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Today Would Have Been Her 12th Birthday…

Fenway Park a week before about a week after Sophia’s first birthday.

Beautiful ‘Coach Me Maria’ Yummy Heart,

Every May 12 is different. Some are celebrations. Some are uneventful. Some are sad. Some just slip by… This one SUCKS, in fact, it’s been sucking for weeks now. The heart-wrenching sadness, I thought time would take care of, has had a resurgence this year. I’ve been crying for weeks so much so that my eyelids might be in a permanent state of puffy. Why? Well, it’s partly the deplorable state of the world… partly that even babies on this planet die… mostly because I wish I could bring her back.

Our beautiful our beloved Sophia died suddenly on June 22, 2006 for physical reasons no one, even today, understands. It was completely unexpected. It gutted us. It was extra hard because our little girl had just joyously celebrated her first birthday!

What a GLORIOUS day that was! Sophia was the happiest kid and it was super easy to fall in love with her. She had Downs and that just brought her level of LOVE to a whole new level. IT WAS SOOOOOO AWESOME TO BE AROUND THAT KIND OF LOVE! People literally came from all over the world for her birthday! Her life was a HUGE CELEBRATION… a month later Sophia lay dead in our arms. This can be such a cruel planet! A total gut punch that seems to revisit me whenever the mood strikes it. It leaves me heartbroken and in pieces.

Quite honestly, I am sick of crying. Occasionally I blocked the crying because what’s the use? Will it bring Sophia back???? After a while it’s just plain depressing and quite honestly lonely. Dead babies. Who wants to talk about that? And who wants to be around you when you are that sad? To be honest, the answer is not a lot of people. I am tired of hiding my feelings because people are so very uncomfortable about death, especially a baby’s death. They don’t know what to say. Many avoid us. They think we are “weird.” The reality is, they are right. It’s true. We are! When your child suddenly dies something in you shifts… in “icky” ways… but also in “magical” ones.

I realize I’m not honoring anyone by focusing on the icky so I begin looking for other ways to give meaning to Sophia’s amazing life. Parents often find ways to honor their beloved’s child life… like create a scholarship, dedicate a bench or start a race/event in that person’s honor… These did not feel like things that would honor Sophia’s short life.

I DID NOT FIND IT… IT FOUND ME!… (Actually it STALKED me!)
Way before Sophia was born I had been an international business and life coach. After her death I became a different kind of coach. I started channeling… and processing some AMAZING information having to do with our energy body, which most people know almost NOTHING about. It’s the kind of information that people so desperately need right now. As I say in my book Finally FULL Of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA “Pain is part of life, suffering is optional.”

For almost ten years, my way of honoring Sophia was to write a blog. That blog was seen by Oprah Show producers and that was one of the reasons I got to be on two Oprah Shows! People were so very inspired by the blog that I kept writing. Every Friday for five years I wrote through pregnancies, temper tantrums, snow storms, clients, miscarriages, broker exams, arguments, business meetings, breast feedings, vacations… At first it took me the whole day to do the blog. By the end I could write a really powerful one within 20 minutes. Isn’t it amazing what happens when we FOCUS?

I wrote NO MATTER WHAT, because it was my sacred time to be with Sophia. I felt I could honor her, by helping others. It felt indescribably amazing when people, even total strangers, would write and say that what I had written changed their life. Breath-giving!

From all that writing came a calling to write a book. I was really bad at that too at first… So bad that I burned the first, second and third fully written manuscripts I had written, because they were not in alignment with the magical connection I have with Sophia… Finally, after 10 years in November of 2016… just days after the election, Finally FULL Of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA was unleashed into the world! It is the book that was calling to me!

For 10 years, I could not understand why it took so very long for the book to “come” but when it came out just days after the shocking election of the 45th president of the United States, I knew that everything is indeed divine… even when it does not make sense to us! Finally FULL Of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA captures the love vibration that Sophia and I still share. It’s a gift to the world downloaded here by me… an accidental writer with a big, sensitive heart and a geeky personality. #geeksunite #scienceisreal

This life is ugly, very ugly… but it is also magical. When we get stuck in the ugly… we live the the curse side. When we are able to shift our focus, we can live out the gift. That is the core definition of happiness.

Look, let’s be clear… happiness is not a straight line. Ugly still happens. Ugly will never not happen. It’s a part of this planet but it does not mean I have to move in! Each day I feel what I feel and remember to choose my focus. I invite you today to do the same. Take a moment… especially when the UGLY hits… and CHOOSE.

So today as I am reminded that I GET TO CHOOSE THE GIFT… I suddenly realize as I write this that this is the first birthday that the book Finally FULL Of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA is done… not almost… or just another re-write… or just one more round of edits… but DONE, DONE, DONE!!!

This is not about a product, it’s about a legacy. It’s a tool that helps people realize why they bothered to get a body in the first place! Countless people have told me how much the book is making a difference in their lives!

It makes my heart sing for joy to know that each time someone buys, recommends, gifts, opens, underlines, remembers, quotes, shares, reviews, learns, posts, lends, orders Finally FULL Of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA the LOVE VIBRATION on Mother Earth grows just a wee bit more! (That’s why I’m always writing LOVE RISING in my posts!)

Took this birthday photo this morning. We have this butterfly gate in front of our house in honor of our sweet girl Sophalicious!

I feel the information in the book is my way I’m honoring Sophia. In her name, I get to help make the world a better place one heart at a time. It’s sometimes ugly/messy work but so well worth it!

This weekend is also Mother’s Day in the States (last weekend in Europe)… and I could not think of a better post that this one to share with you. When I started it I had no idea where it was going… (I’m getting better at surrendering to what shows up) … but it ended in LOVE! HAPPY MOTHER’s DAY!

Happy Birthday Beautiful Sophia! I THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart for choosing me to be your mamã. I LOVE YOU with all my heart! Beijinhos amor! Parabens!

Weirdmaste,                                                           Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa de Lourdes Cerveira Salomão-Schmidt www.coachmemaria.com                                                                            The birthday girl’s mamã  🙂

HOW YOU CAN HELP…

HELP SPREAD SOPHIA’s LOVE… I turn 50 on May 29th and I have a goal to get at least 50 Amazon reviews for Finally FULL Of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA. Guess what?! We’re up to 42!

GROW THE LOVE by leaving your review. It’s super easy!… https://www.amazon.com/Finally-Full-Yourself-Unlocking-Spiritual/product-reviews/0998191213/ref=cm_cr_dp_d_ttl?ie=UTF8&reviewerType=all_reviews&sortBy=recent#R1T2S8B9VMNRHZ

 

Where to buy Finally FULL Of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA…

ONLINE

  • Amazon… https://www.amazon.com/dp/0998191213/ref=rdr_ext_tmb
  • Barnes & Noble… http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/finally-full-of-yourself-maria-salom-o-schmidt/1125253329?ean=9780998191218

IN STORES

  • Barnes & Noble or any bookstore… Call to pre-order. Takes about 2-3 days.

IN MASSACHUSETTS…

  • Cambridge… The Harvard Bookstore  
  • Holliston… Coffee Haven and Fiske’s General Store 
  • Medfield… Holistic Wellness Center 
  • Medway… TC Scoops and The Enchanted Fox 
  • Natick… Five Crows 
  • Newton… Boston College Bookstore                                                                             
  • Walpole… She Breathes 

If you have a favorite local bookstore suggest they carry it. I’d love, love, love to come do a book signing and/or workshop at your local bookstore!

This is a grassroots LOVE MOVEMENT that only grows when you spread the word.

Read it! Review it! Share it!

LOVE RISING!

Be FULL OF YOURSELF! … And Celebrating Sophia’s 11th BIRTHDAY

sophiaCoach Me Maria and Butterfly Moms Fans,

It has been a very long time since I’ve written a blog. Today is a very special occasion though because it would have been our Sophia’s 11th birthday. For the last ten years since her death she has been an absolute inspiration to me in so many ways. The biggest misunderstanding I see is that people think I don’t want to talk about her. At least for me, just because her body is gone does not mean the relationship is over. I am still Sophia’s mama. I still miss touching and holding her. That is where my heart breaks the most… not being able to see, hold, hear, touch and smell her.

