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Which Glasses Did You CHOOSE This Morning?

Happy Friday Morning Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

Am I the only one noticing a rather large amount of UNUSUAL events going on around us? Each day we get up we put on our “glasses”, sometimes we put on rose-colored glasses, other times the ones that see everything is unfair. There is an endless option of glasses to choose from. The interesting thing is that most of us don’t even CONSCIOUSLY remember that we have that choice. We just let our brains, luck, whatever side of the bed we woke up on, determine how we CHOOSE TO SEE OUR DAY. How we see our day determines what information we filter in, and what information we filter out. A bunch of these days strung together equal a “phase” in our life and a bunch of phases equals a lifetime.

What are you doing with YOUR lifetime? I know it’s no shock to you but even if a doctor has told you, you only have ____________ moments left to live, NONE OF US REALLY KNOWS how long we have left. It could be short or it could be long. How have you been doing with the moments you have? How have the glasses you have chosen to put on in your morning affected your life’s direction? Be kind with your answer. This does not mean lie to yourself or sugar-coat, rather it means to be honest and gentle.

This human being thing is not as easy as it may seem. There is a whole lotta pain and hardship on this planet, a whole lot. Seems like if you look at what is going on there are some cataclysmic events going on all over the world happening VERY CLOSE to each other. There is definitely a MAJOR SHIFT afoot! You don’t have to be psychic to see that! What will you do with that information? Will it close or open you?

I find that everything that is COMING AT ME in life is a lot easier to process if I’m in a frame of mind of being kind and gentle with how I’m doing. If I make an “icky” choice I get both “good” and “bad” consequences, but if I’m kind and gentle with myself I get to MOVE ON from the experience. On the other hand if I judge and punish my choice then part of the “bonus” with this option is that I get stuck in that one choice. I get to replay it over and over and over again. Seems silly when I CALL IT OUT like this doesn’t it? I don’t know why I do this but awareness brings light to the situation. With the glasses I just realized I could put on (instead of the ones that automatically put on without thinking) I see this lesson. It is time to stop and LET GO, for without LETTING GO I don’t have SPACE TO EMBRACE all the MAGIC, ADVENTURES and LOVE of our ABUNDANT UNIVERSE!!! OK ABUNDANCE COME AND GET ME! I’ve decided to stop playing hard to get! 😉 How about you? 😉

ROCK ON BUTTERFLYMOMS!!!!!!!!!!!

Great big hugs,

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

The Beautiful Maria Amelia...What an Incredible Soul!

PS Today’s ButterflyMoms is dedicated to the BEAUTIFUL people of Portugal, the land of my birth and of my ancestors. There is some heavy-duty financial instability, the prime minister literally quit yesterday and the government is on the verge of collapsing. A special love prayer goes out to my beautiful Aunt Maria Amelia who has worked hard all her life and now lives on a pension that is so ridiculously low that even though the cost of living is basically the same as here in the States, you could not pay your monthly phone bill with how little she lives on. My heart goes out to her and the other amazing people of Portugal.  I ask you for your prayers and good vibrations. May our good energy bring them much solace!

PPS Sold another book this week!!!  The state of Maryland is now represented. Hop on the train of the happy ButterflyMoms who have bought one! Just click here… To order now go to http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

Here is where the books have gone to ButterflyMoms…

UNITED STATES

California

Sacramento 1

Connecticut

Yalesville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 2

Holliston 6

Hudson 4

Medway 3

North Easton 1

South Grafton 1

Worcester 3

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

When you buy a book you represent your area. Let’s see where all the ButterflyMoms live!!! :)! This is FUN! To buy your copy Click here now…http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

Mark your calendars to read ButterflyMoms EVERY Friday! 🙂

RIGHT UNDER OUR NOSES…AN AWARD!

The treasures of the universe are right under our noses. Those of us who like to travel do so because it gives us the ability to see ourselves more clearly.  When we travel to different place we get out of our routines and given the rare opportunity to travel without many of our ASSUMPTIONs and SHOULDs. We see more of our core. One of the biggest missed resources, are the people right under our noses.  We oftentimes get enamored by some big author or star but it’s those people under our noses that carry the most treasure for our hearts. The most magical ones are the ones that most people do not notice if they are moving too fast. I think you know what I mean. If you live mostly in your head you can travel at WARP 3 light speed which SEEMS pretty fast but when you live mostly in your soul you don’t need to travel anywhere because you just think it and you are already there. (SIDENOTE: Can you imagine if housework were like that – that is a working mother’s wet dream!!!!! 😉 ) 

Our beautiful ButterflyMoms... Nancy Senior

Our first "RIGHT UNDER YOUR NOSE AWARD" WINNER!!!

Today I would like to share with you someone who is very special to me. Someone whose heart is one of the biggest ones I know. When I first met her she intimidated me. I could not “figure” her out. That was because I was “processing” her through my head, not my heart. It is my deep honor today to nominate Nancy Ellen Senior as the very first RIGHT UNDER YOUR NOSE AWARD. I asked take the “boring” out of how most “bio’s” are written and write about her SELF as if her life were a roadmap. Could she share some of the points that stand out for her as major gifts/lessons/aha’s. If she could give a gift to all mothers, what would that gift be? My Beautiful ButterflyMoms, it is my deepest honor to present to you, THE Magnificent NANCY ELLEN SENIOR (sound the trumpets)!!!!!!!!!!

A BIO by Nancy Ellen Senior 🙂

I start by feeling what it feels like to be honored.  An honor with someone I love and loves me back is such a big part of my life.  It leads me right into what an honor Life is.  I have had my share of the bad, the sad and the ugly and can still say “Yes, living is an honor.”   If I didn’t have my battle scars I could still feel that this Life is an honor and that is what I most wish all Mom’s got as a gift if they don’t already have it.  Life is an Honor.  That could be all I need to say in my Bio.

I didn’t always think that in those curious times of doubt and pain.  I don’t always think it now but that is in times of being outside of my core.  I don’t travel there very often anymore.

So now there is this interesting request for a map of my life.  I am getting out my crayons and markers; rulers and scissors, oh and glue too.

Nancy as a little girl

The journey began when my Mom said yes to my Dad.  Another child?  Okay.  We will call her Nancy Ellen, sort of after her grandmother, sort of from a name I heard in the park one day.  “And well, Red, we are running out of names as we birth our 8th child.”  So my map includes 7 sisters and 3 brothers.

