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Dearest ButterflyMoms,

I usually write on Fridays but I could not let Thanksgiving go by without reaching out to you, so this week I’m writing on Thursday just this special week! :)!

Soooooooooooooooooo, here we all are on Thanksgiving and we all KNOW what we are SUPPOSED to “do”, or rather what this holiday is “supposed” to be about, but when it all comes down to it, we all have VERY SPECIFIC ideas of what it SHOULD look like. Who SHOULD be there. Who SHOULDN’T be there.  Where it SHOULD be. Who SHOULD cook. What kind of mood people are SUPPOSED to be in. Who SHOULD host. Who SHOULD cook what.  I myself fell into this human “trap” this year. To make matters worse I found myself telling others about my SHOULD. For this I got sympathy. I got to feel RIGHT. But what did I really GET? What does that transmit out into the world for both me and the person who is sympathizing with me? What we were actually doing is simply tuning into “bottom-feeder” energy by turning away from the most powerful force in the world, LOVE.  You cannot attract the FABULOUS life you want by sending out those kinds of silly SHOULD vibes! With awareness comes choice. Where you are in your life right now is a result of all the choices you have made, especially the choice of how you let LOVE seep into your world.

Even on Thanksgiving, or maybe I can say, ESPECIALLY on Thanksgiving we notice things that we might not. Instead of your SHOULDS not lining up how about today you see if you can find ALL THE LOVE AROUND YOU….in the people, in the food, in the details, in nature, in the bonds, in the places, in the things you don’t notice that are around you every minute of every day. I invite you to tune into the universe’s LOVE “station” today and see how your life unfolds.


Great big hugs,



PS What would help some of you even more is if you sent a few friends this to read and you worked on it together especially on THANKSGIVING! Remember birds of a feather (no pun intended)….not everyone will be open but for those who are you are gifting them the gift of themselves. There “ain’t” nothin’ bettah than that!

Being In Your Joy…Attracts Your Life’s Purpose!

Hello Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

OH YES! Magic is in the air! YES! YES! YES! And if you look at the routes your life has taken, you will find there have been a series of “mini” events that over time created major shifts. It’s what Dr. Wayne Dyer describes as the… you don’t know, you don’t know, you don’t know and suddenly you get it and it makes soooo much “sense” that you cannot imagine how you did not see it before! It’s the kind “A-HA moment” gift you receive from going with your intuition even when your brain does get it.

Back in April I got invited by my wonderful friend Corinne to attend my first Goddess weekend in Vermont at an Inn her friend owns. The Goddess Weekend is a very sacred event that started over a decade ago by a bunch of very cool women. The only way to go is if someone invites you. You can stay for a total of four days (probably more if you really wanted) in this idyllic Vermont inn but the whole time you do whatever you want, whenever you want – read, sleep, hike, eat, write, talk, play cards, shop… Even the food is prepared for us (you can volunteer to help but there is no obligation). As a mother of five, having three days just for me (with not even a husband) was something I had not had in years and years. That heart gift Corinne gave me lead to a major life shift for it was that weekend in the quietness of my shabby-chic room named “Kindness” I first began writing my ButterflyMoms blog. 😉 (Deep breath)

We picked Saturday to leave because of family obligations. My house was the meeting place. When everyone got here I suggested we go to the absolutely fabulous store, KAMALA DESIGNS, because I told the owner, Kate, I would stop by for her special sale. KAMALA is a very special place with a lot of soul, a lot, lot! On the way there we stopped at the wonderful Mudville Farmers Market that “Mayor” Blair also started with his heart and soul. Side note: From my house we can easily walk to these gems! It feels amazing to be able to live my dream of walking everywhere! Oprah says that your home should come up to meet you and the town of Holliston, especially Mudville does that for me, it comes up to great me and is always getting better and better. It was an AMAZING way to start the weekend!

Because I was swimming in my passion and doing the things that fill me, I felt very emotional that day. I was feeling deep gratitude and seeing beauty wherever I looked. I felt completely open and magical things kept happening. Like while at Kamala’s, Kate (the owner), came up to me and “randomly” and wrapped a string bracelet around my wrist. It had been blessed by the Dali Lama and been to several spiritual places in the world including Machu Picchu. It has a little copper charm with “BLESSED” written on it. It is a miracle catcher that you are supposed to wear until if falls off. Well, this past weekend at my energy medicine school, during a very powerful weekend it fell off!!!!

