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The Depths of a Mother’s Desperation….PART ONE

Hello Beautiful ButterflyMoms!

I’m humbled that when I wrote the last blog after not writing for two weeks, almost 400 people read it in just 2 days! WOW! THANK YOU for helping me get the message out to other ButterflyMoms. It feels WONDERFUL to be on this journey with you! Please keep spreading the word so that we can bring some answers to those who think there is no hope and have all but given up. I will include the link to today’s blog at the end of this entry so that you can easily share with others. MWAH! It’s cheaper than Hallmark and more precious than GOLD and you get to be the hope giver! YAY!

We’ve all gotten gifts, some big, some small, some meaningful, some useless ;), but has anyone ever given you a PERSON, a real, life person? As odd as it might sound initially, it has happened to me a few times in my life.

Chiang Rai

The first time I was 22 years old, had just graduated from Boston College and started my job working in Japan for the Japanese government in the JETT program. It was the Christmas holiday break and my dear friend Tracey and I were backpacking for a month in Thailand. It was at the end of our trip. We were in a remote part of Chiang Rai waiting for a bus back to Bangkok. The bus schedule had changed and we had a few hours to wait. We decided to just hang out and read in the sun by the bus stop which was pretty rural with beautiful trees and plants. (ahhhhhh, remember when we could just do that decide to randomly sit down and read, ahhhhh! – a time before children – for those of us still with little ones I wanted to give us all a “CALGONE” break 😉 ) We sat in the grass to read by some little kids who were playing near us. One thing led to another and before I knew it, I started playing with one of the kids. He was such a kind, happy child! After a while the boy’s mom and two other younger siblings joined us. The mom and children all had amazing energy! They were gentle, kind, honorable people. We did not speak the same language but we had a wonderful time doing the most basic thing, connecting with each other by simply smiling and “gesturing” to each other as we played simple fun games.

I stayed in one of these. There is no running water or electricity. When we asked where the bathroom was they responded, "Anywhere." Quite an adventure!

I could tell they had very little and it was almost time for my bus to leave so we walked over to the nearby store and I remember gesturing for her to get anything she wanted. I will never forget what happened next. She got milk for her baby and soap. I gestured that she could get more so the took another bar of soup. Wow, to me when I said “get more” I meant “Sweetie-YOU-HAVE-THREE-HUNGRY-BABIES-BUY-OUT-THE-PLACE!” To her, those two items were already probably more than she had ever received, more than she imagined someone would give her. It is in moments like this where an overwhelming feeling of being HUMBLE overtook me! Us with all our vast amounts of STUFF, our gobs of food, our mountains of possessions, our huge houses and fridges, and this wonderful family, starving! It all felt soooooo wrong. So unfair.  Even though this Mother was offered to get ANYTHING in that store, she picked two VERY BASIC necessity items, as she saw them. I could see that they were hungry so I gave her as much money as I had on me because sadly I could think of nothing else I could do. She was extremely grateful and we both cried and hugged.

A beautiful culture!

We went back outside to play. The gentle mom disappeared for a few minutes. After a while she came back with someone who spoke a little English. The “translator” told me that she would be honored if I would take her oldest son who was about 5 with me. WAIT. WHAT? I did not know what to say. As strange as it sounds, inside my brain I was actually thinking of HOW I could I bring this child with me into Japan, where I was working at the time. My friend Tracey helped me see that there was NO WAY that was even a remote possibility. I thanked the young mother and said I wish I couldn’t. She then looked down and thought for few moments. She slowly went to her second youngest child, a little girl who was about 2 or 3 and “offered” me her. My heart broke a little more. I could tell she was a kind mother who deeply loved her children and wanted better for them than she could provide. Even then, at 22, the pain/desperation/sadness in that mother’s eyes stays with me. I knew this was hell for her. I knew if she was asking that their circumstances must be dire. I had no way of helping other than the small monetary contribution I had made. I sadly apologized as I said I could not take her beloved second child either. Then when I thought things could not get any harder the mom looked over at her baby and started sobbing. She slowly approached me with her infant and held her up to me……Come on people! Are you kidding me?! Do people really live desperately? Do moms really need to make these kind of decisions? PLEASE NOTE. It is not about JUDGING HERE. It is about AWARENESS. Bringing awareness to a situation without judging brings us deep feelings. It is under these circumstances that our INTUITION is invited to come and GUIDE US.