Many of you know I’ve been working on my book for about ten years now and finally it is done, both with words and graphics, and is now being edited. Sophia has been my muse for the my life’s research that is contained in the book. The goal of the book is to reduce human suffering. Pain is a part of the human experience but suffering is not. I want to live as fully as I can, literally FULL OF MYSELF so I can access my own unique spiritual DNA. I want Sophia and my other children to be proud of their mama, like I am so very proud of mine.The book is soooo close to being done but my goal of having it done by today fell short and it broke my heart because I felt like I had failed to honor her.

At my Master Mind group this week I opened up and shared about this birthday and how sad I felt. It helped release some of blocked, heavy energy. That entire day I was present in what I was feeling in each moment. When I noticed a heaviness I created flow points from any end points I encountered.

Angel in the sky 4

Later that day I was walking with my beautiful daughter Olivia, who just turned the big ten, and our four doggies. I looked up into the sky and saw something I had never seen, a vertical rainbow! It was absolutely amazing so I started yelling at the people around us to look up. Everyone started looking up and “oohhhing” and “ahhhing”.

 

 

Angel in the sky 5 Rainbow

 

Then we noticed another rainbow that was also incredibly unusual because it was in the form of a circle! I had never seen a rainbow do that! I love, love, love rainbows so this was a special treat for me! I started feeling happier and more connected to Soph without the “ickie”, just the flow of love.

 

 

As Olivia and I walked up to the driveway of our house I looked up and noticed something in the clouds so amazing that I gasped as I dropped the dog leashes and bag of poop onto the cement. As clear as clear could be, I saw an angel. Usually clouds move and reshape into something else but not this one! This was a full on angel.

I took several photos because I thought people would never believe this so I’m including them here for you to see! Funny thing is when I look back at the rainbow photos I can see wings and an angel in those too! Look at the images yourself. Write below in the comment section what you see. I would really love to hear from you.

 

Angel in the sky over our house

Angel in the sky 3Angel in the skyAngel in the sky 1

I believe it was Sophia reaching out to me! She did something else that knocked our socks off last year too. I know we could be making all this up but our whole lives are made up. We make it all up as we go along!

I just wanted to share this post with you to remind you that the tough times a temporary. GO WITH THE FLOW has never been more important… just not someone else’s flow… your own unique, magnificent flow! My book will come out and when it does it will be at the perfect time for when it needs to! It’s all connected to divine timing.

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
🙂

PS It would mean the world to me for you to sing, HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO SOPHIA in whatever way inspires you.

sophiaHappy Birthday to you!
Happy Birthday to you!
Happy Birthday Dear Sophiaaaaaaaaaa-licious!
Happy Birthday to you!

And because in our house we sing Happy Birthday in AT LEAST two languages, here it is in Portuguese…
Parabéns a você,
Nesta data querida.
Muitas felicidades,
Muitos anos de vida.

Hoje é dia de festa,
Cantam as nossas almas.
Para a menina Sophiaaaaaa,
Uma salva de palmas.

It’s a magnificent way to send more love into the world!

 

HOW YOUR COUCH CAN HELP YOUR DREAMS COME TRUE…

The amazing Jane Goodall...one of my favorite people!

Gorbachev a few years before I met him.

Beautiful ButterflyMoms!

EFFORTING. TO EFFORT. In most of our cultures VALUE is placed on HOW MUCH EFFORT you put into something. My background is that I’m TRAINED in both the CORPORATE and ENTREPRENEURIAL worlds. I have my MBA. I got it because I wanted to know what “they” know. It was a combination of being curious, wanting to make more money and wanting to feel safe. My area of expertise is MARKETING and more specifically PUBLIC RELATIONS. I’ve done work with some of the world’s most incredible people like author and humanitarian Jane Goodall, former president of the USSR Mikael Gorbachev and companies like Yahoo!, Sun Microsystems, Procter & Gamble, Continental Airlines and Reebok. I’ve even done work for the governments of Portugal and Japan. I have been doing this work for decades and I am very good at it.

So when I looked at my DREAM goal for getting on The Oprah Show, I took the same model as I do when I do PR. What are my objectives? What are my resources? Mind map it, set the list of tasks and off I would go. Well, what I found on that journey was THE MORE I EFFORTED the LESS PROGRESS I made. This really stumped me. This is the way that I’ve always done it, by mostly EFFORTING. At one point I was even going to WALK to Chicago…some of you who have read the blog for a while might remember that. It was a very foolish thing given that I had very small kids at home, no money, was not trained, had no equipment, etc, etc, etc…but as a Marcus Cherry’s mom used to say, “ A hard head makes a soft ass.” I was ignorance on fire. I did not trust the universe was going to give me my dream so I was going to circumvent the system! OH YA BABY! I THOUGHT I had it all worked out! Luckily for me the producers got wind of it and categorically told me that Oprah does not like stunts like that and if I did it I would never get on. I was disappointed but also a bit relieved. Can you imagine me walking 1,000 in the dead of winter?! I don’t know that they would have ever found my body!  😉

HOW I finally got on The Oprah Show is what I teach in Thursday night ButterflyMoms workshops that you keep seeing everywhere. This upcoming Thursday will be the 20th week anniversary! YAY! That is 20 weeks of helping people stop their EFFORTING. Twenty weeks of learning how to MANIFEST the life you want! It feels soooo good! It is me accomplishing my life’s goal of BEING THE FIRE THAT IGNITES PEOPLE’S SOUL!

This whole ButterflyMoms journey is one of the most delightful adventures of my life! The gift of being able to connect with others in SUCH a meaningful and profound manner is ABSOLUTELY SPECTACULAR! Each step of the way I have had to find the COURAGE to drop my ARMOR (ego, ways I used to do things, expectations, shoulds) at the entrance of each new chapter of the journey. As soon as I quiet down enough I can literally hear the next “request”, or maybe the word “suggestion” would be better because I do get to choose whether I do it or not. Sometimes I wish it were more automatic because FEAR can be such a powerful deterrent to FLYING (CONNECTING TO YOUR HEART) in this lifetime! :)! How many adventures have you missed in your lifetime because you took the hand of FEAR instead of that of your INTUITION? Hmmmmmm? NO JUDGING HERE! JUST OBSERVE. TAKE A VERY DEEP LUSCIOUS BREATH AND OBSERVE!!!! BE KIND TO YOURSELF AND THE ANSWER WILL FALL OUT OF YOU. :)!

The Incredible Creative Practitioner & Graphic Facilitator Karen Knight-Detering

In doing my first ever ButterflyMoms retreat I have hit upon the same issue that happened with The Oprah Show, my computer is acting up. I am noticing that technology gets very screwy when I step through the doorway of another cool adventure. That is probably no surprise to you because I have listed her the weeks and weeks of computer woes. So now, here we are two weekends before the retreat and the number of people who said they would sign up has not manifested. This week my talented friend Karen Knight-Detering shared this wonderful bit of wisdom. If you are trying to move a couch and need help because it is WAY too heavy and will scratch up the floor, you simply yell out, “Hey Charlie can you give me a hand here?” REMEMBER that when you need help with your DREAM remember the COUCH EXAMPLE…and SIMPLY ASK!

So today I am taking this lesson to heart and sincerely asking for help. I ask that you trust your INTUITION more than your FEAR and come for one of THE most MAGICAL weekends you will ever have. I ask that you sign up right now. Price is normally $365 but we are having an special price of $299 until October 15th so go to www.butterflymoms.com and sign up online. If you don’t immediately hear from me when you sign up, and I mean straight from me not an automated email, than please email or call me so that I can make sure you are all set. Email me directly at maria@butterflymoms.com or call me 617.877.3616 if you have questions.

This brings up a lot of anxiety and fear because in a way I’m making myself vulnerable by telling you what I need but what I’m learning is that to open one’s heart is to become a bit more vulnerable…but the rewards are soooooooo worth it!