One of the places on my map is when I was stopped along the way because I was not encouraged and not allowed to be me.  Those you can see colored in gray.  I cut them out of my life but recently glued them back in.  It is hard to know where you are going if you don’t know where you have been.   The trick is not to stay in those gray-dingy places and that is another gift I would love to see all Mom’s open, the gift of not getting stuck in those old dank places, keep moving forward.

Next there is a place marked with sadness, sorrow, confusion, anger and a bit of black, blue and blood.  I have never been able to cut out of my Life map entirely the times when violence reigned down on me though I was able to get off that highway and change directions.  But it is like having pebbles in your tires, not doing any harm but you can hear them.  Well, I just bought myself new tires and there are no more pebbles.  I got them at the FORGIVENESS STORE. 

The place that is seemingly the most dense in my Life map is when I battled breast cancer.  My son was only 13.  I think to every Mom I don’t need to say more.  Leaving my child behind was not an option.  It was the most painful experience ever to see the fear in his young, beautiful eyes.  It was the power I needed to get us through it.

In that “forest” I found the gift of FORGIVENESS.  All these years later I am still turning pages in that book to learn what it is and what it is not.   I am giving my Self the gift every person should receive, FORGIVENESS of oneself.  This is a map separate from the others.  I am putting it in the pocket over my heart.           

The thing I most want to not have in my knapsack as I continue to travel is doubt.  The mileage I can get out my life sinks to a big low when I am carrying doubt with me.   So without doubt I submit this bio of my life.  Here is what I love to share.  We all have a map with all the places we have been.  Some of mine I ran through, I may or may not want to go back.  There are places I have no idea how I got to and places I have no idea how I got out of.  I am a silly, excited girl when I think about the places on my map I have yet to go.  I have CHOICE when I pack my AWARENESS and that allows me the power to change the roads I take and even take others with me from time to time.  So without doubt I am keeping my crayons and markers, scissors and glue, adding in a compass in case I decide (on purpose) to get “lost”.  The little girl inside of me continues to like it best when my feet are bare and whenever I get a cut, it is a gentle reminder of how I am always healing.

Nancy and some of her sisters. She is one of eight "kids"!

Nancy Ellen Senior is a full-spectrum healer who has a wonderful blog. You can receive more of Nancy’s musings and wisdom at http://frontporchhealing.com/

Great big hugs,

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS Special prayer requests go out to ELLIOTT from our blog a few weeks back who just had open heart surgery. Our good wishes and love are you with you beautiful Elliott! I hope you are reading this and know that you have made the world a better place by simply following your heart.

PPS Second special prayer request to the beautiful people of Japan, especially the mothers, who are unable to find food or water for their kids. May all of us find several moments today and for many days to send them as much LOVE LOVE LOVE as we each know how. Our heart goes out to you!!!!!!!

PPPS “Mom Entrepreneur Extraordinaire” Book sales were great last week! My friends got together and sold five more books which was AWESOME! Please take a moment today to support someone’s heart work and add a little more to your own life! It is an example of 21 women who are successful at making money their own way so they can still have time for their kids. People really love the book because it’s ACTUALLY USEFUL!! There are three ways you can buy it.

  1. Send a check for $25 to Maria Salomão-Schmidt, ButterflyMoms 783 Washington Street, Holliston, MA 01746. Let me know how many copies and where you want it sent.
  2. Come buy a copy at 783 Washington Street, Holliston, MA 01746.
  3. Order online right now…http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

THE TSUNAMI Of OUR SOULS…

Happy Friday Morning Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

For most of my life I lived behind such a deceptive MASK that I, myself, did not realize it was not “ME” but the shadow of me. The MASK was there to put on a protective layer from the outside world. I grew up in a home where feelings of SHEAR TERROR, HORROR and SHAME where part of the landscape. I did not CONSCIOUSLY CHOOSE my MASK, rather it happened as a survival mechanism most likely before I was even verbal. The family I came through, although sometimes VERY LOVING, was also not always “SAFE”. As I grew it was into adulthood I could not distinguish where the MASK ended and where I began. I would have glimpses of the REAL ME but if I’m to be honest, it never lasted very long. This would surprise the “me from back then” because I THOUGHT I WAS being real.

This is where a lot of people trip up…Getting close to feelings can be a tricky thing because you CANNOT separate the “good” feeling ones from the “bad”. Feelings just come all mixed in together so if you turn off the “ickie” ones you automatically turn off the “WOW-WOW-WOW” ones. And honestly, the ickie ones are not that bad compared to how bad they are if you let them rot, grow and fester in your life (nice visual, eh? – thought you’d like it ;)) When blocked for long enough feelings can eventually come very much like a TSUNAMI…but that is only because it is releasing a lot of trapped energy.

My MASK almost always checked in before I spoke, felt or thought. What started as an organic coping mechanism soon turned into my very own jailor. I see in my work that is how it is for most of us. It is through AWARENESS that we can CHOOSE to stay with our MASK or not but I, at least, would like to be given that choice.

I was watching Meredith Baxter (formerly Meredith Baxter-Bernie) doing an interview. She was the TV mom on FAMILY TIES with Michael J. Fox. It was such an amazing gift to see myself in her. Meredith shared that she was brought up to be a “good girl”, to do as she was told. Her MASK, in order to keep her “safe”, kept her from ever FEELING her very own essence. In doing, so she spent almost all of her adult life in degrading and abusive situations. Why? Because she had turned off ALL her feelings, she was getting feedback but Meredith, like many of us had turned off the FEEDBACK MECHANISM that is within each of us. We call them FEELINGS. It would be the same thing is you lost feelings in your finger tips. If you touched something hot you would do a lot more damage because there was nothing to tell you pull your hand back…until you smelled flesh burning. I don’t know about you but I would much rather FEEL! 😉 (it’s a LOT less messier…at least in the long run!!! 😉 )

When I saw Meredith on the screen I could tell how NEW this thing called HAPPINESS felt to her. Meredith looked like a baby getting used to its body. Her smile when she spoke of her partner was contagious because you could see that is was AUTHENTIC. It was authentic  because she was being VULNERABLE. Being vulnerable gave her the ability to live in the present which if you really think about it is the ONLY way you can be happy. You might think about a fond memory in the past but where you FEEL it is in the present.

