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2011? Same SHIT Different Year? What’s YOUR Plan?

“Waking up this morning, I smile.  Twenty-four brand new hours are before me.  I vow to live fully in each moment and to look at all beings with eyes of compassion.”  –Thich Nhat Hanh    

Dearest ButterflyMoms,

First one of my biggest loves in this lifetime…Today is my youngest’s birthday, Miss Isabella turns THREE today. Her spirit is such a fascinating mix of knowing and standing firm with what she wants WITH a deep sweetness/and connection to people. She is definitely an old soul and I’m soooooooo honored to be her Mama! “PARABENS BELLA-JELLA MEU AMOR!” 

We have hit a “bump”. A “blog” is technically supposed to be about 400 words. It is SUCH a passion to write that I end up writing over 1,000. It also takes me about 8-9 hours to write. The feedback I get is that you put off reading it because it’s so long and you don’t want to miss reading all of it. I hear you and my intention is to make the ButterflyMoms blog “closer” to the 400 so that we can both have more bite-size pieces for our souls. All that other energy that is left over will then naturally flow where it needs to…I will announce “where” at the end of today’s blog…a little suspense keeps things “interesting”. 

WHERE DO YOU SEE YOURSELF?

As we all stand here on the “cliff” of 2010, many of us start to check in, sort of. Unfortunately checking in for a lot of us means a fruitless act of WISHFUL THINKING. We put our (disconnected from our soul) goals on paper and then are disappointed that we don’t get the house, lose the weight, get the money, or find the soul mate. How many years have you done this, been really hopeful about making a shift and then *BOOM*, it all falls apart!

THIS YEAR you have the choice of doing it differently. How? Simply add the equation of yor soul. Here are four things you can do to help make your life more satisfying, more you in 2011!

1.   Schedule actual time (even if it’s only 15 minutes) to sit down every week and schedule three fun events that honor the kid in you. One is for you to do alone, another is for you to do with your friends/family and another for only your kids. This might sound like a big thing but one of the biggest complaints is that we don’t make enough time for the people we love. Be creative, ask for their input, even start traditions that will add more fun into your life. After about six weeks of doing this it will become a habit. It will take a lot of stress off your plate too because you have already have time set aside for meeting with the people you oftentimes feel guilty about not seeing. Guilt be gone!

 2.  Think of a place where you are really happy. Close your eyes and let yourself go there! Change your breathing. Allow your shoulders to drop. Feel your body and move around like a cat does when it is stretching. Breathe in. Breathe out. Picture it in your mind. Stay there for a while and really feel it. Breathe in. Breathe out. Know that whenever you get stressed out or need to escape you don’t need to eat, drink or even take drugs (even if they are over-the-counter), all you need is to take yourself back to your special place.

3.  Isolation is the great dream killer. If you have a goal and you keep it to yourself there is almost a 99.999999123% chance that you will never birth that dream! Why? The ego will get a hold of it and kill it. The ego is afraid of “change”. When you to others, even strangers you will find that people have an incredible compassion for others. Even these strangers want you to succeed more than your ego does. 

Feeling Safe

4. Every morning ask to see the world with new eyes. EVERY icky situation you have will completely shift if you simply see the world with a new perspective. You have the power. It’s there for you to activate ANY time you want, just bring your awareness to it. 

Big things are happening for 2011!!! YAY!!!!!!

My first book will be coming out at the end of January. It’s called Entrepreneurial Moms Extraordinaire. If you would like to pre-order a copy please let me know. They are normally $25 but I am including a special price for ButterflyMoms for $19.99. If you buy two I will also include the shipping! This is an extremely proud and happy event for me because I’ve been trying to do it for 20 years!!!

I am also opening up my own healing practice called The Sophia Center starting January 1. If you have something in your life that you need help shifting either body-wise or life-wise I am here to help you. For the month of January I will be reducing the rate of $80 for 50 minutes to only $60 for a 50 minute session. Buy a five-pack of sessions and get another $25 off (only $275). If interested please me an email to maria@butterflymoms.com so you can book an appointment and start the year off with someone who has your back!! It would be a total honor to work with you!

Great big honkin’ hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

CHRISTMAS…I LOVE YOU THIS MANY DOLLARS!

 

A Christmas classic about opening your Heart & letting go of hatred

 

Dearest ButterflyMoms,

What an honor it is to write to you on one of my favorite days of the year, December 24th! I like it even better than the 25th because there is sooooo much hope and anticipation, much like the climbing part of the roller coaster as you hit the top and even JUST start going over the other side. For most people, ESPECIALLY in America, December 24th is about gifts, gifts, gifts. Sure there is the food and getting together with family and all the traditions but the one thing it all hinges upon is the GIFTS!

Christmas for many of us is the time when the HOPE of creating the Christmas we never got crashes head on into the GUILT of not being there for our children as much as we’d like. The result is a BIG EMPTY feeling that many of us have tried to fill during the last few decades through more and bigger gifts. How’s that workin’ for ya? Hmmmmm?

...But the kids are having sooooo much fun!!!! NOT!

What is the truth? The TRUTH is that all kids want to be SEEN, HEARD and UNDERSTOOD(SHU). (funny that the acronym is SHU like when you are waiving off a cat or something, “Shu cat, shu 😉 SHU is essentially the meaning of LOVE to both kids, and adults if you took the time to really notice. Most of us were not SHU by our parents so we do this crazy SUPER-SIZING OUR LIVES to make up for our lack of FEELING whole. Meanwhile our minds are somewhere else. We ignore our kids. We don’t see them. We don’t really listen to them. We oftentimes don’t even SHU ourselves because we are focused on our TO DO LIST and BILLS and WORK and FAMILY STUFF. Our kids feel this to their core. The problem is that instead of thinking that, “Oh Mama is just “busy”, they form the INTERNALIZED CORE BELIEF “I’m not lovable!” and thus the EMPTY feelings get passed on, yet again, to the next generation.

Take that in for a moment…..(“Really, really.” Shrek quote) take a couple of deep breaths….How does that feel for you?….Keep taking some deep breaths and go there….Release what’s not working….Sometimes we hold “habit beliefs” that no longer serve us until we realize they are doing more harm than protecting us.

