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Millions of Tiny, Little CHOICES

Dearest Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

Here are this week’s important ButterflyMoms updates…

*Started our ButterflyMoms Chakra workshops and welcomed some new faces. Thank you Denise, Kerri, Jennifer, Mary, Christine and Susan and  to Karen, Raquel, Nancy, Ellen, Maria, Nancy, Karen, Karin, Hilde, Christine, Donna, Jess and Gaynor who were there in spirit! We’re meeting again next Thursday, July 21st, 8pm at 783 Washington St, Holliston. Plenty of FREE parking in back. Only $25 at the door or just $20 if you drop off a check or pay through Paypal… http://bit.ly/mS7c70 . 🙂  Come to feed your soul!

*For the 13 or 14th week my computer and website issues are still a work in progress. Please keep sharing the site to friends. I apologize for the hiccups.

*No new books sold for MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE this week. Third week of no book sales. All potential book buyers must be on vacation… I hope they come back soon! ;). Keep putting your dream out there too!

 

THIS WEEK's BUTTERLYMOMS WINNER... Kerri Miller holding her! prize!!

 

*We had our second ButterflyMoms blog contest and picked the winner last night at the ButterflyMoms workshop. (drum roll) Envelop please…And the winner is…. the beautiful KERRI  MILLER of Holliston. Kerri has attended all seven of the ButterflyMoms workshops!!!! YAY KERRI! I guess all the power of attraction exercises are paying off, eh?! 😉 Kerri Miller is a Holistic Health Practitioner and Feng Shui Master, coaching those seeking better health by integrating Nutritional Coaching, Energetic Healing,  Aromatherapy! More contests coming in the fall!

Now onto the ButterflyMoms blog…

We’ve all heard the saying, “Life is what happens to you when you are making other plans.” Well that is JUST how my morning went. In the middle of writing my blog I heard a H-U-G-E thump. I don’t know if you have ever heard the sound of a body falling…even from a very short distance. It is a very eerie sound. I heard this sound this morning…It was one of our exchange students who had an infection on her leg and did not let us know. She was in severe pain and did not sleep at night at all. She was exhausted and literally passed out downstairs in the kitchen at like 6am this morning! Long story short she is fine after six hours of an ambulance ride, working out insurance from another country, CAT scan, blood samples, injections of morphine, shots of novocain, draining her wound, saline drip and antibiotics, standing in line, booking a follow up appointment and getting prescriptions.

The day was filled with emotion! Being in the hospital not knowing if she was ok or not triggered when I was there five years ago when Sophia died. I have to admit that a lot of times when I’m with other people around, I SWALLOW MY FEELINGS about her death, about missing her. I don’t know if I think people don’t want to be “bothered” or “cannot handle it”. I also FEAR that if I start crying it will trigger THE ABYSS OF PAIN that parents who lose children KNOW in their cells. It is almost PALPABLE, this pain. I know it is not real but when you are IN IT, it feels like the most real things in the world.

Just like every day, my day was made up of millions of tiny, little choices. Today I chose to FEEL my grief when it came up and not BURY it somewhere inside. I cried in front of Laura, Doug, about four nurses, two doctors and one waitress. At least FOR TODAY I let go of what others would do or say. I FELT THE FEELING and THEN EXPRESSED IT…this time is through tears…other times is through HUGGING.

Hugging Massachusetts Governor Deval Patrick

I HUG a lot because each time I do it gives me the opportunity to CONNECT with another soul and show my GRATITITUDE for being here. I have found in this lifetime that we as humans have a tendency of neglecting our bodies, a lot! Hugging allows people to GROUND themselves and BE PRESENT. Most people LOVE hugs because it brings them to their present moment. I have a suspicion that when people don’t like hugs it’s probably because it triggers a past moment instead of a present one.

Today I allowed myself to FEEL SAD and it did not send me to the ABYSS OF PAIN I so fear, at times. This journey has a lot to do with trust. The only power we have is CHOICE. When I try to CONTROL things Igive away the only power I’ve ever had, that is the power of CHOICE! When I’m in my present moment and feeling what comes up I CREATE an OPPORTUNITY to raise my quality of life by allowing ENERGY to NATURALLY FLOW. Blocking ENERGY leads to nothing but grief and pain.

I invite you to PLAY with whatever feelings come up for you…FEELINGS ARE WISDOM, it is how the universe communicates. When I FEAR MY FEELINGS I BLOCK MY FLOW OF ABUNDANCE! Just noticing when I do it….and the consequences I receive for FLOW or  LACK OF FLOW. CHOICE is the key. The key only exists in the PRESENT MOMENT. May you remember to savor your “NOW”!

Great big hugs,

Maariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

The following is a list of places where ButterflyMoms live who bought our wonderful book MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE…

UNITED STATES

California

Anaheim 1

Fullerton 1

Sacramento 1

San Bruno 1

Connecticut

Greenwich 1

Yalesville 1

Florida

Fort Lauderdale 1

Kentucky

Louisville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 2

Bolton 1

Holliston 12

Hudson 4

Medway 3

North Easton 1

Sherborn 1

South Grafton 1

Watertown 1

Worcester 3

Missouri

Lee’s Summit 1

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

Vermont

Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN

Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

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WRITE ON…A Tribute to My Avózinha!

Dearest Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

Here are this week’s important ButterflyMoms updates…

*The AWESOMENESS CONTINUES! Word about the ButterflyMoms workshops is getting out and people keep asking but WHAT is it? Well, it is really an open forum for whatever you need to come through. Each week I have something planned and within that much more emerges. Yesterday we did a visualization exercise that had us all in awe of what we have access to and most of the time don’t’ realize it! We’re meeting again next Thursday, July 14th, 8pm at 783 Washington St, Holliston. This time we will be talking about chakras. Plenty of FREE parking in back. Only $25 at the door or just $20 if you drop off a check or pay through Paypal… http://bit.ly/mS7c70 . 🙂 (We will miss you again Ms Gaynor…have a wonderful vacation!!!)

The Incredibly Dynamic Nancy Cantor literally DREAMED about her company... and then formed it!

Coach Extraordinarie Nancy Senior makes the world a better place through her company FRONT PORCH HEALING

We just had our sixth ButterflyMoms Workshop and this one brought in some very wise souls. Thank you Nancy, Denise, Kerri, Nancy and Susan and Karen, Raquel, Ellen, Maria, Karin, Hilde, Christine, Donna, Jess and Gaynor who were there in spirit! We were honored to have visits from Life Coach Nancy Senior of the amazing blog Front Porch Healing http://frontporchhealing.com and another Nancy too, Nancy Cantor, the superstar women’s networker, coach and trainer who runs The Dream Factory. Check out the next Dream Factory event for lunch on July 14th… I will definitely be there! http://www.cantorconsulting.com/Programs/tabid/298/CategoryID/68/Default.aspx.

*Again my computer and website issues are still a work in progress. Please keep sharing the site to friends. I apologize for the hiccups.

*No new books sold for MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE this week. Second week of no book sales. Just because your dream journey is not what you expect does not mean you drop it. I just keep putting it out there. Keep putting your dream out there too!

THE BUTTERLYMOMS WINNER... Joanne Goughan!!!

*We had our VERY first ButterflyMoms blog contest and picked the winner last night at the ButterflyMoms workshop. (drum roll) Envelop please…And the winner is…. the beautiful JOANNE GOUGHAN of Holliston. YAY! How wonderful that Joanne won because she has been reading ButterflyMoms since the very beginning! She is a VP at ARBONNE and has four great kids (who are all still little). Joanne is a total superstar and now she is a superstar with a brand new DVD that the whole fam can watch, YAY! We are having another contest this week so keep reading. This could be your week! All you have to do re-post the ButterflyMoms blog. EVERY time you post it or come to the ButterflyMoms workshop, you get your name put in the “hat”. (we actually used a basket) 😉 So if you re-post it on Twitter, LinkedIn, FB and come to the workshop, you get 1, 2, 3, 4….4 pieces of paper with your name on it go into the “hat”. It’s a fun, free way to feed your soul by playing in the world!