(DEEP, SWEET BREATHS HERE PLEASE) (A COUPLE OF TIMES IF YOU WILL) It is important to remember in the telling of this true event that happened two decades ago in my life that there are still many lessons, probably more lessons then at the time because it was so overwhelming for me at 22 to feel so powerless to help other, especially a gentle mother and her children. One of the biggest lessons is that not only can we NOT “save” people but it is also not our “JOB” to do so. It’s not that “we can’t SAVE everyone” it’s that we cannot “SAVE” anyone.

As moms we tend to want to FIX everything for everyone. If you bring awareness to the situation you find that we have a society of children who have been so protected and coddled that they do not realize the value of what they have because they don’t understand what it is like to be hungry or cold or not get every toy they want. Many of our children a butterflies whose wings were not allowed to struggle against the cocoon as they emerged from it because the butterfly’s “family” could not bear to see “their” baby struggle. Not a guilt thing beautiful ButterflyMoms, just bring AWARENESS. There is NO “SHOULD”. We are in an age of human development where we are shifting from the LAND OF SHOULD to a LAND OF AWARENESS. It takes a little practice but once you get the hang of it you will see the amazing “coincidences” that fall in your lap dozens and dozens of times A DAY!!!!!! It’s fun! I’m doing it and that is HOW I’m attracting Oprah. It works! It’s free! It’s fun! I love sharing it so you and other ButterflyMoms can PLAY with me in this wonderful adventure we are on called LIFE – VIDA – VITA – VIE!

This is the end of Part 1 of this story. When I start writing I never know where it will take me. I did not realize this event in my life still had sooooo much “juice”. I’m glad I shared it because I still had a lot of guilt over it and if that mom ever knew that she was helping other moms by sharing her story, then I feel she would be really thrilled. Come back tomorrow when I will talk about the second time someone offered me a person. This time I did not say NO. (enter music TAH DAH DUH!!!) 😉

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS If you like what you read please post this on your FB, Twitter, LinkedIn, MySpace, etc and email friends. In the noise of life we can all use a gentle reminder to connect to what is REAL and feels good! Here’s the magic link….Cut and Paste it to share pure fun with your friends:    http://wp.me/pBdfR-9J

Sasha and Ava.....ahhhhhhh!

COOL BUTTERFLYMOM OF THE DAY!

( NEW FEAUTURE – LET ME KNOW IF YOU LIKE IT!)

Today we are featuring ButterflyMom Sasha Martin who played with her passion and started http://www.GlobalTableAdventure.com

Join the fun as she cooks and eats her way around the world, with her picky husband (Keith) and sweet baby girl (Ava). ♥ ♥
Mission: Her adventure: To eat her way around the world: 195 countries, 195 meals, 195 weeks.

CONNECTING AGAIN…(AND a call from THE Oprah Show!)

Now this is a Park!!!! Parque das Conchas - Lisboa, Portugal!

HELLO! HELLO! HELLO! MY BEAUTIFUL BUTTERFLYMOMS!!!!

Have you missed ButterflyMoms? 😉  I’ve missed YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Wow! It seems like forever and at the same time like just yesterday. I stopped writing two weeks ago because I was spending so much time trying to get online. I had a really bad connection, EFFORTING all the way! It was taking time away from my kids, family, friends and vacation. Sometimes it took me more than 8 hours to download the content I had written with photos for ONE posting onto the ButterflyMoms site! It was very stressful and of course I took it mostly from MY sleeping time – when the kids were asleep. After a while I got a “little” cranky. Who wants to be cranky when they are surrounded by beauty, sun, history, good food and summer in Portugal?! No one, that’s who! 😉

