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TEENAGE ZOMBIES….

Enjoying Alcatraz!!!!!!!

Good Morning Beautiful ButterflyMoms!!!

AHHHHHHHHHHHH, soooooo good to have you back!

What is coming up for me to share is this wonderful  teaching moment that had fantastic reverberations….When Christopher was about 11, he was starting to do the teenager/slacker/zoning out thing…..NOT ON MY SHIFT BUDDY!!! 😉 One of my biggest pet peeves is when people say, “Ah, that’s just teenagers.” NO! It’s not! It’s feedback to parents (just like feelings give us feedback) of someone who feels disconnected. Just because many of teenagers act this way does not make it “acceptable” to live like this. I feel very strongly about this because the more awake you are, the more you see that it’s simply a reflection for how they feel inside, not a stage of life that has to happen.

Big Brotha and his Posse 🙂

Christopher was starting to exhibit these same signs so one day I took out a bright pad and cool pen and sat down next to him. I started doing math, which actually was very typical in our house. There were a number of years there where we would do hours of homework together EVERY night. He was the kind of kid who needed that at that age. Now at almost 15 (a week away!!!! YAY!) he is self-motivated and is doing great! YAY!!! (again;))

He asked me what I was doing. I finished my calculations….2,227 days! The number hit me hard in the stomach.”Huh?” he replied. “2,227 days is how many day you have left before you turn 18 and are officially on your own,” I said. “WHAT!” His eyes widened. He sat down, hard.

Creating Awesome Family Memories...This time on a Trolley! YAY!

This is a lesson that has come up for me again and again lately. We all act like we have all this time in the world but in REALITY, no matter what you believe, we were ALL born and we will ALL die. When, is something we do not know but we make assumptions. In that moment I wanted to give him the give of perspective and appreciation because when kids (or anyone) DISCONNECTS those two qualities are not present to them.

I explained to Christophino (my nickname for him;)) that our goal was to give him as much information and skill as we could in those 18 years so that he could use them as a training ground for the rest of his life. I explained that life is about little choices we make EVERY moment of EVERY day. I brought up examples of kids around him that were starting to make choices that would give them results of a life of sadness or of efforting. I asked him if that is the path he wanted. He was taking it all in. You could tell that this was an AHA moment for him. Over the years since then we have reminded him of this lesson and when major stuff has come up for him we ask him to follow this simple check-in system… “Does this lead me down the road of what I want my life to look like or not?”

Creating this way of processing information and making choices is one that really works with him because over time he has seen it in action. The focus has shifted from us trying to be MEAN and UNFAIR to getting that the CHOICES he makes have consequences. He understands and appreciates that although we will always be his parents and there for him, this time of FREE food, shelter, clothes, fun stuff, etc. will not last forever. He will not always live with us – his parents, his sisters. There will be a time when he will miss this….There will be a time when we will ALL miss THIS! L That is a good lesson for all of us. There will be a time when EVERY one of your relationships will end. Everyone in your life will one day not be there. Either you go or they do.That is the natural law on this planet. NOTHING lasts forever. There will be a time when you will no longer where you do. Take it all in. BREATHE. This knowing is a gift, a FABULOUS, WONDERFUL GIFT!!!! J!

Bringing attention to the fact that this is going to happen is not going to make it happen sooner, it’s going to make your journey MUCH, MUCH, MUCH more enjoyable. It is the gift of time that we have. When people are on vacation they know their time is limited so they enjoy each and every moment of their time. Often people who live where you went on vacation have never gone to see the most of the cool places to see where they live. Why? Because they think they have nothing but time and one they will get to it….one day 😉

I request of you today to remember that our time on this planet is VERY short. ENJOY IT! TRULY bask in the wonderful glory of being where you are and who you are with. These are precious gifts most of us who live mediocre lives take for granted. Watch what happens to you when you make it a point to remember that your time (and theirs) is limited……OH YA BABY! LET THE GOOD TIMES ROLL!

Have a wonderful Saturday!!!!!!!!