Now onto the ButterflyMoms blog…

If you asked your grandmother if she ever “journaled” she would most likely lean her ear towards you, bend down and say something like, “Pardon?” Ahhhhhhhh writing, most of take it for granted. Kids no longer learn how to write “cursive” in school and there’s talk that one day in the not-so-distant future kids will not be taught how to write anymore because everything will be speech recognition or typing….wow! I would not wish that on my kids because there is a wonderful joy in writing. I have find it ABSOLUTELY FASCINATING that I can make a bunch of symbols on a page and someone could come along a minute or 16 centuries later and be able to read what I wrote! Savor that for a moment. Think about how very cool it is that you have the ability to WRITE! WOW! J Most of the type of writing we do is RUSHED WRITING, a note for school, a quick thank you card, a check. We don’t even think about the fact that we CAN WRITE and how VERY COOL THAT IS!

My gift of noticing WRITING came from my grandmother on my dad’s (“Pai” in Portuguese) side. My querida (sweet) Avó Maria NEVER went to school, EVER. She could not read or write. To see her sign her name was one of the most life-noticing moments I’ve ever had. My Avó would squint her eyes, stick out her tongue to the side of her mouth and grasp that pen with all her might, almost as if she the tighter she held it the better it would come out.  It would take her a full 3-4 minutes to write it out “Maria Oliveira”. When Avó was done she would sit back look at it, nod and pass it to the person who had asked for it. She oftentimes apologized for how it came out.

Those scenes, now memories, strike at my heart’s strings. They left deep impressions on my soul that shaped how I lived/live my life. I do not take it lightly that in just two generations things TRANSFORMED deeply. I have a bachelor’s degree from Boston College in Communications and French, a master’s degree from Simmons College in Business and several other certifications, awards, etc. I have lived all over the world and travelled to 26 countries. I speak several languages and have given workshops and worked with some amazing people all over the world. I have been a guest ON the Oprah Winfrey Show!!!! My grandmother lived to see most of these things. I could see in her eyes the deep love she had for how I have lived my life. It was as if all her struggles and efforts had paid off because her beloved granddaughter had achieved what she could NEVER even dream existed! BUT ALWAYS THERE WAS LOVE! For many decades I was her only granddaughter and we had a magical bond. She helped me be the woman I am today! :)!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The legacy of lessons and love that she left me is what I pass on to my girls and Christopher.

When you write things down you bring them one major step closer to MANIFESTING! We all MEAN to journal. It’s on many of our TO DO lists but oftentimes goes un-done. KNOW that it is a powerful tool for YOU to use whenever you wish. KNOW that there are no “shoulds” of how often or when. Use it as you need to…just know that the MAGIC of being able to write is a gift you possess! REMEMBER THAT YOU HAVE IT! Use it when you need to bring something to life or let go of something else.

WHO Wants To WIN This Week's BUTTERFLYMOMS Prize?

Since this week’s post is about writing this week’s ButterflyMoms contest is contains three beautiful writing books as the magnificent prize: a simple notepad, pretty notecards and a small, stunning, simple pink mini journal that will fit in your bag/purse. To win simply post this week’s ButterflyMoms blog on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn….etc. Let the rest of us know you have by leaving a comment below of where exactly you have posted it. For EACH place you post it your name will go into a “hat” .  Next Thursday night, July 14th, at the ButterflyMoms workshop, I will pick a winner. You don’t have to be present to win. If you live far away I will ship it to you, free. If you live close I will bring it to you myself. 🙂 How’s that for FREE fun?

Great big hugs,

Maariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

The following is a list of places where ButterflyMoms live who bought our wonderful book MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE…

UNITED STATES

California

Anaheim 1

Fullerton 1

Sacramento 1

San Bruno 1

Connecticut

Greenwich 1

Yalesville 1

Florida

Fort Lauderdale 1

Kentucky

Louisville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 2

Bolton 1

Holliston 12

Hudson 4

Medway 3

North Easton 1

Sherborn 1

South Grafton 1

Watertown 1

Worcester 3

Missouri

Lee’s Summit 1

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

Vermont

Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN

Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

*To buy your copy Click here now…http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

*Mark your calendar to read ButterflyMoms EVERY Friday!

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I USED TO WHEN I WAS A KID…

Dearest Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

Here are this week’s important ButterflyMoms updates…

*The rumors are true, last week’s ButterflyMoms was indeed banned from Facebook for a few hours. Boy, who knew spirituality and personal growth could be so “racey”! (growl) 😉

*Soooooooooo awesome! We just had our fifth ButterflyMoms Workshop and this one was a very deep one for shifting heavy blocks in people’s lives. We’re meeting again next Thursday, July 7th, 8pm at 783 Washington St, Holliston. Plenty of FREE parking in back. Only $25 at the door (still let me know you’re coming so we have enough chairs and materials) or just $20 if you drop off a check or pay through Paypal… http://bit.ly/mS7c70 . 🙂 (We will miss you Ms Gaynor…have a wonderful vacation!!!)

*My computer and website issues are still a work in progress. Please keep sharing the site to friends. I apologize for the hiccups.

*No new books sold for MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE this week.

Now onto the ButterflyMoms blog…

I LOVE THE movie “Mr. Magorium’s Wonder Emporium” with Natalie Portman, Jason Batemen and Dustin Hoffman. Have you seen it? It looks like it would be a KIDS movie so many people might have not really SEEN it even if they saw it, if you know what I mean. Many times in life we PRE-JUDGE a situation (or person) and then don’t see if for what it (he/she) comes to teach us. “Ahhh, that’s a kids’ movie, that’s not for me…”

There is a scene that sticks in my mind like a used piece of gum on a sidewalk  on a hot Atlanta summer’s day, Jason Batemen’s character  (HENRY) is an accountant who is working feverishly in Dustin Hoffman’s glass office to get the mountains of papers in financial order. A kind young boy (ERIC) who is a store regular (played by Zach Mills) knocks on the glass window and starts a conversation with writing notes to each other and showing them across the window. “Do you play checkers?” asks Eric. “Henry responds with, “I USED TO WHEN I WAS A KID.” “Want to play?” asks little Eric hopefully. The accountant responds by writing on his own piece of paper, “Can’t I’m working.” The child then asks, “Can you play when you stop working? and the accountant responds, “I NEVER stop working.” The boy draws a little sad face with the word… “oh” and walks away with his head and shoulders down. The accountant is sad for a moment, then takes a deep breath looks down and zones out again into his LAND OF SHOULD (in this case, I should go back to work).

It was SUCH a powerful scene for me because it is the struggle I go through in my own life. My little kid wants to go play but the “RESPONSIBLE” (ADULT) part of me wants me to, well, “be responsible”. I find that adding someone else’s children to the mix helps me bring out more of my kid-side. When I add my own children I sometimes tend to default to BEING RESPONSIBLE. Don’t know why, just observing at this point. This scene happens all over the world again and again in the lives of human beings. It is the struggle to stay in the delicate balance of happiness. I  only use the word “delicate” because there are soooo many forces in the mix that seem to PUSH/PULL/SHOVE/NUDGE us into being PROPERLY RESPONSIBLE that we oftentimes forget what it is like to PLAY.

WARNING: YOU ARE ENTERING THE FUN ZONE!! 😉

So in the THEME of increasing more PLAY in our lives I’m doing a fun “contest” as it were. ButterflyMoms is giving away a DVD of the movie, Mr. Magorium’s Wonder Emporium! YAY!

Simply post this week’s ButterflyMoms blog on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn….etc. Let us know by leaving a comment below of where you have posted it. For EACH place you post it your name will go into a hat (much like the one cute Eric wore in the movie 😉 ).  Next Thursday night, July 7th, at the ButterflyMoms workshop, I will pick a winner in front of everyone from all the names of those who left a comment on the ButterflyMoms blog with where they posted it. You don’t have to be present to win. If you live far away I will ship it to you, free. If you live close I will bring it to you myself. 🙂 How’s that for FREE fun?

Finally, for those who are visual here’s the actual scene from the movie…YAY! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kTGlcsLTAiY

ENJOY your week! Your assignment is to add lots and lots of PLAY time!  Start now… Good luck with the first ever FUN BUTTERFLYMOMS CONTEST! WHEW WHO!