The Beauty of Waking up Early in New England!

I got up at 4:30am today to write with no alarm clock. I LOVE that time! Yesterday I broke my old habits of going to bed late so today I was able to give myself the luxury of having MY morning time to be with the planet and myself, knowing my children and husband are snug in the their beds. I LOVE that feeling! It costs absolutely nothing for me to bring this into my life, no money, no sacrifice, no ordering, no studying, no effort. All it takes is me:

  1. Step one….Bringing awareness to it.
  2. Step two….Changing my actions.
  3. Step three…Feeling how very wonderful it feels to be in this moment! Ahhhhhhhhhh!

Arden and Tandei

When the change happens new things, that really fill our souls, enter. For the last year something has been knocking on my door but I was not ready to open it. I opened the door today and this is what I found….The work my beautiful friend Arden has been doing for 10 years!!!

Her life’s mission “snuck up” on her ten years ago when she was a grad student. What was only supposed to be a semester in Zimbabwe, turned into a year, which turned into forming a spectacular non-profit, that has survived ten years of unbelievable odds!

Coalition for Courage http://www.coalitionforcourage.org/contact.htm is a true grassroots organization located in Norton, Zimbabwe and run out of Jamaica Plain, Massachusetts! (My neck of the woods!!) Arden works with orphans and vulnerable kids who are affected by and infected with HIV. This small organization is a ray of light in a very dark sky. The agency provides much needed support to some of the poorest children in one of the poorest countries in the world. Arden does the kind of work that every mother prays someone will do if her child is ever left alone in the world. Unfortunately in Africa, it is heart-breaking that many children are indeed completely alone because of the ravages of war disease and famine. I spent two hours this morning gloriously soaking up the newsletter and website, feeding my soul and connecting to the souls involved in this work. Two boys stood out.

Tendai before his mother died...what a cutie pie!!!

One is nine year old little boy, named Tendai, who Arden first met when he was in the first grade. She was friends with his mother. One day Tendai appears on her doorstep with ripped shorts, no shoes, emaciated, filthy shirt and sores all over his legs. He shares that his mother has died. Soon after he and his older brother were evicted from their home. His brother, not much older than Tendai tried desperately to get work JUST to buy food but could not. All beautifully recounted in Arden’s newsletter http://coalitionforcourage.org/hard_decisions.htm

The other boy who stands out is a 14 year old kid, Salvatore Sprofera from Medfield who found out about Arden’s heart organization, Coalition for Courage. Sal also discovered the kids and Zimbabwe and he shared a common passion, SOCCER (or “futebol” as most of the world calls it). He started collecting cans at his school and word spread. It took Sal a year and a half but he collected over 500 and over 40 jerseys, 80 pairs of socks, 50 pairs of cleats, and half a dozen soccer balls.This young teenager also got locals stores and organizations to donate uniforms, balls, shin guards and socks. Sal was fortunate enough to go to Zimbabwe with his mother this year to deliver the items. The children at Arden’s orphan care center were so excited that they even hoisted him up on their shoulders! Sal was written up in the following newspapers if you’d like to inspire your own kids that they CAN make a difference!…

http://www.wickedlocal.com/medfield/features/x549827562/Team-Building-Medfield-teen-shares-love-of-soccer-in-Africa

http://www.boston.com/news/local/articles/2010/10/31/millis_teen_tommy_barrett_jr_racks_up_wins_on_racetracks/

 

Salvatore visits his new friends in Zimbabwe!

 

I read about Tendai and Salvatore’s lives to my six year old Mialotta today who on January 3 will be the big 7!!!!!! Mia immediately suggested that her birthday party be the kick-off to helping Arden’s kids. Instead of presents they will bring donations and we will brainstorm later what else we can do to help.

I am honored to have around me, Salvatore, Tendai, Arden and Mialotta, beautiful souls I’ve encountered on my life’s journey who so elegantly remind me to, as Gandhi perfectly shared, “Be the change I want to see in the world.”

MERRY CHRISTMAS!

Great big honkin’ hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS  In this season of giving sometimes the best gifts are those that don’t cost anything. Give someone the gift of ButterflyMoms but just sending them the link….www.butterflymoms.com and telling them to check out the blog section. Abundantly feed your friends’ and family’s hearts and souls for free! :)! Guilt-free giving with meaning! YAY!

PPS Coming at the end of January…..MY FIRST BOOK!!!!! Here’s the cover! WHEW WHO!!!!!

The Betrayal Of A “Friend”…

Dearest ButterflyMoms,

 As we live our lives, we run into other souls with whom we feel such a strong connection that we befriend them. It’s pretty amazing that out of the billions and billions of other human beings on this planet we find that one specific person to whom we bond. Why THAT person? I am coming to the realization that friendship comes either to provide “solace-growth” or “aggressive-growth” (maybe even both at times). Allow me to explain…

Some of us have an astronomical amount of these friend connections, while others have only one. SIDENOTE: You would NEVER compare yourself to others if you remembered that whatever you have is what you need, for where you are, in your journey on this planet. There is no perfect general formula, only the PERFECT ONE FOR YOU. Sometimes we call a connection with another a “friendship” but it turns into something else…

In bringing awareness to the word “friendship”, I’m noticing two types of friendships. One we will call FULL FRIENDSHIPS (FFs), in which people give and receive in a mutually satisfactory “love” connection (“LOVE” meaning some true “admiration” and “like” for this other energy being.) These are the people who are not afraid to be honest with you, who believe in you, who have your back. FFs understand your faults and are willing to hear about theirs. If you have ever seen the movie BEACHES that is a great one to explain this type of friendship. Through thick and thin FFs are there. YAY, let’s hear it for FFs!!!!! When life gets especially tough they can provide the perfect shelter from your storm. For FFs to work fully, both you and she must be able to give AND receive because it shifts from one to the other from time to time.

Sitting with my Beautiful FF Sandy with our hearts' dreams, our girls!