No matter how old you are, it is NEVER too late to be authentic! The key is to start where you are, nothing more, nothing less.  Take a moment feeling this statement….(wait for it, wait for it….”IF YOU ARE BUSY BEING SOMEONE ELSE THAN WHO IS BEING YOU?

I LOVE YOU! Thank you for holding a sacred place where I finally have found the courage to start unfolding my wings. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! May the ButterflyMoms  community do the same for you!

Great big hugs,

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

Disaster Prevention Training PS Today’s ButterflyMoms is dedicated to the BEAUTIFUL people of Japan whom I feel in love with in 1989 when I lived there in Kanazawa, Ishikawa-ken, about 8 hours northwest of Tokyo. I heard just a few minutes ago of their devastating earthquake and tsunami. My heart goes out to them and I ask you for your prayers and good vibrations especially to all those who are suffering right now. May our good energy bring them much solace.

 

PPS Slow book week ButterflyMoms, only one book sold. Hop on the train of the happy ButterflyMoms who have bought one! Just click here… To order now go to http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

Here is where the books have gone to ButterflyMoms…

UNITED STATES

California 

Sacramento 1

Massachusetts 

Ashland 1

Holliston 6

Hudson 4

Medway 1

North Easton 1

Worcester 2

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island 

Newport 1

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

When you buy a book you represent your area. Let’s see where all the ButterflyMoms live!!! :)! This is FUN! To buy your copy Click here now…http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

Mark your calendars to read ButterflyMoms EVERY Friday! 🙂

I’m Sorry I Simply Can’t FIT My FEELINGS in TODAY!

Good Morning Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

WOW! For the first time in a long time I feel overwhelmed by what to write. I like to write with whatever is coming and when my mind gets in the way with “helpful” suggestions I feel very disconnected. I’m simply noticing this, not judging it.

If I am to be honest with you and with myself, what is really coming up for me is my beautiful baby girl Sophia. ButterflyMoms has grown to about 700-1,000 readers a week on a consistent basis and some of you don’t really know why it started. My motivation for doing ButterflyMoms was the life and sudden death of our 13 month old daughter Sophia, MY ORIGINAL BUTTERFLY. Yesterday someone who did not know asked all the questions that you THOUGHT had finally had enough time to “accept”. Most times it is fine and even welcomed. Yesterday, however my emotions came out in a big way and I missed her as if her death had just happened. Grief is not a linear journey! THAT is for sure!!!

As a mother who has lost a child, you miss your child’s touch, voice, smile, smell…Ohhhhh and Sophia had SUCH an awesome, awesome smell. She smelled like wonderful flowers. It was uncanny! I LOVED to nestle my nose up against her tummy to selfish get the biggest whiff I could and have the side benefit of those amazing giggles!! You can understand the connection we had a bit more to know that when I walked into the funeral home and saw her in her little casket, just SEEING her, my body started instantly lactating. I had to put on a coat because my shirt was drenched with milk. My heart was crying as my body was still soooo connected with her that is was trying to feed her body, even as my mind knew she was dead. Even though we are approaching the fifth year of her death, it is still devastatingly heartbreaking at times. I know there are lots and lots and lots of gifts that have come from this. I am not in any way knocking them. It is just society, in general, wants you to MOVE ON and to be honest that is partially true. REPLAYING the past again and again is a waste of the present HOWEVER sometimes as you go along living with your daily business feelings come up that are VERY strong. WARNING: This is NOT the time to have a stiff upper lip! When a feeling comes up pay attention to it. If you don’t take care of it, it will “take care” of you! THAT IS FOR DAMN SURE!

Things, ESPECIALLY feelings, that we STUFF DOWN to “get rid of them” only start to fester and puss. It is much better to let yourself FEEL what is happening in that moment because there are gifts that come from those OPENINGS too! Here are some of the gifts I got from staying open yesterday…

Gift Number 1…When I went to pick up my youngest from preschool I was in a very “feeling state”. Immediately, like a tractor beam a mom, whom I rarely see, out-of-the-blue confided her fear in what was going on with her own son’s health. Kate was replaying the FUTURE WHAT-IF MOVIE to try to keep him safe. The interesting thing is that if you stay in this “movie” you oftentimes miss the cues in the present that will prevent that movie from occurring. (DEEP BREATH – FEEL THAT STATEMENT) Kate seemed a lot more grounded and happy as she drove away.

Gift Number 2…After Kate left, another mom Dima came to pick up her daughter and when she asked about my day I felt a huge emotional wave building. As I felt it get bigger I asked for what I needed….a hug. I broke down sobbing, the kind that I don’t usually do around people I don’t know very well. I had no choice. It felt wonderful to receive such a beautiful gift of a deeply caring hug and fully being present with another person. I believe that she also felt she received a gift- that of being able to be fully present with another human being.

Gift Number 3…Went to Medway with my two youngest girls to run some errands for Brick House Realty and ButterflyMoms. We stopped to get hot chocolates (no whip, no foam, extra side of love) 😉 and there was a mom there with her son who had AMAZING energy. We spoke a bit and then as we were getting into our cars I approached her, told her I had a very emotional day and that my intuition was telling me to invite her to come read the ButterflyMoms blog. ( I had business cards made and pass them out all the time! If you need some let me know!) Well, ButterflyMoms, it was yet another direct hit on the LOVE fest chart! As “luck” would have it she is a cancer survivor and was out with her little son to take in the precious moments she had! We hugged three times!!! 😉 It made both of us feel better. It felt soooooo good!!

Gift Number 4…Spent time with my oldest daughter Mialotta. It was time JUST for her and me. I spend a lot of time with her, just not always PRESENT time. This time I was and I could see the joy in her face and I’m hoping it was a reflection of the joy in my heart that she was mirroring…think maybe it was.

Gift Number 5…One of my client’s, her dad has cancer and the prognosis is not good. I shared my day with her and shared the quiet wisdom I acquired from the day. I did not give her all the details. I simply held a certain energy level that I felt affected her in a very loving way. It was the perfect way to end such an incredible day!

May you allow your feelings a voice and notice all the gifts that come from you being present and vulnerable, knowing that no matter what you are ALWAYS SAFE and ALWAYS LOVED!

I LOVE YOU! :)!

Great big honkin’ hugs sistah- friends!

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa 

🙂

ButterflyMoms founder…YAY!