Here is to a fantastic day!

Please read the updates and event below. They also feed your soul!

Big honkin’ hugs,

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

MORE WAYS TO FEED YOUR SOUL…

My Talk on IGNITING YOUR BIGGEST DREAM at the Dream Factory Community

√  Come the ButterflyMoms Vermont Retreat… and say YES! YES! YES! to your best life!  Take care of yourself! October 21-23 you have a date with yourself in Vermont at the beautiful Lareau Farm Inn for the first ever ButterflyMoms YES! YES! YES! Retreat. Price is only $299 if you pay before October 15, after that it goes up to $365 which includes all the workshops, materials, most meals and lodging. There are a very limited number of spots so don’t be on the outside wishing you had booked it! Reserve your spot now!! YOU WILL ABSOLUTELY LOVE IT! To book it send an email to maria@butterflymoms.com! Scholarships available. You will only regret NOT going!

√  Did an interview for Doreen G. Fulton‘s FREE virtual conference “Finally, an IEP for Mom! An Individualized Empowerment Plan for the Mom Who is Overworked, Overstressed and Overloaded!” ! I am soooooo excited to work with her! Check it out… http://believeinarayofhope-doreen.blogspot.com/

√  Finally here is the magnificent ButteflyMoms interview on Nancy L. Cantor‘s Dream Factory Television Show… I hope you watch it and that it feeds your soul! :)! http://vimeo.com/30095902

√  Just finished our 19th week in a row of ButterflyMoms Workshops!!!!! Next week will be our 20th so there will be lots of surprises!!!! Come next Thurs, October 13 at 8pm!  FRIDAY THE 13th and that is Sophia’s lucky number! J! Come feed your soul…783 Washington St, Holliston. Plenty of FREE & EASY PARKING in back. Only $25 or just $20 if pay through Paypal http://bit.ly/mS7c70

√  We no ENTREPRENEUR MOM EXTRAORDINAIRE books last week. To feed the soul of a friend buy them a copy by CLICKING HERE NOW… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

√  I have space for one more coaching clients. If you are interested send me an email maria@butterflymoms.com!

 

THE BOOK… “Mom Entrepreneur Extraordinaire”

The following is a list of places where ButterflyMoms live who bought our wonderful book MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE… Buy one so you can put your city/town/country on the list like so many other beautiful ButterflyMoms have!

UNITED STATES

California

Anaheim 1

Fullerton 1

Sacramento 1

San Bruno 1

Connecticut

Greenwich 1

Yalesville 1

Florida

Fort Lauderdale 1

Kentucky

Louisville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 3

Blackstone 2 Bolton 1

Holliston 14

Hudson 4

Medway 3

Millis 1

North Easton 1

Sherborn 1

South Grafton 1

Watertown 1

Wrentham 1

Worcester 3

Wrentham

Missouri

Lee’s Summit 1

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

Vermont

Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN

Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

SCOTLAND     

Greenock

SPAIN

Madrid 1

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Wiggle At Your Own Discretion….

Our guest speaker Paula Mark and her kids. SHE ROCKED THE HOUSE!!!

Good Morning Dearest Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

Here are this week’s important yet “wicked” fun ButterflyMoms updates…

*Just finished our 10th week in a row of ButterflyMoms workshops! WHEW WHO!!! This week had the beautiful Paula Mark of Holliston who runs Doe Hill Farm. Since we have been talking about the first three chakras she brought in the herbs that accompany them. We learned about infusions and concoctions and had a great time tasting and smelling them. It feels awesome! Next week we are doing something different. We’re continuing our 11th class again next Thursday, August 11th, 8pm.

Wait, there’s more…GREAT NEWS! For those for whom Thursday nights don’t work I’m going to teach ONE Wednesday night class on HOW TO MANIFEST WHAT YOU WANT from 7-9pm. See if this will work better for you. 🙂

Both workshops will be held at 783 Washington St, Holliston. Plenty of FREE parking in back. Only $25 at the door or just $20 if you drop off a check or pay through Paypal… http://bit.ly/mS7c70 .   If you have been thinking about coming just do it…Come to feed your soul! You will be soooooooooooo happy you did!

*SAVE THE DATE. I’m thrilled to let you know that we are having our very first ButterflyMoms retreat!!!! This time in Vermont. Save the date on your calendar for the weekend of October 22, 2011! You probably want to take that Friday off so that you have even more time to yourself!!! 🙂 TALK ABOUT REJUVINATING YOUR SOUL!!! WOW! 🙂 More details to follow!

*For the 17thth week my computer and website issues are still a work in progress. My computer is now in the hands of the fifth computer guy, maybe the fifth time is the charm, eh? Please keep sharing the site to friends.

*No books sold this week. *To buy your very own personally autographed copy Click here now…http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

Now onto the ButterflyMoms blog…

Good Morning Beautiful ButterflyMoms!

We are experiencing the middle of summer and I’m personally sensing a SHIFT. Are you? I have taken enough classes, read enough books, seen enough soap operas (both real and on TV) 😉 and lived enough to know that TRUE happiness comes for being present in the moment. Not to be rude but I don’t really need a long-bearded “guru” to tell me that, but KNOWING and DOING are two different worlds. What I do need is gentle and sometimes not-so-gentle reminders of being in the moment, where all of LIFE’s JUICE is! And I, for one, ENVISION myself living life in a JUICY WAY! How about you?

YUP this is definitely me! 😉

This week after years of procrastinating, my husband Doug and I went to the Ashram in Millis, Massachusetts and took a yoga class there. Now I’ve been doing yoga for a very long time, longer than most on the east coast and whenever I CARVE out the time for it, I feel sooooooooo wonderful! I feel like I’m connecting to the fun part of me, the deeper more present part of me.

Now two nights before I had seen EAT, PRAY, LOVE (book is better but movie is good too) and I had that vision of her there in my mind. I like Julia Roberts’ energy so it was a reminder that yoga is fun and for me to CONNECT with that fun!

My yoga class was taught by the beautiful Victoria Haffer, the Ashram's director! She is sooo great at what she does!

Honor thy "toesies"... it should be one of the Commandments

So there I was at the Ashram in Millis in this STUNNING room. I was sitting in a pose with my knees bent in the position most of us call the BUTTERFLY…did not get that HIT until now, WOW! DUH! The Butterfly! Ahhhhhh….never a dull moment!

So in this position the soles of my feet are together and as I’m looking down I see my toes and especially the bottom of my toes…that started me thinking, no, not thinking more like wondering while I was OBSERVING my “toesies” (as my 3 year old Isabella would call them). For a few PRECIOUS MOMENTS I was completely mesmerized by them. They seemed to wiggle at their own discretion. They seemed really happy and childlike to me. I noticed I had never REALLY noticed them, especially the bottom of my “toesies”. I thought about all the thousands and thousands of miles they have helped me move from one place to another. REALLY take that in for a moment. I let myself feel what it would feel like if I had not had that ability. In those few precious moments I was in my own blissful world, being present and loving every moment.

Sometimes in a world full of people who are SLEEPING or going through life on AUTOMATIC PILOT, only something huge like drugs, sugar or Disneyland can bring some satisfaction but really THE SECRET is much closer than most of “the advertisers” would lead us to believe, just look down at your “beautiful” “toesies”, notice them, wiggle them, love them and thank them for all the happiness and adventure they have brought and continue to bring to your life….This is being in the present moment. This is the recipe for how joy and meaning gets invited into your life…I invite you to send out YOUR INVITATION every moment you see your BEAUTIFUL TOESIES!  :)!!!!!

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS   HEY! I CO-AUTHORED A BOOK! WOW! The following is a list of places where ButterflyMoms live who bought our wonderful book MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE… Buy one so you can put your city/town/country on the list like so many other beautiful ButterflyMoms have! 🙂

UNITED STATES

California

Anaheim 1

Fullerton 1

Sacramento 1

San Bruno 1

Connecticut

Greenwich 1

Yalesville 1

Florida

Fort Lauderdale 1

Kentucky

Louisville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 2

Bolton 1

Holliston 12

Hudson 4

Medway 3

North Easton 1

Sherborn 1

South Grafton 1

Watertown 1

Worcester 3

Missouri

Lee’s Summit 1

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

Vermont

Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN

Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

SPAIN

Madrid 1

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Have a fabulous week!