Since it fell off three days ago, I have attracted a new mission and a team of people to help me “birth” this amazing dream of “being the fire that ignites people’s souls”. As I was showing an incredible space to Rae of Cosmic Sister (another very cool shop/studio in Holliston), I started describing how it would be such a great space for a healing co-op/center or spiritual incubator. As I spoke I started “wearing” the vision I was describing. It was like it was something that belonged to me but my brain did not know how to take it or where to put it. From my training at the Rhys Thomas Institute I have learned to stay open even when my brain is wigging out. (Intuition does NOT come from the brain.) By staying open I found that people were literally attracted to me like a magnet. Suddenly I attracted an incredible videographer, world-class mind mapper, kind landlord, heart-led investor, and several health practitioners who want sacred space, (and I also got asked if I want to join a speakers’ bureau that focuses on peace) all in three days since the little string bracelet (that reminded me of my greatness and deservedness for the last 8 months) fell off.

I don’t know exactly how this will turn out but I have a stronger intention than I did on Sunday because I’ve been reminded by the beautiful Christine to narrow my goals. If you say you are “open to anything” then that is what you attract. That is not what I really meant, I wanted something specific but had not given myself permission to say it. I am completely open to the abundance of making money doing what I really, really, really love…..and that is being the fire that ignites people’s souls!

I hope that I inspire you to do what is feels right to you, big or little steps are irrelevant for when you reach you ”tipping point” not even the ocean can stop you! AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! LOOK MOM I CAN FLY!!!!!!!!!! 😉

Check back in next Friday for our next ButterflyMoms update! You might just be bearing witness to the birthing of The ButterflyMoms Healing Co-op/Center. You are a part of this magnificent dream!  AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! See how powerful you are! OH YES! Magic is in the air! YES! YES! YES!

Great big hugs beautiful ButterflyMoms! I LOVE YOU!



 More info about two wonderful local, woman-owned businesses with lots of soul…

Kamala Designs –

Cosmic Sister Art Studio & Resale Shop –

PS  PS I’m sooooo thrilled that my dream of writing a book is finally come true!!! Entrepreneurial Moms Extraordinaire is the amazing wisdom of 21 entrepreneurial moms who are passing on their knowledge to those who don’t have time for beating around the bush! We all need to make money NOW and live our lives well NOW. This book will definitely help in a very profound way! It’s coming out at the end of January. It will be $25 but if you pre-order it now you get it for only $19.99. Of course I will autograph it for you too! J Send me an email at and I will send you the order form. YOU WILL LOVE IT!!!!

The Little Girl In YOU…Are Your “Activities” Feeding of Depleting Her?

It's the small moments....

Hello Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

WHEW! Is living on planet earth an adventure or what?! If you are paying attention there is NEVER a dull moment, N-E-V-E-R, ESPECIALLY when you are a parent! Am I right? Do I hear an “amen” my beautiful ButterflyMoms?! 😉

When I know I’m going to write a flood of very cool ideas come to me and I have the awesome gift of being able to pick any one of them. Good news/bad news. Today I’m picking a topic that has a lot of energy around it and one that we very easily discard for much “louder” or “pressing” issues, but in life oftentimes it’s the little things you neglect that over time do the most damage….or, give you the most joy!!!

I have ALWAYS LOVED BOOKS!!!! I love the way they feel, smell, look and even the way they sound (when you open them)! I often “joke” that I would love for a natural disaster to happen where I would still have food, heat, safety, electricity but that we could not go out for a month or two so I could just read and read and read…you know, just like with clothes that we buy because one day we will fit into them….we buy books with the intention of one day reading them. When I was little I used to save all the money I could to buy Scholastic books. Buy three and get the cute kitten poster….:)! I would sometimes not even eat lunch at school to save money for books that is how much I LOVED books! At home, at the age of 8 or so, I would spend hours and hours organize my books with the Dewey Decimal System. As an adult, when I moved back to the States from Japan I shipped 19 boxes of books…..yup, I think you get the point, MARIAAAAAAAAA LOVES BOOKS!!!! :)!

At the beginning of the school year I was given a deluge of forms offering me the opportunity to join a number of very worthy school organizations. As a working mother with lots of kids my track-record is that of over-committing and then burning out, which serves no one! Following the philosophy of “a hard head makes a soft ass” philosophy, I’ve finally learned to say, “NO!” but I’ve also learned to say “YES!” to the specific things that FILL MY SOUL.

When I saw that I could volunteer at the Placentino (elementary public school) Library…AND be able to do it when my daughter was there with her class, I thought I had won the lottery! It is only one and a half hours every other week but getting to check her and her class’ books out, speaking to the wonderful librarians, organizing books, doing projects for the library AND getting to practice my (very) rusty French with these wonderful children is PRICELESS! (Holliston, where we live offers free French Immersion and Montesorri in its public schools! How cool is that?!) The librarians think it odd that I thank them every time as I leave for giving me the gift of volunteering. It is a “simple” thing but it fills my soul and I leave soooo happy! I LOVE IT!