Great big hugs,

Maariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

The following is a list of places where ButterflyMoms live who bought our wonderful book MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE…

UNITED STATES

California

Anaheim 1

Fullerton 1

Sacramento 1

San Bruno 1

Connecticut

Greenwich 1

Yalesville 1

Florida

Fort Lauderdale 1

Kentucky

Louisville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 2

Bolton 1

Holliston 12

Hudson 4

Medway 3

North Easton 1

Sherborn 1

South Grafton 1

Watertown 1

Worcester 3

Missouri

Lee’s Summit 1

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

Vermont

Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN

Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

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*Mark your calendar to read ButterflyMoms EVERY Friday! 

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WILL MY “POOPIES” EVER SMELL GOOD?

Dearest Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

Here are this week’s important ButterflyMoms updates…

*We just had our fourth ButterflyMoms Manifestation Class and each week one or two more people come. It is soooooo awesome to see people shift before everyone’s eyes. Most of the crap we have is just trapped energy and we teach ways to release it. It feels really good to come and because it feels so good we are having another one next week. We’re meeting next Thursday, June 30th, 8pm at 783 Washington St, Holliston. Plenty of FREE parking in back. Only $25 at the door (still let me know you’re coming so we have enough chairs and materials) or just $20 if you drop off a check or pay through Paypal… http://bit.ly/mS7c70 . It’s a wonderful way to let go of a lot of your blocks! It’s inspiring!J

*My computer and website issues are still unresolved. MAN! This is a long lesson!!! Sometimes I wish I were a faster learner!!! SHEEESH!!! It is heartbreaking that my web guru did not update my ButterflyMoms post as I requested several times and I am left with the sadness that for the first time the actual ButterflyMoms site did not get the blog post for the week. If you read it, it was because you got it from Facebook. If you are reading this you are one of the lucky few who has access to this blog and I ask that you help ButterflyMoms by sending it to your friends so that we IGNITE as many souls as we can!

*It was an exciting week for MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE book sales! We sold three books this week…Yay!!! Great big THANK YOU to Robin Dahill from Bolton, MA  and Jennifer Hill from Fort Lauderdale, Florida (notice they both have “Hill” in their name – very interesting! 😉 ) who are representing brand new towns where MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE have never sold before!!! YAY! Also a GRAND THANK YOU to the incredible Christine Hart of Holliston, MA who after months of trying to fit in coming in to get her own personalized copy did so this week. What a treat it is to connect with these amazing women! Gratitude abounds!  Remember, an ever-growing list of where in the world books have been bought by other ButterflyMoms is at the end of this blog. It’s a pretty spectacular list of places. When you buy a book yours is added too!

Now onto the blog…

Sure! I'll take just one more thing...no problem!!! Just throw it on the pile!

I was processing something last night at the ButterflyMoms Manifestation Class that was so big that I had to do it “publicly”. The class offers a SAFE SPACE where any of us can say where we feel stuck. I had a MAJOR ENERGY DRAIN this week. There have been a lot of major stresses in my life but one of the biggest is MY STRUGGLE with how I want desperately to control the events of my life! I have not let go of the illusion that IF I can just CONTROL THIS or THAT then I will be safe. It is absolutely amazing how VERY STUBBORN I am at simply learning how to SURRENDER! ARGHHHHHHH!!!!!!

On Wednesday it was Sophia’s “Angel Date” and quite honestly one of the major feelings I was feeling was RAGE. Now, being a “middle-aged” mom in a small, idyllic New England town that is usually NOT a very “acceptable” thing to feel. Most who feel this I suspect, bury it….DEEP inside for fear that someone will see it. Well, seems like that RAGE is exactly what needed to come up for me because the universe kept sending me ICKY situations where it was basically a Petri dish for RAGE to grow.

A client of mine helped by being super angry at a “bump” that was fixed but still this client wanted to be in ANGRY ZONE and attempt to “punish” me while she was at it by treating me in condescending ways that even the other agent was surprised at. I want to say to her, “Is this how you treat people when things don’t go your way?” This actually happened on Sophia’s “Angel Date” and so it made it EXTRA RAW. Add to the mix the fact that most of our family did not even bother to CONNECT with us about Sophia on her death day, it grew my CAULDRON OF RAGE to the boiling point. I was deep in the LAND OF SHOULD and not present to the fact that while I was handing out JUDGMENTS of others like they were Pez, I was neglecting the fact these people were gifts to me. I was SOOOOOO in their space that I was burning a phenomenal amount of energy. The result was that I screamed at my kids and husband and basically acted like a crazy person because I was so energy depleted and not PRESENT with MY SELF.

Now my profile, for those who know profiles should come as no surprise. I am an ENFORCER/CARISMATIC LEADER. (E/CL). Let me give you the Cliff Notes version of the profiles. Each of us has a light side and a dark side. We need both sides. If you cut off the dark, you cut off the light. That’s just how it works. Your power comes from the dark side. The dark side is not “bad” unless you ignore it and then the energy builds up until it explodes! That is almost NEVER PRETTY. Well, the Oprah experience, being one of her last five guests EVER!!! YAY!!!!!!!!!! (just had a mini celebration moment there again) opened up a huge part of my light side and in response a huge part of my dark/power side opened up too….hmmmm, very interesting!

Basically people, there is a lot of heavy shit we all carry around with us. I did an exercise yesterday that showed that at the ButterflyMoms workshop that everyone got, but when I SHOWED them, they REALLY GOT IT! As we become energetically “lighter” the SHIT will come up. Yes, indeedie for each of us it has and will continue. LISTEN UP, if you have not SHIT coming up you are not living your life! Hear me! This is why we are here to CLEAR THE SHIT! People who live meaningful lives are present with whatever comes. Hell, it does not always have to be pretty to be worth living through! The gift in my whole week, why all these icky situations came up for me was a huge opportunity for me to FACE and LET GO of some of my rage. These laws of the universe work like gravity does. It is ALWAYS “on”.

How many times in your life do feel like you are getting pummeled? Instead of looking at the common link or observing what gift this could be bringing we WHIP OUT THE LABELS:  MY LIFE….(fill in the blank)… “isn’t fair”, “hard”, “sucks”, blah, blah, blah…..what could have been a major gift of awareness and release of energy turns into another large piece of emotional roadkill that you throw into your “basement” for it to further rot with all the other stuff you have thrown down there. I think it’s safe to say that most of us lead very SMELLY lives. It is the ones who look like they have it “all together” who are efforting the most at keeping up the façade. It does not matter how much crap you have. Each moment of every day brings with it the ability to accept the gift of AWARENESS, the launching pad of a phenomenally rich “vita dolce”!!!

Great big hugs,

Maariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

The following is a list of places where ButterflyMoms live who bought our wonderful book MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE…

UNITED STATES

California

Anaheim 1

Fullerton 1

Sacramento 1

San Bruno 1

Connecticut

Greenwich 1

Yalesville 1

Florida (New state added to our book list just this week…Yay Jennifer Hill!)

Fort Lauderdale 1

Kentucky

Louisville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 2

Bolton 1 (New town to our book list just this week…Yay Robin Dahill!)

Holliston 12 (Brought the number up to 12…Yay Christine Hart!)

Hudson 4

Medway 3

North Easton 1

Sherborn 1

South Grafton 1

Watertown 1

Worcester 3

Missouri

Lee’s Summit 1

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

Vermont

Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN

Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

*To buy your copy Click here now…http://bit.ly/gRxe4U

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Mandy Heliotis and Sophia Schmidt… NOW WHAT?!

Dearest Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

Here are this week’s important housekeeping issues….

*Last night we had yet another ButterflyMoms Manifestation Class. We fed a lot of souls. 🙂 Because it feels so good we’re having another one. We’re meeting next Thursday, June 23th, 8pm at 783 Washington St, Holliston. Easy to get to on Rt 16 & FREE parking in back. Only $25 at the door (still let me know you’re coming because space is limited) or just $20 if you drop off a check or pay through Paypal… http://bit.ly/mS7c70 . It’s a simple first step to get back to the happy you…so grab on to it! 🙂

*My computer and website stuff was put on hold due to our Mandy’s passing. My intention is to address it this week so I will be better at answering your emails. 😉  For right now it is what it is. ;)…My gentle reminder again to SURRENDER! continues 😉

*We sold zero MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE books last week. If it has been your intention to buy a book please do so this week by clicking here… http://bit.ly/gRxe4U. A list of where in the world books have been bought by other ButterflyMoms is at the end of this blog. It’s a pretty spectacular list of places. When you buy a book yours is added too!

