat in stunning Portugal BUT the money comes up as a typical stumbling block. If they came they have told me they know they would have INCREDIBLE LIFE SHIFTS, and yet they don’t give themselves that gift. If you are brave enough to come you’ll realize that the fear of the money is NOTHING compared to the AMAZING LIFETIME VALUE this trip will have on transforming your life into your alignment. I’ve updated the photos and added more information so check it out and open to the possibilities of raising the vibration of your life. Check it out at www.coachmemaria.com/portugalretreat