PS For those who have not heard we BUTTERFLYMOMS have won our FIRST AWARD!!!! YAY!!!!!!!! (standing ovation!!!) We won the “IRRESISTIBLY BRILLIANT BLOG AWARD. I need a couple more weeks to pick our top 10. If you have any suggestions let me know!

PPS It has been four weeks since my BIG DREAM got delivered to me, the book I helped write called “Entrepreneurial Moms Extraordinaire”!!! I sold only TWO books last week which is way below my goal. If you have been meaning to buy yours please do now. My goal is to sell at least 300 in 2011. The people who have read it truly love it! You simply can’t fit any more love into a book! 😉 I sign every book and wrap it with lots of love! You never know what magic comes to you when you create magic for others! To order now go to http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

Here is where the books have gone to ButterflyMoms…

UNITED STATES

California

Sacramento 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 1

Holliston 6

Hudson 4

Medway 1

Worcester 2

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

When you buy a book you represent your area. Let’s see where all the ButterflyMoms live!!! :)! This is FUN! To buy your copy Click here now… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

Please tell your friends to mark their calendars to read ButterflyMoms EVERY Friday! 🙂 SPREAD THE LOVE…It’s fun and free!!!!

The Magic of Elliott Spreads…

Good Morning Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

You’ll never guess who called me last night!? Our beautiful ELLIOTT from last week’s post! I wish I had the technology know-how to take the message from my cell’s VM and transfer it here but for now I think you will get a kick out of me transcribing what his sweet voice said…”Hello Maria this is Elliott. I just wanted to call you and tell you that I read your blog and it was a very nice blog and I was reading the comments. It was very sweet. I guess it does make a difference, you know, encounters like that. As I mentioned it makes ripples and it affects people and those people affect other people. I told my wife about it and she was very pleased. She was very, very pleased. Anyway, I hope to speak to you again and perhaps see you at Starbucks (chuckling) and continue or conversation. You take care and thank you very much, bye-bye.”

It just gives me goosebumps to hear that message again this morning. WOW! It seriously feels like touching MAGIC and the only way to touch magic is to BE PRESENT. If you chase it or try to grab it *POOF* it disappears. The blog last week was one of THE highest rated ButterflyMoms post so far. It touched a nerve in people. It contains what we all seek, L-O-V-E, True Love. To truly LOVE one needs to be fully present. In that moment, Elliott, my daughter Mialotta and I were FULLY IN THE PRESENT HAVING FUN, and that rippled to the baristas behind the counter, and then to all the ButterflyMoms who rippled it to….you let us know!

LOVE is contagious! It’s fun! Many of us  spend hours thinking about the fear of not having enough money or time but how much time do we spend being present with our LOVE. Love for and of anything around you. Many of us cannot access this without realizing this point so we, especially in AMERICA, we hoard. Oh yes we do. Someone observed to me that American garages are filled with sports equipment from every sport you can imagine but do the people really use it, well, no, not most of us but we keep the stuff because….I have been writing ButterflyMoms long enough to know that you can fill in your own answer. YOU KNOW THAT TOO! Each of us has our own answers, we just need to be in the present moment and open to hearing them. Oftentimes we pay others  A WHOLE LOT of money to either confirm what we already know or cover up what we desperately don’t want others to “find” out.

My Four Living Children in Newport for a Day Trip...Did you notice the words above Christopher's head?

Allow me to save you some time and heartache, most people, on some level, think they are either “NOT ENOUGH” or “TOO MUCH”. Some can even feel both things about different parts of their lives. 🙂 When you feel this way and you don’t address it in the present, you will live life in the LAND OF SHOULD filling it up with as much STUFF as you can to find THAT ONE THING THAT WILL FILL YOUR EMPTINESS.

The magic of Elliott has continued growing I wonder where it will take you next…

Great big honkin’ hugs sishtah- friends! (and those brothas from anotha motha who faithfully read ButterflyMoms EVERY Friday! I see you!),

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

ButterflyMoms founder…YAY!

PS We BUTTERFLYMOMS have won our FIRST AWARD!!!! YAY!!!!!!!! (standing ovation!!!) We won the “IRRESISTIBLY BRILLIANT BLOG AWARD given by Rev. Melissa Bennett who writes the blog “Pen, Paper, Prayer”.This is our very first blog award and I am so thankful to Rev. Melissa for thinking of us. In the spirit of generosity, I have also been asked to confer this award upon ten blogs and authors whose work inspires and moves me. Next week I will post our top 10 list. If you have suggestions post them below so that we can promote people who are living their passions! AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! FEELS AWESOME!….like touching magic 😉

PPS  It has been three weeks since my BIG DREAM got delivered to me, the book I helped write called “Entrepreneurial Moms Extraordinaire”!!! I sold FOUR books last week which was much better and zero last week. If you have been meaning to buy yours please do right now! My goal is to sell at least 300 in 2011. The people who have read it love it. I sign every book and wrap it with lots of love! You never know what magic comes to you when you create magic for others! To order now go to http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

Here is where the books have gone to ButterflyMoms…

UNITED STATES

California

Sacramento 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 1

Holliston 6

Hudson 4

Medway 1

Worcester 2

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria  2

ITALY

Rome, Italy     3

When you buy a book you represent your area. Let’s see where all the ButterflyMoms live!!! :)! This is FUN! To buy your copy Click here now…http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

PPS Lots of LOVE being sent to the ButterflyMoms of Wisconsin! :)!

LOOKING FOR YOUR “ELLIOTT”

Good Morning Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

On my way driving home from doing one of my favorite things on this planet, teaching Portuguese to the most fabulous kids at the Hudson Portuguese Club in Hudson, I stopped at Starbucks to get my hot chocolate fix. Freezing cold nights feel much better with a sweet hot chocolate warming my hands and my taste buds! I stopped at the one in Marlborough. There is something very magical there. This time I came across a beautiful man named Elliott. I asked for my order, “Hot chocolate, no whip, no foam….extra side of LOVE.” I LOVE saying that because it WAKES people up. They almost always repeat what I said to see if it’s true, and then they TAKE A DEEP BREATH, SMILE and you can see them CONNECT to the present. I’ve been doing it for years. I LOVE doing that, IGNITING THEIR SOULS!