Now onto the blog…

All the initial “funeral” attention is over. Although it has only been a little over a week I have found that this is one of the hardest phases of mourning. My world has totally shifted again HOWEVER most everyone else is still living their lives like before. They have moved on. They have enough OTHER THINGS in their life to “forget”, those closest to Mandy don’t have that luxury. Wherever we go we see her face. At random moments we remember her smell. We feel her around us but oftentimes feel helpless to connect. How do you communicate with someone who no longer has form?

Joy Dorsey and Rhys Thomas...Two Very Talented Healers and Teachers!

I am in my second year of school for this at the Rhys Thomas Energy Medicine School. I am much better than I used to be at connecting to things that have no form but still realize how very, very little I actually know. For me, specifically, I have a double dose of AWARENESS right now because in just a few days, on June 22, it will be our Sophia’s 5th Anniversary of her passing. It sounds cliché but I KNOW they are together. I mean I know that Sophia helped Mandy with her transition. As I write this there is a part of me that is FLASHING a big red WARNING light saying, “Don’t talk about this! What are people going to think.” Well, in my experience with everything I have studied and gone through, for me this is all true. I think the more people know about this the more we can get on with the business of enjoying the precious little time we have here in this lifetime…so I continue…

When we first got the call last week it was to say that Mandy had been hurt in a car accident and that it was dire. At that point she was already dead but we did not know that. I immediately sat on my couch and attempted to “tune in” to Mandy’s energy field. We do this in class for practice but this was the real deal. I desperately wanted information. In class I find myself blocking and even belittling my abilities because I see how much better others are at it than I am.  (Sidenote: Oftentimes we are our own worst enemies. We are our own BULLIES stomping any possibility of success. Notice when your BULLY comes out and how it affects your life.)

When I tuned in I got that there was something wrong with her wrists. I got that she was surrounded by lots of angels with lots of blue in the background like the magical ceiling at Notre Dame Basilica in Montreal. I got that she could not breathe. I was so IN THE MOMENT that I asked Sophia to go to her and see if she could see anything.

Beautiful Mandy 🙂

It felt like Sophia had been with me all along – I just had not really noticed but when I brought awareness to it she was right there. Instantly I saw Sophia was in the scene “sitting” IN Mandy’s lap. Sophia  kept evaporating or turning into something other than form. I could tell she was trying to hang on but there was nothing to hang out to. There was no emotion with this just information. It was all very matter-of-fact.  That is all I got. I went back to Doug who was at the kitchen table desperately trying to call someone – anyone – to get more information about our beloved Mandy. I described what I saw and said, “I got nothing.”

Haunting photo I took of Mandy and Sophia...So Beautiful!

It was only later that I found out that Mandy had broken both wrists in the crash and she died pretty instantly. We think she broke her neck which would have caused her to stop breathing. Mandy was already dead by the time I tried to connect with her so the message I got was there was nothing there was accurate. The fact that in my moment of grief that I reached out to Sophia and got such a simple, yet powerful, message, gives me much solace.

This has been a very rough week but also a very POWERFUL one. I want to take from Mandy’s death not the cliché reminder TO ENJOY each moment we are given. We have heard that so many times that maybe we will do that for a few minutes/hours /days but after a while we DEFAULT to the “BUSY”. We don’t like to stay in the uncomfortable. We like to FILL in the gaps of silence with STUFF, THINGS, GADGETS, CALLS, TELEVISION, BUSY WORK, IPADS, IPODS, etc., so we don’t have to be. These pretty shiny things are wonderful in moderation but we have let them FILL OUR EXISTENCE. We don’t know where they begin and we end.

Jamie and Mialotta...two cousins making new memories

The gifts that Mandy has brought me this week are many. I got to CONNECT with her friends and even members from my family that I did not bother to connect with on a deep basis because life was just too busy. Well, DEATH blows the lid off of BUSY!!!!!

Aunt Mimi, Aunt Nini and James

I got to meet and savor some of her beloved friends including James, Danny and Billie. I got to connect with my other niece, beautiful Nicole, and nephew, beautiful Daniel who are much younger and who were in that cloud of grief that many adults don’t understand. It is a hard place for kids to be. Fortunately or unfortunately, I’m a bit of an “expert” on kids and grief so I let my instinct take over. I showed them that I REALLY saw them through a few things we did together. I could see the difference it made for them and it surprisingly made a HUGE difference for me! WHAT A GIFT!!! Now we have pledged to write letters to each other for a whole year. No emails or boxes, just a simple letter written between us. Mialotta and I have already sent the first one. It contained in the letter fun math problems (because Daniel is working on his math skills), stickers and some of the funnier Sunday comics…funny I had not read the Sunday comics in years…I used to LOVE it!!! Yes, another simple gift…AND there were many other gifts…

I got to see my own daughter process some of her grief from her baby sister’s death and that of her beloved artistic cousin. “Whose going to give me hugs and kisses like Mandy does?,” she said sobbing. I got the gift of meeting Mandy’s beloved high school art teacher who is starting a scholarship in Mandy’s memory. 🙂 Mandy would have LOVED that!!! You could easy tell she loved Mandy very much! Amy spoke about how Mandy loved her art and often came back to mentor other kids. I invited Amy to read ButterflyMoms this week. I hope she is reading it right now! 😉

Stan shared his poetry, his memories and his heart

I got the gift of connection with a long-time friend of the family Stan from Manhattan who is a dearheart and whom I’ve gotten to know over the years through FB. I got to connect with some of the family’s old friends/neighbors especially Tonya and Lou who taught me the gift of being present with someone’s grief, with just showing up and holding the space for a bereaved mother to simply cry her heart out for the child she will never again hold. I got the gift of deeply connecting with my brothers-in-law, a studly group of gentlemen with hearts the size of the Empire State Building. I got the gift of connecting to Valerie, Carrie and Evelyn who showed what true friendship and support is all about. I got the gift of connecting with my Sophia on a whole new level that I will continue to explore. There are many, many, many other gifts that I received and even more that I will receive from our beautiful Mandy.

Photo of Mialotta taken by Mandy Heliotis

I cannot change her death but I can live my life in a way that honors what she stood for, all that courage to be authentic, all that passion, all that love, all that vision, all that creativity, all that connection, all that presence. I can increase my AWARENESS of when she is around and how she still influences the world through the magnificence that we call MANDY!

One of Mandy's paintings...sooo much talent!

I invite you to live your life in the present moment and see all the wonderful gifts around you!!! BREATHEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE! 🙂 FEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEL! LLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLOVE!!!!

Great big hugs,

Maariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

The following is a list of places where ButterflyMoms live who bought our wonderful book MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE…

UNITED STATES

California

Anaheim 1

Fullerton 1

Sacramento 1

San Bruno 1

Connecticut

Greenwich 1

Yalesville 1

Kentucky

Louisville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 2

Holliston 11

Hudson 4

Medway 3

North Easton 1

Sherborn 1

South Grafton 1

Watertown 1

Worcester 3

Missouri

Lee’s Summit 1

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

Vermont

Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN

Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

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SHATTERED HEARTS…In Memory of our Beloved Mandy Heliotis!

Dearest Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

This week’s housekeeping issues will be at the end…in honor of our beloved Mandy Heliotis, our shooting star!

Today my heart has been once again shattered into a thousand pieces. I ask that as you enter today’s blog you take eight super-deep BREATHS! 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7 aaaaaand………..8! AHHHHHHHHHHH! Breathing helps you move through the pain of things. It helps you process and stay connected to the meaning instead of just the pain.

On Wednesday morning the phone begin to ring at 3am…at first the news and our state of mind was foggy. There had been a horrific car crash, Mandy, our beloved niece had been badly hurt and had been airlifted. We stopped breathing. We began praying/begging that she be fine to any gods that were listening. A little while later the words you would give anything not to hear…She is dead 🙁 Our beautiful beloved 26 year old niece was ripped out of her life in an instant by a drunk driver who hit them head on. Mandy lived a lot in her short life but she had sooooooooooooo much more living left to do! It seems almost too much to bear. Our hearts feel like they have shattered. To be honest I’m having a hard time deciding to write in the present or past tense and that hurts. I don’t want to use words like SHE WAS. I want to say SHE IS!!!!