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU HIT THE “BUMPIES”…

My Sleeping Beauty

Hello Beautiful ButterflyMoms!!!

I LOVE TALKING TO YOU EVERY DAY! Thanks for showing up my dears! It means a whole lot! Here’s today’s blog. Hope you LOVE it!

When we were growing up our parents had a lot of respite (time away from their kids). Once we got home from school everyone pretty much went outside and played until it was dark outside. The street lights coming on is a childhood symbol of many people which meant that it’s time to go home – where you will wash your hands and sit down to dinner. Those are happy memories for most of us. We got to play with our friends, hang out outside and move our bodies.

Now, with the FEAR of “WHAT IFs ” that has prevailed this generation most children don’t have that same experience. Instead, as you all well know, it’s the AGE OF THE  PLAYDATE! Many moms have their own calendars and one for the kids. Social pressures tend to push people to fill their children’s lives chock full of interestingly named classes. All this fueled by the fear that if we don’t, our child will somehow be left behind. 🙁 Add to that pressure the feeling that it seems like everyone is doing it. The FEAR VOICES flood our heads. We feel a tightness in our chest, jaw, and stomach when we think of our kids in pain. So even though we are exhausted and/or cash-limited, we find a way to add “just one more” thing to the kid calendar, in the hopes that this will be the thing that will make his/her life that much better.

A fact that is hardly ever discussed or observed by our society is that if you are raising children in America you have absolutely NO support unless you have family/friends around who can help you, or cold hard cash. This puts many moms into very challenging positions. If you find yourself in this position, step back and check in with yourself. Activate your “HOW DOES THAT FEEL? button” and your “WHAT GIFT DOES THIS COME TO TEACH ME? button. Remember to access your breath to help you connect. You will start getting INTUITION HITS. They will be “vewy”, “vewy” quiet at first. Nurture them. Give them breath. Believe in them. They will grow louder and stronger and over time it will be easier (and FUNNER-ER ;)) to hear!!!

Be kind to yourself. Being a parent is an incredible journey! If you don’t give yourself the space to BE and LISTEN and NAP, you are going to hit the BUMPS! REPEAT AFTER ME…WHEN I HIT THE “BUMPIES” I will immediately take a nap OR at the very least start using my breath again. BREATHE BABY BREATHE!!!!

Go out there and have an absolutely delicious day! I MEAN IT! Your day is a complete reflection of the thoughts you are sending out! Remember that!

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS I’m filming my three minute audition for the talk show competition for the Oprah Winfrey Network. This is different from what they called me about but my goal is strong and I am taking all roads I can to get to MY promised land! I have a dream! I hope it inspires you to follow yours! The world would be a MUCH better place if you did.

My AARP Invitation!….More Proof that the Universe has a Sense of Humor!

Our wonderful computer guru Sam came over tonight to do a little emergency “surgery” on Doug’s iphone. After he was finised he helped me update the time zone setting on ButterflyMoms which was set to Siberia ;). We started talking about time zones and daylight savings and Arizona came up. One of us (probably me) made a comment about their not celebrating Martin Luther King Day and Doug, who reads newspapers like I eat good sushi, said oh they changed that in 1988 so they could hold the Superbowl there…..To this Sam responds, “Oh, that was before I was born.” EVERYTHING IN THE ROOM STOOD STILL……”W-W-W-H-A-T?!” Turns out that he was born in 1989, THE SAME YEAR I GRADUATED FROM BOSTON COLLEGE! (as you can see it really affected me because I’m was writing it in all caps!!! ;))

! First I get an invitation to join AARP for my 43rd birthday two weeks ago, and now this! OK, (deep, cleansing breath!) after things hit us that we did not expect, it’s how we react and HOW we store the memory of the even that propels us forward or holds us back. This just happened so I’m giving it to you LIVE and FRESH so you can see what it really feels like to get back into alignment when the world throws you what looks like a curve ball.

First step is to acknowledge your reaction and how you are feeling. So for me, wow, I felt like I was connecting with someone on an equal basis and just realized I’m TWICE as old as he is! (sound of screeching car ;)) WOW! Keep breathing! Your breath will set you free! :)!