Warming My Hands and My Heart

Well, Elliott, a dashing “young” man in his seventies???, overheard and made a comment about how LOVELY that request was. I knew right then and there that he needed one of my great, big, bear hugs. I asked and of course with all that love flowing on that frigid cold night he was powerless to say “no”. 😉 We sat down and talked for a few precious moments. We were both fully present. He talked about his wife and how even after decades of marriage every day he felt like she was his Valentine. He said he knew it sounded corny but he felt it deep in his heart. If you looked into his eyes you knew it to be true. I shared my story about how Sophia led me to ButterflyMoms and invited him to come read it with the rest of us every Friday. I know he is not a Mom but it just felt right.

One of the most beautiful things about this is that my seven year old daughter Mialotta was with me and was a witness to this simple connection between two “strangers”.  Why do I put STRANGERS in quotes? Well, all of us our connected by the same life force that helps spring *POP* out of winter every year, that whispers to a blade of grass to grow, grow, grow. There is no “to do” list to worry about or run ragged TRYING to keep up with, it just happens, naturally, effortlessly, always on its schedule. This intelligent life force, no matter WHAT you call it, exists. Each person on this planet is part of that. YOU are connected to EVERYONE! What Mialotta and I experienced with Elliott was magical because it felt like we were totally coming from that core connection, even as “strangers”. I felt as if I had known him forever………. 😉 So, Elliott, if you did decide to come to ButterflyMoms this week for a visit, I thoroughly enjoyed our meeting and hope that we share many more of them!

Look For YOUR Elliott this week...in whatever form he shows up!

So this week Beautiful ButterflyMoms, keep an eye out for YOUR Elliott this week. The ONLY way to see them is to BE IN THE PRESENT. LIVE (even if it’s just a few moments) IN YOUR PRESENT.

Great big honkin’ hugs to YOU!

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

ButterflyMoms founder…YAY!

ButterflyMoms Founder, Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa 🙂

PS  It has been two weeks since my dream got delivered to me, the book I helped write called “Entrepreneurial Moms Extraordinaire”!!! I sold ZERO books last week which was a little disheartening. If you have been meaning to buy yours please do! My goal is to sell at least 300 in 2011. The people who have read it love it. I sign every book and wrap it with lots of love! You never know what magic comes to you when you create magic for others! To order now go to http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

Here is where the books have gone to ButterflyMoms…

UNITED STATES

California

Sacramento 1

Massachusetts

Holliston 5

Hudson 4

Worcester 2

New York

Long Island 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria  2

ITALY

Rome, Italy     3

When you buy a book you represent your area. Let’s see where all the ButterflyMoms live!!! :)! This is FUN! http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

Sitting On Each Other’s Dreams…

Another day of ADVENTURES on Planet Earth Begins! :)!

Good Morning Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

 

Happy Glorious Friday Morning! (ok, I can hear some of you already… MY, Maria you are certainly chipper this a.m.!! 😉 Although it is a currently popular in the American culture to BELIEVE we are not “morning people”, that we don’t really wake up until we get our “beloved” caffeine…MORNINGS ARE ACTUALLY SPECTACULAR times because your brain is still not fully in control of you! This is one place you can start digging for magic in your life. PLAY with EARLY MORNINGS! You heard me Sistah-Friend, PLAY WITH YOUR EARLY MORNINGS! Why? Well, BECAUSE IT IS SOOOOOOOOO FUN! Early mornings are the rare times when you have not slipped back into your HUMAN DOMESTICATION.

Happy Birthday Beautiful Corinne...Here is a photo of ButterflyMoms helping to support one another!

Early Morning From My New England Kitchen Window...

Notice WHAT SIMPLE things REALLY inspires you. Your INTUITION is strongest then because sleeping is like you have been MEDITATING all night so your brain is less likely to interfere. It is a fabulous time to write to see what (or who) comes out. Many times our true self comes out. The fact is that we sometimes pay others who have developed their intuitive/psychic skills but don’t take the time to nurture our own skills.

FROM LAST WEEK…CONNECTING THE THREADS

The assignment last week was to TRY THIS…For the next week either out loud or to yourself when you see someone instead of just saying “HEY” , “HI”, “HOW’S IT GOIN”, WHAT’S SHAKIN’ or HOW’S IT HANGIN’, how about you take a deep breath and say NAMASTE, even if it’s only in your mind. Think of it as a sweet, sweet alignment for your soul….it’s free and fun and is also a deep, magical gift to the others you come across in your day. 😉

How did it work for you? If you did not do it, no worries, take the guilt out of it. Look at it with childlike wonder and see where in your life you have simple, good things that will help activate the life you want. Do you not see these opportunities or just choose not to take them? Explore your unconscious habits. See what you can unlock and release today. Become lighter and happier. Like the song says, “I’m ALREADY THERE, take a look around.” Your happiness is already there you just have to notice and be open to it. :)!

Isabella enjoying her early morning in New England

HAPPY VD! 😉

It’s almost Valentine’s Day and that is the holiday of the heart, the fourth chakra. This chakra is the great connector of your lower self (the part that you don’t want people to see) and your higher self (the part you aspire to live in). The truth is that as the best-selling author Debbie Ford shares in her book Dark Side of the Light Chasers, we need both our dark and our light sides to be complete. The people who try to EXTRACT part of themselves end up doing more damage than not because when you cut off one part you cut off the other too because it’s all about balance. I personally like to know that I have a very healthy dark side that I don’t need to live in but if someone hurts my children or me I can access, fully, at my beckon call. I call it my MAMA BEAR mode. 😉 The KEY is not to LIVE THERE! That is when you are running your system into exhaustion because you are now accessing your fight or flight buttons and taxing the crap out of your organs, like your pancreas, adrenals, thyroid and yes, ladies, even your ovaries. These are all part of your endocrine system. It is part of the FIGHT or FLIGHT system that really was meant for us to access one every 2-3 years but in our society we access “several” times a day. It is one MAJOR way many of us are getting sick. If we were cars it’s like grinding your gears from over-use and not enough maintenance care. I do a fantastic healing for my clients to help them align themselves so it is possible to get out of this cycle. Notice when it happens to you and be gentle with yourself. It is all about noticing and letting go…and asking for help when you need it.

ButterflyMoms in Worcester (yes there are men ButterflyMoms too! 😉

FEED SOMEONE’s SOUL…AND YOUR OWN!