So why am I writing now? Well great that you should ask! Check out how the universe works….Most of you know that when I started writing daily for ButterflyMoms it was like I put on HUGE antennas out into the world and immediately STUFF started SHIFTING! The biggest was that I got a call from an Oprah Show producer about being ON the show! (A big “ZOWIE” with cartwheels!!!!!!) That dream had laid dormant (cocooning) because of motherhood and life in general (you know the drill! ;)) While I was talking to the producer he went to the ButterflyMoms site and checked it out! I was soooo thrilled!!! I sent them what he requested (some more information and a headshot). He said he would pitch it to the other producers and if were good enough they’d be in touch. It’s the ‘ole “don’t call us, we’ll call you.” 😉 An amazing thing happened! Instead of worrying like I was culturally taught to do ;), I let go of the OUTCOME! (deep breath – really feel this) Just being asked was AMAZING! I basked in how cool it was and took BEING PRESENT all in! (That is a VERY important part of the recipe y’all! – You are not truly LIVING if you are not IN THE PRESENT! Living in the PAST is called REMINISING. Living in the FUTURE is called HOPING. Being in the NOW is called LIVING!)

Look up "Fernando Pessoa" on Wikepedia...Amazing Portuguese writer. Here is his statue. They sell Cuban cigars right next door! 😉

Energetically what was happening is that I was sending out wonderful energy and the results just kept pouring in…Next thing I know seven friends, who don’t know each other at all, sent me emails about an Oprah contest for people who want their OWN SHOW. I resisted at first but then it gets pretty CRAZY-OBVIOUS that this is definitely an OMEN when people just kept emailing me that “this is so you”! I decided to confront fear and go for it! But how? I asked friends for help and together we created a rockin’ video entry that got over 30,000 votes in about 11 days! Soooooooo many ButterflyMoms and Dads spread it to their friends, put up posters, took it work, posted it, and voted as many times as they could! We got into six publications including the Boston Globe and Middlesex News and a call from one of major news stations who wanted to do a story. It was simply AMAZING and HUMBLING! I had made plans to spend the summer in Portugal with my girls (as I had done as a child) and decided to go even though I had not heard back from the contest – they were supposed to have an answer by beginning of July…. always follow your heart 🙂

Always follow your heart, huh? Ok, that is all cool and dandy but the heart also gets restless! When I think about all the time I spent on “boyfriends” over the years, morphing into who they wanted me to be so that I would be loved! Let’s just say I wish I had learned my lesson FASTER! 😉 Everything takes its time. Sometimes we try to force things to happen quicker but just like with growing a veggie garden or making a baby, everything has its “GERMINATION” time. 😉 I was again reminded to “let go” and “trust”. Like many others, that is not exactly the message I picked up from my childhood. It is a very important one though, very important! If you are focusing on what you don’t have, more of that will come to you. It’s actually more like, the more you focus on something, the more you only SEE THAT and the “stuff” that you DO WANT virtually disappears. “WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT, YOU SEE MORE OF”….Think about what you like/love/are passionate about. Keep a gratitude journal and write about those things in there. I promise you, you will start SEEING SHIFTS, BIG and small! Stay with it! Invite your friends to join in! Have fun with it!

Six o'clock tea anyone? In front of Castelo Sao Jorge (St. George's Castle)

EVERYTHING you do is leading you somewhere! EVERYTHING! Most of us want to do what we are SUPPOSED to do AND THEN “when”:

-the bills are paid

-I win the lottery

-I get promoted

-I get in shape

-I get a better job

-The kids are older

-The house is paid down

-I pay off my student loans

-I lose weight

-I pay off my credit cards

-I pay for the kids’ college

-I retire…..

THEN! YES! THEN I WILL be happy and do the things I love!……..Rrrrrrrrrrrrright, like that’s how it works! YOU KNOW that’s now how it works but that is how we think when we fall into that HOLE of DESPAIR, mostly seeing the “empty” of our lives and not the “FULLNESS”! See your passions! Talk about them! Dream about them! Write about them! Seek them out and you will see them EVERYWHERE!!!!!

Weeks go by………(tick tock tick tock) Ok, so I was getting restless. I LOVE being here in Portugal and was having (and am having) a GREAT time! It’s just that I wanted to know about the OWN SHOW contest. The expectation was that we would hear by early June. There had been no further announcements and I just wanted to know either way if I was one of the top 40. Again I decided to LET IT GO. Just TRUST that whatever answer would come would come in the right time and that IN THE NOW I would concentrate on TRULY BEING HERE! SOAKING IT ALL IN! I’m on a budget here but I’m having wonderful fun just seeing, smelling, tasting, hearing, feeling the TOTAL EXPERIENCE of BEING in PORTUGAL! The time I stopped writing here was about re-connecting with that!