Second step is to ask, “What do I have to learn from this interaction or from making this realization?” “What has this come to teach me?” At first no answers come, and to be honest I start feeling a bit silly because I’m sitting here on my laptop waiting for universe/my subconscious/God/Buddha/my Guardian Angel(s), basically,whoever is answering, to answer. When I let go, the answer comes very softly at first, and when I invite it in, it begins to build in color and the story unfolds before me. The answer in this situation, for me, is simple. I’ve been working on getting the Oprah Show a 3 minute video. It’s something important to me and I’ve spent a lot of time on it (both productive and worry energy too). The message that just came to me was that I have lots of experience, in this case, two decades worth that I’m not acknowledging. Having this interaction is like a grounding, gently reminding me that I’m prepared for whatever adventures await. Living in the land of “what if’s” and/or fear does not serve our highest good. Period.

The third step is to review what the answer is. Try it on and see if it fits. NOW, here is a caviat….if it’s a very big lesson you may have received the “right” meaning but it might not fit for you because it’s could just be too much for you to handle at that moment in time. Wherever you are is where you are “supposed” to be, so just let it go. Look for a meaning that fits YOU right where you are NOW. When you do, it feels wonderful. You feel seen, heard and understood. The universe is always talking to you, ready to guide you to your highest good. I invite you leave space in your day each day this week to start hearing your intuition, because, simply put, that is how we are guided.

Remember to come back tomorrow to feed your soul and invite some friends to come along too! The more the merrier, truly!

Great big hugs,

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

She’s a BRICK HOUSE! :)

Happy Clients on Closing Day...Cambridge's Registry of Deeds

Hello Beautiful ButterflyMoms!

Welcome back! Come in. Take a good sip of some cool water to replenish your body and read on to replenish your soul! Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh (feel free to take a good clean breath too – that always feels good! It also re-aligns your body AND your energy level….for FREE! 🙂 YAY!)

I find meaning everywhere in my days lately. Here are some life lessons from today’s adventures as a Realtor!  (enter horns….TAH TAH RAH TAH TAH!!!!!) 😉 So I met with Kelly, a client who is going to be listing her house with the real estate company I founded with my heart, Brick House Realty ;). Kelly and I met several weeks ago to go through the house to see what needed to be done to get it “HGTV ready” to show. For those who don’t have cable, HGTV is Home & Garden Television, a cable channel dedicated to home improvement. Its influence is so wide spread that it has directly affected the real estate market. Now, when buyers are looking for a home, they want it to look NEW even when it’s not.

This house is really wonderful! I would call it a Mother’s dream house because it was specifically designed for the Mom of the house! Everything is functional, practical, elegant and beautiful! The kitchen is perfectly laid out and has one of the coolest microwaves/oven besides a beautiful gas stove/oven. It allows you to cook a chicken in 12 minutes, muffins in 4 minutes….you get the idea! The kitchen is the perfect size and space to be able to have everything at your fingertips. It has craft closets, tons of storage, fabulous yard, and a outdoor “Maine” room that will knock your socks off! The whole thing place is amazing! Homes come alive to me and when I market them I listen to what they have to say. It is a wonderful lesson about being still and sensing the messages around you.

With this house, like with most houses, it’s about decluttering, first and foremost. Since we have been on a de-cluttering bent lately here on the ButterflyMoms.com blog I wanted to share information that I hear again and again as a Realtor. People are always MUCH happier when they get rid of the stuff. They cannot remember why they did not make the time because it feels so much better without the clutter.

The other thing is that now Kelly was feeling the same thing almost EVERYONE feels when they do this,” I am doing this for the buyers (who are usually strangers) but why didn’t I just do it for me and my family?” They lament all that time that they wasted living like that when they could have easily changed it. Once clients see the difference many feel that they no longer need to move because their space is now THEIR OWN. They have now connected with it and it feels great! The clutter in our homes or in our lives disconnects us. Disconnection brings sadness and despair. These are signs that you are moving away from your alignment.