The other type of friendship is one in which there is that initial connection or there seems to be a FF but then “something” SHIFTS. We call these POSER FRIENDSHIPS (PFs). This type of friendship emerges when one of the friends is either living most of her existence in fear mode or is just plain in her defense and trying to lull the other person into a certain position. A movie for this one might be SINGLE WHITE FEMALE 😉 (SIDENOTE: Sometimes I AMAZE myself at the wacky stuff my brain comes up with!!! Single White Female is the example? REALLY brain? Too funny!) This person typically is feeling unsafe and can only RECEIVE, but if you talk to them they will often say that it’s the other way around. 😉

So this week I had VERY INTENSE examples of both types. When I first started writing today’s blog only the PF example stood out, but as today unfolded, I realized that although this week’s PF incident had a VERY BIG impact on my life, the number and level of giving from my FFs hit levels of COMPLETE AWE….which brought me to a state of being incredibly GRATEFUL….which when I embraced what was happening, took me straight into a state of being HUMBLE. Being humble is one of the most magnificent frames of mind to be in because everything has a sense of worth and beauty that you miss when you are in other states of mind.

Here is a word of caution….Many of us grew up being trained to be “good girls”. Because of this widely accepted practice, when we are faced with conflict, our first impulse, might be to get all KUM-BAH-YAH, regardless of what we are FEELING. We grew up being told that is what we are SUPPOSED to do. But you know in your heart that NO GOOD CAN COME FROM IGNORING YOUR FEELINGS!  Your POWER comes from your first three chakras, called the LOWER SELF. If you ignore those feelings you cut your power source AND trap energy. That energy will eventually get so concentrated that it will blow. We can all picture examples of what that looks like. No one wants that kind of life!

To break the cycle, simply ask, “What do I have to learn from this situation?” Create the boundaries you need to stay safe and practice letting go of ill will. To find out if you are dealing with a PF simply check in and see how you feel. Your feelings don’t lie. Sure not everyone is perfect but some people are just in that PF mentality and they will only shift when they want to. You can still call them your friend but really all they are, are energy “vampires” who waste their energy on non-nurturing thoughts and activities so they have to take energy from others in order to survive. Call your energy back, cut the cord, send them love and ask for your next adventure to arrive!

From the letters and emails I get from you, the wonderful ButterflyMoms, community I am in awe of the wonderful stories you share with me. I thank you for showing up in your own life. If you have been attracted to our wonderful ButterflyMoms blog the universe is sending you a message that your soul already knows. Create from it what you need to. About 1,000 readers come to ButterflyMoms every week to feed their souls! Thank you for being a part of this wonderful community! As we all continue to celebrate this magical holiday season I wish you much AWARENESS in your life so that your pure JOY can come streaming in!

“MERRY EVERYTHING!”

Great big honkin’ hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂 

PS  I ask you to support my dream, the one baby Sophia helped me push forward. After years of excuses, I am sooooooooo very thrilled that my dream of writing a book has finally come true! It’s been TWENTY YEARS in the making! Entrepreneurial Moms Extraordinaire is the amazing wisdom of 21 entrepreneurial moms who are passing on their knowledge to those who don’t have time for beating around the bush! We all need to make money NOW and live our lives well NOW. This book will definitely help in a very profound way! It’s coming out at the end of January. It will be $25 but if you pre-order it now you get it for only $19.99. Of course I will autograph it for you too! 🙂 Send me an email at maria@butterflymoms.com and I will send you the order form. YOU WILL LOVE IT!!!!

PPS In this season of giving sometimes the best gifts are those that don’t cost anything. Give someone the gift of ButterflyMoms but just sending them the link….www.butterflymoms.com and telling them to check out the blog section. Feed your friends’ and family’s souls for free! :)!

YOUR ANGEL OR YOUR DEVIL?

We have this wondeful Christmas tradition of walking to get our Chritsmas tree! Another wonderful gift from living in beautifuul Holliston!

Dearest ButterflyMoms,

Every Friday when I sit at my computer I am met with a flood of ideas and voices all crowding each other to be heard. My first reaction is to feel overwhelmed. What happens next is critical. I have one of two choices. One, I can “stand down”, which is a cool line I picked up from watching action movies, which means I can abandon my writing, OR, two, I can choose to surrender. What do I mean by surrendering? In surrendering I simply sit back, change my breath pattern (feels like taking a big sigh, sometimes even two or three…depends on the day), and asking, much like that 70’s gameshow, “Will the real ______ please stand up.” In this case I’m asking for help from the universe to guide me to write towards “my best and highest good”.

Once I make that request I’m given only the very first part of what to write about. I surrender again as I feel my mind creep in with “helpful” suggestions. There is a place for your mind but, in writing, I find that REALLY good writing happens only when your brain serves as background information help and not the main writer. The main writing, at least for me, comes from spirit. It’s so fun for me to write, because I never know how it’s going to turn out.

About two weeks before Sophia died. This was at her first birthday party which was an incredibly magical day!

The very first time I experienced this (that I am super conscious of) was the morning I awoke after my little girl Sophia’s sudden death. As I was sleeping I started getting a stream of words  coming through. I tried to ignore it but I had a DEEP KNOWING that I would not remember it later and that it was important that it be shared. My mind was still semi-asleep as my soul guided my body downstairs to my desk and began to write as fast as I could to catch up to the words that were streaming in. Those were the words that I later read at her funeral and can be found here…. http://www.becauseofsophia.com/whoissophia.asp#Letter

The universe is always channeling energy through you. You have sooooo many resources around you that if you STOPPED to REALIZE it you would be amazed, delighted and humbled. Today, slow down, listen to your inner voice, use your breath. Do it consciously. For some because you don’t do this very often you might get the voice of fear/judgment. That is the ego! It is only happy when it is controlling you. It can only control you if you forget that your ego is NOT YOU! Remember in the Tom & Jerry or Bugs Bunny cartoons when you saw the devil and the angel on the character’s shoulder? The devil is the ego. It is only happy if you are not. Here’s where most people get lost in the mix, judging or punishing the ego only makes it stronger. The only way to get rid of it is to BRING GENTLE AWARENESS to it. Realize that it is not you but your fears. Realize that when the ego is on YOUR TRUE SELF cannot be. The TREASURE of who YOU really are is buried underneath that layer of icky. This is not “good” or “bad”, it is just the reason for why your life is the way it is. All you have to do is ACTIVATE CHOICE. Is this how I want to live my life? YES, stay the same. NO, then shift to breath and awareness of the present moment, like me and my writing, you will be given only the next step. Trust in that. Sit back, activate your breath and ACTIVATE YOUR NOW! The only power we have is in the present moment. This season of gift-giving give yourself the gift of ACTIVATING YOURS.