Well, two days ago I got a call from my studly husband Doug saying that THE OPRAH SHOW had called again! I had put it out of my mind so it totally caught me off guard. The same producer who had called a couple of months ago called again and asked me to send him a new video of the letter I had sent in describing an Oprah episode that had GREATLY helped me from giving up on life when my baby girl Sophia suddenly died in my arms. Each time I tell the story about the show I still cry and get goose bumps. It was VERY powerful show! The producer also said….(drum roll) that Oprah will be watching the clip herself!!!! WOW! NO PRESSURE PEOPLE! He apologized that he needed it by the next day but that he would be editing it. I just needed to send him footage. “PSHAHHHH!!! Not a problem I said hanging up.”

Almost immediately things started going “not as I expected/wished”. It was sooooo much stuff going “wrong” that my (very Catholic) aunt was asking the sky if there was a witch up there. “I certainly hope so,” I responded “because we need all the help we can get!” 😉 The biggest obstacle was the internet connection. My connection was VERY weak and to download each video was going to take almost 9 hours! YIKES! The pressure was building! At first I EFFORTED BIG TIME, but at some point I just LET IT GO, not with frustration but with knowing that I had done the best I could and that my BEST AND HIGHEST GOOD was on its way!

LIFE's REFLECTIONS...

The solution came in the form of a neighbor who heard from another neighbor, who heard from another neighbor who heard from his wife that “D. Olga’s-niece-who-is-visiting-from-America” was having trouble connecting to the internet! IT TAKES A VILLAGE!!! YES IT DOES! The simple solution was that he gave me his security code and I now have a FABULOUS internet connection! With the new connection I was able to send the biggest file in 14 minutes, instead of 9 hours and I can also download my ButterflyMoms blog faster too which means I can write again! YAY!!!!!!!!

I know I wrote a lot today but there are soooo many lessons popping up! Savor your lessons. Most of us get mad at ours but see what happens when you BEFRIEND YOUR LESSONS! They are here to SERVE YOU!

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS Oh and the producer also told me that for the Oprah contest they have not picked their final 40 yet. Practice saying this more in your life: “If it serves my best and highest good, then it will happen at the perfect time.” :)!

PPS If you like what you read:

1. Post it on your FB, Twitter, LinkedIn, etc.

2. Share it with your friends!

MWAH!

Happy Birthday President Mandela!!!

Dear Butterfly Moms,

I wrote a blog a couple of days ago about the amazing Nelson Madela not realizing his birthday is 92nd birthday is today. I felt when I wrote the blog that there was soooo much more about the man I wanted to know so I’m using this occassion to share his simple biography. If it still leaves you thirsty for more do a web search and read the ButterflyMoms blog reprint below called, “I am the MISTRESS of My FATE…I am the Captain of my SOUL.” 

May you use this as an excuse to learn about an incredible human being who discovered that he is a sacred part of the universe and acted on that knowing, instead of the LIQUID HATE, RIDICULOUS UNFAIRNESS and DEEP PAIN that was all around him! What an inspiration….if you want it to be! 😉

Taken from Wikepedia….. (I SOOOOOO LOVE WIKEPEDIA!!!!) Nelson Rolihlahla Mandela (Xhosa pronunciation: [xoˈliɬaɬa manˈdeːla];), born 18 July 1918, served as President of South Africa from 1994 to 1999, and was the first South African president to be elected in a fully representative democratic election. Before his presidency, Mandela was an anti-apartheid activist, and the leader of Umkhonto we Sizwe, the armed wing of the African National Congress (ANC). In 1962 he was arrested and convicted of sabotage and other charges, and sentenced to life in prison. Mandela served 27 years in prison, spending many of these years on Robben Island. Following his release from prison on 11 February 1990, Mandela led his party in the negotiations that led to multi-racial democracy in 1994. As president from 1994 to 1999, he frequently gave priority to reconciliation.