Boston Brownstone Condo For Sale - (Courtesy Brick House Realty)

Well, the good news is that it’s not too late! Why not do it NOW for YOU to enjoy?! It’s easy and makes you feel good! Play this wonderful game alone, with your family or even get a couple of friends involved! It’s a great way to create win-win situations!

Go around your house as if you are getting ready to move or sell it. Take a notepad and jot down things that you need to do. Give yourself a MOVE-OUT/IN date. Get out your calendar. Pick what days you will do what room. Take each room and keep what is necessary and get rid of what is not. (Remember to recycle, donate, re-use as much as possible so we keep unnecessary stuff out of landfills!) Remember to have fun! I will promise you that at the end you will feel like you live in a NEW house and you will because you will have totally shifted the energy around you!

FOR SALE - HOLLISTON STORYBOOK COTTAGE (Courtesy of Brick House Realty)

If you take the time to pay attention, even your home has something to teach you! I’ve been doing real estate for 10 years and I know that houses have souls or an energy about them. You can walk into THE nicest house in the whole world and feel ‘unsafe’, ‘unhappy’, ‘icky’ in it like it does not fit. You can walk into a house that is falling apart, like they did in ‘It’s a Wonderful Life’ and feel completely ‘connected’, ‘safe’, and ‘happy’ as if it belonged to you and you to it! It’s much the same feeling when you find a beloved pet! 😉  I’ve seen it hundreds of times. When a house is yours you can feel it regardless of what you say you wanted or needed. Life is very much the same way. We THINK we want something. We KNOW what we are looking for but when it appears in a different form RIGHT under our noses we reject/ignore/can’t see it!

Part of today’s lesson is go with your gutt even when it does not always make sense! Only a VERY small part of this world is about “making sense”! The more you go with you instinct the stronger it will get, the better adventures you have so when you reach your last breath you will have the satisfaction of having lived the time you had to its FULL-EST!

 Great big hugs,

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

HOW I GOT THE COURAGE TO CREATE BUTTERFLYMOMS?

I thought long and hard before I decided to write today’s blog, but so many ButterflyMoms have been asking me how I unlocked myself that I could not just ignore their requests for sharing what worked for me. I tried so many things over the years because I felt like my life was racing by and I was just paying bills but not REALLY living my life. Most everything I found was just a BAND-AID solution. I’m talking at least 20 years of searching here! Finally last year one of my good friends invited me to an open house at the Rhys Thomas Institute of Energy Medicine. I was skeptical, especially of the name. Energy school? What the hell is that?! Because of who asked me I agreed to go and it has opened up my life! I have found myself, the real me. When I write now you can see that, that is who is coming out. In my class is there are people from five different States! Doctors, attorneys, moms, dads, mechanics, authors, teachers, massage therapists…it is a mishmash of humanity coming together to learn! Below is the information for tomorrow’s (Tuesday’s June 15th’s) Open House. They will have another in August if you can’t make this one! If you have questions feel free to contact me directly. I highly, highly, highly recommend this program because I see how much happiness it brings people when they find themselves! YAY!!!!!!!! :)!!!! I can promise you one thing….You will only regret NOT going! 🙂

Rhys Thomas Institute of Energy Medicine Open House

Date: Tuesday, June 15, 2010
Time: 7:00pm – 9:00pm
Location: Solstice Healing Arts Center, 163 Main St, Suite 6, Medway, MA
   

Description:  Experience what it is really like in the program! We welcome you to join us at an open house and experience exactly what it will be like as a student in the school. Whether you are serious or just curious about enrolling in this life changing program, the open house will answer all your questions. Led by the founder and director, Rhys Thomas himself, and his head teacher Lisa Campion, you will walk through a mini version of a day in the school, experiencing each aspect of the program.You will also have an opportunity to hear from current students and graduates about their experiences and breakthroughs.If the idea of taking a huge step forward in personal development AND becoming a Full Spectrum Energy Medicine Practitioner is calling you, you owe it to yourself to take the next step in finding out more! http://www.rhysmethod.com/

PS Tell them Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa sent you! 🙂 Have fun exploring the world!