Mandy always attended the games of her younger cousins. They adore her!!!

Tears blind me, breath escapes me, my chest tightens, groans come from deep inside. I feel like I want to throw up much of the time now. Thinking about it is sometime too painful. I think about her. I replay Mandy’s last moments. I wish you could have been there to change the outcome. I wish you could have stopped it. I think about her friend who was driving and only got a broken leg. I pray that she does not blame herself. I pray that she is eventually able to heal this event in her life…seems like such a colossal request right now. I think about the last time we saw each other , Mandy and I. I think about the last time we spoke. I feel in awe of the fact that her photo with Sophia was in the News Center 5 piece that Susan Wornick did for ABC. To see it go to www.butterflymoms.com and check out the WATCH section. I spoke to her about it about a week ago. Mandy said she loved it!

Throbbing heartache rips through Mandy’s immediate family, through our families into our extended families and friends. Everyone feels the loss. If you ever met Mandy you would know why. AHHHHHHHHHHHHH Beautiful Mandy! She IS AUTHENTIC and REAL. Mandy had an eye (and a hand) for art and photography. She IS KIND. Even out of her body SHE IS STILL ALL ABOUT LOVE! Mandy honored both the dark and the light sides of herself and at SUCH a young age brought incredible amounts of beauty into the world. When someone does that, you miss them even more. ;( I feel like the world got a little dimmer when her soul left planet earth. I am certainly not the only one!

Our beautiful Mandy

Grief is such a powerful thing. It can cut you at the knees. It affects us on every level if we let it. The parts we cut off from the grief are the parts that will eventually give us or biggest pain. I have learned with Sophia’s death that it all comes in waves…Sometimes I cannot bear living another moment and other times I just feel the love and gratitude for having been loved and had the honor of loving such a magnificent soul!  Mandy, sweetie, you are a MAGNIFICENT SOUL! We miss you already!

I am deeply grateful and deeply humble by all the outpouring of LOVE LOVE LOVE from those of you who sent their condolences! Thank you for reaching out. In lieu of flowers her beloved mom, dad and sisters ask that in lieu of flowers you give a donation in Mandy Heliotis’ name to MADD (Mothers Against Drunk Driving).

Great big hugs,

Maariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS  Here are this week’s important housekeeping issues….

*Thank you to everyone who came last night to the ButterflyMoms Manifestation Class. A special thank you to the beautiful Kerri Miller, the beautiful Denise Gidopoulos, the beautiful Kären Humphrey, the beautiful Gaynor Greenberg, the beautiful Jennifer Burgett and the beautiful Susan Carlson who came to the workshop and helped me deal with my grief by being present with that energy and allowing it to move wherever it needed to go. If you feel stuck or like you want to move forward but keep hitting ROADBLOCKS then come next week to our spectacular workshop. We make it at 8pm so you can put your kids to bed or get out of work with plenty of time to show up. Everyone says they’re learning the tools they can use to start moving towards her heart’s desire! 🙂 The group has asked that we meet again so I’m extending this invitation to you. We’re meeting next Thursday, June 16th, 8pm at 783 Washington St, Holliston. Easy to get to on Route 16 and plenty of FREE parking in back. Cost is only $25 at the door (you still need to pre-register because space is limited) or just $20 if you drop off a check or pay through Paypal… http://bit.ly/mS7c70 . It’s a simple first step…so grab on to it! J

*My computer’s motherboard is still in Wisconsin getting fixed…BREATHE. Sometimes in life things take longer that you expected/wanted but letting go is the best way. I‘ve been without access to my files in almost 3 months and I am just observing and letting go, ESPECIALLY when I feel the Land of Should creep in!!!! 😉

*The www.butterflymoms.com website is still a work in progress. Again, thank you for bearing with me. For right now it is what it is. ;)…Gentle reminder again to SURRENDER! 😉

One book sold this week to the lovely Kat Malone. Thanks beautiful Kat! The following is a list of places where ButterflyMoms live who bought our wonderful book MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE…

UNITED STATES

California

Anaheim 1

Fullerton 1

Sacramento 1

San Bruno 1

Connecticut

Greenwich 1

Yalesville 1

Kentucky

Louisville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 2

Holliston 11

Hudson 4

Medway 3

North Easton 1

Sherborn 1

South Grafton 1

Watertown 1

Worcester 3

Missouri

Lee’s Summit 1

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

Vermont

Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN

Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

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Bigger Boobies, Getting Approval and Chasing The Dream

Dearest Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

First some housekeeping issues…

*My motherboard is still in Wisconsin getting fixed…with manuscripts of my next two books and I’m still going through my 8,000 emails from when I could not access my computer. If you sent me an email and I did not respond please don’t take it personally, I could only access emails through an iPhone and it was impossible for me to do that with such a high volume of emails. Shifting through them now.

*The www.butterflymoms.com website is still a work in progress. Thank you for bearing with me as right now the blogs are not all there and it makes it a bit tricky to read prior blogs (for those who want to really experience how very amazing this journey has been). It will get better. For right now it is what it is. ;)…Gentle reminder again to SURRENDER! 😉

Now let’s enter into the heart of today’s ButterflyMoms blog….As you enter today’s blog I offer a gentle reminder to take eight super-deep BREATHS! 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7 aaaaaand………..8! AHHHHHHHHHHH! Breathing makes the journey juicier…and gives you more ENERGY POINTS for your day! 😉

This is the first morning in a long time that I can write again without having to give an Oprah report. She is still, very much, a guiding light for me. Now, I just move forward knowing that her energy and this latest experience is something that propels me forward into my destiny. Whatever that destiny is, is what is written in my heart…the trick is to get your brain to either TURN OFF or ALLOW you to start going towards YOUR path. Manifesting your destiny is not just a cool “new age” phrase. It is your soul’s plan for being on this planet.

Think about that. Most of us lead “under the radar” lives. We do what is “expected” of us. We worry that it is not enough. When we feel the ICKIES we STASH them deep inside…quick before anyone sees what our true feelings are. We are jealous of others who we PERCEIVE as prettier, wealthier, smarter, better looking mate, more kids, less kids, thinner ankles, bigger boobs, smaller boobs, better house, better zip code….the list is pretty much ENDLESS. Guess what?  On planet earth you will NEVER get 100% of EVERYONE’s approval! EVER! Even candidates who run for office who are super, super, super popular NEVER, EVER, EVER get 100%of the votes for that is simply not how the world is wired. The BIG difference between people who go for what they want and those who don’t is this….People who go for what they want FEEL that NOT GOING FOR IT is MORE PAINFUL than just maintaining their current life.

For me, pre-kids, I THOUGHT I was on a pretty good projectile. I THOUGHT I was GOING AFTER my DREAMS and I was. I was CHASING. CHASING. CHASING. Energetically when you chase something it runs from you even more! We’ve all seen that in some form in our lives. It was a very cool life in many ways, but also one FULL OF LIVING JUST OUTSIDE MY JOY…NEVER QUITE THERE.

This tremendous Oprah Show experience has brought MY “THERE” into my “HERE”. Take that in for a moment. How can YOU bring your dreams, passions, desires into YOUR “HERE”, the only place it can really be SAVOURED…and quite frankly, DEVOURED! 😉  YUMMA-LISH Y’ALL!!!!!!! 😉

Yesterday, I had my first workshop since the Oprah experience and it was FANTABULOUS!!! I hope the people who were there will leave a comment below as some have on Facebook because it was such an awesome experience! The energy was simply fabulous. We got to the heart of issues. We shifted energy around to where it better served us. We learned some TOOLS to help us cope with life’s ickies. We learned how to call our power back. We moved ENERGETIC BOULDERS that were on TOP of us under us so we could stand even taller! It FELT soooooooooooooo amazing to be with these ButterflyMoms! WOW!

They have asked that we meet again so I’m extending this invitation to you. We are meeting next Thursday, June 9th , 8pm at 783 Washington Street, Holliston. Easy to get to on Route 16 with plenty of free parking in the back. Cost is $25 at the door (you still need to pre-register though because space is limited) or just $20 if you drop off a check or pay through Paypal… http://bit.ly/mS7c70

I am personally inviting you to this workshop to help YOU get back to the HAPPY YOU! It’s food for your soul…like a triple-dose of the ButterflyMoms blog!  Come play with me and some of the other ButterflyMoms! Simply sign up here… www.butterflymoms.com/workshops.html.