In South Africa, Mandela is often known as Madiba, an honorary title adopted by elders of Mandela’s clan.

Mandela has received more than 250 awards over four decades, including the 1993 Nobel Peace Prize.

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

 

PS Here is the blog….. ENJOY!

Hello Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

I’ve been having a lot of issues getting connected to the web over the last few days so to all of those who wrote I will respond, promise. It will just take me a little longer than I’d like! 😉

Yesterday I went to see the movie INVICTUS! WOW! WOW! WOW! Again it was at the outdoor theater in the Parque das Conchas in Lisboa, Portugal, under the beautiful stars. AHHHHHHHH! It was not the best directed movie, sorry Clint Eastwood, but the message is soooooo powerful. For us who are actively looking to build our SOUL STRENGTH, it was very powerful true story of how one person, through deep forgiveness can change an entire country, even the world! “I AM THE CAPTAIN OF MY SOUL!” is one of the lines from a poem Nelson Mandela read during his 27 years of capture and torture! The poem is called “Invictus“. It is a short Victorian poem written by the English poet William Earnest Henley in 1875. Nelson Mandela used this poem to give him strength when he thought he had no hope left. It can also be a gift to you if  you let it be. It’s up to you. Read it slowly and take it in…

Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds and shall find me unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.

Even with all this hate around him President Mandela choose peace from his core. It is SUCH a powerful message!

I am taken back to circa 1987 when I was a sophomore at Boston College and was wondering what this “APARTEID” was. I kept hearing about it but did not really know what it was. It was through musicians writing music about it that I began paying attention to what was going on. I highly recommend you look up APARTEID and see what lessons you can pick up. What happens in the macro (world) also happens on a smaller reverberation in the micro (your own life). This man, through what he learned CHANGED A WHOLE COUNTRY. If we apply those same principles we can do the same thing to our lives! If you can look at it without being in the LAND OF SHOULD and find the examples of how you in your own life are abusing yourself and limiting your potential then you will have found your pot of gold. (Wow, did I just go from talking about South Africa to “leprechauns”?!  It’s all that Irish influence at Boston College! 😉 )

I find myself wanting to read a lot more about Nelson Mandela. Sometimes as we get up and mindlessly go through life we forget that others have lived before us for thousands of years and through books we can get help learning lessons. Whoever you are attracted to in history pick up a book today and read, read, read. Building up your mind’s ability to see allows you to better use your sixth senses plus gives you amazing insight on what lessons are out there to guide you have a more SOUL-FULL adventure!

May you have a FANTASTIC WEEKEND!! May you remember to BREATHE DEEPLY!! May you remember to have FUN!!!

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS Read some past ButterflyMoms blogs and comment on them. You will always pick the perfect one for you! 😉

I am the Mistress of My FATE…..I am the Captain of My SOUL!

Hello Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

I’ve been having a lot of issues getting connected to the web over the last few days so to all of those who wrote I will respond, promise. It will just take me a little longer than I’d like! 😉

Yesterday I went to see the movie INVICTUS! WOW! WOW! WOW! Again it was at the outdoor theater in the Parque das Conchas in Lisboa, Portugal, under the beautiful stars. AHHHHHHHH! It was not the best directed movie, sorry Clint Eastwood, but the message is soooooo powerful. For us who are actively looking to build our SOUL STRENGTH, it was very powerful true story of how one person, through deep forgiveness can change an entire country, even the world! “I AM THE CAPTAIN OF MY SOUL!” is one of the lines from a poem Nelson Mandela read during his 27 years of capture and torture! The poem is called “Invictus“. It is a short Victorian poem written by the English poet William Earnest Henley in 1875. Nelson Mandela used this poem to give him strength when he thought he had no hope left. It can also be a gift to you if  you let it be. It’s up to you. Read it slowly and take it in…

Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds and shall find me unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.

Even with all this hate around him President Mandela choose peace from his core. It is SUCH a powerful message!