Lessons Learned INSIDE HARRY POTTER’s CLOSET!

Our New England home from 1870

We live in a great house that was built in 1870 so it has a lot of very cool nooks and crannies :). I’m actually writing to you today from one of those cool places! Yup, it’s true! In my daughters’ bedroom there are two closets, one of them is what we call the Harry Potter closet because that is exactly what it looks like. It runs the whole length of the room, and has two built-in shelving units and a very long clothes bar for hanging clothes. It’s huge! Why am I writing from in here you may ask? Well, since I’ve started writing this blog on a daily basis things have greatly shifted for me. You know, stuff like the Oprah Show calling me!! (YIPEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!) I still think that is sooooooooo amazing! But I digress. 

A very large SHIFT started when I LET GO of Farmville. (For those who are not familiar with Farmville it is a game on Facebook.) I had not realized, really realized, that it was taking me slowly away from my life in such a way that I was literally sacrificing sleep and time with my kids to “tend to my imaginary farm”. It comes soooo innocently. The little digital puppies and baby animals are sooooooo CUTE. It was only a matter of time before I got really hooked because I was using it to escape the ICKY parts of my day….you know that nasty TO DO LIST that never seems to END! Ya, that!

My fantabulous coach suggested that I stop playing for a week and I said, “Sure, no problem.” She said that was not the reaction she wanted so how about I just BLOW UP the game. ‘WHAT!? You mean like destroy it?” I said in shock. She responded with, “Now that, that response is what I was looking for! Yes, destroy it.” Well I got my computer guy out there within the next hour and he destroyed all my virtual puppies, chickens, Japanese pagoda (it was a very cool farm ;)), adobe, cows, barns, crops, etc. You know what? I did not miss it one bit. Not at all, plus I started attracting some very cool life events!

"Vovo" comes to the help!

That got me thinking. What else am I holding on to in my life that is not serving me and my goal to BE THE FIRE THAT IGNITES PEOPLES’ SOULS? The answer came, but I did not want to hear it. It’s my stuff. I am drowning in “STUFF”. Oh yes, yes, “STUFF”, just like Farmville, can be very INNOCENT looking at first, a cute handbag here, a turkey fryer for Father’s day over there and pretty soon the show HOARDERS is calling you because your youngest offspring ratted you out. 😉

So I started with my fridge as I wrote about in yesterday’s blog entry. It was soooooooo wonderfully cathartic that all week I had planned to spend this weekend “doing” the girls’ bedroom. They have soooooooo many clothes (think four girls) from NEWBORN to Size 10 – (you see I like to plan ahead – my oldest girl is only 6! 😉 Even though my mom came to help yesterday (THANKS MAEZINHA!!!) for four hours, and I also worked for four hours today, and we packed up SEVEN trash bags full of clothes to give away, I still have another closet in there room to go through! Oh, there is no way it’s going to happen today, dear ButterflyMoms, but it was from this spot that I wanted to write today’s blog so I could be IN THE MOMENT in every sense of the word. It’s like writing from within the lesson! Pretty cool! I love that I have the ability to unleash my creativity here in the ButterflyMoms blog! Thank you for giving me that glorious gift! WOW, this feels FABULOUS!

So back to “STUFF”. I have the need to start getting rid of mine. People buy stuff to fill holes they feel in themselves. I want to by whole-y NOT hole-y 😉 (there’s that creativity running amok again! 😉 I will continue following my instinct after I’m done with the girls’ bedroom – I KNOW MY closet is next. It is not as bad as there’s so hopefully it will go a lot faster! There is only one of me, but being pregnant five times in five years does make things on your body SHIFT a bit too….the other day didn’t we talk about great shifts happening?! Well now we know where part of that shift happened, right? 😉

Check in with yourself. After reading this how do you feel about the items in your____________ (fill in the blank for YOU). See if you get inspired to donate some of your items too!