I am deeply grateful and deeply humble by all the LOVE LOVE  LOVE! It is there for all of us to partake in. Just scoop up a great big heaping spoonful of LOVE and rub it on like lotion! Imagine the day you will have by doing that!! Have a RUB A DUB DAY!!! 😉

Great big hugs,

Maariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS  Zero books sold this week. The following is a list of places where ButterflyMoms live who bought our wonderful book MOM ENTREPRENEUR EXTRAORDINAIRE…

UNITED STATES

California

Anaheim 1

Fullerton 1

Sacramento 1

San Bruno 1

Connecticut

Greenwich 1

Yalesville 1

Kentucky

Louisville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 2

Holliston 10

Hudson 4

Medway 3

North Easton 1

Sherborn 1

South Grafton 1

Watertown 1

Worcester 3

Missouri

Lee’s Summit 1

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

Vermont

Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN

Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

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MY OPRAH DREAM REALIZED….PART 2!!!! YES!!!!!

Dearest Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

HAPPY 50th BEAUTIFUL DOUGLAS!!!!!!!!! MWAH!!!!!!!!!

First a VERY HAPPY BIRTHDAY to my beautiful husband Doug who today turns 50!!!! What a ride we have been on in just 10 years!  WHEW WHO!!! Looking forward to future adventures!!!

Next some housekeeping issues…

BEAUTIFUL Susan Wornick from ABC's CHANNEL 5 in Boston! What a wonderful human being! WOW!

*Just got access to my emails after about 8 weeks. Have over 8,000 emails to go through. If you sent me an email and I did not respond please don’t take it personally, I could only access emails through an iPhone and it was impossible for me to do that with such a high volume of emails. Shifting through them now. They are still trying to recover my hard drive and I would say within two weeks I will have most everything back. (fingers crossed!!!!)

*The www.butterflymoms.com website is up and hobbling along. Still needs some tweaks but there is lots you can check out like the ABC News Report by the lovely Susan Wornick under the “WATCH” section and you can also check out workshops and retreats I’m doing. 😉 Thank you for bearing with me as right now the blogs are not all there and it makes it a bit tricky to read prior blogs (for those who want to really experience how very amazing this journey has been). It will get better. For right now it is what it is. ;)…Gentle reminder to SURRENDER! 😉

As you enter today’s blog I offer a gentle reminder to just BREATHEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE! AHHHHHHHHHHH! Breathing makes the journey juicier! 😉

I’d like to THANK YOU for coming on this journey with me!!!! Last week over 2,000 of you came to sip on Sophia’s gifts of LOVE to us! I am DEEPLY honored. Each Friday that you SHOW UP here adds YOUR energy to BUTTERFLYMOMS and in turn gives you energy multiplied back to you! If you take a moment to be still you will feel it. How do you know it truly FEEDS your soul? The simple answer is that you know by simply asking “DOES THIS FEEL GOOD? DOES IT FILL ME WITH ENERGY? LIGHTNESS?” If something feels GOOD it is giving you energy. If it feels ICKY it’s taking away energy! By doing things like coming to BUTTERLFLYMOMS changes your whole energy vibration in the world. It makes you lighter when you open yourself up to this kind of SOUL GROWTH!!!

Still have lots going on….I’m feeling pressure at this point because this are shifting so much week to week that I might not include what I need to but that is a WONDERFUL lesson in letting go! (I guess I need a LOT of reminding around this lesson because it keeps coming up as you will see.)

Last week I started the blog out by writing WOW! WOW! WOW!…and this week has been no different. From where I left off last blog I left off with… “We had VIP seating and I sat behind Stedman and Gail for a part of the first show. Cameras were not allowed but I did sneak in my phone and so did a lot of people. After a while everyone was taking photos. It was hard though because the phone does not have zoom. This place WAS MASSIVE! I’m going to have to make this a two part blog because it’s getting too long. There is lots and lots still to talk about!”

So the rest of the night was about movie stars and heart-warming stories from everyday people who have done extraordinary things! Everyone was adding their own energy of GRATITUDE and the LOVE in the United Center just grew and grew and grew!!!! I could feel Sophia around me. It might sound strange to people but just because the person is gone does not mean the relationship is. It feels soooooo wonderful to be able to feel her. It feels like the deepest LOVE I’ve ever ffelt. It’s the type of LOVE that lifts your life standards and increase your heart’s ability to forgive and adore. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh (sigh) 😉

Where's Doug?

One story that sticks out for me is Rosie O’Donnell. She came up to us back stage like a magnet was drawing her to us. Rosie looked as surprise as we were that she was talking to us. It was only when I got home that I got my AHA MOMENT!

The front side of my vision board...One line says, "Fly like a Butterfly. Mingle like an A-lister."Other side of my Vision Board....Hello Rosie!!! 🙂 Let's work together!

I looked at my VISION BOARD and saw that Rosie O’Donnell was on there four times!!!!! I put her photos on there because to me it represented my dream of being a talk show host! You can call it what you will but it is crystal clear what it was to me…the Law of Attraction unfolding before us! SIMPLY AMAZING!

Paying it forward! Teaching my kids at Portuguese School how to create their own Vision Boards!!! They LOVED it!!!

As for the star report, most of you have probably seen the shows as they have aired but for those who did not, we rubbed elbows with Tom Cruise, Beyonce, Usher, Aretha Franklin, Stevie Wonder, Queen Latifah, Michael Jordan, Steadman, Gail, Jamie Fox, Josh Grobin, Maya Angelou, Alicia Keyes, Halle Barry, Jerry Seinfeld, Tom Hanks, Madonna, Dr. Oz, Nate Berkus, Maria Shriver, Dakota Fanning, Will Smith, Rosie O’Donnell, Patti LaBelle, Diane Sawyer, etc. Seriously it was surreal and soooooo amazing! What was even more amazing was that I felt totally at ease around everyone. Sure I did the cuckoo, freak-out dance when I first saw Madonna but once I got into the groove it was totally effortless. I just SOAKED IT ALL IN!!! :)!!

This was after Oprah saw all the videos including mine! YAY!

We hardly slept that night either! We had “dinner” at 3:30am and a few hours later had to take an early morning flight back to Boston. It was AWESOME! (funny sidenote: I used to be a flight attendant and for some reason when I walk down the aisles there is almost always someone who asks me for a drink or what time we land. It does not even matter what I’m wearing. Must be “the walk” 😉 )

Leading up to May 23 there were lots and lots of commercials on ABC for the WCVB- Channel 5 piece that would run right after The Oprah Show. We were on at least once an hour on every show including The View, Ellen DeGeneres, etc.! It was completely surreal! My friend Linda was watching the Spider Man movie late one night and suddenly she sees my face on TV. She said it took her a while for it to soak in. She felt like she was in a TWILIGHT ZONE episode! 😉

Beck y was also in the segment I was in...

Now this whole time (for the last 8 weeks, in fact) I have had no real access to emails so unless you are a friend on FB, I cannot let even you know that I’m going to be on Oprah!!!! It cut my communication WAY down! I felt like a wanted to share my joy with everyone but that I could not. At this time reporters were emailing me and I had no way of knowing it. It was totally about SURRENDER. It is not something I can do easily…It is something I am learning to do because I see the benefit of it…most times 😉

I cannot say even know that I’m completely BACK INTO MY BODY. This is such an AWESOME experience that is still unfolding. Someone called Doug the other day and told him they heard my voice on HOWARD STERN!!! They played my voice from the Oprah Show about Sophia! Now tell the universe does not have a sense of humor!!!! ;)!

Thanks everyone who came for sharing in this very special moment! Soooo sweet!

People asked if they could come over for the taping and if you asked you got invited. A wonderful group showed up from all different parts of my life. It was wonderful to see! During the actual viewing I realized YET ANOTHER MIRACLE had happened. There were about 10 ULTIMATE VIEWERS that were featured on the two shows we sat in on. We taped for about 6 hours and the shows have to less than 2 hours to allow for commercials. They had to CUT OUT A WHOLE LOT! The result is that more than half of the people who went, even one woman who flew all the way from Afghanistan , were completely cut out of the TV portion of the program! They cut the woman before me, the beautiful Tamika, but they INCLUDED ME! I was actually the first person. Sooooooooo amazing! Yet another gift from our beautiful Sophia!