I see sooo many amazing people out there, especially MOMS who are following their passion. Unlike gigantor corporations who have a shitload of resources, loopholes and connections, most small businesses have very little. The one thing we do have is each other. I ask you this week to reach out to someone who inspires you, someone who feeds your soul. Support her business in some way, buy her product even if it’s a small thing, tell three friends about her and ask them to support her, write her a note saying she inspires you. Tap into your own INSPIRATION. In this planet of ours whatever we send our money and energy to we get more of. Many of us are conditioned to go to Target, for example, to buy gifts for people but what about the beautiful ButterflyMoms in town who own small gift stores…go their first. In Holliston there are six options I can think of where I can go right to the owner and tell them my budget and describe the reason for the gift and they oftentimes find me the most amazing items! When you support another’s HEART JOURNEY you automatically give fuel to your own. FEEL HOW GOOD IT FEELS to support someone’s dream! (DEEP BREATH REMINDER: AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!)

The more you question your “SHOULDs” and you will EXPAND your JOY! It feels AMAZING, FAMILIAR, NURTURING, JOY-FULL, and even FUN! Thank you for your part in this wonderful formula we call ButterflyMoms! NAMASTE!

Great big honkin’ hugs to YOU!

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

ButterflyMoms founder…YAY!

PS  It has been a little over a week since my dream got delivered to me, the book I helped write called “Entrepreneurial Moms Extraordinaire”!!! So far I have sold about a book a day. My goal is to sell at least 300 in 2011. The people who have read it love it. If you want to be a part of that love order one now. I sign every book and wrap it with lots of love! You never know what magic comes to you when you create magic for others! To order now go to http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

 

Here is where the books have gone to ButterflyMoms…

UNITED STATES

Massachusetts

Holliston 5

Hudson 4

Worcester 2

Rhode Island

Newport 1

California

Sacramento 1

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria  2

ITALY

Rome, Italy     3

When you buy a book you represent your area. Let’s see where all the ButterflyMoms live!!! :)! This is FUN! http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

 

PPS A special THANK YOU TO the beautiful NANCY SENIOR of FRONT PORCH HEALING for her amazing LOVE and support! What a heart friend! You can check out her blog at http://frontporchhealing.com/

WHO KNEW MY DREAM WOULD WEIGH 308 POUNDS?!

Have Tea With Your Fellow ButterflyMoms EVERY Friday!

Good Morning Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

It feels soooooooo awesome to connect with you again today! When I sit down to write I literally do it as if we were sitting here together having an iced or hot tea (depending on your mood and location ;). It is another way I practice connecting to the universal energy that we all come from. It feels AMAZING, FAMILIAR, NURTURING, JOY-FULL, and even FUN! Thank you for your part in this wonderful formula we call ButterflyMoms!

A GROWING GREETING…

If you have ever tried yoga (and I highly, highly, highly suggest that you do!!!) many teachers begin and end their class with the word “NAMASTE”. It is a Sanskrit word used as a greeting, but one that calls your BEST and HIGHEST good, as well as the BEST and HIGHEST good of the other person! Each time you greet someone you are saying, the God/Goddess/Love energy in me sees the God/Goddess/Love energy in you! “NAMASTE” calls you each back to your core essence, back into your zone! Your zone is not my zone BUT when each of us is in alignment we have true peace. In this space there is only LOVE. TRUE LOVE, not those mushy Hollywood myths that people love to mirror. 😉

TRY THIS…

For the next week either out loud or to yourself when you see someone instead of just saying “HEY” , “HI”, “HOW’S IT GOIN”, WHAT’S SHAKIN’ or HOW’S IT HANGIN’, how about you take a deep breath and say NAMASTE, even if it’s only in your mind. Think of it as a sweet, sweet alignment for your soul….it’s free and fun and is also a deep, magical gift to the others you come across in your day. 😉

Tuesday was my husband Doug’s last chemotherapy appointment for this round. He has an ornery auto-immune disease called vasculitis that has been getting our attention for the last two years. So

Give Your Ickies to the Rocks

while the last round of snow storms hit we were at Mass General in Boston getting his infusion. At the very same time my books were finally delivered. It was 308 pounds of pure DREAM  REALIZATION and its name is called Mom Entrepreneur Extraordinaire! WOW! WOW! WOW! Dream Realization Feels Good y’all!!!!! REAL GOOD!!! 😉 The book did not come in the way I thought it would but I was open to the way it did. The result is that this New Year I got a break from putting down “WRITE A BOOK” as my new year’s resolution!!! 😉 (only took 20 years!!! 😉

For over 20 years I have dreamt about these 308 pounds. Imagined in my mind what it would feel like to finally publish my first book. I pictured what it would be like to hold it, smell it, turn the pages and autograph them for people. In those 20 years I’ve also taken lots and lots of shit and ridicule from those who did not believe in my dream. You may find it surprising that most of those people were not my enemies but actually close family and friends. Many of them love/like me but I was messing with their comfort zone of what was APPROPRIATE DREAMING and what was not. In their minds they were doing for my own good….to keep me safe ;). GENTLE REMINDER TO BREATHE HERE, LOOSEN YOUR SHOULDERS and MOVE YOUR JAW AROUND….AHHHHHHHHH! (Remember from last week’s blog to give your “ickies” to the rocks so that you can clearly see the message for you without all the crap-ola!!!! 😉

(SIDENOTE: Notice that I wrote “taken lots and lots of shit and ridicule from”. What that means to me is that I actually did let it affect me. To say it did not and that I was fully focused is a lie. I let it do the opposite of NAMASTE. I let myself (many, many, many times) fall back into the “I’m not as good as ____________________” (fill in whomever fits), especially if my ______________ (boyfriend/girlfriend/mother/cousin/grandfather/sister/uncle/dad/brother/aunt/teacher-whoever it is for you) says so. One of my favorite Eleanor Roosevelt quotes is “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”  Well, I gave my consent because I did not know that I was enough. I grew up in a VERY Portuguese home/community where acceptance is paramount.  I cannot tell you how many times I heard, “what are the neighbors going to think” At times I thought that I needed their approval in some way to feel whole, some days I still do, it’s a habit that is growing weaker ;).

Our Journey on Earth is about Learning How to FLY!!!!!!