I thank you for showing up in your own life. If you have been attracted to our wonderful ButterflyMoms blog the universe is sending you a message that your soul already knows. Create from it what you need to. About 1,000 readers come to ButterflyMoms every week to feed their souls. Thank you for being a part of this wonderful community! As we all continue to celebrate this magical holiday season I wish you much AWARENESS in your life so that your pure JOY can come streaming in! MERRY EVERYTHING!

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂 

PS In this season of giving sometimes the best gifts are those that don’t cost anything. Give someone the gift of ButterflyMoms but just sending them the link…. www.butterflymoms.com and telling them to check out the blog section. Feed your friends’ and family’s souls for free! :)!

PPS Please help me support my dream, the one Sophia helped me push forward. After so much struggling and excuses, I am sooooooooooooooooooooooooo thrilled that my dream of writing a book is finally come true!!! It’s been TWENTY YEARS in the making!!!! Entrepreneurial Moms Extraordinaire is the amazing wisdom of 21 entrepreneurial moms who are passing on their knowledge to those who don’t have time for beating around the bush! We all need to make money NOW and live our lives well NOW. This book will definitely help in a very profound way! It’s coming out at the end of January. It will be $25 but if you pre-order it now you get it for only $19.99. Of course I will autograph it for you too! J Send me an email at maria@butterflymoms.com and I will send you the order form. YOU WILL LOVE IT!!!!

STOP, DROP and NAP!!!

Dearest ButterflyMoms,

I don’t know where you are reading this but I’m writing today from my kitchen with my three daughters 2, 4 and 6 who are acting like they ingested all of their Halloween candy in just the last hour! They are screaming, drawing, running, giggling, screeching and whining all around me. (SERENITY NOW! SERENITY NOW!!!) 😉

As mothers, we are oftentimes told by the “experts” the series of steps we need to have the perfect, socially acceptable, life, but they oftentimes don’t add to that equation, the fact that mothers/parents must do it with a backdrop depth of distraction that can drive a person to ____________ (fill in the blank) (Sometimes I fantasize about how even going on the reality show “Survivor” with all its drama, plotting, starvation, wet/cold conditions, etc., would be like a  vacation, compared to how challenging it can be to deal with all the levels we go through as parents.) Being only responsible for myself for six weeks????? SIGN ME UP JEFF!

I’ve done it again! DAMN IT! It snuck up on me! It’s right in the middle of the holiday season and I’ve already forgotten to take care of myself. For me it’s mostly lack of sleep. It is my “gateway” catalyst for me going down that dark, dark road of silent and dutiful martyrdom. I feel like if I put my head down this very second, I would start drooling and snoring instantly. No doubt about it.

We are talking about deep exhaustion. It sneaks up on you, a lost hour of sleep here watching a football game that went too long, or a movie that grabbed you just 10 minutes BEFORE your bedtime. It’s the countless times you got woken up to wipe a nose or a butt in the middle of the night. It’s the getting up early to prepare for a presentation before everyone else is up. It’s all these “little” episodes of lack of sleep that over time transport you to the Land of Ickies. Ahhh, the Land of Ickies, a very non-magical place where everything has a lower annoyance threshold, where you tend to eat more and mindlessly, where you are attracted more to TV/computers and less to books. It is a land where your dreams slip further and further away from reach. It is not a happy place. Being here for long periods of times erodes your connection to your soul. We have all seen moms who have been here too long…sometimes I see glimpses of her in the mirror. It is an epidemic that is so wide-spread that it has even started seeping into society’s fabric as the “new normal”.

Want to GET YOUR HAPPY BACK?  Ah, well then, it’s off to the Land of Love for you! What happens there? Well, that is where you love what you do, where you use your feelings and intuition guides you, where you attract the abundance of money and love effortlessly, where you find your life’s purpose. You have no need to judge yourself of others there and you see much more of the beauty that is always all around you. – To attain the golden ticket back to the Land of Love all you need to do is STOP, DROP and NAP! PLEASE try this at home!

If you need a prescription for it I will certainly write you one! Just let me know! 😉 Feel free to write one for yourself and a friend today. Imagine what the world would look like with all us napping! Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh, activating my nap as soon as I file this blog! Won’t you join me?

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS  PS I’m sooooo thrilled that my dream of writing a book is finally come true!!! Entrepreneurial Moms Extraordinaire is the amazing wisdom of 21 entrepreneurial moms who are passing on their knowledge to those who don’t have time for beating around the bush! We all need to make money NOW and live our lives well NOW. This book will definitely help in a very profound way! It’s coming out at the end of January. It will be $25 but if you pre-order it now you get it for only $19.99. Of course I will autograph it for you too! 🙂 Send me an email at maria@butterflymoms.com and I will send you the order form. YOU WILL LOVE IT!!!!

 

Is YOURS A THANKSGIVING or SHOULDSGIVING?

Dearest ButterflyMoms,

I usually write on Fridays but I could not let Thanksgiving go by without reaching out to you, so this week I’m writing on Thursday just this special week! :)!