I am taken back to circa 1987 when I was a sophomore at Boston College and was wondering what this “APARTEID” was. I kept hearing about it but did not really know what it was. It was through musicians writing music about it that I began paying attention to what was going on. I highly recommend you look up APARTEID and see what lessons you can pick up. What happens in the macro (world) also happens on a smaller reverberation in the micro (your own life). This man, through what he learned CHANGED A WHOLE COUNTRY. If we apply those same principles we can do the same thing to our lives! If you can look at it without being in the LAND OF SHOULD and find the examples of how you in your own life are abusing yourself and limiting your potential then you will have found your pot of gold. (Wow, did I just go from talking about South Africa to “leprechauns”?!  It’s all that Irish influence at Boston College! 😉 )

I find myself wanting to read a lot more about Nelson Mandela. Sometimes as we get up and mindlessly go through life we forget that others have lived before us for thousands of years and through books we can get help learning lessons. Whoever you are attracted to in history pick up a book today and read, read, read. Building up your mind’s ability to see allows you to better use your sixth senses plus gives you amazing insight on what lessons are out there to guide you have a more SOUL-FULL adventure!

May you have a FANTASTIC WEEKEND!! May you remember to BREATHE DEEPLY!! May you remember to have FUN!!!

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS Read some past ButterflyMoms blogs and comment on them. You will always pick the perfect one for you! 😉

FEEDBACK – GET CLOSER TO THE HAPPY YOU!

Good Morning Beautiful ButterflyMoms!!!

Connecting with the pople we LOVE!!!

Most of us take the complex ability of being to SPEAK for granted but it is SUCH an incredible gift, just ask those who do not have it. What most people do not realize is that speaking only works because of hearing. The two are so linked that if you were to lose your ability to hear, you would begin to lose your speech. When you speak, your hearing is a monitoring system, a feedback system for what you say. We have all experienced saying something and then a moment later saying “What did I say?” or “Did that come out of my mouth?”

When we are learning a “new” language, one that our brain is not familiar with the sounds, even if we say the word perfectly, it FEELS ODD. It’s because in that system of learning this new sound is not familiar to your “ears” so it rejects it as not correct. Remembering this as you are learning a new language will help you greatly because it’s one of the simple “obstacles” most people don’t see but it slows them down – just like in life!

Yesterday’s main post was about OBSTACLES, things that keep our ButterflyMoms’ SOULS silent and in the background. That kind of life is one we would all HATE to live because it’s one that FEELS EMPTY. Think about it, NO SOUL, NO LIFE! The more you can create a life where your soul is easily heard, the more you will LOVE YOUR LIFE because YOUR SOUL is YOUR LIFE! 😉

If you combine the example above about hearing you see that FEEDBACK is KEY in your life and in this blog. Last month we had over 3,000 visitors and we are on track for that happening this month too. As the writer of this blog, I want to serve your best and highest good. It is challenging to do so without any FEEDBACK. Just like with the amazing art of SPEAKING, the system only works when the HEARING is working, otherwise it all breaks down.

For ButterflyMoms to grow and serve your core needs of providing the best quality SOUL FOOD WE NEED YOUR FEEDBACK/SUGGESTIONS/COMMENTS. We have created a wonderful FREE community where we have the chance to connect with our TRUE selves through baby steps (pun, although accidental, intended). This is a two-way street beautiful ButterflyMoms. You will find that if you put yourself out there it will help you in AMAZING WAYS that you cannot see right now because you are connecting to what works in your life.

However you have come to this blog, you have attracted something that is completely dedicated to YOUR HAPPINESS and that of other ButtterflyMommies out there! Add your FLAVOR to the mix so that we all MOVE FORWARD IN GIGGLY JOY!

Great big hugs,

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

 🙂

PS Please post this blog wherever you can so we can get the word out to other ButterflyMoms who don’t realize there is a whole world of support out there. MWAH!

Tripping Over Your Very Own Personal OBSTACLES…

Hello Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

Use your Child Energy for This! HAVE FUN!

Today we are going to get rid of some of your OBSTACLES, things that keep you back, keep you small, oftentimes without you ever knowing it. In our ButterflyMoms workshops I LOVE seeing that AHA! MOMENT when participants realize the simple tools around each one of us! It’s incredibly fulfilling!