Ahhhhhhh, my ButterflyMoms, we are our own prison guards!!! Really take this in. On “Amazing Home Makeover” (the show on ABC) there was a beautiful young man who was in college when his sister and mother died so instead of having his niece and nephews go into foster homes he quit school to take care of them. Even against huge odds he believes, “THE ONLY PERSON WHO CAN STOP YOU IS YOU!” Take it in, really take that in. What does this mean for you?  I invite you to fire your guard or at the very least start giving him/her some well-deserved TIME OFF!!!) He/She has served his/her purpose and now they can also be set free! SET YOURSELF FREE!!!!!!

When you don’t have a lot of support, you have the opportunity to create your own support systems that work for you. That is what the ButterflyMoms community is to me. It is a wonderful support system for those who want to FLY!!!!!! Tap into this support and create other like systems throughout your life that allow your soul to grow and expand. It is fun to explore the possibilities. The more you question your “SHOULDs” the more you will EXPAND your JOY!

Great big honkin’ hugs to YOU!

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

ButterflyMoms founder…YAY!

PS  In continuing to follow my soul’s dreams I ask for your help to get me to my goal of selling at least 300 copies of “Entrepreneurial Moms Extraordinaire” this year. So far I have only 11 orders…two from my mom ;)! If you feel inspired buy a book or two. I sign every book and wrap it with lots of love! You never know what magic comes to you when you create magic for others! To order now go to  http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

…And Then There Is OPTION #3!

Good Morning Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

It is sooooooooooo wonderful to wake up EVERY Friday morning way before even the sun gets up knowing that I’m going to CONNECT WITH YOU! It feels wonderful knowing I’m feeding so many souls by just being myself! And for you, beautiful ButterflyMoms, when you CONNECT in this manner there is less DEFENSE because you can read slowly or a part of it and then come back to it later. In other words, you can process it at any speed you wish. I like to think of it like a “pitching fork” that is used for aligning notes. When you come to ButterflyMoms and let the words “tune your life” you re-align to your true life’s purpose…and that is why we are all here, after all! It’s as simple and luscious as that! So here we go…

Winter in New England...from my deck.

The last few months have been ovary-busters! WHEW-EW CHILD! Some seriously crazy stuff has been unfolding. Many people did not find it comfortable for me to be in that ICKY PLACE but I did not want to leave it because I had not processed what I was going through. I have not fully left this uncomfortable place but I have found some incredible nuggets of information. The biggest one right now is that I do not have to own what I cannot control.

Sometimes as Moms we put ourselves in the position of God/Goddess/Allah/ Buddha. By this I mean we take on EVERYONE’s issues and make it our own. This is an impossible task that has killed the life force of many of our ancestors. Think about that harsh reality!

I was doing a meditation in my energy medicine school last weekend and I realized that I was guilty of wanting to fix everyone’s problems so that they could be safe….so that I could be safe. My fear of not being safe was so big that I oftentimes did not even check in with the person to see if they wanted my help or not. HELLOOOOO REALITY CHECK! This summer I had three very strong (energetically speaking) individuals do that to me and I can tell you that from the receiving side, it does NOT feel good at all when others try to SAVE YOU WITHOUT YOUR PERMISSION!! ICKY!!!! YUCK!!!!

My girls :)!

My childhood did not exactly teach me about TRUST so now in adulthood I’m sticking in my pinky toe to see if the waters of trust feel right to me. I know there is a large “reward”, amazing treasures, if I can open up, really open up to the magnificence that is all around. Being closed cuts us off from sooooooooooo much cool “stuff”!!! …..and I’m talking about experiences, not things. SIDENOTE: Author Dan Buetner  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dan_Buettner studies real sources of happiness. He quoted a study that the impact of new material things only lasts 9 months but experiences add value over time. 🙂 (and THAT is why ladies and gentlemen that I LOVE to travel!!!!) 😉

So back to this idea of trying to fix everything (hope I did not give you whiplash just now by moving back to the topic from which we digressed 😉 MOMMY MARTYRS DON’T HELP ANYONE! It is a not-so-great way to use your energy and then when you get depleted you get VERY cranky, moody or both and then, much like Godzilla, unleash your wrath unto the closest unsuspecting victims. You and I both now it can get very, very icky because the anger gets so big that you either attack someone else or turn it against yourself. For many of us we don’t know there is a third option, YES my fellow BUTTERFLYMOMS!!! YES, there is a THIRD OPTION and that is to give it away!

When you let go of what you cannot control all you have left is BEAUTY!

Now that I’ve totally confused you allow me to explain…Whenever we run across something that is too much to handle simply do the parts of it that you can, no matter how small or insignificant they feel, and then for the parts you cannot handle simply give them up to….here is where the fun begins. I did a mental exercise where I realized that I could give my ickies or the things that were too big for me to handle to rocks. Yes, you read it correctly, R-O-C-K-S, ROCKS!! In my exercise the rocks actually said “GIVE US YOUR PAIN. GIVE US YOUR HURT. WE LOVE EATING THAT STUFF.” Well, I did and know what? IT FELT AWWWWWWWESOME!!! Yes it did! I felt a huge weight being lifted. I found that it works MUCH better to stop acting like God and simply give it up to Spirit. Something happens where we think we need to do it all ourselves…(how’s that workin’ fer ya?)…..and that is simply not the case. THAT is why we feel so overwhelmed and why we keep trying to fill it with more STUFF!!! Do you see it? Take an aerial view of your life. Can you see where you have done this? Can you see where you do this? Here’s your chance to feed the rocks!!!

Welcome to Option #3! It's all around us!

Now my brain is scared that I just blogged that the rocks spoke to me but in this exercise they did so I’m going outside my comfort zone and letting you know too. Hope it helps some of you out there. I know it might seem silly but SILLY WORKED for me and it just may work for you, plus it’s 1. FREE  2. Does not hurt anyone and 3. No one knows that you are doing it….unless you put it on your own blog!!! 😉

I’m hearing little feet, gotta put on my “Mommy hat”.

Great big honkin’ hugs my lovelies,

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

ButterflyMoms founder…YAY!

Yes, and she only JUST turned 7!!! 😉

COOL EVENTS SECTION….

This week is the inauguration week for BFMs listing your events all over our planet. Send me your cool events that feed other ButterflyMoms’ Souls by Wed to have them included in Friday’s ButterflyMoms blog…

MASSACHUSETTS

– From one of OUR ButterflyMoms, Nancy Senior in Worcester, MA…This Saturday, January 29th and Sunday 30th all day, it’s the Three Rivers Building Community Retreat! Come experience many different treatments demos including Reiki, Healings, Massage, Yoga, Raw foods and more. Affordable and fun! For more info: www.threeriversbuilding.com . I’m going with my girls Sat morning! Come join us!