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*Mark your calendar to read ButterflyMoms EVERY Friday!

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Where were you June 12th, 2010? Hmmmmm?

Dearest Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

Here are this week’s important ButterflyMoms updates…

*Just finished our 9th week in a row of ButterflyMoms workshops! There is an incredibly wonderful flow of people who come, some have come EVERY TIME and some come only whenever their heart brings them. Everyone who shows up adds something to that day’s “stew” so each time it has its own special “flavah”! This week thank you to Kerri, Patricia, Karin, Denise, Jennifer and Gaynor! I believe it is safe to say that we are all GLOWING in uncovering some incredible buried treasures! We are also getting more and more goosebumps each week! It feels awesome! Even got a request from people in Scotland who have already booked to attend the ButterflyMoms workshop in September when they are here visiting! PRETTY AWESOME! We’re meeting again next Thursday, August 4th, 8pm at 783 Washington St, Holliston. Plenty of FREE parking in back. Only $25 at the door or just $20 if you drop off a check or pay through Paypal… http://bit.ly/mS7c70 . :)  If you have been thinking about coming just do it…Come to feed your soul! You will be soooooooooooo happy you did! :)

*For the 16thth week my computer and website issues are still a work in progress. Please keep sharing the site to friends. I apologize for the hiccups.

*One book sold for MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE this week. It is going to Laura Martinez in Madrid, Spain! YAY!!!!!!!!!!! How wonderful that we have SUCH a wide audience of LOVE! 🙂 *To buy your very own personally autographed copy Click here now…http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

Now onto the ButterflyMoms blog…

Good morning beautiful ButterflyMoms!

Today’s blog is one I am re-printing from last summer. I spent last summer in Portugal living out my dream of letting them spend a summer in Portugal like I used to when I was a kid. This year I cannot afford to do that but I still want to capture the essence of me when I am there…this blog holds that magic in it. I hope you enjoy it all the way to the tips of your toes …and beyond!:) Let’s journey back to June 12, 2010 for some soul-rockin’ fun…. :)! Here we go!!!!!!!!!!!!…

Yesterday’s blog brought examples of some of the vast changes that are going on in our world. There are many, many shifts. Even with all these changes most of us currently live in a world where we are completely STARVING OUR SOULS!

PEEK A BOO! I SEE ME! DO YOU SEE YOU?

Think about it. What is your life based on, really? What is it based on? For many of us we live in an unconscious fog. We only really wake up when something NOTICEABLE happens like a death of someone or something, or an accident or illness. Otherwise, we completely alter our behavior and cut out our intuition to fit within the rules.

At work most of us do whatever the company/boss tells us we have to do, even when we don’t like it. Let’s say they pay you $200,000/year. Although most of us make significantly less than that, let’s go with that number because it round and big. For that amount of money (or a  lot less) you give your power to a person/group of people who tell you how you will structure your time. When you will work, when you can have “off”, when you can be with your kids. Some even let you know when you can go to the bathroom or take a break. This is sooooooo widespread that people don’t even realize that it’s happening. They feel ICKY but they don’t know why………so off to Dunkin Donuts we go to get something caffeinated and sugary to help us make it through the day, right!

Most just follow along because that is just what everyone does. If you don’t then you are weird and sometimes it even gets you fired so make sure you fit into their box, ok? (breathe with me!) I know this is hard for some of you and some might even get angry but stay with it and see where it takes you. You are safe.

I hope you kindly allow me to share this little example…I once asked one of my brothers if he wanted to go to Europe with me. I had found CRAZY CHEAP airline tickets and had a FREE place to stay. He said, “I’d love to but I have no more vacation time.” Now for most people that sounds “normal” but think about it. “WORK” takes us the best hours of your day and the best days of your life.

Most of us tolerate where we work, what we do or both. (Breathe) How does that feel for you? I can hear your mind coming into the conversation already (because mine is too 😉 I’m not saying quit tomorrow, or even ever. I’m gently suggesting you bring your awareness to your situation. Is this how you want to live having to ask permission to do the things you want when you want to do them? (Feel the answer.)  How does it feel for you? Even if it feel ICKY stay with it. Use your breath. It is there to help you process stuff. No breathing. No moving through stuff. It’s that simple!

For a simple experiment stand on a major street at rush hour (morning or night) and look at the faces of the people commuting to work. How do they look? Are they feeding their souls? Are you feeding yours? If you find that you are feeling an ICKY here AWESOME! Go with it! You know that most of the people who are going to work look like they are super psyched right! They look happy and excited that they are going to “WORK”! WHEW WHO! YA! YES! YIPEE! YAHOEY!!! And driving home from work, even better, right? They are happy to have spent a precious day of their lives living with purpose, making a difference and doing what feels right to them…right? Right? Oh,….no?  We all know it’s the opposite. 🙁 Again that Beatles song, “All the lonely people, where do they all come from?”

These people, like many of us, are suffering from ANOREXIA OF THE SOUL. We have starved our souls by ignoring them, by pushing them down when they popped up because it was socially unacceptable at the time. We made ourseleves small to fit in. We have learned to do that all our lives and then we wonder why drink, smoke, cheat, shop, eat…..(pick your poison). It’s because we miss ourselves! We act like we are human who occasionally have spiritual experience when in reality it’s the opposite. We are spirits/energy having a human experience!

What are some of your signs that you are suffering from Anorexia of the Soul? To have a better life, you have to start with AWARENESS, anything else is just a Band-Aid.

A gentle reminder that each time you come to www.ButterflyMoms.com you are feeding your soul! You are acknowledging it and asking what it needs. The voice might be very faint for some of you but keep at it. Your soul wants to talk to you. It wants you HAPPY! Just like with Aladin and the lamp, you are its master!

Some people don’t want to take the journey for fear of pain. Well, look around and ask is the pain of not being my TRUE me worth this feeling of constantly treading water? Don’t worry. Wherever you are is exactly where you are supposed to be! Because YOU are reading this perhaps you are ready for something a bit more…..oh, I don’t know…something a little bit more YOU?!

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS Today we got 153 people to the site. AMAZING! One ButterflyMom Vice President told me she has changed her homepage to be the ButterflyMoms.com so she can start her day with the intention of feeding her soul. WHAT AN HONOR!! Keep spreading the word! Keep exploring YOU because YOU are THE most interesting person you will EVER meet! :)!!!!!!! OH YA!!!! :)!

HEY! I CO-AUTHORED A BOOK! ;) WOW!

The following is a list of places where ButterflyMoms live who bought our wonderful book MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE…

UNITED STATES

California

Anaheim 1

Fullerton 1

Sacramento 1

San Bruno 1

Connecticut

Greenwich 1

Yalesville 1

Florida

Fort Lauderdale 1

Kentucky

Louisville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 2

Bolton 1

Holliston 12

Hudson 4

Medway 3

North Easton 1

Sherborn 1

South Grafton 1

Watertown 1

Worcester 3

Missouri

Lee’s Summit 1

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

Vermont

Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN

Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

SPAIN

Madrid 1 (Welcome to our newest member of our ButterflyMoms family!)

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Mandy Heliotis and Sophia Schmidt… NOW WHAT?!

Dearest Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

Here are this week’s important housekeeping issues….

*Last night we had yet another ButterflyMoms Manifestation Class. We fed a lot of souls. 🙂 Because it feels so good we’re having another one. We’re meeting next Thursday, June 23th, 8pm at 783 Washington St, Holliston. Easy to get to on Rt 16 & FREE parking in back. Only $25 at the door (still let me know you’re coming because space is limited) or just $20 if you drop off a check or pay through Paypal… http://bit.ly/mS7c70 . It’s a simple first step to get back to the happy you…so grab on to it! 🙂

*My computer and website stuff was put on hold due to our Mandy’s passing. My intention is to address it this week so I will be better at answering your emails. 😉  For right now it is what it is. ;)…My gentle reminder again to SURRENDER! continues 😉

*We sold zero MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE books last week. If it has been your intention to buy a book please do so this week by clicking here… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U. A list of where in the world books have been bought by other ButterflyMoms is at the end of this blog. It’s a pretty spectacular list of places. When you buy a book yours is added too!