One of my favorite LIFE-FILLING exercises to with people is one I want to share with you! YAY! Get a piece of paper and write down WHAT OBSTACLES ARE KEEPING YOU FROM YOUR DREAM LIFE. Start with these phrases…

“As soon as ____________ happens then I will live my DREAM LIFE.”

or

“When ____________ happens then I will live my DREAM LIFE.”

Write as many or as little as you want. Mine was 22 entries. You will get a lot if you just take a few minutes to SEE WHAT YOU CANNOT SEE RIGHT NOW BUT THAT IS RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOUR EYES.

The second step is that if you feel comfortable share them with the rest of us ButterflyMoms in the comment section below. Let’s see what we discover about ourselves and each other. Once we get 11 people to share theirs I will share mine. Come ButterflyMoms, part of the process is SHARING and not hiding behind the web! 😉 Let’s have fun and move one of our biggest obstacles that do nothing but put each one of us OUT OF ALIGNMENT!

Here’s a wonderful quote for your week….write it down and post somewhere that inspires you!

“If you wait to do everything until you’re sure it’s right, you’ll probably never do much of anything.”
― Win Borden

 

READY, SET, GO!

Great big hugs,

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

Honoring One of Our Beautiful ButterflyMoms Who Died Last Week…

Hello Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

One of my FAVORITE yoga posses Child's Pose - "BALASANA" in Sanskrit "bala" is child and "asana" is pose.

Inspiration comes from the most simple (right in front of your nose places). Poetry…..when is the last time you ENJOYED a good poem, if ever. Not for a class or to impress but to simply take it in at whatever level you were at? I got a poem called WILD GEESE from the wonderful ButterflyMom Maureen Gormely who writes the UU Sherborn “Church” bulletin.  Doug grew up Lutheran and I grew up Catholic. When Sophia died we really struggled with the lack of community support around us. Our therapist suggested we go try the Unitarian Church in Sherborn, Massachusetts (UU Sherborn). That was almost four years ago and it has been an incredibly loving, safe, nurturing place where we can join with other like-minded people who believe in helping make our world a better place. It’s an amazing place because there it’s about human beings being kind to each other and working together for causes we believe in, both simple and big things like having gone down to New Orleans to help rebuild 10 times since it Katrina happened (about twice a year), creating temporary housing for people with no home, feeding the hungry, acknowledging teenagers. We also have an incredible community support so when someone is sick, or has a baby meals are provided for sometimes months. We received this AMAZING GIFT twice, when Isabella was born we had just adopted Olivia three months prior and then again when Doug had his life-threatening Vasculitis. It was an INCREDIBLE gift with no strings attached. They just showed up because we needed help. I also like that whatever your religious beliefs it does not matter there. You can believe whatever you want, even be an atheist!!! I lovingly call them the UN-CHURCH.;)  Again, just like with the yoga example above, I grew up VERY Catholic so when fear rears its ugly head, my brain whips out the “be careful this must be a cult”. And my brain was right! Oh ya baby, it’s a cult all right, The CULT OF LOVE!!! 😉

Our Beautiful Nancy Barton!!! She LIVED FULLY!

IMPORTANT TRIBUTE HONORING ONE OF OUR BEAUTIFUL BUTTERFLYMOMS WHO DIED LAST WEEK:

Yesterday was the memorial service for the gorgeous ButterflyMom Nancy Barton, 47, from Hopkinton, Massachusetts, who team taught with me at UU Sherborn. She is SUCH an incredible soul! Nancy was an example of angels living among us, people who are living their lives in LOVE. They use their full five senses and open heart as they live their lives. They soak in life completely and leave nothing on the table!!! Yesterday at Nancy’s memorial, UU Sherborn was sooooooooooo packed that people had to park several parking lots away. Some even drove back hours and hours from their vacations to honor her. I wish I could have been there. If you had known her, you would have ADORED her too! She has left behind two beautiful young daughters Meghan and Halley, wonderful husband Jeff, and a sea of family and friends with broken hearts. When I taught with her, she knew she was sick but never complained and only once casually mentioned that she even had cancer. It caught me off guard because I thought I had misheard what she said. Having cancer for her was just not the focus of her life, LIVING was!  Nancy was an accomplished artists, teacher and gardener. She brought art and creativity into everything she did. When you looked into her eyes she was ALL THERE, fully open to connecting on heart level. She appreciated everything down to the simplicity of her children’s giggles. When her kids were young and colicky resourceful Nancy would simply do laps around the house to get rid of her ICKIES. When she was getting one of her many chemo therapies Nancy met The Red Sox’s Big Papi and was so present that she even remembered what he smelled like. She used all her senses to live in the moment! She was one of those beautiful people who easily befriend everyone because she is full expression of LOVE! If you are living your life ungrounded and not present you would have totally missed her because she lived live in the most REAL and simple of ways. The time I spent with her was around children and she was wonderful at connecting with them. I am thankful for even the briefest of interactions we had. Nancy was the mom I aspire to be. I have her creativity but not her patience!  😉 I have stored the example of her life and love in my heart. It makes me a better person having had the honor of calling her my friend. We will miss you beautiful Nancy!

