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How Do YOU Treat Your Inner Child?

inner childBeautiful CMM Lovers,

Here’s an amazingly simple way to get back into your alignment. Everyone starts off being a child and whatever coping mechanisms we learned often keep us stuck. Learn how to see how your magnificent inner child can set your life free!

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Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

…And Then There Is OPTION #3!

Good Morning Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

It is sooooooooooo wonderful to wake up EVERY Friday morning way before even the sun gets up knowing that I’m going to CONNECT WITH YOU! It feels wonderful knowing I’m feeding so many souls by just being myself! And for you, beautiful ButterflyMoms, when you CONNECT in this manner there is less DEFENSE because you can read slowly or a part of it and then come back to it later. In other words, you can process it at any speed you wish. I like to think of it like a “pitching fork” that is used for aligning notes. When you come to ButterflyMoms and let the words “tune your life” you re-align to your true life’s purpose…and that is why we are all here, after all! It’s as simple and luscious as that! So here we go…

Winter in New England...from my deck.

The last few months have been ovary-busters! WHEW-EW CHILD! Some seriously crazy stuff has been unfolding. Many people did not find it comfortable for me to be in that ICKY PLACE but I did not want to leave it because I had not processed what I was going through. I have not fully left this uncomfortable place but I have found some incredible nuggets of information. The biggest one right now is that I do not have to own what I cannot control.

Sometimes as Moms we put ourselves in the position of God/Goddess/Allah/ Buddha. By this I mean we take on EVERYONE’s issues and make it our own. This is an impossible task that has killed the life force of many of our ancestors. Think about that harsh reality!

I was doing a meditation in my energy medicine school last weekend and I realized that I was guilty of wanting to fix everyone’s problems so that they could be safe….so that I could be safe. My fear of not being safe was so big that I oftentimes did not even check in with the person to see if they wanted my help or not. HELLOOOOO REALITY CHECK! This summer I had three very strong (energetically speaking) individuals do that to me and I can tell you that from the receiving side, it does NOT feel good at all when others try to SAVE YOU WITHOUT YOUR PERMISSION!! ICKY!!!! YUCK!!!!

My girls :)!

My childhood did not exactly teach me about TRUST so now in adulthood I’m sticking in my pinky toe to see if the waters of trust feel right to me. I know there is a large “reward”, amazing treasures, if I can open up, really open up to the magnificence that is all around. Being closed cuts us off from sooooooooooo much cool “stuff”!!! …..and I’m talking about experiences, not things. SIDENOTE: Author Dan Buetner  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dan_Buettner studies real sources of happiness. He quoted a study that the impact of new material things only lasts 9 months but experiences add value over time. 🙂 (and THAT is why ladies and gentlemen that I LOVE to travel!!!!) 😉

So back to this idea of trying to fix everything (hope I did not give you whiplash just now by moving back to the topic from which we digressed 😉 MOMMY MARTYRS DON’T HELP ANYONE! It is a not-so-great way to use your energy and then when you get depleted you get VERY cranky, moody or both and then, much like Godzilla, unleash your wrath unto the closest unsuspecting victims. You and I both now it can get very, very icky because the anger gets so big that you either attack someone else or turn it against yourself. For many of us we don’t know there is a third option, YES my fellow BUTTERFLYMOMS!!! YES, there is a THIRD OPTION and that is to give it away!

When you let go of what you cannot control all you have left is BEAUTY!

Now that I’ve totally confused you allow me to explain…Whenever we run across something that is too much to handle simply do the parts of it that you can, no matter how small or insignificant they feel, and then for the parts you cannot handle simply give them up to….here is where the fun begins. I did a mental exercise where I realized that I could give my ickies or the things that were too big for me to handle to rocks. Yes, you read it correctly, R-O-C-K-S, ROCKS!! In my exercise the rocks actually said “GIVE US YOUR PAIN. GIVE US YOUR HURT. WE LOVE EATING THAT STUFF.” Well, I did and know what? IT FELT AWWWWWWWESOME!!! Yes it did! I felt a huge weight being lifted. I found that it works MUCH better to stop acting like God and simply give it up to Spirit. Something happens where we think we need to do it all ourselves…(how’s that workin’ fer ya?)…..and that is simply not the case. THAT is why we feel so overwhelmed and why we keep trying to fill it with more STUFF!!! Do you see it? Take an aerial view of your life. Can you see where you have done this? Can you see where you do this? Here’s your chance to feed the rocks!!!