Now onto the blog…

All the initial “funeral” attention is over. Although it has only been a little over a week I have found that this is one of the hardest phases of mourning. My world has totally shifted again HOWEVER most everyone else is still living their lives like before. They have moved on. They have enough OTHER THINGS in their life to “forget”, those closest to Mandy don’t have that luxury. Wherever we go we see her face. At random moments we remember her smell. We feel her around us but oftentimes feel helpless to connect. How do you communicate with someone who no longer has form?

Joy Dorsey and Rhys Thomas...Two Very Talented Healers and Teachers!

I am in my second year of school for this at the Rhys Thomas Energy Medicine School. I am much better than I used to be at connecting to things that have no form but still realize how very, very little I actually know. For me, specifically, I have a double dose of AWARENESS right now because in just a few days, on June 22, it will be our Sophia’s 5th Anniversary of her passing. It sounds cliché but I KNOW they are together. I mean I know that Sophia helped Mandy with her transition. As I write this there is a part of me that is FLASHING a big red WARNING light saying, “Don’t talk about this! What are people going to think.” Well, in my experience with everything I have studied and gone through, for me this is all true. I think the more people know about this the more we can get on with the business of enjoying the precious little time we have here in this lifetime…so I continue…

When we first got the call last week it was to say that Mandy had been hurt in a car accident and that it was dire. At that point she was already dead but we did not know that. I immediately sat on my couch and attempted to “tune in” to Mandy’s energy field. We do this in class for practice but this was the real deal. I desperately wanted information. In class I find myself blocking and even belittling my abilities because I see how much better others are at it than I am.  (Sidenote: Oftentimes we are our own worst enemies. We are our own BULLIES stomping any possibility of success. Notice when your BULLY comes out and how it affects your life.)

When I tuned in I got that there was something wrong with her wrists. I got that she was surrounded by lots of angels with lots of blue in the background like the magical ceiling at Notre Dame Basilica in Montreal. I got that she could not breathe. I was so IN THE MOMENT that I asked Sophia to go to her and see if she could see anything.

Beautiful Mandy 🙂

It felt like Sophia had been with me all along – I just had not really noticed but when I brought awareness to it she was right there. Instantly I saw Sophia was in the scene “sitting” IN Mandy’s lap. Sophia  kept evaporating or turning into something other than form. I could tell she was trying to hang on but there was nothing to hang out to. There was no emotion with this just information. It was all very matter-of-fact.  That is all I got. I went back to Doug who was at the kitchen table desperately trying to call someone – anyone – to get more information about our beloved Mandy. I described what I saw and said, “I got nothing.”

Haunting photo I took of Mandy and Sophia...So Beautiful!

It was only later that I found out that Mandy had broken both wrists in the crash and she died pretty instantly. We think she broke her neck which would have caused her to stop breathing. Mandy was already dead by the time I tried to connect with her so the message I got was there was nothing there was accurate. The fact that in my moment of grief that I reached out to Sophia and got such a simple, yet powerful, message, gives me much solace.

This has been a very rough week but also a very POWERFUL one. I want to take from Mandy’s death not the cliché reminder TO ENJOY each moment we are given. We have heard that so many times that maybe we will do that for a few minutes/hours /days but after a while we DEFAULT to the “BUSY”. We don’t like to stay in the uncomfortable. We like to FILL in the gaps of silence with STUFF, THINGS, GADGETS, CALLS, TELEVISION, BUSY WORK, IPADS, IPODS, etc., so we don’t have to be. These pretty shiny things are wonderful in moderation but we have let them FILL OUR EXISTENCE. We don’t know where they begin and we end.

Jamie and Mialotta...two cousins making new memories

The gifts that Mandy has brought me this week are many. I got to CONNECT with her friends and even members from my family that I did not bother to connect with on a deep basis because life was just too busy. Well, DEATH blows the lid off of BUSY!!!!!

Aunt Mimi, Aunt Nini and James

I got to meet and savor some of her beloved friends including James, Danny and Billie. I got to connect with my other niece, beautiful Nicole, and nephew, beautiful Daniel who are much younger and who were in that cloud of grief that many adults don’t understand. It is a hard place for kids to be. Fortunately or unfortunately, I’m a bit of an “expert” on kids and grief so I let my instinct take over. I showed them that I REALLY saw them through a few things we did together. I could see the difference it made for them and it surprisingly made a HUGE difference for me! WHAT A GIFT!!! Now we have pledged to write letters to each other for a whole year. No emails or boxes, just a simple letter written between us. Mialotta and I have already sent the first one. It contained in the letter fun math problems (because Daniel is working on his math skills), stickers and some of the funnier Sunday comics…funny I had not read the Sunday comics in years…I used to LOVE it!!! Yes, another simple gift…AND there were many other gifts…

I got to see my own daughter process some of her grief from her baby sister’s death and that of her beloved artistic cousin. “Whose going to give me hugs and kisses like Mandy does?,” she said sobbing. I got the gift of meeting Mandy’s beloved high school art teacher who is starting a scholarship in Mandy’s memory. 🙂 Mandy would have LOVED that!!! You could easy tell she loved Mandy very much! Amy spoke about how Mandy loved her art and often came back to mentor other kids. I invited Amy to read ButterflyMoms this week. I hope she is reading it right now! 😉

Stan shared his poetry, his memories and his heart

I got the gift of connection with a long-time friend of the family Stan from Manhattan who is a dearheart and whom I’ve gotten to know over the years through FB. I got to connect with some of the family’s old friends/neighbors especially Tonya and Lou who taught me the gift of being present with someone’s grief, with just showing up and holding the space for a bereaved mother to simply cry her heart out for the child she will never again hold. I got the gift of deeply connecting with my brothers-in-law, a studly group of gentlemen with hearts the size of the Empire State Building. I got the gift of connecting to Valerie, Carrie and Evelyn who showed what true friendship and support is all about. I got the gift of connecting with my Sophia on a whole new level that I will continue to explore. There are many, many, many other gifts that I received and even more that I will receive from our beautiful Mandy.

Photo of Mialotta taken by Mandy Heliotis

I cannot change her death but I can live my life in a way that honors what she stood for, all that courage to be authentic, all that passion, all that love, all that vision, all that creativity, all that connection, all that presence. I can increase my AWARENESS of when she is around and how she still influences the world through the magnificence that we call MANDY!

One of Mandy's paintings...sooo much talent!

I invite you to live your life in the present moment and see all the wonderful gifts around you!!! BREATHEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE! 🙂 FEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEL! LLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLOVE!!!!

Great big hugs,

Maariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

The following is a list of places where ButterflyMoms live who bought our wonderful book MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE…

UNITED STATES

California

Anaheim 1

Fullerton 1

Sacramento 1

San Bruno 1

Connecticut

Greenwich 1

Yalesville 1

Kentucky

Louisville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 2

Holliston 11

Hudson 4

Medway 3

North Easton 1

Sherborn 1

South Grafton 1

Watertown 1

Worcester 3

Missouri

Lee’s Summit 1

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

Vermont

Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN

Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

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SHATTERED HEARTS…In Memory of our Beloved Mandy Heliotis!

Dearest Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

This week’s housekeeping issues will be at the end…in honor of our beloved Mandy Heliotis, our shooting star!

Today my heart has been once again shattered into a thousand pieces. I ask that as you enter today’s blog you take eight super-deep BREATHS! 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7 aaaaaand………..8! AHHHHHHHHHHH! Breathing helps you move through the pain of things. It helps you process and stay connected to the meaning instead of just the pain.