Another thing that is very important to me is being Portuguese, and being Portuguese to me means being able to speak Portuguese. When I was a child we used to go to Portuguese School after regular school. We did not like it but that gift my parents gave me allowed me to go on to learn a bunch more languages and that gave me a life that has been magical…even with the “icky” parts. One of the reasons I spent the entire summer in Portugal with my kids was to pass on that gift. When we got back I made the decision to sign them up for Portuguese School. The best one is at the Hudson Portuguese Club which meant driving about 40 minutes each way twice a week. “Funny” – it is the same school I used to go to as a kid. My mom used to teach there and to this day she is beloved by her former students who are now in their 40’s!!!

Teaching My Awesome Students in Portuguese School

When I got there the first day of school they had to combine the two classes because one of the teachers had just given her notice and they had not yet found a replacement….You know when you get that feeling that the universe is literally putting the spotlight on you saying, “This one is yours.” This was one of those moments. I sat on it for a couple of days, asked my life partner Doug his opinion and it still felt right. When I told the school, they were sooooo happy and now I’m soooooo happy too! It is SUCH a joy to know that I’m the second generation teaching at this school and my daughter Mialotta is the third generation involved in this wonderful heart school. It is SUCH a gift! Although it takes up a lot of time and a deep commitment, I LOVE IT! It totally fills me!

I would also love to do a bunch of other things like horseback riding, rock climbing, yoga, acting, wheel-throwing, etc but for right now the teaching Portuguese and volunteering at the Placentino library are creating win-win situations for everyone it touches. In your own life do an inventory check of your activities. Although we feel like it, there are very few “have to’s”. You are “captain of your soul, the master of  your destiny”. You hold the gun to your own head and then blame others/life/circumstance. Picture where you want to be and then take steps to begin the journey. It’s not about “the arrival”, it’s about the fun along the way. What will you do right NOW to add more fun into your life? Look around you and see what you love….start there. All your treasures are buried “there” in the NOW.(deep breath) (Really feel this.) By doing this you will “tune” into life you’ve always dreamed of. You have that power. You have that ability. Find ways to gently remind you of that every day.

Great big hugs,


PS I’m sooooo thrilled that my dream of writing a book is finally come true!!! Entrepreneurial Moms Extraordinaire is the amazing wisdom of 21 entrepreneurial moms who are passing on their knowledge to those who don’t have time for beating around the bush! We all need to make money NOW and live our lives well NOW. This book will definitely help in a very profound way! It’s coming out at the end of January. It will be $25 but if you pre-order it now you get it for only $19.99. Of course I will autograph it for you too! J Send me an email at and I will send you the order form. YOU WILL LOVE IT!!!!




SPECIAL EDITION: CALL TO ACTION ….TODAY Marks the 90th Anniversary of American Women’s Right to VOTE!!! CELEBRATE BY VOTING!

Dearest ButterflyMoms,

Although I usually only write on Fridays and it’s now almost 2:00 am, I feel compelled to write on this truly amazing day!!!! It is hard to believe but Ninety years ago TODAY American women FINALLY got the right to vote. (take a deep breath) (Think about that! That is not even 100 years!!! We know people older than that so it’s within their lifetime! AMAZING!) If you don’t know the history of our right to vote please read up on it! It is worth learning about! (Little more history below to get your started.)

Today is election day and there is a battle right now still going on! It has moved from the actual issues like education, health care, jobs, etc to hatred and fear. I am well aware that by sharing this on ButterflyMoms that I may be accused of spreading that fear BUT I’m doing this with an open heart. One of the biggest asset of a ButterflyMom is that she can turn into whatever she needs to, to protect her clan. Sometimes she is a warrior when she needs to be, that is part of her power. She just does not “live there” but rather only “goes there” when it is necessary. Well, ButterflyMoms today it is necessary!

What is happening now in American politics is one of those times. There is so much NOISE that some people turn off, that is part of the reason why a small number of people have managed to start controlling so much! In the face of such troubling information many of us are like zombies from the movie, “Night of the Living Dead”. I personally cannot stand quiet when I see the injustice, bigotry, racism and lies that are being spread mainly by the Republican party. Now I’m an Independent and have voted for both Republicans and Democrats, but for the last few years Republicans have entered deeper into a world of hatred, fear and greed. They are trying to turn America into that same terrifying place. They are backed by money, big, big, big money and ignorance. I used to work in high level public relations and in my professional opinion I can see the strategy behind this a million miles away. Karl Rove, Dick Cheney, Steve Forbes are all behind the Tea Party movement and this resurgence of pure hatred, fear and control. This is NOT ACCEPTABLE! As a mother I ask you to watch this video to see what I mean with your own eyes.