Welcome to Option #3! It's all around us!

Now my brain is scared that I just blogged that the rocks spoke to me but in this exercise they did so I’m going outside my comfort zone and letting you know too. Hope it helps some of you out there. I know it might seem silly but SILLY WORKED for me and it just may work for you, plus it’s 1. FREE  2. Does not hurt anyone and 3. No one knows that you are doing it….unless you put it on your own blog!!! 😉

I’m hearing little feet, gotta put on my “Mommy hat”.

Great big honkin’ hugs my lovelies,

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

ButterflyMoms founder…YAY!

Yes, and she only JUST turned 7!!! 😉

COOL EVENTS SECTION….

This week is the inauguration week for BFMs listing your events all over our planet. Send me your cool events that feed other ButterflyMoms’ Souls by Wed to have them included in Friday’s ButterflyMoms blog…

MASSACHUSETTS

– From one of OUR ButterflyMoms, Nancy Senior in Worcester, MA…This Saturday, January 29th and Sunday 30th all day, it’s the Three Rivers Building Community Retreat! Come experience many different treatments demos including Reiki, Healings, Massage, Yoga, Raw foods and more. Affordable and fun! For more info: www.threeriversbuilding.com . I’m going with my girls Sat morning! Come join us!

– From one of OUR ButterflyMoms, Betty Ripley, Holliston, MASewing 101 Class. Come learn how to sew in a class environment that is supportive and fun. The way Betty knows how to teach a class it simply just another form of meditation. The four week class starts Monday, January 31, 7-9pm for $75. I’m taking the class too! For more details call Maria 617.877.3616. Betty is also teaching a quilting class and has kids’ classes.

– From one of OUR ButterflyMoms, Becky Geer-Linnell, Medway, MAKniting 101 & Beyond Class. Just like the sewing class this is an incredibly fun way to connect to yourself by doing something that human being have been doing for thousands of years. Come learn how to knit in a wonderful environment. The four week class starts Tuesday, January 31, 7-9pm for $75. For more details call me 617.877.3616.

ButterflyMoms ROCK! (get it?!) 😉

– From one of OUR ButterflyMoms, Maria Salomão-Schmidt, Holliston, MA AND ALL OVER THE WORLD!Stitch n’ Bitch Get Together at Doug Sent Me Green Cleaners in the downtown of an idyllic New England town called Holliston, Massachusetts. It was sooooo incredibly cathartic. It was so wonderful that the people who came asked if we could do it again in two weeks instead of a month. If you don’t live close enough to Holliston to come Thursday, Feb 3 from 6-8pm then join your own group. Building community is another way we feed our soul and it’s FREE! For more info go to their official site…. http://stitchnbitch.org/

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PS  WONDERFUL NEWS!!! My first book “Entrepreneurial Moms Extraordinaire” was shipped on Monday!!! For ButterflyMoms who order it online it is discounted to $19.99 for ButterflyMoms (down from $25). Please order a copy and recommend to your online friends. Click here to buy, and post the link on your Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, …. http://bit.ly/gRxe4U. WHEW WHO!!!!!!!!

SUMMERS OF MY YOUTH in PORTUGAL!….The Gateway for a life of PASSION!