Soooooooooooooooooo, here we all are on Thanksgiving and we all KNOW what we are SUPPOSED to “do”, or rather what this holiday is “supposed” to be about, but when it all comes down to it, we all have VERY SPECIFIC ideas of what it SHOULD look like. Who SHOULD be there. Who SHOULDN’T be there.  Where it SHOULD be. Who SHOULD cook. What kind of mood people are SUPPOSED to be in. Who SHOULD host. Who SHOULD cook what.  I myself fell into this human “trap” this year. To make matters worse I found myself telling others about my SHOULD. For this I got sympathy. I got to feel RIGHT. But what did I really GET? What does that transmit out into the world for both me and the person who is sympathizing with me? What we were actually doing is simply tuning into “bottom-feeder” energy by turning away from the most powerful force in the world, LOVE.  You cannot attract the FABULOUS life you want by sending out those kinds of silly SHOULD vibes! With awareness comes choice. Where you are in your life right now is a result of all the choices you have made, especially the choice of how you let LOVE seep into your world.

Even on Thanksgiving, or maybe I can say, ESPECIALLY on Thanksgiving we notice things that we might not. Instead of your SHOULDS not lining up how about today you see if you can find ALL THE LOVE AROUND YOU….in the people, in the food, in the details, in nature, in the bonds, in the places, in the things you don’t notice that are around you every minute of every day. I invite you to tune into the universe’s LOVE “station” today and see how your life unfolds.

A VERY DEEP, LOVING, BREATH-FILLED THANKS-GIVING and THANKS-GETTING DAY!

Great big hugs,

Mariaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS What would help some of you even more is if you sent a few friends this to read and you worked on it together especially on THANKSGIVING! Remember birds of a feather (no pun intended)….not everyone will be open but for those who are you are gifting them the gift of themselves. There “ain’t” nothin’ bettah than that!

Being In Your Joy…Attracts Your Life’s Purpose!

Hello Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

OH YES! Magic is in the air! YES! YES! YES! And if you look at the routes your life has taken, you will find there have been a series of “mini” events that over time created major shifts. It’s what Dr. Wayne Dyer describes as the… you don’t know, you don’t know, you don’t know and suddenly you get it and it makes soooo much “sense” that you cannot imagine how you did not see it before! It’s the kind “A-HA moment” gift you receive from going with your intuition even when your brain does get it.

Back in April I got invited by my wonderful friend Corinne to attend my first Goddess weekend in Vermont at an Inn her friend owns. The Goddess Weekend is a very sacred event that started over a decade ago by a bunch of very cool women. The only way to go is if someone invites you. You can stay for a total of four days (probably more if you really wanted) in this idyllic Vermont inn but the whole time you do whatever you want, whenever you want – read, sleep, hike, eat, write, talk, play cards, shop… Even the food is prepared for us (you can volunteer to help but there is no obligation). As a mother of five, having three days just for me (with not even a husband) was something I had not had in years and years. That heart gift Corinne gave me lead to a major life shift for it was that weekend in the quietness of my shabby-chic room named “Kindness” I first began writing my ButterflyMoms blog. 😉 (Deep breath)

We picked Saturday to leave because of family obligations. My house was the meeting place. When everyone got here I suggested we go to the absolutely fabulous store, KAMALA DESIGNS, because I told the owner, Kate, I would stop by for her special sale. KAMALA is a very special place with a lot of soul, a lot, lot! On the way there we stopped at the wonderful Mudville Farmers Market that “Mayor” Blair also started with his heart and soul. Side note: From my house we can easily walk to these gems! It feels amazing to be able to live my dream of walking everywhere! Oprah says that your home should come up to meet you and the town of Holliston, especially Mudville does that for me, it comes up to great me and is always getting better and better. It was an AMAZING way to start the weekend!

Because I was swimming in my passion and doing the things that fill me, I felt very emotional that day. I was feeling deep gratitude and seeing beauty wherever I looked. I felt completely open and magical things kept happening. Like while at Kamala’s, Kate (the owner), came up to me and “randomly” and wrapped a string bracelet around my wrist. It had been blessed by the Dali Lama and been to several spiritual places in the world including Machu Picchu. It has a little copper charm with “BLESSED” written on it. It is a miracle catcher that you are supposed to wear until if falls off. Well, this past weekend at my energy medicine school, during a very powerful weekend it fell off!!!!

Since it fell off three days ago, I have attracted a new mission and a team of people to help me “birth” this amazing dream of “being the fire that ignites people’s souls”. As I was showing an incredible space to Rae of Cosmic Sister (another very cool shop/studio in Holliston), I started describing how it would be such a great space for a healing co-op/center or spiritual incubator. As I spoke I started “wearing” the vision I was describing. It was like it was something that belonged to me but my brain did not know how to take it or where to put it. From my training at the Rhys Thomas Institute I have learned to stay open even when my brain is wigging out. (Intuition does NOT come from the brain.) By staying open I found that people were literally attracted to me like a magnet. Suddenly I attracted an incredible videographer, world-class mind mapper, kind landlord, heart-led investor, and several health practitioners who want sacred space, (and I also got asked if I want to join a speakers’ bureau that focuses on peace) all in three days since the little string bracelet (that reminded me of my greatness and deservedness for the last 8 months) fell off.

I don’t know exactly how this will turn out but I have a stronger intention than I did on Sunday because I’ve been reminded by the beautiful Christine to narrow my goals. If you say you are “open to anything” then that is what you attract. That is not what I really meant, I wanted something specific but had not given myself permission to say it. I am completely open to the abundance of making money doing what I really, really, really love…..and that is being the fire that ignites people’s souls!

I hope that I inspire you to do what is feels right to you, big or little steps are irrelevant for when you reach you ”tipping point” not even the ocean can stop you! AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! LOOK MOM I CAN FLY!!!!!!!!!! 😉

Check back in next Friday for our next ButterflyMoms update! You might just be bearing witness to the birthing of The ButterflyMoms Healing Co-op/Center. You are a part of this magnificent dream!  AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! See how powerful you are! OH YES! Magic is in the air! YES! YES! YES!

Great big hugs beautiful ButterflyMoms! I LOVE YOU!

Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

 More info about two wonderful local, woman-owned businesses with lots of soul…

Kamala Designs –  http://www.kamalaboutique.com/

Cosmic Sister Art Studio & Resale Shop – http://www.thecosmicsister.net/

PS  PS I’m sooooo thrilled that my dream of writing a book is finally come true!!! Entrepreneurial Moms Extraordinaire is the amazing wisdom of 21 entrepreneurial moms who are passing on their knowledge to those who don’t have time for beating around the bush! We all need to make money NOW and live our lives well NOW. This book will definitely help in a very profound way! It’s coming out at the end of January. It will be $25 but if you pre-order it now you get it for only $19.99. Of course I will autograph it for you too! J Send me an email at maria@butterflymoms.com and I will send you the order form. YOU WILL LOVE IT!!!!

The Little Girl In YOU…Are Your “Activities” Feeding of Depleting Her?

It's the small moments....

Hello Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

WHEW! Is living on planet earth an adventure or what?! If you are paying attention there is NEVER a dull moment, N-E-V-E-R, ESPECIALLY when you are a parent! Am I right? Do I hear an “amen” my beautiful ButterflyMoms?! 😉

When I know I’m going to write a flood of very cool ideas come to me and I have the awesome gift of being able to pick any one of them. Good news/bad news. Today I’m picking a topic that has a lot of energy around it and one that we very easily discard for much “louder” or “pressing” issues, but in life oftentimes it’s the little things you neglect that over time do the most damage….or, give you the most joy!!!

I have ALWAYS LOVED BOOKS!!!! I love the way they feel, smell, look and even the way they sound (when you open them)! I often “joke” that I would love for a natural disaster to happen where I would still have food, heat, safety, electricity but that we could not go out for a month or two so I could just read and read and read…you know, just like with clothes that we buy because one day we will fit into them….we buy books with the intention of one day reading them. When I was little I used to save all the money I could to buy Scholastic books. Buy three and get the cute kitten poster….:)! I would sometimes not even eat lunch at school to save money for books that is how much I LOVED books! At home, at the age of 8 or so, I would spend hours and hours organize my books with the Dewey Decimal System. As an adult, when I moved back to the States from Japan I shipped 19 boxes of books…..yup, I think you get the point, MARIAAAAAAAAA LOVES BOOKS!!!! :)!

At the beginning of the school year I was given a deluge of forms offering me the opportunity to join a number of very worthy school organizations. As a working mother with lots of kids my track-record is that of over-committing and then burning out, which serves no one! Following the philosophy of “a hard head makes a soft ass” philosophy, I’ve finally learned to say, “NO!” but I’ve also learned to say “YES!” to the specific things that FILL MY SOUL.

When I saw that I could volunteer at the Placentino (elementary public school) Library…AND be able to do it when my daughter was there with her class, I thought I had won the lottery! It is only one and a half hours every other week but getting to check her and her class’ books out, speaking to the wonderful librarians, organizing books, doing projects for the library AND getting to practice my (very) rusty French with these wonderful children is PRICELESS! (Holliston, where we live offers free French Immersion and Montesorri in its public schools! How cool is that?!) The librarians think it odd that I thank them every time as I leave for giving me the gift of volunteering. It is a “simple” thing but it fills my soul and I leave soooo happy! I LOVE IT!

Another thing that is very important to me is being Portuguese, and being Portuguese to me means being able to speak Portuguese. When I was a child we used to go to Portuguese School after regular school. We did not like it but that gift my parents gave me allowed me to go on to learn a bunch more languages and that gave me a life that has been magical…even with the “icky” parts. One of the reasons I spent the entire summer in Portugal with my kids was to pass on that gift. When we got back I made the decision to sign them up for Portuguese School. The best one is at the Hudson Portuguese Club which meant driving about 40 minutes each way twice a week. “Funny” – it is the same school I used to go to as a kid. My mom used to teach there and to this day she is beloved by her former students who are now in their 40’s!!!

Teaching My Awesome Students in Portuguese School

When I got there the first day of school they had to combine the two classes because one of the teachers had just given her notice and they had not yet found a replacement….You know when you get that feeling that the universe is literally putting the spotlight on you saying, “This one is yours.” This was one of those moments. I sat on it for a couple of days, asked my life partner Doug his opinion and it still felt right. When I told the school, they were sooooo happy and now I’m soooooo happy too! It is SUCH a joy to know that I’m the second generation teaching at this school and my daughter Mialotta is the third generation involved in this wonderful heart school. It is SUCH a gift! Although it takes up a lot of time and a deep commitment, I LOVE IT! It totally fills me!

I would also love to do a bunch of other things like horseback riding, rock climbing, yoga, acting, wheel-throwing, etc but for right now the teaching Portuguese and volunteering at the Placentino library are creating win-win situations for everyone it touches. In your own life do an inventory check of your activities. Although we feel like it, there are very few “have to’s”. You are “captain of your soul, the master of  your destiny”. You hold the gun to your own head and then blame others/life/circumstance. Picture where you want to be and then take steps to begin the journey. It’s not about “the arrival”, it’s about the fun along the way. What will you do right NOW to add more fun into your life? Look around you and see what you love….start there. All your treasures are buried “there” in the NOW.(deep breath) (Really feel this.) By doing this you will “tune” into life you’ve always dreamed of. You have that power. You have that ability. Find ways to gently remind you of that every day.

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS I’m sooooo thrilled that my dream of writing a book is finally come true!!! Entrepreneurial Moms Extraordinaire is the amazing wisdom of 21 entrepreneurial moms who are passing on their knowledge to those who don’t have time for beating around the bush! We all need to make money NOW and live our lives well NOW. This book will definitely help in a very profound way! It’s coming out at the end of January. It will be $25 but if you pre-order it now you get it for only $19.99. Of course I will autograph it for you too! J Send me an email at maria@butterflymoms.com and I will send you the order form. YOU WILL LOVE IT!!!!

 

 

 

SPECIAL EDITION: CALL TO ACTION ….TODAY Marks the 90th Anniversary of American Women’s Right to VOTE!!! CELEBRATE BY VOTING!

Dearest ButterflyMoms,

Although I usually only write on Fridays and it’s now almost 2:00 am, I feel compelled to write on this truly amazing day!!!! It is hard to believe but Ninety years ago TODAY American women FINALLY got the right to vote. (take a deep breath) (Think about that! That is not even 100 years!!! We know people older than that so it’s within their lifetime! AMAZING!) If you don’t know the history of our right to vote please read up on it! It is worth learning about! (Little more history below to get your started.)