In honor of the women (and men) who sacrificed their lives for you and gave you one of the greatest gifts, the gift of being counted and being heard, the simple right to vote,  I ask that you vote today! I have a vision of an America where we can all live in peace and love, that is why I created ButterflyMoms. Your vote will help bring us closer to that future for our world. They can only succeed if the rest of us stay asleep,confused, tired, uninformed and complacent. Please vote AND share this information. We only have today! YOU CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE! If everyone did just a little……it starts with YOU!

I LOVE YOU for reading this entire entry. It is written in the memory of all the women who literally died for our right to vote. Today I will honor them and invite you to join me!

Great big hugs,

Two wonderful friends of mine Jan Krause and Joan Hunt sent me this email below. I had to find the photos myself online but I thought the photos are worth it. I’ve also seen the movie which gave me an incredible appreciation for my right to vote, something most of us all take for granted….As the En Vogue song says, “FREE YOUR MIND AND THE REST WILL FOLLOW…” Thank you for the gift of having passed on such a treasure beautiful Jan and Joan!!!!! You never know how your “magic” will affect the world! Keep on spreading the LOVE!

This is the real life story of our Mothers and Grandmothers who lived only 90 years ago. Remember, it was not until 1920 that women were granted the right to go to the polls and vote. The women were innocent and defenseless, but they were jailed nonetheless for picketing the White House, carrying signs asking for the vote. And by the end of the night, they were barely alive. Forty prison guards wielding clubs and their warden’s blessing went on a rampage against the 33 women wrongly convicted of ‘obstructing sidewalk traffic.’


Lucy Burns)
They beat Lucy Burns, chained her hands to the cell bars above her head and left her hanging for the night, bleeding and gasping for air.

(Dora Lewis)
They hurled Dora Lewis into a dark cell, smashed her head against an iron bed and knocked her out cold. Her cell mate, Alice Cosu, thought Lewis was dead and suffered a heart attack. Additional affidavits describe the guards grabbing, dragging, beating, choking, slamming, pinching, twisting and kicking the women.

Thus unfolded the ‘Night of Terror’ on Nov. 15, 1917, when the warden at the Occoquan Workhouse in Virginia ordered his guards to teach a lesson to the suffragists imprisoned there because they dared to picket Woodrow Wilson’s White House for the right to vote. For weeks, the women’s only water came from an open pail. Their food–all of it colorless slop–was infested with worms.

(Alice Paul)
When one of the leaders, Alice Paul, embarked on a hunger strike, they tied her to a chair, forced a tube down her throat and poured liquid into her until she vomited. She was tortured like this for weeks until word was smuggled out to the press.

So, refresh MY memory. Some women won’t vote this year because – Why, exactly? We have carpool duties? We have to get to work? Our vote doesn’t matter? It’s raining?

Mrs Pauline Adams in the prison garb she wore while serving a 60 day sentence.
Last week, I went to a sparsely attended screening of HBO’s new movie ‘Iron Jawed Angels.’ It is a graphic depiction of the battle these women waged so that I could pull the curtain at the polling booth and have my say. I am ashamed to say I needed the reminder.

Miss Edith Ainge, of Jamestown ,   New York
All these years later, voter registration is still my passion. But the actual act of voting had become less personal for me, more rote. Frankly, voting often felt more like an obligation than a privilege. Sometimes it was inconvenient.

(Berthe Arnold, CSU graduate)
My friend Wendy, who is my age and studied women’s history, saw the HBO movie, too. When she stopped by my desk to talk about it, she looked angry. She was–with herself. ‘One thought kept coming back to me as I watched that movie,’ she said. ‘What would those women think of the way I use, or don’t use, my right to vote? All of us take it for granted now, not just younger women, but those of us who did seek to learn.’ The right to vote, she said, had become valuable to her ‘all over again.’

HBO released the movie on video and DVD . I wish all history, social studies and government teachers would include the movie in their curriculum I want it shown on Bunco/Bingo night, too, and anywhere else women gather. I realize this isn’t our usual idea of socializing, but we are not voting in the numbers that we should be, and I think a little shock therapy is in order.

Conferring over ratification of the 19th Amendment to the U.S. Constitution at  National Woman’s Party headquarters, Jackson Place , Washington , D.C.
Left to right: Mrs. Lawrence Lewis, Mrs. Abby Scott Baker, Anita Pollitzer,  Alice Paul, Florence Boeckel,  Mabel Vernon (standing, right))

It is jarring to watch Woodrow Wilson and his cronies try to persuade a psychiatrist to declare Alice Paul insane so that she could be permanently institutionalized. And it is inspiring to watch the doctor refuse. Alice Paul was strong, he said, and brave. That didn’t make her crazy.

The doctor admonished the men: ‘Courage in women is often mistaken for insanity.’

Please, if you are so inclined, pass this on to all the women you know.  We need to get out and vote and use this right that was fought so hard for by these very courageous women. Remember to vote.