On Wednesday morning the phone begin to ring at 3am…at first the news and our state of mind was foggy. There had been a horrific car crash, Mandy, our beloved niece had been badly hurt and had been airlifted. We stopped breathing. We began praying/begging that she be fine to any gods that were listening. A little while later the words you would give anything not to hear…She is dead 🙁 Our beautiful beloved 26 year old niece was ripped out of her life in an instant by a drunk driver who hit them head on. Mandy lived a lot in her short life but she had sooooooooooooo much more living left to do! It seems almost too much to bear. Our hearts feel like they have shattered. To be honest I’m having a hard time deciding to write in the present or past tense and that hurts. I don’t want to use words like SHE WAS. I want to say SHE IS!!!!

Mandy always attended the games of her younger cousins. They adore her!!!

Tears blind me, breath escapes me, my chest tightens, groans come from deep inside. I feel like I want to throw up much of the time now. Thinking about it is sometime too painful. I think about her. I replay Mandy’s last moments. I wish you could have been there to change the outcome. I wish you could have stopped it. I think about her friend who was driving and only got a broken leg. I pray that she does not blame herself. I pray that she is eventually able to heal this event in her life…seems like such a colossal request right now. I think about the last time we saw each other , Mandy and I. I think about the last time we spoke. I feel in awe of the fact that her photo with Sophia was in the News Center 5 piece that Susan Wornick did for ABC. To see it go to www.butterflymoms.com and check out the WATCH section. I spoke to her about it about a week ago. Mandy said she loved it!

Throbbing heartache rips through Mandy’s immediate family, through our families into our extended families and friends. Everyone feels the loss. If you ever met Mandy you would know why. AHHHHHHHHHHHHH Beautiful Mandy! She IS AUTHENTIC and REAL. Mandy had an eye (and a hand) for art and photography. She IS KIND. Even out of her body SHE IS STILL ALL ABOUT LOVE! Mandy honored both the dark and the light sides of herself and at SUCH a young age brought incredible amounts of beauty into the world. When someone does that, you miss them even more. ;( I feel like the world got a little dimmer when her soul left planet earth. I am certainly not the only one!

Our beautiful Mandy

Grief is such a powerful thing. It can cut you at the knees. It affects us on every level if we let it. The parts we cut off from the grief are the parts that will eventually give us or biggest pain. I have learned with Sophia’s death that it all comes in waves…Sometimes I cannot bear living another moment and other times I just feel the love and gratitude for having been loved and had the honor of loving such a magnificent soul!  Mandy, sweetie, you are a MAGNIFICENT SOUL! We miss you already!

I am deeply grateful and deeply humble by all the outpouring of LOVE LOVE LOVE from those of you who sent their condolences! Thank you for reaching out. In lieu of flowers her beloved mom, dad and sisters ask that in lieu of flowers you give a donation in Mandy Heliotis’ name to MADD (Mothers Against Drunk Driving).

Great big hugs,

Maariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS  Here are this week’s important housekeeping issues….

*Thank you to everyone who came last night to the ButterflyMoms Manifestation Class. A special thank you to the beautiful Kerri Miller, the beautiful Denise Gidopoulos, the beautiful Kären Humphrey, the beautiful Gaynor Greenberg, the beautiful Jennifer Burgett and the beautiful Susan Carlson who came to the workshop and helped me deal with my grief by being present with that energy and allowing it to move wherever it needed to go. If you feel stuck or like you want to move forward but keep hitting ROADBLOCKS then come next week to our spectacular workshop. We make it at 8pm so you can put your kids to bed or get out of work with plenty of time to show up. Everyone says they’re learning the tools they can use to start moving towards her heart’s desire! 🙂 The group has asked that we meet again so I’m extending this invitation to you. We’re meeting next Thursday, June 16th, 8pm at 783 Washington St, Holliston. Easy to get to on Route 16 and plenty of FREE parking in back. Cost is only $25 at the door (you still need to pre-register because space is limited) or just $20 if you drop off a check or pay through Paypal… http://bit.ly/mS7c70 . It’s a simple first step…so grab on to it! J

*My computer’s motherboard is still in Wisconsin getting fixed…BREATHE. Sometimes in life things take longer that you expected/wanted but letting go is the best way. I‘ve been without access to my files in almost 3 months and I am just observing and letting go, ESPECIALLY when I feel the Land of Should creep in!!!! 😉

*The www.butterflymoms.com website is still a work in progress. Again, thank you for bearing with me. For right now it is what it is. ;)…Gentle reminder again to SURRENDER! 😉

One book sold this week to the lovely Kat Malone. Thanks beautiful Kat! The following is a list of places where ButterflyMoms live who bought our wonderful book MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE…

UNITED STATES

California

Anaheim 1

Fullerton 1

Sacramento 1

San Bruno 1

Connecticut

Greenwich 1

Yalesville 1

Kentucky

Louisville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 2

Holliston 11

Hudson 4

Medway 3

North Easton 1

Sherborn 1

South Grafton 1

Watertown 1

Worcester 3

Missouri

Lee’s Summit 1

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

Vermont

Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN

Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

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MY OPRAH DREAM REALIZED…PART 1

Dearest Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

Lots going on….

First, our new website is up so check it out and pass it to your friends… www.butterflymoms.com.

Second, we are in the FRONT PAGE of today’s MetroWest Daily News in a very nicely written article by reporter Kendall Hatch: http://www.metrowestdailynews.com/features/x1078553938/O-what-a-feeling-Holliston-woman-featured-on-Oprah

Third, being interviewed by WCVB (ABC) today at 1:30pm. :)!

Now onto today’s blog….BELIEVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

WOW! WOW! WOW! I have just read the first paragraph of my last blog on May 13 just seven days ago. I have lived a whole lifetime in these last seven days! I’m bringing lots and lots of BREATHE REMINDERS to today’s blog because it is surreal in many ways how this has all happened and putting it on words, well, I don’t know if I can turn something so AMAZING into linear thought, quite honestly!!! :)! I’m in a world right now where my whole energy level has shifted. The dream I had for 20 YEARS!!!!, that of being on The Oprah Show, finally came true in the grandest of scales!! I am in a state of awe, shock, gratitude, disbelief, amazement….you get the idea! Every time I think I’ve “identified” a feeling it shifts to something else. I am a wave of emotions!

I also feel like this experience has opened me up into a whole new level of being. If I had to describe it I would describe it as my soul just expanded. My energy feels bigger. It is a magnificent feeling!  Yesterday as I worked the counter of our family’s dry cleaning business, I could feel how I was igniting the souls of the people who walked in. It felt AMAZING! I know that is my life’s calling and whether I do it on a stage or one-on-one it feels like total alignment of my soul when I’m doing this. To see people’s faces and energy dramatically shift in a short time leaves me feeling incredibly grateful and joyous! I sometimes even jump up and down and clap my hands kind of happy!

For those who need an update I will give you the quick rundown.

Last Thursday, May 12 would have been Sophia’s 6th birthday. The Oprah Show had only 3 shows left. Every actor, musician, therapist, author’s PR people were doing anything and everything to get their clients on the show. I used to do PR I know how that goes. I had been trying to get on for 20 years, people so I knew that if it was going to happen I simply needed to completely surrender because it was out of my hands. All I could control was my ENERGY ATTITUDE. I let go again of my expectation and embraced gratitude. I sent a final email from my heart to the producer I had been working with letting him know it was Sophia’s birthday and thanking him for answering my original email, working with me throughout the year and giving me soooo much hope!

Friday, May 13, write my ButterflyMoms blog to the reception of one of the highest number of readers ever. Same day a new producer calls me an interviews me. About five more calls that day. I’m asked if I can fly out to Chicago for an interview or have a crew come here. (I hope for them to fly me out but am open to whatever comes.) They call me back and say someone is flying out to film me, “Are you free at noon?” After a few phone calls I was 😉

Me and the Oprah Show camera crew who came to our house in HollistonWhat a wonderful day!