Today is election day and there is a battle right now still going on! It has moved from the actual issues like education, health care, jobs, etc to hatred and fear. I am well aware that by sharing this on ButterflyMoms that I may be accused of spreading that fear BUT I’m doing this with an open heart. One of the biggest asset of a ButterflyMom is that she can turn into whatever she needs to, to protect her clan. Sometimes she is a warrior when she needs to be, that is part of her power. She just does not “live there” but rather only “goes there” when it is necessary. Well, ButterflyMoms today it is necessary!

What is happening now in American politics is one of those times. There is so much NOISE that some people turn off, that is part of the reason why a small number of people have managed to start controlling so much! In the face of such troubling information many of us are like zombies from the movie, “Night of the Living Dead”. I personally cannot stand quiet when I see the injustice, bigotry, racism and lies that are being spread mainly by the Republican party. Now I’m an Independent and have voted for both Republicans and Democrats, but for the last few years Republicans have entered deeper into a world of hatred, fear and greed. They are trying to turn America into that same terrifying place. They are backed by money, big, big, big money and ignorance. I used to work in high level public relations and in my professional opinion I can see the strategy behind this a million miles away. Karl Rove, Dick Cheney, Steve Forbes are all behind the Tea Party movement and this resurgence of pure hatred, fear and control. This is NOT ACCEPTABLE! As a mother I ask you to watch this video http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ydyOTADrCFc to see what I mean with your own eyes.

In honor of the women (and men) who sacrificed their lives for you and gave you one of the greatest gifts, the gift of being counted and being heard, the simple right to vote,  I ask that you vote today! I have a vision of an America where we can all live in peace and love, that is why I created ButterflyMoms. Your vote will help bring us closer to that future for our world. They can only succeed if the rest of us stay asleep,confused, tired, uninformed and complacent. Please vote AND share this information. We only have today! YOU CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE! If everyone did just a little……it starts with YOU!

I LOVE YOU for reading this entire entry. It is written in the memory of all the women who literally died for our right to vote. Today I will honor them and invite you to join me!

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaa
🙂

Two wonderful friends of mine Jan Krause and Joan Hunt sent me this email below. I had to find the photos myself online but I thought the photos are worth it. I’ve also seen the movie which gave me an incredible appreciation for my right to vote, something most of us all take for granted….As the En Vogue song says, “FREE YOUR MIND AND THE REST WILL FOLLOW…” Thank you for the gift of having passed on such a treasure beautiful Jan and Joan!!!!! You never know how your “magic” will affect the world! Keep on spreading the LOVE!

This is the real life story of our Mothers and Grandmothers who lived only 90 years ago. Remember, it was not until 1920 that women were granted the right to go to the polls and vote. The women were innocent and defenseless, but they were jailed nonetheless for picketing the White House, carrying signs asking for the vote. And by the end of the night, they were barely alive. Forty prison guards wielding clubs and their warden’s blessing went on a rampage against the 33 women wrongly convicted of ‘obstructing sidewalk traffic.’

(

Lucy Burns)
They beat Lucy Burns, chained her hands to the cell bars above her head and left her hanging for the night, bleeding and gasping for air.

(Dora Lewis)
They hurled Dora Lewis into a dark cell, smashed her head against an iron bed and knocked her out cold. Her cell mate, Alice Cosu, thought Lewis was dead and suffered a heart attack. Additional affidavits describe the guards grabbing, dragging, beating, choking, slamming, pinching, twisting and kicking the women.

Thus unfolded the ‘Night of Terror’ on Nov. 15, 1917, when the warden at the Occoquan Workhouse in Virginia ordered his guards to teach a lesson to the suffragists imprisoned there because they dared to picket Woodrow Wilson’s White House for the right to vote. For weeks, the women’s only water came from an open pail. Their food–all of it colorless slop–was infested with worms.

(Alice Paul)
When one of the leaders, Alice Paul, embarked on a hunger strike, they tied her to a chair, forced a tube down her throat and poured liquid into her until she vomited. She was tortured like this for weeks until word was smuggled out to the press.

So, refresh MY memory. Some women won’t vote this year because – Why, exactly? We have carpool duties? We have to get to work? Our vote doesn’t matter? It’s raining?

Mrs Pauline Adams in the prison garb she wore while serving a 60 day sentence.
Last week, I went to a sparsely attended screening of HBO’s new movie ‘Iron Jawed Angels.’ It is a graphic depiction of the battle these women waged so that I could pull the curtain at the polling booth and have my say. I am ashamed to say I needed the reminder.

Miss Edith Ainge, of Jamestown ,   New York
All these years later, voter registration is still my passion. But the actual act of voting had become less personal for me, more rote. Frankly, voting often felt more like an obligation than a privilege. Sometimes it was inconvenient.

(Berthe Arnold, CSU graduate)
My friend Wendy, who is my age and studied women’s history, saw the HBO movie, too. When she stopped by my desk to talk about it, she looked angry. She was–with herself. ‘One thought kept coming back to me as I watched that movie,’ she said. ‘What would those women think of the way I use, or don’t use, my right to vote? All of us take it for granted now, not just younger women, but those of us who did seek to learn.’ The right to vote, she said, had become valuable to her ‘all over again.’

HBO released the movie on video and DVD . I wish all history, social studies and government teachers would include the movie in their curriculum I want it shown on Bunco/Bingo night, too, and anywhere else women gather. I realize this isn’t our usual idea of socializing, but we are not voting in the numbers that we should be, and I think a little shock therapy is in order.

Conferring over ratification of the 19th Amendment to the U.S. Constitution at  National Woman’s Party headquarters, Jackson Place , Washington , D.C.
Left to right: Mrs. Lawrence Lewis, Mrs. Abby Scott Baker, Anita Pollitzer,  Alice Paul, Florence Boeckel,  Mabel Vernon (standing, right))

It is jarring to watch Woodrow Wilson and his cronies try to persuade a psychiatrist to declare Alice Paul insane so that she could be permanently institutionalized. And it is inspiring to watch the doctor refuse. Alice Paul was strong, he said, and brave. That didn’t make her crazy.