Because of this experience I am filled with a new energy. I know I am also born to be a teacher. I am offering workshops to help YOU get to your goals or even find those goals. They are affordable and fun! I invite you to come play with me and some of the other ButterflyMoms! Simply sign up here… www.butterflymoms.com/workshops.html.

I am deeply grateful and deeply humble by all the LOVE LOVE  LOVE!

Great big hugs,

Maariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS  Turns out that we had sold more books this month but because my email was down I did not get those orders. Soooooo sorry to those who did not get the books sooner. They are all going out today! We have a total of three books…WHEW WHO!!!! These books are going to….(drum roll)

Anaheim, CA – Yay, first book in Anaheim!!! YAY!!!

Lee’s Summit, MO – Yay, first book in MO!!! YAY!!!

San Bruno, CA – Yay, first book in San Bruno!!! YAY!!!

Here is where the books have gone to ButterflyMoms…

UNITED STATES

California

Anaheim 1

Fullerton 1

Sacramento 1

San Bruno 1

Connecticut

Greenwich 1

Yalesville 1

Kentucky

Louisville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 2

Holliston 10

Hudson 4

Medway 3

North Easton 1

Sherborn 1

South Grafton 1

Watertown 1

Worcester 3

Missouri

Lee’s Summit 1

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

Vermont

Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

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ITALY

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MY OPRAH DREAM REALIZED…PART 1

Dearest Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

Lots going on….

First, our new website is up so check it out and pass it to your friends… www.butterflymoms.com.

Second, we are in the FRONT PAGE of today’s MetroWest Daily News in a very nicely written article by reporter Kendall Hatch: http://www.metrowestdailynews.com/features/x1078553938/O-what-a-feeling-Holliston-woman-featured-on-Oprah

Third, being interviewed by WCVB (ABC) today at 1:30pm. :)!

Now onto today’s blog….BELIEVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

WOW! WOW! WOW! I have just read the first paragraph of my last blog on May 13 just seven days ago. I have lived a whole lifetime in these last seven days! I’m bringing lots and lots of BREATHE REMINDERS to today’s blog because it is surreal in many ways how this has all happened and putting it on words, well, I don’t know if I can turn something so AMAZING into linear thought, quite honestly!!! :)! I’m in a world right now where my whole energy level has shifted. The dream I had for 20 YEARS!!!!, that of being on The Oprah Show, finally came true in the grandest of scales!! I am in a state of awe, shock, gratitude, disbelief, amazement….you get the idea! Every time I think I’ve “identified” a feeling it shifts to something else. I am a wave of emotions!

I also feel like this experience has opened me up into a whole new level of being. If I had to describe it I would describe it as my soul just expanded. My energy feels bigger. It is a magnificent feeling!  Yesterday as I worked the counter of our family’s dry cleaning business, I could feel how I was igniting the souls of the people who walked in. It felt AMAZING! I know that is my life’s calling and whether I do it on a stage or one-on-one it feels like total alignment of my soul when I’m doing this. To see people’s faces and energy dramatically shift in a short time leaves me feeling incredibly grateful and joyous! I sometimes even jump up and down and clap my hands kind of happy!

For those who need an update I will give you the quick rundown.

Last Thursday, May 12 would have been Sophia’s 6th birthday. The Oprah Show had only 3 shows left. Every actor, musician, therapist, author’s PR people were doing anything and everything to get their clients on the show. I used to do PR I know how that goes. I had been trying to get on for 20 years, people so I knew that if it was going to happen I simply needed to completely surrender because it was out of my hands. All I could control was my ENERGY ATTITUDE. I let go again of my expectation and embraced gratitude. I sent a final email from my heart to the producer I had been working with letting him know it was Sophia’s birthday and thanking him for answering my original email, working with me throughout the year and giving me soooo much hope!

Friday, May 13, write my ButterflyMoms blog to the reception of one of the highest number of readers ever. Same day a new producer calls me an interviews me. About five more calls that day. I’m asked if I can fly out to Chicago for an interview or have a crew come here. (I hope for them to fly me out but am open to whatever comes.) They call me back and say someone is flying out to film me, “Are you free at noon?” After a few phone calls I was 😉

Me and the Oprah Show camera crew who came to our house in HollistonWhat a wonderful day!

Saturday, May 14 the producer Alex flew directly from Harpo Studios to Providence with not even enough time to change his clothes. He was interviewed someone in Providence at 8am and came to my house at noon. He brought two cameramen and one sound guy extraordinaire. Of course one of them was Portuguese from São Miguel.  😉 (love how the universe works!) Alex says it might not even air. They have to still approve the content. They film for 2.5 hours and leave. I’m thankful for the whole experience and that my kids get to see what a production team looks like. It is a beautiful sunny day.

You KNOW when things get too serious I have to collaborate fun... 🙂

Sunday, May 15 it’s a rainy day.  Finish an open house on a new listing. Get lots of interest and two offers above asking. Doug finished his open house at the same time so since we had a babysitter we met at Bertucci’s for a quick lunch. Alex calls. They loved film and will use it. Yay!!! And they have two tickets for me if I’d like to come to Chicago for the final taping? It hits me that I’m not only going to be ON the Oprah Winfrey Show but that it’s going to be one of the very last shows!!!! Suddenly Sophia feels very, very, very close to me! I KNOW this is a gift from her! I’m having the same out-of-body experience I had when she died but this time it’s oh-so-joyous!!!! WHAT A GIFT!!!!! One snafu… They cannot pay for the flight because their budget is shot but will pay for hotel and food. It’s been a rough couple of years for us financially but I know that if I’ve come this far nothing is going to stop me so I reached out to my class (I’m in my second year of Energy Medicine School) and asked if they had any frequent flyer miles. To my heartfelt joy, my classmates got together and chipped in to buy us our airplane tickets!!! AMAZING! (Learning to receive is SUCH a huge part of all this.) My friend Karen Knight-Detering sprung into action as one of my many fairy godmothers who appeared. Karen  offered to drive me to airport, take care of my Mia and called our wonderful hairdresser Meredith from Willow Salon for an emergency appointment. Meredith opened up the salon for just me at 6am on a Monday (day they are normally closed) right before she got her root canal! AMAZING! Thanks for my mom for watching my two youngest just days after surgery. Thank you Vicki, Raquel, Heather, Arden, Gregg, Alex, Andy, Alberto, Sandy, Linda, Doug, Nancy, Karen, Meredith, my class at the Rhys Thomas Institute for Energy Medicine and everyone else who had a hand in me going to Chicago!

Mateus and Tia Milu :)! LOVEFEST!!

CUTIE PIE 1 and CUTIE PIE 2 🙂

Monday, May 16 Within 24 hours we were in Chicago and getting debriefed on what to wear and some of the basics. My brother Pedro meets me because he now lives in Chicago. He brings his son Mateus who is a total cutie pie! What a total treat it is to play with him! I hardly sleep that night knowing what’s coming!

Amazing vibration when you have 13,000 people around you who are sooo thankful to be there!

Tuesday, May 17  It’s the big day. Trying to stay in my body. I get up SUPER early. Can’t sleep. Too excited! Spend lots of time answering people’s questions. My email is still sporadic and my computer still not working right so I’m hobbling along technologically speaking. I chant and meditate to calm down. I do Reiki to calm down. The fear/worry wants to come in. When this happens I want to start controlling things. I am observing as if I’m outside my body. I’m shifting and I don’t know what I’m feeling from one moment to the next. We go for a walk. The air feels great. It’s a little past three and we meet downstairs for our limo bus with the other ULTIMATE VIEWERS who will be featured on the show. As we start heading towards the United Center, we start getting more details. There was a lot of secrecy prior to this point.

My VIP Badge which gave me the access to my dreams! PRICELESS!

Danielle one of Oprah's stylists...amazing!

One of The Oprah Show's make-up artists Robert. He is FANTASTIC and phenomenal at what he does! WOW!