Saturday, May 14 the producer Alex flew directly from Harpo Studios to Providence with not even enough time to change his clothes. He was interviewed someone in Providence at 8am and came to my house at noon. He brought two cameramen and one sound guy extraordinaire. Of course one of them was Portuguese from São Miguel.  😉 (love how the universe works!) Alex says it might not even air. They have to still approve the content. They film for 2.5 hours and leave. I’m thankful for the whole experience and that my kids get to see what a production team looks like. It is a beautiful sunny day.

You KNOW when things get too serious I have to collaborate fun... 🙂

Sunday, May 15 it’s a rainy day.  Finish an open house on a new listing. Get lots of interest and two offers above asking. Doug finished his open house at the same time so since we had a babysitter we met at Bertucci’s for a quick lunch. Alex calls. They loved film and will use it. Yay!!! And they have two tickets for me if I’d like to come to Chicago for the final taping? It hits me that I’m not only going to be ON the Oprah Winfrey Show but that it’s going to be one of the very last shows!!!! Suddenly Sophia feels very, very, very close to me! I KNOW this is a gift from her! I’m having the same out-of-body experience I had when she died but this time it’s oh-so-joyous!!!! WHAT A GIFT!!!!! One snafu… They cannot pay for the flight because their budget is shot but will pay for hotel and food. It’s been a rough couple of years for us financially but I know that if I’ve come this far nothing is going to stop me so I reached out to my class (I’m in my second year of Energy Medicine School) and asked if they had any frequent flyer miles. To my heartfelt joy, my classmates got together and chipped in to buy us our airplane tickets!!! AMAZING! (Learning to receive is SUCH a huge part of all this.) My friend Karen Knight-Detering sprung into action as one of my many fairy godmothers who appeared. Karen  offered to drive me to airport, take care of my Mia and called our wonderful hairdresser Meredith from Willow Salon for an emergency appointment. Meredith opened up the salon for just me at 6am on a Monday (day they are normally closed) right before she got her root canal! AMAZING! Thanks for my mom for watching my two youngest just days after surgery. Thank you Vicki, Raquel, Heather, Arden, Gregg, Alex, Andy, Alberto, Sandy, Linda, Doug, Nancy, Karen, Meredith, my class at the Rhys Thomas Institute for Energy Medicine and everyone else who had a hand in me going to Chicago!

Mateus and Tia Milu :)! LOVEFEST!!

CUTIE PIE 1 and CUTIE PIE 2 🙂

Monday, May 16 Within 24 hours we were in Chicago and getting debriefed on what to wear and some of the basics. My brother Pedro meets me because he now lives in Chicago. He brings his son Mateus who is a total cutie pie! What a total treat it is to play with him! I hardly sleep that night knowing what’s coming!

Amazing vibration when you have 13,000 people around you who are sooo thankful to be there!

Tuesday, May 17  It’s the big day. Trying to stay in my body. I get up SUPER early. Can’t sleep. Too excited! Spend lots of time answering people’s questions. My email is still sporadic and my computer still not working right so I’m hobbling along technologically speaking. I chant and meditate to calm down. I do Reiki to calm down. The fear/worry wants to come in. When this happens I want to start controlling things. I am observing as if I’m outside my body. I’m shifting and I don’t know what I’m feeling from one moment to the next. We go for a walk. The air feels great. It’s a little past three and we meet downstairs for our limo bus with the other ULTIMATE VIEWERS who will be featured on the show. As we start heading towards the United Center, we start getting more details. There was a lot of secrecy prior to this point.

My VIP Badge which gave me the access to my dreams! PRICELESS!

Danielle one of Oprah's stylists...amazing!

One of The Oprah Show's make-up artists Robert. He is FANTASTIC and phenomenal at what he does! WOW!

The representative tells us that it’s going to be two shows instead of one with over 30 stars and lots of surprises. Still not sinking in. We are told we will be there until around 11….ended up being more like 1am!!! 😉 When we get there we come in through the security entrance that all the stars take. It was AMAZING! Incredible energy. Everyone was EXTREMELY grateful to be there!  A “funny” thing happened where I heard a Madonna song and danced over to see what was going on and there was Madonna standing there practicing her part of the show! I wish I could tell you I acted cool but I did not! That is the first of many stars I would see and mingle with that night! People ask if I met Oprah.

Tamika and Carrie incredible women with heart-opening stories!

One of the many times Oprah walked next to me this time with Jerry Seinfeld and Jaime Foxx. Surreal!!!

Very Grateful to Be Able to Share this AMAZING experience with Doug!

 

 

 

This is not the typical show she does because these two shows were for her. Oprah did not have a microphone during most of the show because she was “receiving” not “giving”. She sat four people away from me and passed by me all night long because they kept moving her (she wore heels and by the end of the night you could tell her feet were “barking” – after 12 hours of dancing and standing in heels mine were too!!!!)

Front Row Seating to Oprah in an Audience of 13,0000!!!

We had VIP seating and I sat behind Stedman and Gail for a part of the first show. Cameras were not allowed but I did sneak in my phone and so did a lot of people. After a while everyone was taking photos. It was hard though because the phone does not have zoom. This place WAS MASSIVE! I’m going to have to make this a two part blog because it’s getting too long. There is lots and lots still to talk about!

Make sure you watch THE OPRAH SHOW, Monday, MAY 23 on ABC! I’m in a video in the first few minutes and you will probably see me again in the audience shots because the camera crews were all over us!

I am deeply grateful and deeply humble by that LOVE!

Great big hugs,

Maariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS  Sold one book this week to a place we have not sold to before….(drum roll) Welcome Louisville, Kentucky to the house!!!!! WHEW WHO!!!!

Here is where the books have gone to ButterflyMoms…

UNITED STATES

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Fullerton 1

Sacramento 1

Connecticut

Greenwich 1

Yalesville 1

Kentucky

Louisville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 2

Holliston 10

Hudson 4

Medway 3

North Easton 1

Sherborn 1

South Grafton 1

Watertown 1

Worcester 3

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

Vermont

Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN

Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

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OPRAH UPDATE…One, Six and Thirteen!

 

 

Dearest Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

First, an Oprah update. The producer called again this past week and there was renewed hope that I would be on one of the last shows. He even had us get Sophia’s birth and death certificate to send to him just in case he could do something but that did not pan out. It is sad but at least I put myself out there and there are many more adventures I cannot even imagine coming my way! I’m excited! Thanks for coming on that journey with me!

Just finished a Goddess Weekend that was out of this world! It was at this retreat last year that I started writing ButterflyMoms on a consistent basis. So HAPPY ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY BUTTERFLYMOMS!!!

The retreat got me thinking that we can all use a little time away to re-group and re-energize soooooo….(trumpets please)…… We are scheduling our first ButterflyMoms Retreat the weekend of October 22, 2011 in Mad River Vermont at a magical inn! We are still working on the details but space will be limited so if you are at all interested let me know. Carving out the time for our highest good is the best thing we can do for ourselves! :)!

I ask you to take a DEEP, DEEP BREATH with me as I enter into today’s blog…

Sophia and Me at her first birthday party

I never know how I’m going to be on May12 and June 22. Those are my Sophia’s birthday and deathday.

Sometimes sooooooooooooooooo much emotion wants to come out that I’m afraid those around me cannot handle it. Quite honestly most of my grieving has been alone…or SWALLOWING MY GRIEF because of this fear that others cannot handle it. Some of the work I’ve been doing at the Rhys Thomas Energy Medicine School, especially lately, has allowed me to open/release some of that energy, some very powerful stuff!

It’s hard, you know, to talk to others about the birth and death of your baby because if that other person REALLY went “THERE” with you it…well, I can’t say I honestly know what would happen, but it’s a lot of pain and in a way I guess I protect others from it because then I think I need to save them from it. I don’t know if I’m making sense to you but this is how I feel. There is soooo much magic that has come from her death but I would give it all up to have Sophia back in my arms. I don’t know if that is the PC thing to say but that is how MY HEART FEELS. I miss her sooooooooooooooooo much, our Sophalicious. I have had many, many people die in this lifetime, losing your baby is TOTALLY a different feeling. It is that type of grief that can knock the wind out of my sails and because I have so many responsibilities I cannot crawl into bed and stay there so I activate AUTOMATIC PILOT, put on a smiley face and go off into my day.  I KNOW I’m not the only one! Sometime I do it so automatically, in fact, that I don’t know that I’ve ACTIVATED it. I NOTICE that when I do this I take a VERY DEEP BREATH and then probably don’t exhale for the rest of the day. That is how I perceive it.