We often don’t make time to study history. I hope learning about the 19th Amendment and those “terrorists” and “traitors” (the Iron Jawed Angels as they were called) who courageously battled for it! Go share what you learned. Information can be soooo fun!

Dora Lewis Released From Prison

Life has a “funny” way of feeding your soul….especially when you least expect it!

Hello Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

I feel compelled to start today’s blog with a cute give-us-perspective story. It’s a total mommy story! I put my two youngest in the bathtub and as I got to the doorway of the bathroom and slipped on something wet on the floor. My youngest started giggling. When I took off her diaper off earlier Isabella went to the corner and peed there! (sigh) Only with our kids can we start giggling together over almost breaking my neck by slipping on urine!!! It’s all about how you look at the situation, don’t cha think? 😉

We are all full into fall and that what I’m noticing is that we are deep into “BUSY”.  For me at least my heart cries out for things I want to do. Some of the things that have popped up are, wanting to go to visit a museum, wanting to hang out with heart friends or even getting a massage. As summer ends we enter the hustle and bustle of autumn’s ushering the new school year. We begin to mindlessly “fall” into schedules, feeding our souls less. It gets darker. Might be Mother Earth telling us to sleep more but instead, for me, at least, I’m sleeping less. Pushing the envelope more and more.  Fighting the “tired” feeling because I feel like after my kids go to bed if I go too all I have left is my never ending to do list. I stay up and watch a movie or read or eat….oh, who am I kidding, it’s not “or eat”, it’s “and eat”. I feel empty in many ways as a person because I have fallen into that whole again. You know the one. It’s the one you have fallen into, especially as a Mom, a million times and you still “go there” even when you realize what it does to you and your family. (deep breath – “AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!”)

We tend to categorize our lives as either a success or failure. Most of us think it’s all going well or totally sucks. Very few of us stay even on that. Just as I thought things were “sucking” I noticed the universe sent me some wonderful angels. I’d like to share three interactions that touched my heart this week.

I had a showing to do for my company Brick House Realty in Marlborough, MA and on my way home I go through Southborough. There is a little playground by the water I always pass but have never stopped at. Well, I had my too youngest with me (my bathtub babes from the story above 😉 and since it was soooooooo unseasonably warm I thought it would be awesome to let them run free! It also took me back to our summer when we went to the park almost EVERY day and how we had gotten away from that  back here stateside. I met the most AMAZING woman. Her name is Suzanne and she lives in Ashland. She had had a similar calling to the park as I had. We hit it off like fireworks. It felt sooooo sensational to connect with her. I started speaking to her about Sophia and she listen with an open heart. I long for opportunities to speak about her life and not her death and I got that chance from Suzanne. It filled my heart with such joy! She felt the same thing. Before we “accidently” ran into each other we were both feeling empty we both left feeling FULL! I LOVE how if you allow yourself the room the world is always ready to offer you solutions of LOVE! YAY WORLD!!!

Secondly, today I just got off the phone with a wonderful woman Adrienne from Arlington. She is looking at one of my listing and we quickly got on the subject to spirituality, Mama lessons, etc. I nearly fell of my chair when I mentioned my blog and she said, “NO WAY! I was feeling really down last week and found your blog. It made me feel so much better! You’re ‘her’?!” Now how cool is that? The world is always working in “mysterious” ways -that means ways we have not figured out the why but trust that EVERY, EVERY, EVERYTHING is working in divine order! Think about it NOTHING can happen in a vacuum. Everything is connected to everything else. There is always a cause and an effect (even when your five sense don’t pick it up!!!) HEY I JUST HAD A MOMENT OF INSPIRATION! WHAT DO YOU THINK…. “Which came first, cause or effect?” Ok, reaching a bit? But think about it isn’t a cause just an effect of something else???? Things that make you go hmmmmmmmmm….

Finally, a few weeks ago I wrote a blog about a young woman who was crying in the airport. (I highly suggest going back to that blog. It might deeply help you on your journey.) Well out of the blue she wrote to me today. I had given her my card at the airport in case she needed something. She was all alone with an infant and too many carry-ons on her way to missing her flight to NY from Miami and then flying to Russia!!! (WITH AN INFANT!!!) YIKES!

This is the email Anastasia sent me today… Hi, it’s me – crying girl with a cutest baby boy from the Miami airport.) Thank you very much for helping me out. I’ll always remember you! I feel so grateful for your support and help. I’m so lucky I met you at the right place at the right time!) We got in New York on time and I caught my flight to Russia thanks to you and that nice lady at the register- she did a great job and got me a ticket at the very last minute – I actually had to run to get on my air plain on time. Now I’m in Russia, Omsk, with my family and friends. Hope you got on time at the wedding. Wish y’all doing well happy and healthy.     -Anastasia

When I got this I just cried and cried because I felt sooooooooo much love for having stood up for LOVE that day, not caring what others thought. It still feels so powerful. It is an example of being in one’s power! In your own life when do you feel POWERFUL? Look for those moments when you are in your zone!!!!