The representative tells us that it’s going to be two shows instead of one with over 30 stars and lots of surprises. Still not sinking in. We are told we will be there until around 11….ended up being more like 1am!!! 😉 When we get there we come in through the security entrance that all the stars take. It was AMAZING! Incredible energy. Everyone was EXTREMELY grateful to be there!  A “funny” thing happened where I heard a Madonna song and danced over to see what was going on and there was Madonna standing there practicing her part of the show! I wish I could tell you I acted cool but I did not! That is the first of many stars I would see and mingle with that night! People ask if I met Oprah.

Tamika and Carrie incredible women with heart-opening stories!

One of the many times Oprah walked next to me this time with Jerry Seinfeld and Jaime Foxx. Surreal!!!

Very Grateful to Be Able to Share this AMAZING experience with Doug!

 

 

 

This is not the typical show she does because these two shows were for her. Oprah did not have a microphone during most of the show because she was “receiving” not “giving”. She sat four people away from me and passed by me all night long because they kept moving her (she wore heels and by the end of the night you could tell her feet were “barking” – after 12 hours of dancing and standing in heels mine were too!!!!)

Front Row Seating to Oprah in an Audience of 13,0000!!!

We had VIP seating and I sat behind Stedman and Gail for a part of the first show. Cameras were not allowed but I did sneak in my phone and so did a lot of people. After a while everyone was taking photos. It was hard though because the phone does not have zoom. This place WAS MASSIVE! I’m going to have to make this a two part blog because it’s getting too long. There is lots and lots still to talk about!

Make sure you watch THE OPRAH SHOW, Monday, MAY 23 on ABC! I’m in a video in the first few minutes and you will probably see me again in the audience shots because the camera crews were all over us!

I am deeply grateful and deeply humble by that LOVE!

Great big hugs,

Maariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS  Sold one book this week to a place we have not sold to before….(drum roll) Welcome Louisville, Kentucky to the house!!!!! WHEW WHO!!!!

Here is where the books have gone to ButterflyMoms…

UNITED STATES

California

Fullerton 1

Sacramento 1

Connecticut

Greenwich 1

Yalesville 1

Kentucky

Louisville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 2

Holliston 10

Hudson 4

Medway 3

North Easton 1

Sherborn 1

South Grafton 1

Watertown 1

Worcester 3

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

Vermont

Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN

Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

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OPRAH UPDATE…One, Six and Thirteen!

 

 

Dearest Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

First, an Oprah update. The producer called again this past week and there was renewed hope that I would be on one of the last shows. He even had us get Sophia’s birth and death certificate to send to him just in case he could do something but that did not pan out. It is sad but at least I put myself out there and there are many more adventures I cannot even imagine coming my way! I’m excited! Thanks for coming on that journey with me!

Just finished a Goddess Weekend that was out of this world! It was at this retreat last year that I started writing ButterflyMoms on a consistent basis. So HAPPY ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY BUTTERFLYMOMS!!!

The retreat got me thinking that we can all use a little time away to re-group and re-energize soooooo….(trumpets please)…… We are scheduling our first ButterflyMoms Retreat the weekend of October 22, 2011 in Mad River Vermont at a magical inn! We are still working on the details but space will be limited so if you are at all interested let me know. Carving out the time for our highest good is the best thing we can do for ourselves! :)!

I ask you to take a DEEP, DEEP BREATH with me as I enter into today’s blog…

Sophia and Me at her first birthday party

I never know how I’m going to be on May12 and June 22. Those are my Sophia’s birthday and deathday.

Sometimes sooooooooooooooooo much emotion wants to come out that I’m afraid those around me cannot handle it. Quite honestly most of my grieving has been alone…or SWALLOWING MY GRIEF because of this fear that others cannot handle it. Some of the work I’ve been doing at the Rhys Thomas Energy Medicine School, especially lately, has allowed me to open/release some of that energy, some very powerful stuff!

It’s hard, you know, to talk to others about the birth and death of your baby because if that other person REALLY went “THERE” with you it…well, I can’t say I honestly know what would happen, but it’s a lot of pain and in a way I guess I protect others from it because then I think I need to save them from it. I don’t know if I’m making sense to you but this is how I feel. There is soooo much magic that has come from her death but I would give it all up to have Sophia back in my arms. I don’t know if that is the PC thing to say but that is how MY HEART FEELS. I miss her sooooooooooooooooo much, our Sophalicious. I have had many, many people die in this lifetime, losing your baby is TOTALLY a different feeling. It is that type of grief that can knock the wind out of my sails and because I have so many responsibilities I cannot crawl into bed and stay there so I activate AUTOMATIC PILOT, put on a smiley face and go off into my day.  I KNOW I’m not the only one! Sometime I do it so automatically, in fact, that I don’t know that I’ve ACTIVATED it. I NOTICE that when I do this I take a VERY DEEP BREATH and then probably don’t exhale for the rest of the day. That is how I perceive it.

Grieving, for me, is this endless circle of wanting to get to HIGHER GROUND, to being as “ok” with Sophia’s death as I can be and then being hit by a Tsunami of pain, never knowing who you are going to be in front of when it happens.

At Sophia's Christening with Parents, Siblings and God Parents... Sooo much LOVE!

esterday would have been Sophia’s 6th birthday. She died at 13 months so it’s fitting that I’m writing this on Friday the 13th…. BTW, found out that Friday the 13th is a VERY POWERFUL GODDESS DAY…When  the Roman Catholic Church was trying to take over, they made it a bad luck day instead. I, for one am reclaiming the magic of Friday the 13th!!! Who’s with me? 😉

Today’s blog is just pouring out of me and I’m not stopping it. It has REALLY wanted to come out. The word that keeps coming up around yesterday is HUMBLE, HUMBLE, HUMBLE.

I was COMPLETELY blown away by the outpouring of LOVE, LOVE, LOVE that our family received yesterday!  We had more than 200 people (I can’t even believe I’m typing that number!!!) reach out via email, phone, text, voicemail, facebook and even a handful of  in person visits from dear friends who seemed to really be holding a space of LOVE for the day as I had requested on FB. This may surprise you writing how I do but I usually don’t open myself up to get the love BECAUSE TO OPEN TO THE LOVE, YOU HAVE TO BE OPEN TO THE PAIN. I was more vulnerable yesterday than I have been in a long time and that is why I was able to ASK for what I needed. I asked for others to hold us in LOVE…and I highly suggest it because it felt wonderful! Like floating, really if you let yourself go….there is a downside though that is ALSO important to know about…. WARNING: When that happens SHIT that has been in your life’s “basement” comes up….and baby that shit stinks! It was soooo powerful that it rocked my marriage. We had to work some things out. Key is to go with the flow, stay open, stay authentic and for goodness sakes KEEP MOVING FORWARD (but in a BEING PRESENT WAY)!!!

A very special thank you to all those who reached out yesterday. YOU deeply help me and my family heal a bit more. I was going to try to list everyone’s name here but if I forgot someone that would not do. I would invite you to go to my Facebook page and read all the magnificent comments from around the world. It is a magnificent example of SHEER LOVE!!! I am deeply grateful and deeply humble by that LOVE!

Great big hugs,

Maariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

Sophia and her Vovo

PS  A plethora of books sold this week! We FINALLY SOLD ONE IN PORTUGAL!!!! YAY! (Thank you Madrinha Juvenalia Figueiredo!) We also sold two in VERMONT (Thank you Evelyn and Kristen Meyer!) which is a new state for us and one in Watertown, MA (Thank you Christine McDade!) and another in CONNECTICUT (Thank you Sheryn MacMunn)! WHEW WHO!!!! I LOVE BEING ON THIS JOURNEY WITH YOU! SOOOO FUN!!!!

Here is where the books have gone to ButterflyMoms…

UNITED STATES

California

Fullerton 1

Sacramento 1

Connecticut

Greenwich 1

Yalesville 1

Maryland

Chestertown 1

Massachusetts

Ashland 2

Holliston 10

Hudson 4

Medway 3

North Easton 1

Sherborn 1

South Grafton 1

Watertown 1

Worcester 3

New York

Scarsdale 1

Stony Brook 1

Ohio

Dublin 1

Rhode Island

Newport 1

Vermont

Waitsville (Mad River Valley) 2

AUSTRIA

Wien, Austria 2

IRELAND

Dublin, Ireland 1

ITALY

Rome, Italy 3

JAPAN

Tokyo  1

PORTUGAL

Santa Maria (Azores/Açores)  1

Me at Hemingway's House in Key West

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