Thanks for coming by today and FEEDING YOUR SOUL! Come back EVERY DAY and bring a friend! We are now almost up to 800 people a week reading this blog! OH YA!!!! THANK YOU! I hope you feel the LOVE!!!!

Great BIG hugs!

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS There is a great online site called www.FREECYCLE.org. It allows people to ask for OR give away stuff they don’t want FOR FREE. There are groups all over the world. If there is not one in your area start one. It basically runs itself and is an amazing way to keep things out of landfills and bond a community! I will be putting the bags of clothes up there for MOMS and DADS who need and/or want them. Another step towards making the world a BETTER place!  YAY!!!!!!<

ButterflyMoms Life Lesson #25: What’s In Your Fridge?

We all mean well, but sometimes we don’t have a lot of time. I’m starting something new and fun for those who have limited time but want to get their SOUL fix for the day! Introducing BUTTERFLYMOMS LIFE LESSONS!!!!! You are one of the lucky FIRST readers! YAY!!!! I will keep it short and sweet so you get the maximum lesson in the shortest amount of time. Let’s see if this works. Please send your feedback! I love to hear from you! Now, onto the blog…ButterflyMoms Life Lesson #25: What’s In Your Fridge?

Last week I opened my refrigerator and was hit by one of those mystery smells that can curl your toes. Well, in my quest to find the culprit, I started taking out two containers, then three, then four, and then…..before I knew it, everything in the middle shelf was cleared out.  A deep, peaceful feeling came over me. 🙂 AHHHHHHHHHHHH! I felt like I was getting rid of what was rotting/not working in my life. It felt so good!  I wanted more!  My mind “kindly” reminded me that I had a million things to do, but I just wanted to be there, right there in my kitchen, having fun cleaning my fridge. It’s the simple things that come up as you start becoming more aware. Fun is everywhere!

I decided to just do one more shelf, and, of course, you know that led to cleaning out the whole thing! It took about 45 minutes but it was awesome! Seeing everything in its place, clean and easily accessible, felt AMAZING!

The reverberation from that simple act affected me each and every time I have opened the refrigerator since then. This whole week my family has eaten better, have eaten at home more, and have wasted less food. Why? Because our refrigerator is now set up to serve our needs, not be just a dumping ground.

Today, as silly as it may sound, be aware of your refrigerator. What is in there? Do you still have condiments from the 1900’s? Wipe up the shelves. This is where a lot of your food is stored before you eat it. What does it look like? Is it serving you? Clean out at least one shelf of your fridge and notice how it feels. When we change little things like this, it shifts other things in our lives that are not working. Share what you find with the other ButterflyMoms here. Have fun!!!

Are you Suffering from Anorexia of the SOUL?

Yesterday’s blog brought examples of some of the vast changes that are going on in our world. There are many, many shifts. Even with all these changes most of us currently live in a world where we are completely STARVING OUR SOULS!

PEEK A BOO! I SEE ME! DO YOU SEE YOU?

Think about it. What is your life based on, really? What is it based on? For many of us we live in an unconscious fog. We only really wake up when something NOTICEABLE happens like a death of someone or something, or an accident or illness. Otherwise, we completely alter our behavior and cut out our intuition to fit within the rules. 

At work most of us do whatever the company/boss tells us we have to do, even when we don’t like it. Let’s say they pay you $200,000/year. Although most of us make significantly less than that, let’s go with that number because it round and big. For that amount of money (or a  lot less) you give your power to a person/group of people who tell you how you will structure your time. When you will work, when you can have “off”, when you can be with your kids. Some even let you know when you can go to the bathroom or take a break. This is sooooooo widespread that people don’t even realize that it’s happening. They feel ICKY but they don’t know why………so off to Dunkin Donuts we go to get something caffeinated and sugary to help us make it through the day, right!

Most just follow along because that is just what everyone does. If you don’t then you are weird and sometimes it even gets you fired so make sure you fit into their box, ok? (breathe with me!) I know this is hard for some of you and some might even get angry but stay with it and see where it takes you. You are safe.