I pass on this beautiful poem from one of our ButterflyMoms, Maureen, TO YOU in memory of one of our very own ButterflyMoms, Nancy, who has left our Earth “game”.  May you take a moment to use your breath to take in where you are right now and honor her journey.  Even if you have never met you her essence reaches you even now. She is a gentle reminder that our time here is limited no matter who you are, what you own or how much you have accomplished. We all have an end. It’s what you do with your middle that counts. MAKE IT COUNT! Nancy soaked in every sweet part of her life. She left nothing unsaid and fully loved those around her (and let them love her). Read this one as slowly as you can. See if captures your imagination! I think Nancy would love that! 😉

Wild Geese 
You do not have to be good. 
You do not have to walk on your knees 
for a hundred miles through the desert, repenting. 
You only have to let the soft animal of your body 
love what it loves. 
Tell me about despair, yours, and I will tell you mine. 
Meanwhile the world goes on. 
Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rain 
are moving across the landscapes, 
over the prairies and the deep trees, 
the mountains and the rivers. 
Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air, 
are heading home again. 
Whoever you are, no matter how lonely, 
the world offers itself to your imagination, 
calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting–
over and over announcing your place 
in the family of things. 

~ Mary Oliver

Nancy went to New Orleans to help rebuild!

Great big hugs,

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

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PPS I’m thankful for you! Thanks for coming back every day to feed your soul!!!

PPS If you have a poem you want to share honoring Nancy’s life please post it here. I think she would be tickled pink that we all join together in this wonderful game of sharing poetry with each other!  Please share something even if you did not know Nancy. 🙂

MAYDAY! MAYDAY! MOMMY GOING DOWN!

Connecting with Nature at the Beginning of Summer

Dearest ButtterflyMommies!!!

As we go through life we get into ruts. These ruts can become a whole life if we don’t pay attention. It’s like the lobster in the pot of water that slowly heats up. They just fall asleep until they die. Wouldn’t it be GREAT if life came with a MAYDAY call?! The good news is that it does. It comes in many, many forms illnes, death of a loved one, loss of a job, loss of a relationship…..we have all seen soap operas. They have great examples! 😉

When you have no goals or direction to your life you get bored. When you get bored you start “zoning out”, doing behaviors that fit that kind of mental state like sleeping less (oh I am sooooo guilty of that!) watching more TV or what I call paying more attention to machines than people. Notice when you do that. Bring AWARENESS TO IT.

By simply noticing YOU SHIFT. SMALL SHIFTS = RE-ALIGNING BACK INTO YOUR ZONE!

Be honest for a moment here. When was the last time you brought your A game to your life? When was the last time you were THE BEST YOU you can be? I can promise you that not being in your zone has caused you MORE PAIN than any ADVENTURE being in your zone would cause so have at it beautiful ButterflyMoms!!! I ask you today to bring out your A-GAME. If you don’t think you have the energy or you don’t know where to start simply sit back and picture what your A-GAME life looks like. Swim in it. Languish in it. Play in it. Wear it all day long. See how it feels. Translate it back into your day.

Notice that when YOU shift everything around you SHIFTS. You are where you are today because everything is a reflection of YOU. I invite you to PLAY TODAY IN YOUR ZONE! Share with us what happens. What works and what does not.

Great big hugs,

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

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