Grieving, for me, is this endless circle of wanting to get to HIGHER GROUND, to being as “ok” with Sophia’s death as I can be and then being hit by a Tsunami of pain, never knowing who you are going to be in front of when it happens.

At Sophia's Christening with Parents, Siblings and God Parents... Sooo much LOVE!

esterday would have been Sophia’s 6th birthday. She died at 13 months so it’s fitting that I’m writing this on Friday the 13th…. BTW, found out that Friday the 13th is a VERY POWERFUL GODDESS DAY…When  the Roman Catholic Church was trying to take over, they made it a bad luck day instead. I, for one am reclaiming the magic of Friday the 13th!!! Who’s with me? 😉

Today’s blog is just pouring out of me and I’m not stopping it. It has REALLY wanted to come out. The word that keeps coming up around yesterday is HUMBLE, HUMBLE, HUMBLE.

I was COMPLETELY blown away by the outpouring of LOVE, LOVE, LOVE that our family received yesterday!  We had more than 200 people (I can’t even believe I’m typing that number!!!) reach out via email, phone, text, voicemail, facebook and even a handful of  in person visits from dear friends who seemed to really be holding a space of LOVE for the day as I had requested on FB. This may surprise you writing how I do but I usually don’t open myself up to get the love BECAUSE TO OPEN TO THE LOVE, YOU HAVE TO BE OPEN TO THE PAIN. I was more vulnerable yesterday than I have been in a long time and that is why I was able to ASK for what I needed. I asked for others to hold us in LOVE…and I highly suggest it because it felt wonderful! Like floating, really if you let yourself go….there is a downside though that is ALSO important to know about…. WARNING: When that happens SHIT that has been in your life’s “basement” comes up….and baby that shit stinks! It was soooo powerful that it rocked my marriage. We had to work some things out. Key is to go with the flow, stay open, stay authentic and for goodness sakes KEEP MOVING FORWARD (but in a BEING PRESENT WAY)!!!

A very special thank you to all those who reached out yesterday. YOU deeply help me and my family heal a bit more. I was going to try to list everyone’s name here but if I forgot someone that would not do. I would invite you to go to my Facebook page and read all the magnificent comments from around the world. It is a magnificent example of SHEER LOVE!!! I am deeply grateful and deeply humble by that LOVE!

Great big hugs,

Maariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

Sophia and her Vovo

PS  A plethora of books sold this week! We FINALLY SOLD ONE IN PORTUGAL!!!! YAY! (Thank you Madrinha Juvenalia Figueiredo!) We also sold two in VERMONT (Thank you Evelyn and Kristen Meyer!) which is a new state for us and one in Watertown, MA (Thank you Christine McDade!) and another in CONNECTICUT (Thank you Sheryn MacMunn)! WHEW WHO!!!! I LOVE BEING ON THIS JOURNEY WITH YOU! SOOOO FUN!!!!

Here is where the books have gone to ButterflyMoms…

UNITED STATES

California

Fullerton 1

Sacramento 1

Connecticut

Greenwich 1

Yalesville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 2

Holliston 10

Hudson 4

Medway 3

North Easton 1

Sherborn 1

South Grafton 1

Watertown 1

Worcester 3

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

Vermont

Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN

Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

Me at Hemingway's House in Key West

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CALL YOUR ENERGY BACK

Dear Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

Last week I shattered my cell phone’s screen so that every time I call some one now I get very small papercuts on my fingers and ears. 😉 Two hundred dollars to get it fixed is the best option but there are complications ( I will not bore you with here but suffice it to say that they cannot download the information on my cell phone -except for contacts- unless I personally do it on my computer. Well, this week, my 15 year old son Christopher spilled water next to my laptop which killed the motherboard. It will not even turn on……(deep breaths – maybe more for me than for you 😉 ).

I find myself WANTING to find BLAME. I saw the whole thing and there was none, really in this situation. It was an accident. I OBSERVED in my life how quickly I switch to blame. HE DID THIS. SHE DID THAT. THOSE ASSHOLES!!! (didn’t think you’d be seeing that word here today did ya now? SURPRISE!!! 😉 )

Since today is Earth Day let’s talk about ENERGY…YOURS! 😉  Do you know what happens when you BLAME? You are literaly setting up an energy mortgage that you pay out to them EVERY time you think about that person or situation. For example, if you don’t like your boss or work, EVERY time you think about it, you PAY THEM from YOUR VERY OWN ENERGY BANK. Most of us think we are JUST thinking but HOW DO YOU FEEL when you do this? Do you feel full of energy or drained? Feelings are INCREDIBLE FEEDBACK mechanisms that many people ignore. It would be the same thing as if when you drove you decided to ignore EVERY SIGN you came across. What would happen? What if EVERYONE did that? That is basically what is happening all over this planet. We are colliding into each other because we are not paying any attention to the signs. I can help you see them! YES I CAN!!! :)!!!

Most of us pay these ENERGY MORTGAGES to many, many, many, many people and events. AWARENESS is the KEY here! JUDGING is what most people do but that will only get you “STUCKER-ER”!!! OBSERVE INSTEAD. NOTICE how ICKY it FEELS to GIVE AWAY YOUR PRECIOUS ENERGY to things that do not matter to you. If you had a garden it would be like you give all your water and fertilizer to the weeds and let the flowers and veggies die. Seems SILLY but how many times in one hour do you do it…..GOODNESS no wonder we are all tired!!!!

We are at a CRITICAL time on EARTH! It is an AWESOME time to be alive (even though for most of us it does not feel like that often – but that is because you are giving your energy to the weeds, dammit!!! ;)!!! To call your energy back is soooooooo easy you might miss it so pay extra close attention… Simply image that every time you have a negative, blame, hate, worry THOUGHT about someone IMAGINE an invisible cord forms between you and her and that is how your energy leaves. Simply imagine cutting that cord, releasing that person with as much love as you can muster and feeling the energy come back to you. Sometimes you need to do it several (million) times but if you do this every time you notice instead of INVESTING in “judging” or “blaming” you will start seeing a noticeable difference in your life.

What difference? To get WAY COOL experiences on this planet you need to have a certain amount of energy. For example, scoring that killer parking spot only mostly happens when you have enough energy to PAY for that experience. I have found that since I’ve started doing this work I get cooler and cooler experiences. Life is not perfect but it is imperfectly perfect for me! 🙂

There is no better day to start calling your energy back than today…April 22, 2011 EARTH DAY!!!! Let EARTH’s healing BEGIN with you dear ButterflyMoms!

At Ernest Hemingway's house in Key West last year at my beautiful niece Emily's wedding 🙂

This is something that works great if you share it with others. Share ButterflyMoms with your friends. We have a whole planet of humans to help shift their energy BACK to themselves! It started with you reading this blog today! YAY! Now pass it forward… www.butterflymoms.com

HAPPY EARTH DAY Y’ALL!!!!

Great big hugs,

Maariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS Sold one book this week to the beautiful Carla Moss who lives in Fullerton, California. I started a women’s business group online about 15 years ago called Wild Business Women and it was one of the largest groups online. We were a faithful, fun, entrepreneurial bunch!! Thank you beautiful Carla for feeding my dreams…and adding another point to the State of California! I ask that you buy a copy for you and your best friend Just click here… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U. BE REPRESENTED! This is FUN!

Here is where the books have gone to ButterflyMoms…

UNITED STATES

California

Fullerton 1

Sacramento 1

Connecticut

Yalesville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 2

Holliston 10

Hudson 4

Medway 3

North Easton 1

Sherborn 1

South Grafton 1

Worcester 3

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN

Tokyo  1

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