I hope you kindly allow me to share this little example…I once asked one of my brothers if he wanted to go to Europe with me. I had found CRAZY CHEAP airline tickets and had a FREE place to stay. He said, “I’d love to but I have no more vacation time.” Now for most people that sounds “normal” but think about it. “WORK” takes us the best hours of your day and the best days of your life.

Most of us tolerate where we work, what we do or both. (Breathe) How does that feel for you? I can hear your mind coming into the conversation already (because mine is too 😉 I’m not saying quit tomorrow, or even ever. I’m gently suggesting you bring your awareness to your situation. Is this how you want to live having to ask permission to do the things you want when you want to do them? (Feel the answer.)  How does it feel for you? Even if it feel ICKY stay with it. Use your breath. It is there to help you process stuff. No breathing. No moving through stuff. It’s that simple!

For a simple experiment stand on a major street at rush hour (morning or night) and look at the faces of the people commuting to work. How do they look? Are they feeding their souls? Are you feeding yours? If you find that you are feeling an ICKY here AWESOME! Go with it! You know that most of the people who are going to work look like they are super psyched right! They look happy and excited that they are going to “WORK”! WHEW WHO! YA! YES! YIPEE! YAHOEY!!! And driving home from work, even better, right? They are happy to have spent a precious day of their lives living with purpose, making a difference and doing what feels right to them…right? Right? Oh,….no?  We all know it’s the opposite. 🙁 Again that Beatles song, “All the lonely people, where do they all come from?”

These people, like many of us, are suffering from ANOREXIA OF THE SOUL. We have starved our souls by ignoring them, by pushing them down when they popped up because it was socially unacceptable at the time. We made ourseleves small to fit in. We have learned to do that all our lives and then we wonder why drink, smoke, cheat, shop, eat…..(pick your poison). It’s because we miss ourselves! We act like we are human who occasionally have spiritual experience when in reality it’s the opposite. We are spirits/energy having a human experience!

What are some of your signs that you are suffering from Anorexia of the Soul? To have a better life, you have to start with AWARENESS, anything else is just a Band-Aid.

A gentle reminder that each time you come to www.ButterflyMoms.com you are feeding your soul! You are acknowledging it and asking what it needs. The voice might be very faint for some of you but keep at it. Your soul wants to talk to you. It wants you HAPPY! Just like with Aladin and the lamp, you are its master!

Some people don’t want to take the journey for fear of pain. Well, look around and ask is the pain of not being my TRUE me worth this feeling of constantly treading water? Don’t worry. Wherever you are is exactly where you are supposed to be! Because YOU are reading this perhaps you are ready for something a bit more…..oh, I don’t know…something a little bit more YOU?!

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS Today we got 153 people to the site. AMAZING! One ButterflyMom Vice President told me she has changed her homepage to be the ButterflyMoms.com so she can start her day with the intention of feeding her soul. WHAT AN HONOR!! Keep spreading the word! Keep exploring YOU because YOU are THE most interesting person you will EVER meet! 🙂

START WHERE YOU ARE…

Enjoying the simple things with Family - Three generations on both sides pictured here!

Sometimes it seems like life if not going our way. We get bored, tired, sick, cranky, angry, feisty……etcetera, etcetera, etcetera. When you feel that way, you are getting fabulous feeback. NOTHING is ever “good” or “bad” like most of us have fallen into the habit of labeling. The key is to NOTICE what you are feeling. I wrote something about this yesterday but the message is still wanting to come out so lets continue that fabulous life lesson shall we….

There are signs guiding us EVERYWHERE we look. Sometimes we don’t like the sign so we simply ignore it. We truly think that the issue will go away, but it just shifts. The sign gets bigger. We ignore it bigger. The sign gets huge. We ignore it huge. Then comes the bohemoth sign! (enter music…DUM DUM DUHHHHM!) There is usually no ignoring this one, even for the best of us! It usually takes years to recover from it, many never do.