Thank you again for allowing me to write to your heart. My hope is that you have had a DELICIOUS BUFFET for your soul!!! I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE that you have visited ButterflyMoms today! I graciously invite you to come every Friday to partake in the yummies for your soul. Together we are all making our lives flow better and that affects everyone around us. We are all making the world a better place one life lesson at a time!

Great big hugs,


PS Only three more months until my book comes out! It’s called “Mom Entrepreneur Extraordinaire: Top experts share strategies for success. ”  I will keep you posted! New York Times Best Sellers list here I come!!! 😉

Whose Business Is it?

Wake up to your life!

Hello Beautiful Butterfly Moms!!!!!

This week was full. I’ve made a huge shift from last year. This year I have picked specific days to do the activities that feed my soul. It feels sooooo much better. In the program I’m taking we are learning to take back our power. What that means is that you feel better (no, not perfect but “better” – much, much better). When you have more of your energy you get more intuition. It’s like getting better TV reception after years of getting nothing but static. It feels great!

Today I want to give you something wonderful. It is sooooo simple and sooooo lovely. Get ready to open your mind and take in this very useful tool that helps get your energy back. It’s just like looking at your finances. Seeing what you’re paying out and checking in with yourself if it is something that is worth the price is what we are talking about here. So many times we keep grudges that we are not even aware of. Even without conscious awareness they are draining our energy field. Bringing awareness is therefore key! How do you do this? Here’s one simple tool that is VERY powerful. Don’t pooh-pooh it because it is simple. It totally works!

First it is important that your brain is there to SERVE you. If you don’t lead it, the brain will FREAK OUT and start giving YOU orders. If you don’t have awareness or energy, you don’t even notice that you are no longer in charge, soon the behavior becomes a habit. As soon as it becomes a habit most human beings will see it as “normal’/ “the way it is” and will never question it again. This is the recipe for an unhappy life, the kind where you effort and effort and effort with no results and wonder why the world is so unfair.

So as you go through your day, you will begin having thoughts. Let’s say that the first person you  think of is your brother and something he is doing that you don’t approve of. Perhaps in your opinion he is too tight or too loose with his money. You worry about him. You talk to your other siblings about him. You think about him. Here’s the million dollar energy question…… Now take a deep breath. (Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh) Whose business is his money? (enter song from Jeopardy….ta-ta-ra-ta-ta-ta-ta)

Make time to smell the flowers

There are three types of business, your, another’s and God’s. Your brother’s money is HIS BUSINESS. (“full-stop” as the British say.) If you sit there and judge him, even if you think it’s for his own good, all you are doing is giving him your energy and depleting yourself. Is complaining about him to others giving you more or less energy? Is thinking about what he SHOULD do with his money giving YOU more or less energy? Is constantly bombarding him with your “helpful” advice (even if you are just thinking it) is that giving you more or less energy. How would you react if he did the same to you? We all mean well but we have never been taught that there is a line. The best “advice” we can give is to lead exemplary lives, meaning lives fully in our own power. Our own GPS system is only activated when we hit a certain energy level. This week I invite you to bring back more of your power. (oh and a little side note) Bringing back more of your power does not mean you are crazy-out of control. Being more in your power means feeling more grounded, connected, content, alive, happy, full. Enjoy playing with different situations. Remember it’s all about learning. When you know better you do better. Feel free to email me questions. Our entire planet’s energy is shifting, be a conscious part of this VERY exciting time!

Great big hugs,


PS What would help some of you even more is if you sent a few friends this to read and you worked on it together. Remember birds of a feather….not everyone will be open but for those who are you are gifting them the gift of themselves. There “ain’t” nothin’ bettah than that!

My Mother/My Self…My Goodness/My Ickiness!




Here is the next chapter in how to….UnClutterYour Life and Finding the Hidden Treasures

WARNING: The content you are about to read is soooooooo inspiring that it may cause tears and an uncontrollable urge to send this blog to others. DO NOT fight the urges. DO NOT adjust your computer. DO giggle and cry and ponder and share and breathe and write and draw and sing and whatever else feels good to you in the moment. What you are feeling is the AUTHENTIC YOU, reaching out of its shell. Feel free to TRY THIS AT HOME…AND OFTEN! “FEED YOUR SOUL!!!!!!!!!!!”  It’s soooooo easy! Start here…

Hello Beautiful ButterflyMoms!