 

I am in love with the country of my birth. The love is activated by the intoxicating smells of the land and the food. My heart opens up whenever I hear Portuguese spoken, especially when I least expect it. When I was a kid I spent many of my entire summers in Portugal. We would go to my Tia Olga, Tio Zé’s  and Mamé’s home in Lisboa (Americans write it “Lisbon”). Our family was small back then but we made up for it with “amigos do coração” (heart friends) that had become family to us over the years. Because no one had a lot of kids in that circle and there were four of us, we got tons and tons of attention. What kid does not LOVE that! “Mariazinha!!!” (Cultural Note: adding “inho” or “inha” to a name is like adding a “y” in English, example “Bill” into “Billy”. It is used as a form of endearment.:)) We visited with our wonderful family in Lisboa and then a month in the beaches of the Algarve in a town called Portimão for the month of August. By the time I was in my mid 20’s I had already traveled to 23 countries but nothing compared to the air, food, ocean, love, culture, sand, sun, connection I experienced  from the land of my birth, PORTUGAL! And for the record, I have been to many of the islands in the Açores (Americans write it “Azores”), Madeira and all over the mainland. I know some people try to separate it but to me it is all the land of my heart. It is all PORTUGAL! It is where I have formed the most priceless, happiest memories. There is something very magical about this place! As I sit here writing from Portugal, my children sleeping around me, just smelling the air activates a deep love I don’t quite understand but one to which I am deeply drawn. (ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh….hope you can feel it because it feels great!!!!!!! 😉 )

The next generation of PASSION!!! :)!

We instinctually want to pass on to our kids what has had meaning to us in our lives. This summer I carved out the time to give my girls the same gift, the gift of spending the summer in Portugal! To do this now with children, especially when they are very young can be a logistical nightmare but there are other factors too in this “modern” world of family we know live in….step-parenting. 😉 I could not include our sweet Christopher because his mother would not allow him to come for that long…. (great future topic, or volume ;)!,  the trials and tribulations of being a step parent! 😉

When I was single I used to go to Portugal twice a year. People wondered how I did that but it’s really just about thinking outside the box and being creative with your money and time. I used to rent my house in San Francisco out for a month and then stay with family in Portugal. (I learned that trick from my “adopted” Tia Luisa who had a flat in London and in Portugal! THANKS TIA LUISA!!!!) It was actually cheaper for me to go to Portugal than to live in the States. The funny thing was that people thought I had to be  wealthy because I was always traveling. Little did they know I was just being creative with my laptop and my mortgage ;)…. In retrospect, now having four children and having to pay for EVERY “THING” for them I was a lot “wealthier” then because I was just paying for me! 😉 Now it’s like I travel with my very own posse, just like in the HBO series ENTOURAGE. Every trip involves paying for not just for my meals, airline tickets (that USED to be cheaper for kids back in the day now there is very little if any discount), activity passes, etc., but also those of five other souls. Even renting a car for example, we have to rent BIGGER otherwise the car seats don’t fit….and yes, we traveled with car seats. 😉

Me at four or five with my "little" brother João (Joãozinho).

There are soooooo many different roads I can take today’s blog. The lessons are many. The one that is coming up for me most is to share with you my wonderful ButterflyMoms is that AWARENESS in our own lives is the HEART OF OUR STORY! When we are on automatic pilot we miss the best part of our lives! My taking the time to write this has brought a deep awareness into my being which is bringing a deep THANKFULNESS. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. I’ve been having trouble connecting to the internet here and it’s been hot….and with three jet-lagged little kids, well, let’s just say that I’ve had “moments” of CRANKY myself.  🙁 Sitting down and writing this helps me to RE-SET my FOCUS METER on what is working in my life. 🙂

I invite you today to write what is working in your life. Start writing about what you liked from your summers as a child. Re-create what you liked for yourself and your kids (even if they are in their 60’s and far away). This is the first ASSIGNMENT I’ve ever really give out. I ask you to write back and let me/us know what came up for you. I have a FEELING that we have a lot to LEARN and LOVE from each other!

In the meantime, I will continue to share in the juiciest soul journeys here as they unfold!

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS If you liked today’s ButterflyMoms blog kindly share it with a friend!

PPS Nothing yet with the Oprah contest. I will keep you posted!

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