WHAT HAPPENED? When we get super self-absorbed in our little made-up worlds we forget to connect with what is real, our feelings. They are our compass. When you try to override the system you get ridden over  :)! (“ridden” is that even a word? Well, it is now!!! 😉 ) The universe does not discriminate. Take a look at gravity. Does not care if you are old, new, young, old, rich, poor, male, female. NOPE! It just does it’s thing. We are in the same situation. The universe works in the same way. Learn the rules and you can build the life you want. It’s that simple.

Happy, Grumpy and Smiley

We as human beings have been evolving in many different ways. Spiritually, we are all moving into a time of great learning. If you are noticing what is around you, you will most likely see that people are doing lots of “shifting”. For example, people who are doing YOGA you would never in a million years think they would. Others might be leaving a long work or marriage situation to follow another dream. People are moving to a different street, town, state or country. Notice. More people are becoming massage therapists and healers. Becoming a doctor, engineer or attorney does not have the same Uhhhhh-Ahhhh! it once had.

A HUGE shift has been how close many fathers have become to their sons and daughters as opposed to when we were growing up. At that time most dads did not know their children at all because work was the main focus. Many children who grew up in that fatherless world did not want to have the same relationship with their kids.

Moms’ roles have shifted too. In my own house, since I started writing EVERY day it fills my soul. My husband Doug has really stepped up by helping take on some of the responsibilities I had. We did not talk about it, he just started doing it. That act of love on his part makes it a lot easier to write! Because writing fills my soul, I’m much more present and joyous with him and the kids. It feels wonderful and the kids have less tantrums….imagine that!  😉

What happens when you don’t eat all day? CRANKY!!!!! Well then, WHEN was the last time you fed your soul? Hmmmm? Keep thinking. Keep thinking. If you are now going back into memories from the 1900’s, you, my dear, are STARVING!!! Your soul is STARVING!

Tomorrow we will talk about what is the best way to feed your soul. come back tomorrow for your REAL SOUL FOOD RECIPES!!!

Great big hugs,

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaa

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Let’s Get JEKYLL With IT!

Joy being Joyous!!!

Good morning my Beautiful ButterflyMoms!

I want to give a SHOUT OUT to all the ButterflyDads out there! I actually get almost as many responses from them as I do ButterflyMoms which is AWESOME! I am deeply honored and humbled! Guess that means that we are all drawn to that deep sense of peace 🙂

Where I am the sun is shining, inside and outside. We had a big presentation this morning. My stress level was through the roof. The presentation is now over and went beautifully well. In the afterglow I can see the deep chasm from how very stressed I was and how great I feel now. All that WORRY and ICKY energy was a waste, as most WORRY and ICKY energy is 😉

TRIGGERS, we all have them. SOMEONE or SOMETHING enters your “space”, if you get a CHARGE (REACTION) it means there is a message/lesson/something to pay attention to. Do you listen or do you “kill the messenger”?

Untangling Life's Mysteries Can Be FUN!

We all have sides of light and sides of darkness. There is no light without the dark. Dark balances the light and vice versa. It is not about GOOD or BAD that’s when we start creating LABELS and limiting ourselves. Be on the lookout for when something feels YUMMY or when it feels ICKY. They are there to guide you back into alignment, in other words, YOUR HAPPY PLACE.

When we enter into fear or anger it activates our dark side, our DEFENSE, because we feel UNSAFE. Today, notice when you do this. For me, one of the ways I enter into my defense is that I noticed myself start yelling.  When that happens if I don’t bring awareness to it, the yellling continues or increases. What are you defense triggers? Where do you see this in your own life?

The universe is also communicating with us. It is everywhere and once you start noticing you are going to be amazed at how magical the world is. Think of the story of the werewolf. Do you remember that his DARK SIDE came out when his TRIGGER, the moon, came out. And then there was the story of Doctor Jeckyll and Mr. Hyde….all about the dark side. It’s all around you. Bring up your awareness and play in the world. If you are suffering you are not playing. Choose playing and see how fun the world can be when you embrace BOTH your dark and light sides!

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