My second year of healing school starts today and I’m THRILLED! It is the one place where I’m finally getting the answers AND tools to bring my life into the alignment of my soul. Some of those tools and nuggets of my enlightenment I’ve shared with you here in the Land of ButterflyMoms! Because of this journey I have a lot more peace, awareness and love in my life. I’ve been able to take some of the things that were sucking my energy (or rather that I was giving my energy to) and stopped “paying” those hefty fees! Do I hear an “AMEN!” gorgeous ButterflyMom “sistahs”? 😉


My Beautiful Mom and my "Little" Brother Who is Currently Serving in Iraq


One of my biggest energy drains was my relationship with my mom. The details don’t really matter. The “REALITY” is that I JUDGED HER and the SITUATION before she even entered the room. Although I’ve always LOVED my mom, I can’t honestly say I’ve ever had a REAL relationship with her because I was creating “the scene” and “the person” of her and then reacting to that instead of who she is. DEEP BREATH.

Why? I was afraid of being hurt. It was a defense mechanism from when I was a child but with adult powers it is more intense. Unexamined, it starts blending in with the background and becomes part of your “normal” so it is harder to notice, even though it’s right there. It is a pure ENERGY DRAINER. You pay in energy dollars EVERY time you think about it. It’s like paying the mortgage (or investing) in a shitty ‘ole shack when you could have the perfect house for you! When you invest in “shitty” energy you know it when your life is showing up shitty. 😉 How many of us have been there, in the land of shitty and don’t know why?! Well now you know! TAH DAH!

If you asked me even a few months ago I would tell you that my Mom was “this” and she was “that” and not enough of the “other” but in reality she is, and always been, just her, maybe even with her own mask but I cannot tell because I have never really “met” her. The only way to “meet” her is to first “meet” me without all the defenses and force fields and protective gates around _________________(fill in the blank with whatever works for you: my feelings of not being enough, not being pretty/thin/young/coiffed/smart ENOUGH! When I’m in my “DEFENSE” how can she let her guard down?

Our moms are just people who did the best they could with what they had which is THE best that any Mom can do. The gift of being a mom is that you now get to see what it is like on the “other side”.  I’m noticing the Land of Shitty creeping up on my relationship with my six year old daughter. I’m seeing the “shitty shack energy investment” starting to show itself. I am thankful because I see it. I don’t know how this “ends” but I’m thrilled at having the knowledge and awareness to begin playing with it. I can already feel the pure LOVE shining through the cracks…..and it feels FANTASTIC!

Great big hugs,



Trading Grace For “That”…

Dearest ButterflyMoms,

I’m thrilled that my second year of my energy medicine school starts next week! There is a LOT of reading involved in the course which makes it even more powerful. One of the required readings is work by the incredible Byron Katie. In case you have not heard of her she is amazing. Her work is based on four simple questions she calls THE WORK. At first it seems too simple but it is incredibly POWERFUL!

One of my mentors, the beautiful Kathryn Prum from Simmons College School of Management first introduced me to her but I was not open to really hearing the message (back in the late 1900’s 😉 ) Last year I ran across Katie’s work again, this time on YouTube, so I decided to try something interesting. While I was cleaning out my basement I took down my laptop and played motivational YouTube videos. (I love using technology for spiritual growth like here! LOVE IT!) Katie has a lot of good ones. I have been studying “self-help/motivational” materials for a VERY long time and she is some of the best because it is so simple yet incredibly deep.

Because I know we all lead FULL lives, I’m including a FREE video from YouTube here for you to see what I mean about her work. She has a lot online that are free and they are all good but for today this one is the best for us right now because it is SUCH a serious topic.

In this one she does not CLEARLY state the four questions but you see the results. There are 3 parts. I had only listened to the first one until today. The first video is enough but you also can give yourself the gift of the others if you wish. They will most definitely help you feed your ButterflyMoms soul by making room in your life for your mind to stop being so “dramatic”.

Our minds are mostly about fear and doing this work allows your mind to serve you instead of being the one to guide you into a life of fear. This is the most perfect example for that…..I hope you grab your most favorite hot beverage and listen to this…

Great big hugs my loves!



PS Still don’t have my computer after a week so much of my technology is slowed down. No photos again this week. Sorry about that. Thanks for bearign with me. As always please keep reminding your friends to read ButterflyMoms. We are shifting the energy on this planet into a planet of Grace and Love….You are a part of this fun movement! YAY FOR YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Now tell your friends!


Talk to you again next Friday!

Greetings from Key West!