The doctor admonished the men: ‘Courage in women is often mistaken for insanity.’

Please, if you are so inclined, pass this on to all the women you know.  We need to get out and vote and use this right that was fought so hard for by these very courageous women. Remember to vote.

We often don’t make time to study history. I hope learning about the 19th Amendment and those “terrorists” and “traitors” (the Iron Jawed Angels as they were called) who courageously battled for it! Go share what you learned. Information can be soooo fun!

Dora Lewis Released From Prison

Life has a “funny” way of feeding your soul….especially when you least expect it!

Hello Beautiful ButterflyMoms,

I feel compelled to start today’s blog with a cute give-us-perspective story. It’s a total mommy story! I put my two youngest in the bathtub and as I got to the doorway of the bathroom and slipped on something wet on the floor. My youngest started giggling. When I took off her diaper off earlier Isabella went to the corner and peed there! (sigh) Only with our kids can we start giggling together over almost breaking my neck by slipping on urine!!! It’s all about how you look at the situation, don’t cha think? 😉

We are all full into fall and that what I’m noticing is that we are deep into “BUSY”.  For me at least my heart cries out for things I want to do. Some of the things that have popped up are, wanting to go to visit a museum, wanting to hang out with heart friends or even getting a massage. As summer ends we enter the hustle and bustle of autumn’s ushering the new school year. We begin to mindlessly “fall” into schedules, feeding our souls less. It gets darker. Might be Mother Earth telling us to sleep more but instead, for me, at least, I’m sleeping less. Pushing the envelope more and more.  Fighting the “tired” feeling because I feel like after my kids go to bed if I go too all I have left is my never ending to do list. I stay up and watch a movie or read or eat….oh, who am I kidding, it’s not “or eat”, it’s “and eat”. I feel empty in many ways as a person because I have fallen into that whole again. You know the one. It’s the one you have fallen into, especially as a Mom, a million times and you still “go there” even when you realize what it does to you and your family. (deep breath – “AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!”)

We tend to categorize our lives as either a success or failure. Most of us think it’s all going well or totally sucks. Very few of us stay even on that. Just as I thought things were “sucking” I noticed the universe sent me some wonderful angels. I’d like to share three interactions that touched my heart this week.

I had a showing to do for my company Brick House Realty in Marlborough, MA and on my way home I go through Southborough. There is a little playground by the water I always pass but have never stopped at. Well, I had my too youngest with me (my bathtub babes from the story above 😉 and since it was soooooooo unseasonably warm I thought it would be awesome to let them run free! It also took me back to our summer when we went to the park almost EVERY day and how we had gotten away from that  back here stateside. I met the most AMAZING woman. Her name is Suzanne and she lives in Ashland. She had had a similar calling to the park as I had. We hit it off like fireworks. It felt sooooo sensational to connect with her. I started speaking to her about Sophia and she listen with an open heart. I long for opportunities to speak about her life and not her death and I got that chance from Suzanne. It filled my heart with such joy! She felt the same thing. Before we “accidently” ran into each other we were both feeling empty we both left feeling FULL! I LOVE how if you allow yourself the room the world is always ready to offer you solutions of LOVE! YAY WORLD!!!

Secondly, today I just got off the phone with a wonderful woman Adrienne from Arlington. She is looking at one of my listing and we quickly got on the subject to spirituality, Mama lessons, etc. I nearly fell of my chair when I mentioned my blog and she said, “NO WAY! I was feeling really down last week and found your blog. It made me feel so much better! You’re ‘her’?!” Now how cool is that? The world is always working in “mysterious” ways -that means ways we have not figured out the why but trust that EVERY, EVERY, EVERYTHING is working in divine order! Think about it NOTHING can happen in a vacuum. Everything is connected to everything else. There is always a cause and an effect (even when your five sense don’t pick it up!!!) HEY I JUST HAD A MOMENT OF INSPIRATION! WHAT DO YOU THINK…. “Which came first, cause or effect?” Ok, reaching a bit? But think about it isn’t a cause just an effect of something else???? Things that make you go hmmmmmmmmm….

Finally, a few weeks ago I wrote a blog about a young woman who was crying in the airport. (I highly suggest going back to that blog. It might deeply help you on your journey.) Well out of the blue she wrote to me today. I had given her my card at the airport in case she needed something. She was all alone with an infant and too many carry-ons on her way to missing her flight to NY from Miami and then flying to Russia!!! (WITH AN INFANT!!!) YIKES!

This is the email Anastasia sent me today… Hi, it’s me – crying girl with a cutest baby boy from the Miami airport.) Thank you very much for helping me out. I’ll always remember you! I feel so grateful for your support and help. I’m so lucky I met you at the right place at the right time!) We got in New York on time and I caught my flight to Russia thanks to you and that nice lady at the register- she did a great job and got me a ticket at the very last minute – I actually had to run to get on my air plain on time. Now I’m in Russia, Omsk, with my family and friends. Hope you got on time at the wedding. Wish y’all doing well happy and healthy.     -Anastasia

When I got this I just cried and cried because I felt sooooooooo much love for having stood up for LOVE that day, not caring what others thought. It still feels so powerful. It is an example of being in one’s power! In your own life when do you feel POWERFUL? Look for those moments when you are in your zone!!!!

Thank you again for allowing me to write to your heart. My hope is that you have had a DELICIOUS BUFFET for your soul!!! I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE that you have visited ButterflyMoms today! I graciously invite you to come every Friday to partake in the yummies for your soul. Together we are all making our lives flow better and that affects everyone around us. We are all making the world a better place one life lesson at a time!

Great big hugs,
Mariaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

🙂

PS Only three more months until my book comes out! It’s called “Mom Entrepreneur Extraordinaire: Top experts share strategies for success. ”  I will keep you posted! New York Times Best Sellers list here I come!!! 😉

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