– From one of OUR ButterflyMoms, Betty Ripley, Holliston, MASewing 101 Class. Come learn how to sew in a class environment that is supportive and fun. The way Betty knows how to teach a class it simply just another form of meditation. The four week class starts Monday, January 31, 7-9pm for $75. I’m taking the class too! For more details call Maria 617.877.3616. Betty is also teaching a quilting class and has kids’ classes.

– From one of OUR ButterflyMoms, Becky Geer-Linnell, Medway, MAKniting 101 & Beyond Class. Just like the sewing class this is an incredibly fun way to connect to yourself by doing something that human being have been doing for thousands of years. Come learn how to knit in a wonderful environment. The four week class starts Tuesday, January 31, 7-9pm for $75. For more details call me 617.877.3616.

ButterflyMoms ROCK! (get it?!) 😉

– From one of OUR ButterflyMoms, Maria Salomão-Schmidt, Holliston, MA AND ALL OVER THE WORLD!Stitch n’ Bitch Get Together at Doug Sent Me Green Cleaners in the downtown of an idyllic New England town called Holliston, Massachusetts. It was sooooo incredibly cathartic. It was so wonderful that the people who came asked if we could do it again in two weeks instead of a month. If you don’t live close enough to Holliston to come Thursday, Feb 3 from 6-8pm then join your own group. Building community is another way we feed our soul and it’s FREE! For more info go to their official site…. http://stitchnbitch.org/

Buy the book to feed your entrepreneurial soul!

PS  WONDERFUL NEWS!!! My first book “Entrepreneurial Moms Extraordinaire” was shipped on Monday!!! For ButterflyMoms who order it online it is discounted to $19.99 for ButterflyMoms (down from $25). Please order a copy and recommend to your online friends. Click here to buy, and post the link on your Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, …. http://bit.ly/gRxe4U. WHEW WHO!!!!!!!!

ANGRY AT GOD!

Thank you ButterflyMoms for your help especialy Helen for reaching out!

Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

First, I want to thank Helen Bannigan for her wonderful guest post yesterday. It is wonderful to have heart friends like her and those who reached out. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for lightening my burden and giving me a renewed sense of hope!

I find myself in a very precarious part of my life’s journey. For the most part, it does not feel very good to be where I am right now.  If I take the fear and the judgment away I can say that I am definitely experiencing a lot of deep “shifts”. There is a river of rapid, unexpected CHANGE currently re-arranging my life… and that usually does not feel very good to us humans, especially when you seem to be following “the” rules, but not getting the promised results.

I’ve been in a phase where something “icky” happens and I dust myself off,  put on a “stiff upper lip and conjure up all the self-help advice I’ve acquired over the years. Then another “Icky” thing happens, then another, then another, almost like “instead of it’s raining men, it’s raining icky.” It gets so bad that you start to think that the universe is pulling a cruel joke on you. It is seems like your whole life is deconstructing without your conscious consent. You think you are at that bottom and then you arrive at a new lower, bottom. Your life seems to be in free-fall mode. You feel scared, disconnected, and angry.

Life sometimes feel overwhelming!

As someone who has been to third world countries and seen how many/most of the people of our planet Earth live, there is a part of me, THE JUDGE, who rides me like a mule. “Look at you! You have running water, heat, a car that works, healthy children, a body that works, etc…SNAP OUT OF IT! “ And I did,  I did “snap out of it again and again but there is a part of us that we bury when we simply “snap out of it” without acknowledging what is going on because it’s not convenient, or it makes others uncomfortable, or because it does not feel good, or_____________ (you fill in your own answer).

I get the sense that many feel this way but being raised the way we have been it is not “proper” for us to feel “icky” for very long or even simply be ANGRY. Well-wishers and loved ones also tell me to think about all that I have and to be thankful for that. It is true that I do have a lot to be thankful for but sometimes we feel what we feel and cutting off those feelings or sugar-coating what is going on in life, well quite honestly, sometimes life just SUCKS!

I remember back to a time when we had someone from Early Intervention coming to the house when we first had Sophia. Wise, white-haired Barbara was a wonderful soul who came to the house once a week to help us cope with Sophia having Downs and to make the most out of her life. She had a conversation with Doug once that helped snap everything into place. Barbara also had a special needs son who was now a man, she just blurted out one day, “Ya, it sucks.” Just saying those words released Doug in a very deep way. To be able to say that it sucks that you are in that situation without all the KUMBAHYAH fanfare feels REFRESHING! It is acknowledging your true feelings, not what you are supposed to feel.

What does it all mean when it's all falling apart.

It is only when we acknowledge that things do ROYALLY SUCK that we can begin to “move past the sucking”!!! Ignoring it just lets the SUCKINESS grow and fester. It may seem to go away but it only gets nastier and when it finally oozes back into your life you will wish you had addressed it MUCH sooner.

I spent my whole life creating a plan and working that plan of how to avoid pain and have the life I wanted. Over the last few years the universe has completely blown up that world. I AM RAW. Right now my life feels like it’s coming at me full speed. I feel like a rag doll getting thrown around. I don’t know where life is leading me but I will continue to be as authentic and present as I know how. Mark your calendars to come back every Friday for the unfolding journey. Feel free to share your comments below. This is how we can all learn and grow our ButterflyMoms souls.

Great big hugs,

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS  My first book “Entrepreneurial Moms Extraordinaire” is scheduled to be shipped at the end of next week. For ButterflyMoms who order it online it is discounted to $19.99 for ButterflyMoms (down from $25). Please order a copy and recommend to your online friends. Click here to buy, and post the link on your Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, …. http://bit.ly/gRxe4U.

PPS Yesterday we had our first Stitch n’ Bitch at Doug Sent Me Green Cleaners in the downtown of an idyllic New England town called Holliston, Massachusetts. It was sooooo incredibly cathartic. It was so wonderful that the people who came asked if we could do it again in two weeks instead of a month. If you don’t live close enough to Holliston to come Thursday, Feb 3 from 6-8pm then join your own group. Building community is another way we feed our soul. For more information you can go to their official website…. http://stitchnbitch.org/

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