Dearest ButterflyMoms,

Today I’m writing from Key West Florida. We are here for our beautiful niece’s wedding. On the way down here was an adventure. There is one story though that I think will help feed your soul today. Because of a storm we were stuck on the runway in Boston for an extra couple of hours so we missed our connecting flight in Miami. When we got to Miami we were told to go to Gate 37 to rebook. There we found several plane loads of people whose flights had all been affected by the storm. As the line creeped up I noticed a mom with a baby boy strapped to the front of her, and the other bags that she managed to hold on to. She was standing in line sobbing quietly. It touched my heart. No one seemed to notice. I kept looking back at her at the end of the line until suddenly I realized I was standing in front of her. I asked her to come with me and immediately took her to where I was in line which was much closer to the front. LESSON TWO: Rules are about “intention”. Some may say that cutting in line is “wrong” but in this situation it was “kind”.

“Are you ok?” I asked her. “Can I get you water or something to eat?” She thanked me and said, “No.” LESSON ONE: Sometimes when you ask for help and someone gives it to you, first, NOTICE it, then TAKE it! 😉  Anastasia said that her flight to New York had been canceled and that she was supposed to fly to Russia that evening. I immediately went to who looked the leader of the American Airlines agents and asked for help. Pilar told me the next agent would take her, that did not happen so then I asked the people in front of us if she could go ahead of them. They acted in a way that totally pushed all my buttons.

They did not even look up. They just more mumbled and gave a sign of dismissal that they needed to go first and they would not help her. BREATHE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! In the meantime Anatasia never stops quietly crying. As a mom, many of us have been there. We are in situations especially when we have our children with us where we need the kindness of strangers to step up. When that did not happen this time I went into judgement mode. For my healing school class I’m reading, “Loving What Is” and in that moment I stopped my normal behavior which was to CONFRONT “those” people and ATTEMPT to see them WHERE THEY WERE, NOT WHERE I WAS.

To be honest I gave them a lot of my energy because I was deep in the LAND OF SHOULD. They should have helped her. What kind of people are they? I hope their plane crashes……yah dah yah dah yah dah. All those thoughts came to me and many, many, many more like them. I stood there literally standing back and observing how I was reacting, how I was adding more hate instead of love into my world and our world. I did not want that but it did feel good to be “right” and “righteous”. It also felt sad and lonely too, especially when the HIGH wore off.

I don’t know what happened with Anastasia and her cute little boy but I did the best I could with what I had which is also precisely what that couple did. I thank them for showing up and helping me learn this lesson.

Great big hugs,



What is “Working” In Your Life?

What is “Working” In Your Life?

Life offers full spectrum living! There are 360 degrees worth of options, like a huge circle worth of living. Everyone has those 360 degrees. Your life right now is based on what section of those degrees you CHOOSE to live in. I use that word “CHOOSE” because right now many of us are on automatic pilot with our lives and we don’t even realize it because we are making choices but they are within the small section we live in. So instead of living in the 360 degrees we are living in only 90 or 40 or even 10 degrees. How does this happen?

Most of us were “taught” from our family that the world consists only of one small sliver of that pie. We have very rarely questioned that world because everyone around us SEEMS to be living in that section too. We see that there are people outside that section, who live vastly different lives but we say they do that BECAUSE…..BECAUSE they had different circumstances, talents, support, abilities. “If I only won the lottery,” we say to ourselves that would solve everything. (Funny thing is that most of us who say this don’t even play the lottery! 😉 )

Today’s ButterflyMoms blog is a gentle reminder that will rock your world in the most wonderful way. You don’t need to win the freakin’ lottery because, baby, YOU are the lottery. For some of us just knowing that there is another huge section of the pie that we are not living in is enough for now. If that is the case then “swim” in that possibility that there is a huge, wonderful world that you shut yourself off to by habit but by doing so you have also cut out your connection with joy, ability and possibility. Ok, that was a bit too spiritual even for me so let me simplify. You have the wonderful gift of a whole full spectrum life, all 360 degrees already with you. You just were not given the “permission” to play with them until now.

You have just stepped into AWARENESS! Congratulations! The world will never be the same again…(enter evil laugh) 😉 Actually if you are feeling a little fear that is awesome because that shows you how over-protective your brain/mind have been all these years. We are just talking about a concept here not going to the moon…you see? Go with the feeling. Don’t squish feelings. Let it speak to you just as you do little children. Sometimes what they have to say is actually VERY important information but you have to be willing to give value to them without being consumed by it.

Bottom line is that we are SOULS who are having a BODY EXPERIENCE. For some reason when we enter planet earth (especially in America) many of us seem to think that if we IGNORE the soul side than we will live forever! So this becomes our pattern for dealing with things…..we ignore and hope it will go away. How’s that workin’ for ya?

Great big hugs,



My goal is to write every Friday (at least). I have found that now that we are back to school mode I need to carve out time to write and Friday mornings are the time I will dedicate to ButterflyMoms all over the world just like you! LOVE YOU! MWAH! MWAH! MWAH!

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